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Hi everyone I havent visited the site for a while computer probs and been really busy working on me. I have been attending f2f meetings sometimes more than once a week, reading lots and lots of alanon literature and been soaking up tools from my sponsor. Slowely but surely I have realised just how powerless I am over My A boyfriend and really can identify that this is a disease and not personal to me. Something amazing happened to me before christmas a friend told me about more to life an organisation that encourages personal development and awareness. I attended a training weekend and it toltally helped to support everything I have been learning in alanon. It actually gives you processes for letting go of resentment and explains how powerful are minds are and how our thinking can trick us, plus lots more. I felt like I had an emtional spring clean and had a spiritual awakrning during the weekend it was amazing. They have a website if anyone is interested. Getting back to my relationship with the A due to alanon and more to life my self esteem and self worth are rising every day. I have decided to remove myself from this relationship I am proud to say I did this with kindness. I told my A his life was his if he wishes to drink that was his choice. I told him I had choices too and I didnt want a relationship with a person who drinks the way he does and the probs it causes. I told him I loved him but I needed to do this for me. My emotions have been up and down but I truly believe I am heading in the right direction for me. I no longer want to have an obsession with anothers life my life is to important. If he comes back in the future sober who knows but for now I have a wounderful life which I am starting to get excited about again hope veryone is well and has peace
Thank you so much for the wonderful share. It sounds like you are doing great and are really doing what you should be-focusing on you. It's wonderful to hear ESH like this......
Your friend in recovery Shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
great post Tracey and yes, that is where I arrived, too- love you, cannot LIVE with the disease...cannot live under the same roof with it, BECAUSE of my background and WHO I AM- the wonderful woman I am.
"Getting excited about OUR life" what a gem of a statement! This is what we are here for!!!
Its so hard but its so clean and clear once its there- such a gift! Much love and support as you transition- it wont be easy but you know that and you also know you can do it because you are worth it! YAY!!! hugs, J.
good for you sounds great to me. I think that is such an enormous shift for you to do this with kindness. I find myself constantly enraged around active alcoholics. thank you for reminding me there is another way.
