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AIOmaha, get thee to an Alanon meeting! You will find the comfort you seek, people who have been there and done that. The few few were really hard for me, coming to terms with my A. At Alanon they understand how you feel, they listen when you need to unload. The message board is very helpful but face to face meetings will change your life.
They say give it 6 meetings, I was sure I was in the right place by my 4th. It works if you work it and you are worth it.
(((((AIOmaha)))) As the others stated-pleaseeeeeeee find a local Al Anon meeting in your area and go. It may be hard at first but once you walk in those doors your life will forever change, if it is happiness and serenity you seek. Remember.........if nothing ever changes..........nothing every changes. If you love your wife that much, a meeting is the BEST thing you can do for both of you........
Keep Coming Back Shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
(((((AIOmaha))))) We are all here for one "A" or another in our lives, Me I grew up with "A"s all around me, My father, my brother, & sister, and Many more down the family tree have done there share of drinking with out a daught, My son was what changed my life for the better, and his birth gave me new life and new reasons to live... But I too still struggle with the thought of "What I will do when he is in college, or off married," Will I become that "a".... I am also new to al-anon, and I am still trying to learn how to deal with the problems of my past, but I have also learned that they are just that... They are done and over with and I need to start looking to my future...As should you... Start going to meetings, and go there with an open mind to learn what alcoholism really is... We all have a thoughts about it, but till you really understand what it is that your wife goes thru, with the addiction you really can't heal you...Everyone's story here is the same.... Yet differant.... We all have our struggles and we must find a way to live in the NOW, and not the yesterday or even tomorrow... That is something that al-anon is teaching me, How to be, and be OK with who and what I came from, You too will be ok,.... Once you except the serinity prayer in your heart, and live it everyday, one day at a time...
So keep coming back, and get your butt to some meetings... I have only been to (2) so far, and so far, I plan to keep going back... This message board also can be a life saver when you are having "One of those days" becasue there is always someome that will get back to you in your time of need, and they speak only from the heart,.... So hold your head up and enjoy your meeting tomorrow... You can learn alot...
Good luck to you and your A.... Keeping you in my prayers... Missing Out
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
