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There has been a little drama about christmas plans in my family this year.
In Sept my brother "called" thanksgiving meaning he said he wanted our dinner to be at a certain time to accomodate his schedule and ask if that was okay- so fine no problem I just said my daughters would like Christmas at our house and everyone agreed--- Well in Nov. my sister calls me and say quote:'
I've decieded to have Christmas at my house. I said okay but the girls and I want to be at home this year, so we won't be able to make it.

It's so funny that the family seems to see me as the trouble maker here???


Since then there has been drama drama drama but I'm still staying home and it is all okay with me

Thanks to alanon otherwise I would have been driving myself nuts!!

anyway this is the "short" version I just wanted to say it feels good to put my ideas and feelings first and not feel guilty about this!

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Jerry F


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That deserves a "you go girl" from this guy.  Stay free Glad; free of guilt
and shame.

(((((hugs))))) smile

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Jean4444


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nice work, stick to your guns! You are putting it all on your terms and it looks sweet to me! Isnt it nice to watch that rollercoaster just pass you right by?! I love that! Hugs, J.

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The holidays bring out the crazy in my family too.
I had a similar situation last year and my husband, the kids and I stayed home. 
It was nice.
And NO DRAMA.

This year, we're doing the family thing.  I don't mind a little family drama because it's only once a year and it's not tooooo bad.

It sounds like yours is going to ROCK.  Good job.

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My family of origin was a nightmare about Christmas.  My exA's family was the same. In fact I still have to work on a resentment I have towards his mother who always insisted it was at her house. That meant 12 hours of watching her and waiting on her and listening to her while the A smoked dope with this brother. I opted out after a number of years and was seen as the outcast.  I think I really didn't think through my needs now but I'm aware I didn't have a program then.

I'm sure there is going to be "drama" when we put in changes.  I have to work real hard personally not to be engaged in the drama.

Maresie.

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