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Hi All Court when we both have joint cous for now until a law guarding can talk to her. But I am so madat how easy I just roll over and play died and let him get the things that he wants from me. I know that we have been separated for only three week and it is hard to stop old habits. He was so sweet talking to a lady law guarding that was there and it was almost like the 21 year old man that I meat 21 years ago. How do you stop careing so much and some one that treats you like crap. When does the hurting stop and healing began. Part of me wants to think that he can get well and we can have a good live HAHA. He is sober at the time and living with his mother. I know that my HP has all this stuff covered and I need to just need to work on me and wait and see what is in the HP hands. No more ftf meetings until sunday I'll be there.
I can relate to the court thing. I left my ex (not an A) many years ago and it has been very hard to deal with court and all of that. Our final hearing is coming up soon and that should be the end of it. Everytime we went to court my ex was like a different person, like he was so great. The guardian should be beneficial to your case. It will all work out. Sometimes it just takes a while.
Detachment takes some practice and healing will come in time. I have hoped for my Abf to get sober for so many years, and it did happen close to a year ago now. I am glad to hear he is sober today. That is a huge step I think. I never thought my bf would stay sober, but he did.
I always have to remember, they are gonna do what they are gonna do, in all situations. I let my bf own his life and I own mine. This helps me. When something difficult comes up, I remind myself to be grateful for the good things in my life, and a big part of that is him being sober.
As for my ex, I had a lot of resentment for a long long time, and I finally let most of it go over the past year or so. We separated over 7 years ago.
I am glad you have your HP in your life. Just imagine life without a hp. It would just be too much. I wish you the best. You are not alone.
