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Dear all, I have come to the end of our holiday in the sun, last two days were really cold, we went on a boat trip and today we went to aqua sur with a fellow holiday maker who I did not feel great about, maybe its just me but red flags. My father is very needy which is awkward as before stepmother died, he did not give me the time of day. I am polite but quite frankly I do not want to go down that road again, it was very hurtful and he let me down badly. My children love him dearly and I am willing to help out but not to have my life run as it was before, I find him quite demanding as all alcoholics can be. I think he got left quite a bit of money and I hope he is sensible with it. In any case, its not my bag, I know I need to do a gratitude list as I am quite tetchy at the moment and feel sad that I have not enjoyed myself as much as I thought I would as it will probably be the last holiday with teenage son,
Sounds like you are doing a good job of evaluating what you are willing to go through. That's good. I'm glad you can put some boundaries in place and take care of yourself. Sounds like you could almost use a vacation from your vacation, though.
Just remember to really do something nice to take care of you.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I"m not sure I could ever even contemplate having a holiday with my family of origin. Perhaps it is a set up to think one can have a "good" time when it is so loaded.
