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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My HP works in strange, helpful ways. I saw my AHsober Fri night. We went to dinner and then went dancing. I became jealous of his life without me and treated him poorly. The next day I went to an Alanon meeting and opened the book to Nov. 15. Bitterness towards the A. Yes, my attitude towards my A is often hostile. HP said read this Nancy. I made an amends to him. It made me feel better (still not approving of his lifestyle) but not treating poorly the rest of the day. I know that he is not out to get me but the disease is running the show.
I dunno I tend to stay away from the A and most of his friends. I do still have resentment towards him. I don't expect it to evaporate any time soon either. I think maybe its a little bit idealistic to think those feelings just go away personally. Nevertheless it is good to monitor the bitterness. If I were to see the A which is very very unlikely I would not do anything remotely social with him. They are very very good at camaflaging and creating snow storms of emotion in others.
