The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
To me, the promise is that I will be OK regardless of another person's behavior. The benefits are even more.
Tonight I see AlAnon and the miracle of detaching with love has allowed me to push aside the ism and let me live with my love for my brother. He died tonight. I didn't always think of it as detaching with love, rather I felt I was usually out of bandwidth to get drawn down into the drama.
I am so grateful for the love we shared, the "shortcut language" we had where one or two words meant a whole shared story, how he watched out for me and the grace he brought to his struggle.
I treasure your continued support for us when I asked to keep him in your prayers. I am at peace tonight.
My deepest sympathies on the loss of your brother. He was lucky to have such a wonderful sister. I will keep you and your family in my prayers tonight. Like my Tim, he's at peace now. No more struggling. No more demons. May the memories comfort you and your family. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
(((Jill)))) My thoughts and prayers are with you. I understand your words on the promises of Alanon helping us through the difficult times in life. I too lost my brother this summer. He passed in July and two weeks later my husband passed. For me, my program helped and is helping me deal with life now. I know how to take care of myself. One of the beautiful gifts the progam gave me. Keep taking care of you....be gentle with yourself. If you want/need to talk please private message me. I do understand. love, rosie
The benefits and treasures you hold on to during this loss shines so clearly for you, your special connection with your brother, for him, for al anon........... and hope of life being ok. A very remarkable post and tribute. I am sad to hear of your loss. with prayers and hugs, ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
My heart goes out to you for the loss of your brother. I'm sorry I can't say more as I understand the close bond of a single glance or word meaning an entire phrase or memory shared. If anyone would have told me we grow even during these times, I would not have believed them. I can tell you from experience, we do grow.
My heart is with you during this time. What a precious thought "they no longer fight their demons".
I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I will add you and yours to my list.
You just made me realize how much I treasure my brothers who both have a birthday this month. Just yesterday I talked to my older brother and though his family is dealing with a very serious crisis at the moment, I was able to be his sister and he was able to be his real self with me.
What a treasure! Thank you for reminding me to be grateful in a literal sense.
Hugs, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
Aloha Jill...What a reaffirming share. You have learned what I also learned along the way. Grief with gratitude and love comes with celebrating the good that we shared with the spirit that has moved on. Thank you for sharing your recovery here. Because of memories I can still smile instead of falling into sadness and loss too often. I have at times experienced the spirit of my sister and at those time I feel happiness and elation.
