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ddub · ~*Service Worker*~

Program Action!

RainyJamie · Senior Member

I feel pretty low too, alot like you actually. All I can really say is that I think it's alright to talk about it. It's been very hard for me to change for the better, and all I can really do is small things that equal bigger changes, like when I opened savings accounts for the girls afer my AH repeatedly robbed thier piggybanks. I think you and me need to work on clear plan to make things better, and recognize each little step we do t make it happen.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha ddub!!

It's progress not perfection and one day at a time...sometimes that comes down to the minute. You have grown and maybe that growth set you up for expectations that everyday would be great realizations, growth and self power. I have never seen it work that way for the time I have been around the
program. Some days are up and some days are down just like for normies. It's
called living life on life's terms.

Some days and maybe weeks I get into the "I don't wanna's". I don't wanna
do this or I don't wanna do that and I don't beat myself up for it. I just don't
force myself to do something because there's some kind of worldly expectation
that I won't measure up or I'll be caught in the lethargy for eternity. That's not
true I have had "down" syndrome before and came out of it and I have had ups
that almost made me dizzy and they didn't last either. The middle ground is
the target for me and when I'm there I'm happiest.

Self love for me is loving me as I would love another. I learned how to do that
here in Al-Anon and the alcoholic got a little unsettled when I turned some of
my enabling on myself and left her to self care for herself.

(((((hugs))))) smile

nmike · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((ddub))))),

It just is. We all end of there at one time or another. I said in an AA meeting a couple of weeks ago that I was not happy. Someone said that is why the steps are there. I did not appreciate him telling me that. But It was true. They tell us not to isolate so for me I am just burying myself in recovery. Trusting the process.

You are going to love this one. Yet another slogan. If you can't get out of it then get in it. lol. Meaning check it out where you are. Hope this helps.

In support,
Nancy

CJ · ~*Service Worker*~

((ddub))

when i start to feel overwhelmed with whatever is going on... i usually need to pick up that phone and call someone in program. getting my butt motivated to go to a meeting also usually helps me to become more hopeful and optimistic.

doing one or both of those works for me. i have program friends that let me dump those cruddy feelings... i can tell them, or a meeting, of the unfairness, the injustice, the pain of those situations... and that is all it usually takes for me to start feeling better. just having someone else hear it.

keep coming back, keep working it
have faith in HP... and if you can't, have faith that the program will work for you as it as for so many others in your situation. you can stay on the pity pot if need be... and you can get off it if you choose to... you are allowed to feel the pain of the situation... i ask that you reach out and trust us or other program friends to share that pain with...

with hope,
your friend
cj

Suzannah · ~*Service Worker*~

Ddub, I am reminding you of my post of 5/6 days ago - you know the one that started something like this: I do not think I belong here....

Many responded to me as YOU did, with so much understanding empathy and wisdom and your words were very knowing and understanding. You also PM'ed me to make sure I read the responses to my post, which I did. You know what you said to me, so I am reminding you of what Mariner said to me and have copied it below just for you to read again.

Mariner
Member

Posts: 16
Date: 4 days ago

I know that you have helped me

Describing your feelings in such a beautiful way has really helped me. You describe exactly how I am feeling this past week, one of the reasons I think I chose the name Mariner is cos I feel lost at sea. I'm smiling now as I've just visulised our boats sailing by each other. So your not alone and you'll be ok. See you on dry land.

Ddub, I see you in a sail boat, just like me and just like Mariner and we are all sailing around and past, towards, away and back towards each other again.

I also remember someone saying that the water was NOT THAT DEEP and she envisaged me getting out of that boat that I thought was sinking and walking through the water to the dry land. Well, honey, I see you doing that too, so I will see you on the beach and we can light a fire and have a bbq and a real long heart to heart encouraging chat with anyone else that wants to join us and a real group hug.

You are going thro one of 'those times' and you WILL COME OUT OF IT as long as you remember you are not alone and others, like me, can see just how much progress you ARE MAKING even if you do not think or see yourself as making progress.

So, I am throwing another prawn on the barby just for you sweetie! Come and get it and it is garnished with love and care and a great big hug.

Suzannah

Love and Hugs

-- Edited by Suzannah at 10:37, 2008-09-11

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