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Tenderheartsks


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Wow, it's amazing, the progression of this disease.

My 20 year old AD is a binge drinker, just like I was. She stays away from the house when she's drinking as she knows better.

I realized tonight, watching her getting all primped up for a birthday 'party' at a friends' house, not lifting a finger around here, breezing in and out as she pleases, just how different she is from 3 months ago, and I'm not talking in a positive way.

I just keep hugging myself, reminding myself to be my own best friend.

She quit mowing the lawn early this summer, and I've done it the last three times. I have to do it in several spurts because of the degenerative disc disease, but it feels so good to sit on the back porch when the dogs are out, and think how nice the yard looks, and I did it!

I'm just feeling a lot of pain right now as this is the worst my parents have stepped over boundaries in enabling her while she is in my home, completely disrespecting my wishes on letting her suffer the consequences of wrecking her car.

The Nissan is on my parents' insurance policy for a multi-car discount, and I found out not only am I listed as the only driver, the insurance company doesn't know I have a 20 year old daughter at home, or the rate is higher. They lied by omission to the insurance company, and that blew me away.

I found myself getting resentful, hoping she'll wreck that car too and then they'll all be in trouble! I did catch myself and said 'self, for the love of mud, you've got far more important things to concentrate on'! biggrin

I called my sponsor today as my printer ran out of ink, and I have study guides and questions to print out for one my college classes, so he's going to pick up a cartridge for me on his way home Wednesday as he works for a company based in Wichita. I have to drive 40 miles to get supplies like that as I live in a little town of 3000.

I was pretty overwhelmed when I logged into my 3 new classes today that start Monday, but I am going to put up a weekly schedule of what assignments are due in what class, and I know that will help with organization.

I must say that my greyhound Randy has been a great help under the desk today while I was reading through my class syllabus and generously passed gas at will! LOL!

I've got to remember to lighten up, laugh more, and stay focused!



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- Woodrow Wilson
Jen


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Oh yeah there's just nothing like a good round of dog toots to lighten the mood. ROTFLOL

I'm so sorry you are having to watch your daughter go through all this. It is so hard to remember to take care of yourself, but you are doing it. Keep up the good work.

In recovery,

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"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
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