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Hello everyone, i just signed up for this site this morning, and been reading alot on herer. I'm just at the point where i dont know what to do anymore. First of all, my hubby has started back to drinking the last couple of weeks after being sober for 7 years. And everything with his life is a mess to hear him tell it. Anyway, he bought a gun a couple of weeks ago. Came in last night from work, well he got off at 2:30 pm. and called and said he was going to get a haircut, okay, then comes home at 6:00pm, and got the gun and sell he met a guy that wants to buy it, and he was going to sell it, since i think he is going to blow his brains out with it. So, he said he would be back as soon as he can, or trade for another gun that the guy had, or auto parts for our truck, since we had been having truck. Okay, that was 6:00 last night, and i called him, at 1:00 am this morning, heard music in the back-ground, and he hung up on me. It is now 11:00 am and he wont answer his phone at all, so i dont know what to do. I use to go to anon meetings when i lived in mobile , ala, and wish i could find that group again.Is there any way that i could that?When i did go, he kept telling me i must have a boyfriend, and was out running around on him. We have been married for 29 years, and he is 55 and still is alittle boy. I try to leave him at one time, and he took a gun to his head, and said he would kill him-self if i ever left him at any time.It really scares me, please give me some advice please, and thank you so very much for letting me get this off my chest, for my stomach is curling into knots.
call 1-888-4alanon it is toll free and international they will give u a contact number for your area. please find meetings as soon as possible u need support from people who understand exactly what your going thru . As for his not wanting u to go to meetings , well thats his problem at least one of u is facing the real problem , alcoholism. The alcoholic controls by threats and inuendo's , I would be more concerned for your saftey than his with a gun in the house . Take care of you and visit our chat room on this site til u find a meeting in your area , we have two meetings a day here 9am and pm eastern time hope to see u there. Louise
((((littleflower)))) I know how hard it can be when your husband relapses after all those years. Mine did after 14 years sober. It was worse than the first time around. Please try and call that Alanon number, and get to meetings. Never mind that he thinks you're out cheating, they try and pull out all the stops to keep us right there where they want us. It's manipulation at it's finest. Keep reading and posting here too. We're here for you. ((((HUGS)))) Queenie
You are not alone!! I am glad that you found this place!! Taking care of you is the most important thing right now! Be careful and keep yourself safe!!
Good morning Little Flower. It's a stressful time isn't it? My partner is three days sober and says he is going to kill himself too... Just try to stand back and seek supports for yourself. It's all we can do.
