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Over the past3 and a half years I have told my A I love him and always given him hope that things will work out. when we split I give him hope tell him I love him need space but will waite while he sorts himself out. He never does and just manipulates his way back into my life. Things have changed slowely as I am growing in alanon. Last night my love for myself took over it has been growing very slowly since I entered the programme. Plus i now have an awareness of my own addiction co dependency. I told him he isnot changeing I told him He takes from me and offers nothing in return. I told him I carnt forget his infedelities I dont trust him and never to contact me again.
I now need to use my tools and develop strategies to leave him to live his life and to live my own to the full. Think I have finally handed him over
wow that is some powerful stuff- you HAVE handed him over 100% it sounds like- so very hard. This post inspires me greatly. thank you for writing it today- hugs, J.
