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What a gorgeous day it is today!! Well for me at least. Seems my ex a b/f has done it again. This time he couldnt hide especially from the lights and sirens that pulled him over yesterday for speeding, etc. Seems he is enjoying his drinks a little too much again and was pulled over and taken to jail where it looks like he'll be spending some quality time. Looks like he's going to be there for 90 days with no visitors, and no phone calls from anyone! I am assuming since this was his 4th DWI, he can kiss his license goodbye this time for good. Poor baby. If only he kept going to his meetings and socializing with "good" people perhaps he wouldnt be in this predicament. Not my problem though as hard as that is to say. Its a good thing I'm tough and saw this coming. I wouldnt want to be up close and involved in this one.
If only I could click my heels and make this illness go away. Poor guy really is decent, just thinks he can be a bad boy.
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Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want, doesn't mean that they don't love you the best way they know how
That reminds me of what an old timer repeated in a morning meeting the other day. "We're not bad people trying to get good, we're sick people trying to get well." Alcoholism is definitely a disease and it touches everyone it comes into contact with...everyone.
Hugs. yeah that sounds pretty tough for him but maybe he'll choose recovery, maybe he won't. What are you doing for your life?
It doesn't sound like he wants to be a bad boy, he sounds like an A, it is a terrible disease. I hope you can focus on yourself. Do something nice for you!
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How great you can hear it and be detached. I used to foam at the mouth about the A's driving and crashing. I heard a commercial about insurance where it said regular drivers have an accident maybe once every seven years. The A who I was with had 7 in a year regularly and guess what it was always someone else's fautl. I talked till I was blue in the face, raged, cried, screamed about it, nothing changed. Then I changed, I detached. I no longer know what his driving record is. I have an idea it isn't good but it is not my business anymore.
I know for sure these days the A just views me as an ATM. Oh let's try that one and see if there is cash in there. All the feelings and bonds we had were destroyed by him. Of couse being a raging codependent didn't do me any good. If I meet somene now who has an alcohol of substance issue I take a wide wide berth. I'm very pleasant, nice even but I do not involve myself emotionally. I didnt think I could do that. My whole life used to be invested in changing them. Now I am invested in changing me and that's enough to deal with.
I can have compassion for them but that no longer involves me sacrificing myself.
