The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Can you please tell me the purpose of Alanon? Is it to help me to take care of me? And to learn how not to take on the Alcoholic's problems? Please help me see the light.
Al-anon is there to offer hope and help to families and freinds of alcoholics. In Al-Anon, members share their own experience, stength, and hope with each other. You will meet others who share your feelings and fustrations, if not your exact situation. We come together to learn a better way of life, to find hapiness whether the alcoholic is drinking or not
Bascially, it helps you to take care of you and not to put all your focus on the A. This program and the f2f meetings are wonderful tools if you put them to use. I have been going to Al-Anon just about 3 months now, and I am so grateful I have found this program. The meetings have given me confindence, a place to vent, wonderful support and a new sense of spirituality. It has also made me realize what things I can and can't change with my A. What boundries I need to put up for me to be comfortable. What I can help with and what I shouldn't. How to be grateful for the positives that happen in my life. And how to take things one day at a time...Just to name a few!! I hope you check out a meeting. The f2f meetings really are worth it. The people are wonderful! I highly recommend it!
I came running to alanon to find a solution to help me deal with my alcholic husband and save my marriage.
What I found was a place I was finally able to breath. And a place where I was reminded that I had to take care of myself and then everything else would just fall into its own place.
Alanon is a place for me where I have learned to live again, laugh again and love again!
All of the above that everyone wrote! My share is that I really felt alone, crazy and hurting. I walked in a room and no one judged me, nor did they "pitty" me they had answers experience and love to give. I don't like or agree with everyone at the meetings but I love all of them. and I feel like they love me. I have never felt so accepted!!!
For me, it let me know that my feelings were "normal", rather than crazy! Being able to discuss situations in my life that others had gone through was so comforting. At the time, (AH in rehab) Alanon was the only place I could be honest, and not be judged. There is a common link with everyone involved in alanon -- they REALLY do understand.....
Keep coming back, it takes a while for things to get comfortable, but it's worth it. We used to call it the "lightbulb" moment, when something makes sense for the first time, and then it all just clicks! It really does make for a better way of life!
