The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships.
We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with people we might prefer to avoid, but we don't have to force ourselves through long-term or intimate relationships with these people.
We are free to choose friends, dates, and spouses. We are free to choose how much time we spend with those people we can't always choose to be around, such as relatives. This is our life. This is it. We can decide how we want to spend our days and hours. We're not enslaved. We're not trapped. And not one of us is without options. We may not see our options clearly. Although we may have to struggle through shame and learn to own our power, we can learn to spend our valuable hours and days with the people we enjoy and choose to be with.
God, help me value my time and life. Help me place value on how I feel being around certain people. Guide me as I learn to develop healthy, intimate, sharing relationships with people. Help me give myself the freedom to experiment, explore, and learn who I am and who I can be in my relationships.
She really is good. I passed my book along to a friend of mine and she called and said it was just what she needed. I am enjoying a new meditation book called: A Woman's Spirit by Karen Casey. I like to switch up books in order to gain new perspective. I may not be an addict, but I am certainly in recovery. Love and blessings to you and your family. Have a wonderful weekend.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
I have tremendous admiration for Melody. I have been reading lately about enduring. I can make things so difficult for me. Right now I am focusing on starting over. Of course I hate to the idea of starting over. I'm supposed to have a miracle land in my life so I don't have to do this. I'm not sure how it is going to go but I know one things its an improvement. For me starting over is about boundaries. If I meet someone and they run over my boundaries, no matter what I let go, no matter what they mean to me I set them back. I never did that before I always felt the world would crack open if I did it. Recovery does indeed bring us into different worlds.
