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Some time ago in a meeting a lady metioned her son had been helped (then relapsed) by a free treatment center in Louisiana. But she did say it helped him
I have not yet seen her again to ask the name of the program. Does anyone know of this or any free or low cost treatment centers.
and by the way feed back on the following please:
I mentioned my lack of desire to "control" this and things like this to my A/ BF I expressed how I didn't want to control and I understood a person has to want to do what will help them.
He actually spoke up and expressed an idea / feeling which is unlike him. He said " If your a Christian and you witness to someone it's not controlling" or if you help a prostitute get out of that life it's not controlling. Unuaual for him to comment. So I was surprised?
So I'm steping lightly here but wanted to get some info. as weeks ago when I mentioned this program to him he did ask where it was? Comment... suggestions.. greatly appreciated.
I know from past experiences with him this could "bit me in the butt" (he could go to rehab, I could support him emotionally and whatever.. and he could hook up with some other A, make friends he didn't want to know me or determine that I'm to blame or anything could happen)... but so what... living with a drunk every night / day stinks so if there is a small chance this would help him... I'm willing to keep working on me and let whatever happens happen... it is worth the risk.
He is a Navy Vet so maybe there is money there for this?
He has no insurance and there is no big money anywhere in our family so we are kinda unsure.
Does anyone have experiences they can share both about paying for it and what it's like?
How far is too far to "help" find a program when they have expressed interest?
I do not know the name of the program in Louisiana. You might want to contact the local VA hospital to see if they have a program. I know one lady I work with and her Dad's VA benefits were contingent on him getting help. They sent him to a rehab place in another part of the state. Hubby was able to get hospital funding so that he could get into rehab along with his outpatient mental health. It's based on income and need. There are options. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Can't really help you with rehab options - I am in Canada, where the situation is quite different. Rehab can be very cheap or free, but the waiting lists are long.
However. My husband went to rehab, and it was very helpful to him. Mainly, I think, because he was ready to sober up, and the intense, 24-hour-a-day atmosphere reinforced his commitment. The most helpful actual "work" he did was through AA - they had to go to an AA meeting every day as part of the program.
If your A really is ready to sober up, there's free help for him in a neighbourhood church basement or community hall. There will be people at the AA meetings willing to give him the support he needs - all he has to do is ask.
Rehab is not magic. My husband was in with a group of ten people - six months after the program, there were only two of them still sober. The most important part is what the A brings to the program - a committment to recovery. Without that, the best and most expensive rehab program in the country won't work. With it, free meetings in church basements will.
THank you for post so far and I still want to hear others stories about rehab I want to share that I just speant less than an hour on the phone and found some low cost treatments close to home.
I plan to write this down. Share it briefly with my BF tonight and leave the rest to him.
I'm also going to the open AA alano meeting tonight and he can come or not!!
Thanks to all, look forward to any more input... NOW on to my fantastic day I know my HP has for me.
I can't help with the detailed rehab information for the area..... but in my opinion, the answer for your last question re: how much is too much help...... lies in a two-fold answer.....
1. Check your motives - i.e. look in the mirror.... if you're doing it to help him because you care, then I think it's a positive....
2. You've gone "too far" if you tie your help to EXPECTATIONS of what he is going to do with the help..... We can all lead horses to water, blah, blah, blah.....
Hope that offers some perspective..... I think you're doing great, and the right thing!
T
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The ex A is a vet. There is certainly rehab there but he may have to go to a center. Sometimes this involves lots of intakes. I think its worth exploring.
I'm not sure anything is "free". I think there are programs out there but it depends on what you qualify for. Certainly some people can get in on medicaid or medicare. The issue is to do the leg work. And of course a lot of As wont' do it. I know the A I was with did a lot of leg work around his various illnesses and at one time (before me) he even was in a 12 step program. That didn't last at all. He had options and he did not take them.
We will stand on our heads for them though I am sure. For me its about what am I doing this for?
Do a google search on "free rehab centers". There are several listed and most have 800 numbers you can call for information.
From my experience rehab only works if the patient is serious about changing their life. They have to reach the "I do not want to live like this anymore" stage and be determined to make a change.
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