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Tracy


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hi everyone
my A went out 9 days ago got drunk and has not been in touch since.
Hes in his mums
See he knows I will not accept it anymore.
I have had good and bad days
Thought he might have rang 2day 3rd anniversary he never 
This helps me to see I am doing the right thing
I know he loves me but he knows its not working.
If I tell myself he loves me but is ill I can cope.
If I tell myself he is selfish and does not care it hurts
I know its not personal his kids have not heard of him either he to busy gettin smashed
I am worrying about me
accepting reality at last he carnt meet my needs and its not my job to save the world
will let him go with love and live my life how I want to


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((((Tracy)))))
What a difficult situation. Just remember, as you said, he is ill.
Take care of you.
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Rodney Cochran


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Tracy, Read the last three lines in your post again. That says it all. Good for you. Rodney

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Jerry F


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Aloha Tracy!!

(((((hugs))))) cry

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Karilynn


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((((((((((Tracy))))))))),

Turn him over to his HP and let him do the rest.  Remember what it was like when he was living you.  Remember the chaos.  Then take a look around now and enjoy the serenity.  Believe it or not you're doing just fine.  These things take time.  Keep the focus on you.  Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty smile

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lin0606


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Sorry you are going through this.  You are right - it's an illness. If love could cure alcoholism, none of us would be here, and AA would be empty too.

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Jean4444


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a painful but very honest and truthful post, T. Thank you for writing it. Its what I needed to hear today. Hugs, J.

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maresie


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I've been hurt deeply by an A. I let him go a while ago.  There is still a lot of anger in there for me about his behavior but I know the anger would be much worse if I stayed longer.

maresie.

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Maria123


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((((((((Tracy)))))))),

We cannot change what we don't acknowledge.

Keep coming and sharing.  It does us wonders.

In support,
Maria

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