The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
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Wow Thankyou Tom for suggesting that I google toxic love. When my marriage ended I ran from the pain into this relationship with the A which has lasted for 3 years due to my fear of being a lone and blaming myself for husbands addiction. I know I am not to blame and I don't think I learn't my lesson first time round so HP gave me someone even worse, I have finally learnt my lesson. I used to have a very high self worth but this dissapeared with my 17 year marriage. The A knew of my past and knew I would not have contemplated a relatioship with him before my divorce he supported me and won me over. I know he is ill also and just looking after his own needs. I feel dissapointed I hope one day I will find proper love. But for now I will be fine alone thankyou so much. I intend to live and breath alanon until I find the serenity I deserve,
Hi Tracy: The last A I was with was not my first. I could not really take to Al anon before and could not break my pattern until now. Now I am in al anon 3 years and life is better, not fairy tale better but much better. I am more grounded, more peaceful and more in reality.
