Al-Anon Family Group

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Members Login
Username 
 
Password 
    Remember Me  
Post Info TOPIC: Looks like the oldest daughter is back in jail...


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 692
Date:
Looks like the oldest daughter is back in jail...


My 30 year old alcoholic/addict daughter had called late last week to let me know she had court on the 9th, and there was a good chance she'd go back to jail.

I don't call her anymore as she usually doesn't have a phone, moves so often I never know where she is, and honestly, we have nothing in common.

I didn't have much to say other than good luck and that I loved her.

She did 5 months in jail last year, was/is on intensive probation with a lot of stipulations, including completing 400 hours of community service and paying her fines. She had only completed 4 hours of community service as of two weeks ago.

I realized late yesterday evening that she hadn't called, which she said she would if she didn't go to jail.

What a blessing to no longer obsess on what she is/isn't doing!

I've been crazy busy with website work, filling out forms for scholarships to college, requesting transcripts, and getting my appeal papers for disability in order.

This coming weekend I will be taking my granddaughter Alexandria (age 12) to see the Blue Man Group in Wichita, and I am SO excited (as is she) as I have wanted to see them for years!

My brother also sent out his old laptop to me before college starts, which is a huge bonus. There isn't a darned thing wrong with it other than it's just not fast enough for his needs. He does radio commercials for businesses nation-wide in addition to his job at TIC-FM in Hartford.

Life is so good, and I owe it all to a loving God and this program that has taught me to work on myself and let go of the dysfunction in my life, oldest daughter included.

I just wanted to share some positives. I can well remember the day when I found absolutely nothing positive in my life, only fear, anger, resentment and gloom! :)

__________________
"If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience."
- Woodrow Wilson


Veteran Member

Status: Offline
Posts: 49
Date:

Thanks for sharing hun

It gives me hope that one day I might be able to feel this one day.

I wish I could not obsess about how much my AH will drink or what state he is in. Thanks again.

__________________

AKA princess in chatroom.



~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 4578
Date:

What a great post.  I obsessed myself into great dysfunction around the
A. The only reason I stopped was this board and my health failed.

I am more willing to put him in perspective today in ways I could not do before. Detachment is such a gift.

I am so happy for you so much is going right.

I can feel "poor me" in a second.

Maresie.

__________________
maresie


~*Service Worker*~

Status: Offline
Posts: 895
Date:

What a miracle to be able to put .........

Looks like the oldest daughter is back in jail.......and

Life is good..........all in the same post.  Now that is working a program.

I surely want what you have.

Gail

__________________
Gail
Page 1 of 1  sorted by
 
Quick Reply

Please log in to post quick replies.