The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I haven't seen or heard a peep from my A-bf (or his family) for "one-day-short-of-8-weeks." I just got home from a birthday lunch for my Mom... went with a couple of my sisters & a niece. Had a lot of FUN!
Had a call on the answering machine waiting for me for when I got home. It was from an Emergency Room; a health care worker asking for "a friend or family member" to come pick up the A-bf. Now what? Well, at least I know that if they need a "pick-up" that A-bf is:
a) still alive b) healthy enough to be discharged
I work night shift and was heading to bed as soon as I got home from the birthday celebration. I have to get my rest or I won't be able to stay awake tonight. I certainly hope someone else (family?) steps up to the plate and goes to fetch him. Else, he can always take a cab.
I always jumped for the A. That changed but it took a good 3 years or more in the room for that to happen. Now its me and my dogs first and everything esle second. I am so happy to learn self preservation. I had none before now.
Thank you so much for your responses, guys... it really means a lot to me. I did have a bit of trouble sleeping, and felt a little mad, too, because he is at it again. But I am so happy that I didn't go running to rescue him. The old me would have.
good job. My a called from jail last week and said he only needed $70 to get out so he could make it to yet another court date the next day. I said gee that sux.
It sure feels good to get to that place where you don't feel guilty for not "helping" anymore!
