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Sigh.... I've been split from my recovering AW for over five years now, and divorced for more than three..... She's been sober now for just over five years as well, but last night I got another reminder..... She left me a sarcasm-filled voicemail on my answering machine - partially playing the victim role, partially questioning my parenting skills, and generally just attempting to make my life miserable..... all over a seemingly trivial matter, where I offered my kids (and her) the use of my portable dvd player for a trip they are going on tomorrow.....
As I deleted the voice mail, rolling my eyes a bit, I was reminded, yet again, of one of the gems that my sponsor used to remind me of.....
"when dealing with your A, try seeing them with a large SSS tattoo'd on their forehead, as that stands for SICK,SICK,SICK"
So true, even after all this time.... I get tired of trying to make sense out of nonsense.
T
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I think one of the most difficult things to deal with of this disease is that it never ends. I hit a smooth patch and don't trust it, if it continues longer then I start forgetting that it never really ends. I start thinking that we have figgured this issue or problem out once and for all.......... that's when it snaps back and shocks me! Oh yeah, a BIG SIGH!! But at least we are not alone, it is not that feeling of going crazy maybe - I hear ya, I get it and it is a bummer, for sure!!
Thanks for reminding me and well done for you. Rolling your eyes, deleting the msg and sharing with us is a great way to let it go! I hope I can role model like that for my kids someday.
hugs, ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
At least you were thinking of your kids with your offer. My AHsober has been sober for over 20 years. His sobriety is a gift to him and I am grateful for that. His sobriety has been way more difficult to deal with than any drunken bout in the past. Go figure.
And I work on that section of my recovery where forgiveness is there even before I need it. My wise sponsors also worked hard at passing on to me that true practice of this spiritually based program resides in the subconscious and not on the conscious. The problem passes...the program doesn't.
Chronic and fatal malady. A's die WITH it but don't always have to die FROM it. Good going on thinking about the disease lol.
Holidays are always a little rougher since they are such family times. Subconcous stresses and lies boil to the surface of many in and out of the program. ODAT.
