The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I was pretty upset this morning when I came on here. I didn't want to post about what had happened, and I'm still not going to, because it's quite personal. So, I started reading. And I started with glad's post. That got me to thinking in a different direction and I posted my reply and with doing that, with focusing on something else, and forgiveness, I'm over what I was upset about. I feel so much better! It may be pouring down rain outside, but I'm going to make it a beautiful day when he gets up. I'm not going to hold on to the hurt/upsetness I was feeling because there really is no point. He didn't really do anything "wrong". Just selfish. And if I don't communicate what I want or need, how is he supposed to know??
So, glad, thank you! I hope all of you have a great day, and if it can't be great because of things that are beyond your control, I hope it's at least a bearable day for you. Here's something for you all
And now I am grateful that I came in and read your post for the same reasons. And it is raining here also. She is thoughtless at times (a habit) of the consequences of her "personality" trait that blames and maims. I have had my say. I have had my reactions. I have had the opportunities for forgiveness. I will stay with forgiveness as that works best for my serenity and peace of soul. Besides as my sponsor use to ask me, "So words can really hurt you huh?" Actually only as much as I let them. Best let go. Better let God. Best get happy.
