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Hi, my name is Jennifer and my boyfriend is 252 days sober today. I'm kind of new to the program. I do attend meetings, on occasion, and I do have a sponsor that I don't really talk to because I like to isolate myself. And yes, I know that's not good. I know, I know. I haven't been taking care of me like I should, and it's starting to show in our relationship and I'm changing that starting now. I'm thankful for a board like this one and thankful there is support there even when I don't feel like leaving the house. Thanks in advance to everyone for being here. Jennifer
Great first step Jennifer. Coming in here and talking or venting about what's going on in our lives is a great tool. It is also a great tool to use for listing gratitudes. Glad to hear you have a sponsor, that's another good start, use of a sponsor is directly correlalated to the sucess of our recovery. I don't always use mine as much as I should so i'm speaking from experience. Gladd to have you join us on the board.
Welcome Jennirfer.... well, you're already miles ahead of where I was at that relative time in your A's sobriety, by admitting that you aren't doing all you can, and making the commitment of following a schedule of recovery for YOU.
Hope you keep coming back.. there are tons of great people on here, with a wide variety of ES&H.
Take care Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Welcome to MIP Jennifer. Great that you have decided to take care of you. You don't say how long you've been with your boyfriend, but I'm guessing that you have been affected by his disease at any rate.
Keep coming back to share. We are a family here.
Love and Blessings,
Claudia
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A person's a person no matter how small --Dr Suess
Welcome to MIP Jennifer. Great that you have decided to take care of you. You don't say how long you've been with your boyfriend, but I'm guessing that you have been affected by his disease at any rate.
Keep coming back to share. We are a family here.
Love and Blessings,
Claudia
He and I will celebrate our 1 year anniversary on St. Pat's Day.
Welcome to MIP! A great place to come for experience, srength and hope. It has helped me alot. We are to strive for progress not perfection. Keep coming back.
I know what you mean about not feeling like leaving the house. I live 25 miles from our town which doesn't sound like much til you make the drive. It's 45 minutes to an hour and a half, depending on the weather and the road conditions. I usually try to make 3-4 meetings a week, but am taking a break from a couple this week. I'm just kind of burnt out. This board is wonderful. Lots of really great ESH.
Welcome!
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Welcome to the family. Sound like egg shells you're walking on and then you know and you know and you know. You have the awareness thing down. Good!! Isolation was one of my fortes also and the consequence was I knew and had no experience to go with it. Sooooo getting over the fear, doing some hard "trust" work and kicking my procrastination out the back door I started "working" the program. You cannot do it perfectly. No one ever has. I would have been the first and then that hasn't happened either. So grab that 500 pound telephone receiver and call your sponsor and ask, "So what do you know about isolation?" Then sit back and listen. Kinda, sorta how I did it...kinda. I got the experience (lots of it) letting others guide and mentor me and that was major recovery for me then and now.
