Got an email from estranged father yesterday (not an A).  He is in town (on business) and sent me a rather business-like request for a "visit" with me tonight ("please advise").  I told him I had somewhere I needed to be tonight, but that I had about an hour between work and this other obligation, and I could meet with him.  I dreaded this "meeting" like the plague.  I prayed and prayed and remembered what I've learned in this program.  It was game time. 

My dad is known for his "my way or the highway" approach to things.  He came over and asked me to hear him out and not interrupt.  I spoke ever so calmly and gently and said, "I won't interrupt you.  I'm actually not ready to say anything tonight.  I just want to listen to what you have to say."  I think it surprised him (he was looking for an argument).  I heard him out and simply nodded that I was hearing him.  When he finished, I told him "OK - well, I really don't have anything to add right now."  He jumped up and stormed out.  I let him go and quietly closed the door behind him.  I DID IT!!!  I didn't get drawn into the anger, the blaming or anything.  I am so proud of myself.  This program is working in me!!! 

I realize that I still need to address the conflict in my relationship with my father  - and I'm working on sorting that out in my head right now - but I didn't get drawn into reacting.  I chose to THINK instead.  (I love this program!)

On the "A" front.  I took a giant step for me tonight, and took down a website that he and I had together.  He had put the website online, but it was mainly me who added to it.  For some reason, when he decided to move on from me, he left the website intact.  I found the strength tonight to let that coffin door finally close on this relationship.

Today I have taken giant leaps for myself - and was given the strength to do so by this program and this board (and OF COURSE HP).

Lots of gratitude.

~R3