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Okay, I'm new to the board so if this seems cheesy I'm sorry!
I read a post of a list of things the person was angry with the AH about and it helped me so much to see that others struggle with some of the same issues I do, made me feel like I was not alone in my anger, sadness, and rejection (by the stupid beer not so much by my AH) but I was wondering- we all stay so .. Is there perhaps a list of things we are also thankful for, no matter how short it might be. I'll start!
Dear AH:
I am thankful you are a hard worker.
I am thankful you are polite, generous and try your best at all you do.
Absolutely be greatful. Beign greatful for what is instead of what isn't is always a great way to keep prospective. It will also keep you grounded in the solution. I'm glad to see you're on the ball. :)
You are well named for your positive spirit. I will try too.
I am thankful he is responsible as a provider
You see, I made the angry list so maybe I am in the wrong frame of mind.
I turn the anger inside which is very unhealthy for me
I think listing the anger helped me to get it outside but without trying to clean AH's side of the street right now. One thing, one day at a time but often I am a big fan of keeping an attitude of gratitude.
hugs, ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
I am grateful for the things my uncle (drunk of my childhood) gave me. A warped sense of humor, a fear of alcohol....maybe healthy respect for the death and damage it can bring....and the idea that when you're hungry, you eat, if you're not hungry, don't eat. I love that idea and it might have kept me from becomming another statisical eating disordered dancer in the 80ies. He also said that if you want dessert first, then have it. Life is too short to wait for dessert. Now, he very well might have been saying these things just to tick off my grandma and mother. It did tick them off. But, I have avoided many power struggles with my kids by just allowing them to eat when they are hungry. Might mean they are having a cold bowl of cereal before bed because they weren't hungry at dinner time, but there are no tears or angry words. Just a pleasent dinner (or lunch or whatever). Yup, I am thankful for those things he gave me. My ex-A is a totally different story and I would be thankful if he just disappeared...but that's projecting
I am thankful that he is 4000 miles away I am thankful that he does not call me and is not coming here I am thankful I have a lovely safe home. I am thankful that I live in beauty every single day I am thankful for my wonderful friends and family who love me so much for who I really am I am so thankful for my excellent physical health I am thankful for the wonderful food that sustains and nourishes me I am so thankful for al-anon.
lol
I will try too.
