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I have been asked by the director where I work to perform a function that will make our company look bigger than it actually is. I told him that I do not feel comfortable doing so. It feels very deceptive to me. He told me that, that is the way it is going to be. Do I have too much of a conscience??? Is this black and white thinking?
(((((Kissers)))))), What a horrible situation to be put into.
To me it is not a black and white thing, and you not feeling comfortable about it speaks to your personal ethics.
We all have our personal ethics and when we enter the rest of the world on a professional or personal level we often come into contact with people who do not share the same values as we do. When this happens for me I have to ask myself how important is this issue? Am I willing and able to give a little in this area? If the answer is no, then I know it is time for me to move on.
Now there are many questions that I would be asking if I were asked to be dishonest. Am I able to? What are the consequences? What could happen to me if I did do this? What would happen if I don't? Should I start looking for a new job?
All tough questions, but only you can aswer those for you.
You are in my prayers hun. Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
If your supervisor is asking you to do something illegal you can quit and still collect unemployment. Make sure you have proof! I don't know if what they are asking is illegal so much as unethical and that is a difficult situation. If it is something that you could get in trouble for later if things went wrong then I would say refuse. If not, I would go with it but that's just me. I think the key here is to always be CYA. If you don't feel comfortable with it I would go over that supervisor's head or be looking for other work immediately.
Long time ago, my boss was renowned for "stretching the truth" just a bit. Generally involved inflating our size, qualifications, or total sales, etc. I let him have his fun, but refused to participate. Several times he introduced me to a prospect as an "MIT graduate", just before I busted out laughing. I'm a local city college dropout.
I still work for this guy today. He sometimes thinks he's an alcoholic. He's always hyperbolic, that I know for sure. Whenever he's about to tell a big one in my presence he usually starts to laugh before he can finish the sentence. I've never been much of a yes-man. Fortunately it's not a condition of employment.
I'm actually doing my third stint as this lunatic's employee. Why? Because he's a very successful and generous lunatic. He's funny; sometimes he wants to be buddies with me just like the old days. He wants me to have passion for my work like I did when I was 21 years old. But he also knows better... he pays me a lot more now than he did in my passionate, alcoholic youth. Life is far less chaotic. My passion is for my life, my love, my family. My job is a good job - a great job actually. But I don't dream about it. Or, thankfully, have nightmares about it.
