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hi everyone i'm coming up on the end of year 2 of the year of Jill. i have a long way to go so that it's not all about the a. i figure it will take me 7 years, and i have to constantly fight against my own inclination to put the spotlight on anyone else. is that why i'm sitting on a saturday night watching some war movie? ugh I went through the list of rentals with him -- and we circled back and he got this one. I could have perservered on a more interesting title, but none of them really appealed to me. I'm sure some appealed to me more than this one did, though. it's as if it's not really going to rock my boat, i won't even vote. I need to be more focused on myself and I intend to keep working at this until I get it right.
thanks to Alanon I can have perspective and believe I'm worth it and believe I can get there. thanks so much everyone! Jill
I love the title of your post--ain't that the truth!!
Don't be too hard on yourself about going along with the war movie. Part of my recovery is learning to pick my battles. For me, it is also about learning the difference between putting myself last just to keep the peace and compromising because I am in a relationship with another human being. UGH!! I was going to ask you why you thought it would take another 7 years, but I think it will probably take me just as long!!
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Do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow will look after itself. The Bible, from Courage to Change, p.138
I think I'm a lot like you. Just when I take 2 steps forward it seems I take a step back. It's still progress but very very slow. I still find myself compromising to keep the peace. The battles are becoming fewer and the drinking is becoming less. I guess that is progress.
Yours in recovery,
Claudia
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A person's a person no matter how small --Dr Suess
I have a friend who had been in program over 12 years before getting a sponsor and working her 4th step.. but today she is doing great.... we get what we need when we are ready.. a great part of the program.. no pushing... just progress....
