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A few years back my very brain damaged A used some wrestling thing on me and threw me to the ground.
Hurt my shoulders and knees.
Now the knee has weakened to the point I have torn my meniscus. My tail bone is cracked, my foot is tore up and my shoulders are so painful. Then we he the carpal tunnel in the right hand.
Feeding is a major task,major.
sooo at least after bugging my doc to death,finally an mri has shown the tear.
When it hurts bad i still think about how i took care of my ah so often. No matter, he won't help me.
Anyway I will keep ya all updated. moved my computer by my bed.
Gosh that really rings home for me, I looked after my ah when he was low and suicidal, but in the end he did not thank me for it he just send in the end it was my choice to stay. I guess I did it intially because of the fear of his death but ultimately my heart went out to him.
Then I tried detaching with love on the third attempt taking pills by not going to the hospital and telling him to ring the ambulance if he wanted to live, his choice.
I have a lot of resentments that now I'm unwell I don't get any support from him, but he cant deal with himself never mind me.
I think your right you can rely on yourself and al-anon for the love and support you need, for me its just trying to come to terms with that.
I can relate very very much. I can relate to being ill. I can relate to being exhausted. I can relate to feeling totally alone. I can understand all of it. I am glad you are away from him. I remember whne you helped him and helped him and helped him. And he did nothing but cause such stress. I can also of course to being left with the care of animals. My two dogs and two cats are very important to me. At the same time I have no one to fall back on to help me with them. I cannot even imagie how you are maanging the care of your animals at this time. I pray for your recovery.
I can symphathize with your medical problems. I went thru shoulder surgeries and my AHsober did little to nothing. He really doesn't have it. How sad. I know your pets care. Who is the baby?
