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lynnMat


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I posted my dilemma about my husband who is an A and didn't stop drinking even after my daughter was born.  Last night we got into an arguement and I locked my bedroom door.  He has never been violent in the past, but he tried to storm into the room and when he found out that it was locked, he kicked in the door.  I am getting afraid now.

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I have been where you are now and it took me years to get out of the situation.

However, with hindsight I would say that I should have left the very first occasion that it happened as it did NOT stop at the one time.  I was told by his consultant that once such behaviour shows itself it usually does not go away and that it was up to me to protect myself and my children.

Think very carefully, you can only do this at your own pace, however you need to let him know the score and protect you and your child from this disturbing behaviour.

Only you can make those decisions.

My heart goes out to you as do my prayers for wisdom and courage.

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debilyn


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hi,  It saddens me to hear what you are going thru. Where was your child?

Of course you are afraid, tell me, what if this were a stranger, a casual friend or? who did this? Just because it was your husband, what makes it ok?

In my experience, we need to call the police. It is his disease doing this, it needs a wake up call that you are NOT going to put up with this.

Abuse is not a symptom of aism, however, inhibitions are clearly released and the abuser no longer holds back the inclination to abuse.

Please don't fool yourself your child does not know.Even a baby can feel what is going on.

I am glad you are here. You may have saved your life. There are womans groups to help you with this. Possibly call the Heath dept for info.

sending hugs, love,debilyn

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