The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Ya know I do most of these things. It's just I do them unwillingly. I do them kicking and sceaming all the way.
I make everyday decisions but I complain that others won't which is why I have to. I assume responsibility for my actions but only after blaming everyone else hasn't worked.
I disagree with others but only when I am feeling disagreeable and pissy anyway.
I start and finish and feel great when I am done. A real sense of accomplishment.
I have to nuture myself and love myself as no one else will at the moment.
I know things will work out, I doubt for the best and I know I can do for myself because I have proven it to myself but it still ticks me off that I have to.
I have always like being alone.....when I want to be. When I don't want to be then I am instantly lonley.
yeah, I need a hobby.
Can you tell I spoke to my mother today? Thank God there's a meeting tonight!
I am with Tiger I have a lot of work to do too. But I am just barely starting to focus on the little things I do well for myself. Not right or wrong for me, just well........ which is a start on how I talk to myself.
Carolinagirl, you have given me a great list for end goals but I have to break it down into tiny steps and keep doing those over and over until it is as natural as breathing. I need to focus on extreme self care for awhile.
I do well usually taking daily meds for depression This week I did well walking 45 mins 3 days, walked with or met a friend every day so I stopped isolating myself and took a nap if only had 3-6 hours of sleep. I did sort of well getting topical meds on for skin problems and eating at least 2 instead of 1 meal a day. Need to add vitamins and chloresterol meds, eat 3 meals, brush teeth more, eliminate sugar, caffeinne and cigs...........
so I am making good progress and accepting that it will take time to re learn how to take care of me again so I can be strong with food, sleep & exercise to obtain the goals listed in this post. I have a lot of work to do here, as well as, all the relationship work, alanon tools, detachment like all of us and some are adding moving, financial & court issues etc, etc so I think we all should be reminded to give ourselves some extreme self care.
great post, thks for starting this!
-- Edited by ddub at 00:21, 2007-09-29
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if only had 3-6 hours of sleep.
brush teeth more, eliminate sugar, caffeinne and cigs...........