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I've not posted in a while, as I have had things going on in my life to keep me busy the last few weeks. Some of you know I have been chatting to a guy in England online. For the last 6 weeks we have been in contact every day by the net and texting.
He came to visit me last friday, we spent four days together. It was absoulutely perfect. We just clicked on the net, had so many similarities with eachother. So we had to meet and see what happened. We spent a day with my family, then two days away on our own. We were so compatable it was perfect.
He has my sense of humour, we laughed non stop, held hands, cuddled, smiled at eachother all the time (lol).... We talked about eachothers lives....The best thing was we could be "ourselves" in eachothers company....
He drove the four days (chauffered me around) lol... Was a perfect gentleman. We had a wonderful time, spent ALL the time together. I am going down to England in a few weeks to spend time with him. In the meantime we will continue texting every day and chatting on the net...
When he was leaving it was so hard for us. We said we would miss eachother, but it wont be forever..... Everything was wonderful between us. He knows the life I have had. He has had so much heartbreak in his life too... He was drinking when he was here, and WOW I was okay with that. He didnt drink too much, a few beers, and he asked me if i was alright with that.... He is funny with a drink inside him (lol).
I also realised I may miss the best person to come into my life IF i keep looking for sober men...lol Not everyone drinks alcoholically, and I must accept people for who they are. Live and let live.....
So, I have just had the happiest time in my life for as long as I can remember. It was very relaxing, we looked like we had been together for ever. (like soulmates)..lol
I am now talking it a day at a time. When all was lost and I was having a really hard time in my life, He came into it. He has been the "BEST" thing in my life for a long, long time. And we are going to do everything to make this relationship work between us.....
One of the most important things in this has been "TRUST" for me. I trusted him from the start, it felt right, like it was meant to be. And I was right, he treated me like a princess non stop..lol
YAY, ally, for your four days of complete happiness!!!!!! With all my heart I hope that this new relationship will lead wherever you want it to go. My partner is British, and, like you, I revel in his sense of humor, and he keeps me laughing all the time.
Your post is so positive and full of hope and happiness. That's good to see. Enjoy yourself, and do not be afraid of someone who drinks socially. You have enough experience to tell the difference between a person who enjoys a drink or two as opposed to a raging alcoholic!!!!
You do not have to marry the guy, but please do continue to enjoy his friendship and company.
Thank you for the smile this morning. I will carry it with me all day.
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
((((Ally)))), I am so happy for you. So great that you two clicked like you did. You will get to see him soon. And I know that chatting on the net isn't the same as being together, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
Keep working it girl.
Yours in recovery, Mandy aka Dolphin123
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
I'm so pleased that things went well for you. You deserve to be happy and treated like a princess lol. I have a day off tomorrow and hope we can talk then. I miss ya girl and am sooooooooo glad you're happy.
isn't it wonderful to have a happy day? isn't so much more wonderful to have mostly all days happy? it is our choice-- be happy and serene --or don't. let things affect us -- or don't. somedays pain is unavoidable, but i do know tomorrow is coming and will be another chance to be happy, joyous and free.
i hope you continue to enjoy yourself, all the while keeping your program tools and experience, strength and hope near the front of your mind. i know those tools will keep me from "turning a blind eye" to the red flags.
with much love cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
I am so happy for you! It is so nice when you find "that someone". I knew it was hubby when he first walked into the room, so many years ago. It wasn't "love at first sight", but I always knew we'd be connected in some way. Heck, it took us 20 years to realize that. The right love is worth waiting for. I wish you all the happiness in the world. Come to think of it, one of the first things I remember about hubby was that look of mischieviousness in his eyes. The kind of look you get from a little boy when he's up to no good. Funny how that has never left him! Humor has seen us through many many times. That and our ability to talk. Because he reminds me, the physical attraction and sex can be great. But at the end of the day, you want to be able to turn to that person and talk about anything. I wish that for you. That, and I hope he's a good snuggler.
Much love and blessings to you.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
You go girl! People come into our lives for a reason, may it be a long while or short while, so go have fun! After dealing with an A , a new relationship can put our faith back into humankind, and trust (which is totally huge for me), can be restored , and mostly our self esteem and worth.
Yay for ally! I am so happy for you. Just when it seems like we can't go on, there is a silver lining that shines thru! Hope that guy realizes how lucky he is to have met you! Anxiously awaiting further posts... Love in Recovery, Becky1
It is so nice when you find "that someone". I knew it was hubby when he first walked into the room, so many years ago. It wasn't "love at first sight", but I always knew we'd be connected in some way. Heck, it took us 20 years to realize that. The right love is worth waiting for. 
I wish you all the happiness in the world. Come to think of it, one of the first things I remember about hubby was that look of mischieviousness in his eyes. The kind of look you get from a little boy when he's up to no good. Funny how that has never left him! 
