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Hello I've been doing quite a bit of thinking back recently about what I've been through in the last couple of years or so. A quick recap of my experience... I was married for 16 years... about 10 of them were good. In the last several years, my husband started drinking more and more and also started using cocaine. He spiraled out of control and I tried convince him to get some help. He refused. I'm so thankful I came here for myself!
He spent everything we had, and then some. By the time I took over the finances, it was nearly too late. I ended up leaving him and filing for divorce. I couldn't let him continue self-destructing and taking me down with him. I had to save myself. I couldn't listen to anymore lies and empty promises from him.
I filed the divorce papers on September 1 of last year. It's been almost a year! I was forced to put my house up for sale in October. I just finally sold it in July and closed on it this week. I was very sad to leave the house, but I'm sure the sadness will lead to a huge sense of relief soon. I spent this last year really struggling to pay the bills, keeping the house from going into forclosure, and trying to survive financially and not file for bankruptcy. I managed to get most of the bills paid off and I finally have put most of my past behind me. I finally have some closure!
Thanks to all of you for being here! Artygirl.
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Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.
Keep working the program. You will do just fine. You sound like you have your head above the water finally and can breath. Take it one day at a time sweetie. Good luck.
You have so much greatness ahead of you! The new man, the relief of being free from that house (I know it's sad but at least you didn't lose it to foreclosure), your dogs, your beads, your friends and family. Things are good for you now and although there are sad memories, there are new very happy memories to be made! I admire the fact that you decided what you were going to do and did it, no wavering, no looking back and thinking well maybe he'll change. You are so strong and although you may not feel that way all the time, you inspire me!
