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I haven't been thinking too much about alanonfor a few weeks or more. I guess I just got tired of things not changing, me not changing. Another member of my AH's family died from alcohol, this one was younger then him. Her story was so paralell to his, I thought he had to think about it a little bit. but no, he changes things around so that the alcohol didn't do it- it was everything else apparently. How strange to see him defending alcohol like it was freind that nobody understood. I basically have been working and sleeping, trying to maintain the house and take care of the future. I worry alot about the next two years, with me in school and things going the way they are. He just drinks unquestioned. His sister and brother are coming here soon. They have always been so proud of him for staying sober. I don't know what he will do. Probably just ditch me with them alot so that he can drink in peace. I will have to tell them. I refuse to hide it. Still working on recovery, Jamie
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I'm like a pinch of tea...put me in hot water and see how strong I can be.
Hi Janey , you probably won't have to tell them anything , his behavior will tell all. when an A is trying not to show he is drinking it has been my experience that it only looks worse the pressure they are under to keep the secret makes them drink more. Just let it unfold the way it's supposed to , no enabling no rescuing he will do himself in . Don't stop working on yourself janey you are the only one that u have any control over . your worth the effort . Al-Anon is not about changing him or things its about making u feel better . period . Happiness after all is an inside job .
