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QOD


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UPDATE!!!


My AH's grandma called me and said that his mom and stepdad woke him up and talked to him a little while ago.  My stepdad had said that he was going to tell him he couldn't stay there unless he got treatment.  WELL - he agreed and they immediately took him to a hospital/institute.....I don't know what you call it.  I just know it is the same place my grandma went to 20 years ago for alcoholism. 

I have no other info at this time about it.  I can only imagine what frame of mind he must have been in to agree to treatment.  He has always been so dead set against it before.  I don't know what they said to him.  I don't know if they brought me up or not.  I had told them that I just didn't want to deal with this right now and that my stomach was in knots and that I was so tired of living this way.

So it is 9:00 at night I that is all I know.  I reckon I will get a call in the middle of the night for in the morning to let me know what is going on.  I want him to get treatment, get better - for himself and so he can be a reliable dad to our kids.  I don't want to be married to him any longer.....clean and sober w/a program or not.  I am ready to move on with my life and find happiness and serenity and peace.

Thank you to all of you for all of your support during my little break down earlier.  Y'all are all so awesome and I am truly blessed to have y'all in my life.

I hope your evenings are going well.  I am finally feeling relief and feel like I can relax for a bit. 

Thanks again to all of you.

Much sincere love,
QOD



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QOD



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Well, how about that, you didn't have to do a thing!!!

I am keeping my fingers crossed your A will take advantage of this opportunity to get his life together. Not everyone has the opportunity to go to rehab and get the special care and treatment he'll be getting. My hopes are for your kids to have a reliable and involved father.

What I wish for you . . . that you and your kids have a vacation that makes memories you'll talk about for years! You are going to be just fine, tough lady. I'm so glad for your relief tonight. Sleep tight and dream of your newfound peace and joy . . .

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All you can do is pray. When they finally give in they are to the point where they know they are helpless. From here its do it and deal with it or die. So they usually fight and fight hard. I know my best friend tried as hard as she could to get help. The disease was just stronger then she was sadly. So you there's not much you can do but give him encouragement and praise him. He needs strength. Its so hard. I wish him the best. God please save another one. Amen!

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Maybe things will change, this time. Who knows?
But, things have changed. You have changed. I'm glad to hear that for sure.

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That's good news.  you sound like you have a clear head and know the best direction that you need to take.  I hope you can enjoy yourself even more the next few days. Have fun!

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QOD,

Your HP wants you to have a break from the craziness. Take care of yourself. We all break down one way or another.

In support,
Nancy

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((((((((QOD)))))))))))

Just now catching up on you... wow, lots going on.

Others are right... you don't have to worry, he is in a safe place and you have some needed peace and quite for you.

You are in my prayers tonight.

Take care of you!

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Wow QOD - my thought was what an answer to your prayers - he'll be in the treatment center and you can really relax on your vacation - Don't know if that is really true or not, but I do hope that he stays to get the help he needs and that you can mentally leave him behind as you go on your much deserved R & R.

Wishing you Serenity & Joy,
Rita


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I am glad this has happened for you.

I am the queen of breakdowns so I can appreciate how much this board has given me.

Maresie.

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((((Q))))

We all determine our own path.  Regardless of what is happening, I am smiling that you are on your way to a life of being happy, joyous and free.

love,
cj

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