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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
There are as many ways to live and grow, as there are people. Our own ways are the only ways that should matter to us. --Evelyn Mandel
Wanting to control other people, to make them live as we'd have them live, makes the attainment of serenity impossible. And serenity is the goal we are seeking in this recovery program, in this life.
We are each powerless over others, which relieves us of a great burden. Controlling our own behavior is a big enough job. Learning to behave responsibly takes practice. Most of us in this recovery program have behaved irresponsibly for much of our lives. Emotional immaturity is slow to depart, but every responsible action we take gives us the courage for another - and then another. Our own fulfillment is the by-product of the accumulation of our own responsible actions. Others' actions need not concern us.
Today, I will weigh my behavior carefully. Responsible behavior builds gladness of heart.
I struggle with this too! Like today for instance. I want my ah to do his responsibilities for the children and I literally have a huge headache fighting with him. I allowed him to get me mad. Why did I do that. I was so calm before this. I screwed up my sanity :( today. Oh well, I guess I'll try for sanity later. lol Thanks for the share Tiger. mwah
Oh I KNOW FOY. I hate that there's so much truth to "I allow other people to affect me." Now that I have more prospective into myself I can actually grip onto how that works, when I was brand new and hadn't dealt with my baggage, I would listen to people and be like "OMG they are so screwed up! what kind of place IS THIS?!" But now I can see that, genuinely, there are situations where I allow myself to get caught up in the dysfunction and I let myself go nuts. There's like no excuse. ((MIP AFG))
