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maresie2


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The A seems to have bounced back. After months of not working he is finally getting some work. I used to hate it when he went into full work mode. Now I am no longer looking to him to validate me I am really not that involved. I do care but I also have to detach.

I do know that no matter how much he makes he never has enough. I have that issue too and I am really going to work hard to cut back and save and get out of debt. That is a long long project for me.

I'm glad to see him motivated but I don't need him to validate that I pulled all the stops for him. I know it. I don't need anyone else to tell me it anymore.

I am looking forward to a few days reprieve. I am pretty busy at work and have felt absolutely exhausted.

I have no idea what will happen at my house. I am detaching. I would so love to go to a movie or something but I think I am going to work overtime on sorting my stuff out and getting a few things I need.

I did go to get my hair cut last weekend that was a huge perk. I can build on that now without feeling I have to run out and spend money I don't have.

I am giving the A lots of space where he is. I wish I could have done that in the past but my codependency precluded it. Now I can I will build on it.

I try hard not to think of all the stuff I can't get to - dental work, glasses, stuff I need. I am going to focus on what I do have and try to build towards what I need rather than fret about it endlessly.

Maresie.

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carolena


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(((((maresie2)))) good thinking - keep up the good work. Focus on yourself, not him - the more you do things for yourself, the more detached you'll be. First things first - detachment with love sometimes takes a while but it works.

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Take care, (((mare))).  I think it great that you are focused on what you need to do... keep in mind to cut yourself some slack, give yourself a break from the workweek, and the stress of everyday.

brightest blessings to you
with love
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