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I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night..
My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings ( by court order) and not drinking. Yet the rollercoaster is still going on.. Now, he cant seem to decide if we should move on together or divorce. He says that I just sweep things under the rug and I say I move forward and dont look back. He says that kicking him out 2 years ago shortly after his mothers death was just unforgivable. I feel that I did what I thought was right. He was drinking, leaving the stove on passing out just really out of control.. The weird thing is.. Last night he was talking about how we were going to build a house on property we own in Tennessee, this morning we were talking about what we were having for Easter Dinner now tonight it is I dont think that I can forgive you ???? He says he just wants to move on... I guess tonight he wants to move on without me...I dont know, what is going on ????? I use to think that all things would work if he would just stop drinking... Now, look he blames me for everything....Well, not everything but a lot of what happened. I am co-dependent .... Very co-dependent....
I will be okay, my God is with me and regardless... I will be okay.. I just have to keep saying that .. I trust ....
I am in a very similiar situation with an ex-a, moved in january and is very up and down, I say ex-a as I see very little real committment, and I am getting quite tired off it, quite frankly I'm thinking of baling out, I hope you will be ok
(((Tammy)))) My AH and I went thru a rough time about 2 years ago, also, I filed charges against him, my main goal was to try to force him into recovery. Guess what...it didn't work.....he just got a lot of legal stuff to pay, which made us shorter on $$$, and had to go to classes. Nothing has changed. He has a lot of resentment, too. It tears us apart at times. All I can do is take care of me, and leave him up to HP. It is very hard, I know. But there is lots of help available, if we are open to it. Glad you are here. Hope things get better. Love in Recovery, Becky1
