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The insanity of the disease!! You reminded me of how it was when I tried to "talk" to my A when he was active......
It's funny--I think that they must all have the same script that they study because they all seem to speak the same language!! I tried for many years to learn the language in hopes of really communicating with him before I realized that it was futile and that I was only causing myself more heartache by trying to have a rational conversation with someone who was simply not rational.
Hang in there and remember that you are not alone!!
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Do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow will look after itself. The Bible, from Courage to Change, p.138
((((JEWELY)))) Sometimes I just want to say to the AH "I give up, you win all the arguments about everything. You are bigger, louder, and more determined, so you win." But you know what they will say? Something like "No I don't". They want to argue about everything: Whether or not it is a good day Who is responsible for what What the definition of sarcasm is Who started the argument and on and on It does make me a litttle crazy, but it's better to squash it if you can. You know what they say- He who fights and runs away lives to fight another day
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I'm like a pinch of tea...put me in hot water and see how strong I can be.
(((jewely))) wow, we have the same conversations here. Amazing. Glad you are here. And about my tattoo I have had since Feb. 1, and hubby still doesn't know about, and hasn't seen.....it's GREEN! Love in Recovery, Becky1
Oh boy do I remember those days , next time try after he says no I think it's green . YOU === your right it is . and walk away . game over WE are game players we have been playing for so long we don't even recognise it anymore , keep it simple hon
i am learning. today i said to him........, ''you stink. i can't believe my life has been reduced to this.'' [he doesn't wash for days and days at a time] i turned around and walked away. to my surprise, i saw him nod in agreement as i walked out of the room. end of conversation.
Thanks for bringing this up. I will learn to get out of the game and go sit in the bleachers. He is argumentative and rigid and always has to be right.
