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cytagirl · cytagirl

Hello , After moving to Cyprus fourteen years ago , marrying a local and having two children only to discover that he was a repetitive adulterer, seperated after six yrs of marriage . i spent the following four yrs on my own , bringing up my children and working hard (no such thing as child s...

gardengal · gardengal

I was convinced that I had to take care of everything and everyone----I had no choice. But with the help of alanon, I have learned that, while I do have responsibilities, there are also many things I do not have to do: I dont have to understand everything. Somethigns are not my business, and others wil...

Belongtome · Belongtome

I'm out traveling for awhile (with my A) and don't get online too often. Just wanted you to know that I'm okay...not working my program as hard as I should, but still okay for now. Sorry I haven't been there for you folks...you are in my heart, and I wonder how everyone is doing that I haven't hear...

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies: Well today is my anniversary....three years married to my A. He has been calling incessantly for the past 6 days to get me to see him for dinner this evening. As you can see I did decline. He called again this morning....to say Happy Anniversary. I said nothing in return....

Tammy · Tammy

Well, it is day 3 and I have what i think is a good update. My husband called and he is going to a counselor tomorrow. THAT IS HUGE.. He was ALWAYS against this and insisted he didnt need a shrink .. Not him BiG strong MAN... You are probably wondering what I said.. Well, I said that is a start a step in the rig...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] it's been a looooong, expensive day... i had vocational rehab interview at 0900 my time (pacific). it was nearly two hours long and the questions about my trauma were even more specific than in the social security interview. it brought back a LOT of bad stuff. The case...

Christy · Christy

Hi friends.. Our friend Kountrygirl will be having brain surgery tomorrow (20th) to hopefully remove an aneurism. How scary that must be. Please remeber her in your prayers and ask that HP be with her and see her through to recovery. Thanks Christy

cdb · cdb

I would like to apologize and make amends to anyone I may have hurt recently by posting something innapropriate. It was not my intention and my heart breaks to think I may have hurt someone's feelings or broken a guideline. I am so very sorry. Doing something like this was the furthest from my mind or hea...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Need to vent some stuff. Went back to a counselor my ex and I had seen over a year ago (what a difference a year makes in early recovery.) I thinks he sees now that there was nothing I could do last year to save the marriage. Nothing I did was ever good enough or it was too little too late. I went to get some gui...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - September 21 Sometimes as I struggle with the effects having grown up with the disease of alcoholism, the path seems too difficult to travel. I forget that there are ups and downs to any journey, and I feel overcome with disappointment with my seemingly slo...

lonestar · lonestar

This is my first post, however, I've been visiting the site regularly as a guest for the last two months. I've been hoping to find someone with a similar situation, but I have not. Many of the posts that I read describe A's that have very serious problems. I feel for so many of you as so...

sandie123 · sandie123

Well I wish I knew what was going on anymore. I feel so sick and miserable when I am home. My stomach hurts and I get totally depressed. When I am out of the house I am sometimes able to pull myself out of this by using the tools I have been learning in Alanon. I am SO confused as to what I need to do. My gut tel...

sandie123 · sandie123

We'll i made it though the night and here I am today. I am thinking that my HP must be yelling at me by the way I feel. I still feel terrible but have talked to a bunch of poeple, both here and elsewhere. I keep coming up with the notion that my internal pain will go way once I deal with the problem. The problem be...

sg · sg

I went over to the AA db and found this thread...WOW...It spoke volumes to me and I wanted to bring this wonderful post over here (I hope it is okay) Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need fo...

kimmie · kimmie

Well things have been going absolutely wonderful. It has been over two weeks and my "A" has not had one drink and he has been in an exceptionally great mood. We have never been closer and we are spending a lot more quality time with eachother and our son. We watch movies every night an...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

ok, you all, i am doing this share and i am astounded what this program has done for me.....i mean i read this share and thought "wow!!! i am only focusing on me/ love/ healing/ good things--- and NONE of the negative" so here goes, i will type as my heart dictates Hope for Tod...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, "The best way to forget all your troubles is to wear tight shoes." Just me in love and spirit, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/coa.htm

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi all, Came across this when I was cleaning out my closet. I had this up in my office when I was in grad. school. Something to think about: Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you becau...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone :) Thanks so much for the prayers for my dad. He is doing well after surgery. The hospital at Minnesota forgot to send the lazer machine today! The doctor gets it twice a month. I decided to think maybe it was my dad's HP taking care of him. The doctor and my dad decided to go ahead with the s...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am still away from home for two weeks now. My dad is back in the hospital to have surgery tomorrow for the mistake the nurse made when inserting the catheter. I thought it would be a quick recovery surgery but we all were uninformed. He will be unable to drive or do anything at all...

mama · mama

Hi to all, I am a grateful member of alanon for 2 years but I am having the hardest time of letting go. My son is an addict. he is 24 years old and seems to be going on 16. I love him dearly but the saying that they are addicted to drugs and we are addictedd to them...

arp_in_toronto · arp_in_toronto

Hi All I could tell you my story , but its been written here time after time already, sufice to say my wife is my "A" . After losing her job 2 weeks ago ( hardest worker ive ever known never missed a dayu in 5 years ) the booze has completly taken over, she has lost the ability to even try to stop drinking. Sh...

sg · sg

Last night I went to a f2f meeting...ironically it was the first meeting I went to ~9 yrs ago. I remember being in a situation where I was at my wits end w/my ex and how I had this uncomfortable feeling sitting around the table listening to people talk about "being happy whether the alcoholic is drinking o...

Veronica · Veronica

My sober A and I have been separated for a week following a break down in communication generally between us. We have been through a lot over the last year - miscarriage, I lost my job (only bread winner) and suffered from depression. Over the last few months communication between us has become very dif...

dot · dot

Hi - I need to apologize to all of you for not keeping up with my committment to the Step Board. My neck surgery was the same surgery for the second time in 2 1/2 years and guess it took much more out of me than I realized. Thought I'd bounce right back but my body didn't cooperate - was very tired and disinte...

kicky · kicky

I am in-love with my A...as most of you are. I'm trying to live my own life, not paying attention to his disease....taking one day at a time...staying in therapy. But everyday, I face the challenge of feeling hope for his recovery instead of focusing on mine. I don't have to be with this man. I choose to be...

marmare · marmare

I think I have finally got it. About a month or so ago I started working on Letting go and Letting God.....as hard as it has been to trust my HP I have worked especially hard on this, as it is easier to trust my HP to take care of things than for me to worry, worry, worry about my A and my life. This w...

iona54 · iona54

this was sent to me by a friend..i think it is wonderful..hope it helps some of you...hugs iona54 if necessary God of your understanding or Higher Power TEN GUIDELINES FROM GOD. 1. QUIT WORRYING: Life has dealt you a blow and all you do is sit an...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I will have to make this quick as there is little time left. I got a call today that upset me very much. Some of my cousins are trying to get me back into Kansas City and into "family" control. It's a typical tactic; financial and other types of bullying and shaming are included. W...

Kim · Kim

so he just called. Actually he called a few times before I actually answered. All about Tuesday. I asked if he feels that he really has enough time under his belt that he can give me what I want He says yes. A week does not a sober person make in my estimation. All I keep hea...

sg · sg

Hello everyone. I had taken a lil' hiatus from the board....needed a bit of quiet time for myself. Still working my Program strong and surrounding myself f2f w/those who work Alanon. For those who are married, how in the world to do you handle recovery and a relationship at the same time? Lil'...

bcanuck · bcanuck

Nobody promised being a mother would be easy did they. My 18 year old son who, for all of his life has walked away from situations where there is alcohol, told me that tonight he is going to a co-workers and he likely won't come home... "not gonna chance getting home, if you know what I mean"....

Tammy · Tammy

Yesterday when I came home from work my husband was gone .. Out drinking I was sure of it. Both of my children has plans and so I went to another f2f. I came home around 9:30 and when I pulled up and turned off my lights I noticed my husband staggering around the yard. Then he pulled his pants down and urin...

Diva · Diva

This morning he was drunk before 11 a.m. Here we go again. I think I will make an appointment with an attorney. I don't see any other way. Sadly, Diva

Pegiscats · Pegiscats

Hi I'am a newbie, hope I can ask this question, with out going on & on, sometimes I want to shut myself up. We have been battling with my 28yr. old son about his pot use & his drinking, since he has been 13-14. The man who started him & many other kids in the neighborhood on the pot, was an Disable...

Maria123 · Maria123

Sponsors I have an item for the next business meeting if I am unable to attend. Often newcomers are looking for online sponsors. I was wondering if after the scripts have run before we ask for topics if the Chair could ask by a show of hands "!" if anyone is willing to be a te...

Tammy · Tammy

Last night I was moving while my husband was working ( he was not expected home until 8am this morning ). On the way back from the condo my cell phone rang and it was my house and you guessed it he was there. Wanting to know where we were and when we were coming home. My heart bega...

debilyn · debilyn

One day at a time. i know you hurt, every right too. How old is your step daughter? If you guys are close, believe me she will want to see you. Especially as her teenager from hell comes thru, her mom will love for you to share this wonderful time! In fact the girl may be better for you than mom. ...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] The Multnomah County library computers are down--again--so I'm at my coffeshop haunt on NW 23rd using prepaid net time. I finally got to the Park Blocks farmer's market; the directions I got put me at the wrong end and I drew a tough walk to start the day. the Park Blocks are Por...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

From Paths to Recovery Alanon Book revised for Coda we admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. #######ROSIE....i had to accept that LIFE was unmanageable in most respects...not just relationships, but LIFE Do I accept...

Jill · Jill

Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone knows how Isobel is doing. thanks Jill

chrissy · chrissy

i just checked the bank & he took out $60.00 yesterday but today he took out $440.00 tonight it doesnt tell me where he took it from. i searched all over for him today i am wiped and cant take this anymore he left me with no money i had to give my daughter change for lunch money & borrowed money...

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies. Tonight I had a wonderfdul night with my stepdaughter. We went to a movie and stayed up late watching TV. It's so nice to have her in her room and with me. At the same time it just breaks my heart. You see, I know that although I have a good relationship with her mother, things...

afmom03 · afmom03

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hello, I just wanted to thank everyone that responed to my post. I do love my A very much not sure that came across. One thing that was wrote back was Hate is Love Frustrated. Boy did I need that. I am Frustrated. My A is depressed and I can't help him. I'm so frust...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

hi boys and girls. I have to go into the hospital on Monday for catarac surgery. I need a fill in alt. for Monday and Tuesday morning meetings. If you can help out on one or both of those mornings, I really would appreciate it. Please contact Senora Bob so she will know. Thanks alot for your help!! da...

Looking4Peace · Looking4Peace

Hi :) This is my first time here, my first time "talking" about this. I feel like an idiot because I don't know. He says everyone drinks this much. My friends and I don't. Sorry this is soooo long but I'm so happy to finally find someplace to ask. I don't even know where to start s...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 16 >Revenge > >No matter how long we ve been recovering, no matter how >solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an >overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with >another person. > #####ROSIE...oh yeah, i have the tendency to be very vindi...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi,

Some days I really hate my A. He is sober now almost a year but still very selfish. Now life is all about him getting sober. I really could care less about how hard it is. Like it was easy to live with an A. Does he think it is easy running the house, working, re...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I posted perviously that my "A" had a posibility of going to Alaska and was just waiting on a phone call on Tuesday. Well, I don't have to wait until Tuesday. My "A" had decided not to go! He stopped by my work and said that he was unable to find a reason to go besides the money, and that wasn't good...

confused · confused

does this sound strange to anyone else? My A quit his job after leaving a rehab. His boss had been dealing to him at work and he said that he could not return and stay sober. I was supportive of this decision. Well, he gave up a 20 year career and a million dollars/year in sales to do what , I do not know. I a...

Tammy · Tammy

This has really been a difficult week. I am really struggling to stay above water. I am confused, hurt, dissapointed, and yet my head is clear on what I have to do. I have really been praying this week.. Praying for my God to show me the light. To make everything clear to me . To send me a sign.. Well... >

Kim · Kim

Hello all and many, many (((hugs)))) to you all!!! I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words of support these past few days. My A called today during my work day (whic hi have asked him not to do) to ask me what I am doing "next week". He meant Tues. which is our three yea...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I've had my 30 day check-in with my caseworker. Lucky I had that list that i'd put up in here with me; she loved it. Now to focus on job search. Only remaining hurdle is vocational rehab on 20th. I'd almost forgot...chiropractor requires fitness tests... standup/sitdown 51 reps u...

Diva · Diva

This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, fu...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey there Just wondering how you are doing-last time you posted you were leaving your husband. I was just hoping you were ok, as ok as you can be at a time like this. Please post if you have the time and resources. Love Julie D.

Anttay · Anttay

I am new here and don't even know where to start, all I know is my husbands drinking is making my life miserable, I don't even know if I love him anymore the man I fell in love with is gone, he is always too drunk to carry on a conversation, at this point I feel more like his mother. People think I am pathetic for...

browneyes · browneyes

I do not sleep with my husband. He is awake all night a lot and when he does sleep it is so restless, I get woken up. Or he snores so loud the walls shake. I cannot talk to my husband. He either does not remember things I tell him or he remembers the stuff in his twisted way.&nbs...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Sorry I have been absent this week, but I know you all understand the insanity that we live in. My 6 year old started school for the first time ever, 1st grade. So now we have homework, lunch to pack, open house, and a little more drama to add to our lives. This is also very exciting, because t...

Mandi · Mandi

When my alcoholic husband walked out on me, i felt like i had lost it all. My step-daughters were gone and my son and I had to adjust to going from a family of 5 to just us. The only thing i had left to work for was my son and our home. Outside of that, I was empty. For years, I have stru...

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	Hello...First Post (Preview) Hello , After moving to Cyprus fourteen years ago , marrying a local and having two children only to discover that he was a repetitive adulterer, seperated after six yrs of marriage . i spent the following four yrs on my own , bringing up my children and working hard (no such thing as child s...	cytagirl	7	1096	Sep 22, 2005 by lin0606
	I thought I had to take care of everyone (Preview) I was convinced that I had to take care of everything and everyone----I had no choice. But with the help of alanon, I have learned that, while I do have responsibilities, there are also many things I do not have to do: I dont have to understand everything. Somethigns are not my business, and others wil...	gardengal	6	676	Sep 22, 2005 by roygbiv
	I'm okay (Preview) I'm out traveling for awhile (with my A) and don't get online too often. Just wanted you to know that I'm okay...not working my program as hard as I should, but still okay for now. Sorry I haven't been there for you folks...you are in my heart, and I wonder how everyone is doing that I haven't hear...	Belongtome	1	402	Sep 21, 2005 by megan
	my anniversary (Preview) Hello roomies: Well today is my anniversary....three years married to my A. He has been calling incessantly for the past 6 days to get me to see him for dinner this evening. As you can see I did decline. He called again this morning....to say Happy Anniversary. I said nothing in return....	Kim	9	971	Sep 21, 2005 by canadianguy
	Update on MOVE (Preview) Well, it is day 3 and I have what i think is a good update. My husband called and he is going to a counselor tomorrow. THAT IS HUGE.. He was ALWAYS against this and insisted he didnt need a shrink .. Not him BiG strong MAN... You are probably wondering what I said.. Well, I said that is a start a step in the rig...	Tammy	6	422	Sep 21, 2005 by bubbles1990
	haxigonian XXVII (Preview) [[ room ]] it's been a looooong, expensive day... i had vocational rehab interview at 0900 my time (pacific). it was nearly two hours long and the questions about my trauma were even more specific than in the social security interview. it brought back a LOT of bad stuff. The case...	haximon	2	459	Sep 21, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Prayers for Kountrygirl (Preview) Hi friends.. Our friend Kountrygirl will be having brain surgery tomorrow (20th) to hopefully remove an aneurism. How scary that must be. Please remeber her in your prayers and ask that HP be with her and see her through to recovery. Thanks Christy	Christy	5	459	Sep 21, 2005 by Christy
	Apology, amends :) (Preview) I would like to apologize and make amends to anyone I may have hurt recently by posting something innapropriate. It was not my intention and my heart breaks to think I may have hurt someone's feelings or broken a guideline. I am so very sorry. Doing something like this was the furthest from my mind or hea...	cdb	1	513	Sep 21, 2005 by Diva
	My ex's inappropriate behavior (Preview) Need to vent some stuff. Went back to a counselor my ex and I had seen over a year ago (what a difference a year makes in early recovery.) I thinks he sees now that there was nothing I could do last year to save the marriage. Nothing I did was ever good enough or it was too little too late. I went to get some gui...	UncleLou	7	514	Sep 21, 2005 by Christy
	i just "keep on keeping on" (Preview) Hope for Today - September 21 Sometimes as I struggle with the effects having grown up with the disease of alcoholism, the path seems too difficult to travel. I forget that there are ups and downs to any journey, and I feel overcome with disappointment with my seemingly slo...	rosie light shines	0	410	Sep 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	First Post - would like some help (Preview) This is my first post, however, I've been visiting the site regularly as a guest for the last two months. I've been hoping to find someone with a similar situation, but I have not. Many of the posts that I read describe A's that have very serious problems. I feel for so many of you as so...	lonestar	6	619	Sep 21, 2005 by lonestar
	Please help me :( (Preview) Well I wish I knew what was going on anymore. I feel so sick and miserable when I am home. My stomach hurts and I get totally depressed. When I am out of the house I am sometimes able to pull myself out of this by using the tools I have been learning in Alanon. I am SO confused as to what I need to do. My gut tel...	sandie123	8	574	Sep 21, 2005 by roygbiv
	I'm trying :S (Preview) We'll i made it though the night and here I am today. I am thinking that my HP must be yelling at me by the way I feel. I still feel terrible but have talked to a bunch of poeple, both here and elsewhere. I keep coming up with the notion that my internal pain will go way once I deal with the problem. The problem be...	sandie123	3	489	Sep 20, 2005 by debilyn
	Cross over thread on patience (Preview) I went over to the AA db and found this thread...WOW...It spoke volumes to me and I wanted to bring this wonderful post over here (I hope it is okay) Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need fo...	sg	1	507	Sep 20, 2005 by Annie
	Update on "A"'s recovery (Preview) Well things have been going absolutely wonderful. It has been over two weeks and my "A" has not had one drink and he has been in an exceptionally great mood. We have never been closer and we are spending a lot more quality time with eachother and our son. We watch movies every night an...	kimmie	3	598	Sep 20, 2005 by Annie
	NEVER thought i would feel this way (Preview) ok, you all, i am doing this share and i am astounded what this program has done for me.....i mean i read this share and thought "wow!!! i am only focusing on me/ love/ healing/ good things--- and NONE of the negative" so here goes, i will type as my heart dictates Hope for Tod...	rosie light shines	2	425	Sep 20, 2005 by TLC2
	Comic Relief for Today (Preview) Dear Friends, "The best way to forget all your troubles is to wear tight shoes." Just me in love and spirit, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/coa.htm	Lani	3	470	Sep 20, 2005 by Karilynn
	Be patient (Preview) Hi all, Came across this when I was cleaning out my closet. I had this up in my office when I was in grad. school. Something to think about: Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you becau...	Karilynn	3	431	Sep 20, 2005 by Karilynn
	Thanks for prayers :) (Preview) Hello everyone :) Thanks so much for the prayers for my dad. He is doing well after surgery. The hospital at Minnesota forgot to send the lazer machine today! The doctor gets it twice a month. I decided to think maybe it was my dad's HP taking care of him. The doctor and my dad decided to go ahead with the s...	cdb	0	402	Sep 20, 2005 by cdb
	Update/dad,surgery,me :) (Preview) Hello friends, I am still away from home for two weeks now. My dad is back in the hospital to have surgery tomorrow for the mistake the nurse made when inserting the catheter. I thought it would be a quick recovery surgery but we all were uninformed. He will be unable to drive or do anything at all...	cdb	9	483	Sep 20, 2005 by lebe27
	Just in need of comfort (Preview) Hi to all, I am a grateful member of alanon for 2 years but I am having the hardest time of letting go. My son is an addict. he is 24 years old and seems to be going on 16. I love him dearly but the saying that they are addicted to drugs and we are addictedd to them...	mama	5	470	Sep 20, 2005 by mama
	My first Post here (Preview) Hi All I could tell you my story , but its been written here time after time already, sufice to say my wife is my "A" . After losing her job 2 weeks ago ( hardest worker ive ever known never missed a dayu in 5 years ) the booze has completly taken over, she has lost the ability to even try to stop drinking. Sh...	arp_in_toronto	11	653	Sep 20, 2005 by nmike
	Deja Vu (Preview) Last night I went to a f2f meeting...ironically it was the first meeting I went to ~9 yrs ago. I remember being in a situation where I was at my wits end w/my ex and how I had this uncomfortable feeling sitting around the table listening to people talk about "being happy whether the alcoholic is drinking o...	sg	1	405	Sep 20, 2005 by marmare
	scared of being left again (Preview) My sober A and I have been separated for a week following a break down in communication generally between us. We have been through a lot over the last year - miscarriage, I lost my job (only bread winner) and suffered from depression. Over the last few months communication between us has become very dif...	Veronica	6	492	Sep 20, 2005 by nmike
	To all (Preview) Hi - I need to apologize to all of you for not keeping up with my committment to the Step Board. My neck surgery was the same surgery for the second time in 2 1/2 years and guess it took much more out of me than I realized. Thought I'd bounce right back but my body didn't cooperate - was very tired and disinte...	dot	3	495	Sep 20, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Nobody's recovered...is that OK? (Preview) I am in-love with my A...as most of you are. I'm trying to live my own life, not paying attention to his disease....taking one day at a time...staying in therapy. But everyday, I face the challenge of feeling hope for his recovery instead of focusing on mine. I don't have to be with this man. I choose to be...	kicky	10	677	Sep 20, 2005 by sg
	A New Day (Preview) I think I have finally got it. About a month or so ago I started working on Letting go and Letting God.....as hard as it has been to trust my HP I have worked especially hard on this, as it is easier to trust my HP to take care of things than for me to worry, worry, worry about my A and my life. This w...	marmare	5	470	Sep 20, 2005 by sg
	10 guidelines (Preview) this was sent to me by a friend..i think it is wonderful..hope it helps some of you...hugs iona54 if necessary God of your understanding or Higher Power TEN GUIDELINES FROM GOD. 1. QUIT WORRYING: Life has dealt you a blow and all you do is sit an...	iona54	5	564	Sep 20, 2005 by sg
	haxigonian XXVI (Preview) [[ room ]] I will have to make this quick as there is little time left. I got a call today that upset me very much. Some of my cousins are trying to get me back into Kansas City and into "family" control. It's a typical tactic; financial and other types of bullying and shaming are included. W...	haximon	6	551	Sep 19, 2005 by Anew123
	and the beat goes on (Preview) so he just called. Actually he called a few times before I actually answered. All about Tuesday. I asked if he feels that he *really* has enough time under his belt that he can give me what I want He says yes. A week does not a sober person make in my estimation. All I keep hea...	Kim	5	547	Sep 19, 2005 by David BD
	Regaining those lost feelings (Preview) Hello everyone. I had taken a lil' hiatus from the board....needed a bit of quiet time for myself. Still working my Program strong and surrounding myself f2f w/those who work Alanon. For those who are married, how in the world to do you handle recovery and a relationship at the same time? Lil'...	sg	14	592	Sep 19, 2005 by sg
	Kick in the gut (Preview) Nobody promised being a mother would be easy did they. My 18 year old son who, for all of his life has walked away from situations where there is alcohol, told me that tonight he is going to a co-workers and he likely won't come home... "not gonna chance getting home, if you know what I mean"....	bcanuck	5	623	Sep 19, 2005 by canadianguy
	Another sign ??? (Preview) Yesterday when I came home from work my husband was gone .. Out drinking I was sure of it. Both of my children has plans and so I went to another f2f. I came home around 9:30 and when I pulled up and turned off my lights I noticed my husband staggering around the yard. Then he pulled his pants down and urin...	Tammy	10	636	Sep 19, 2005 by browneyes
	It's no "one time thing" kiddies. (Preview) This morning he was drunk before 11 a.m. Here we go again. I think I will make an appointment with an attorney. I don't see any other way. Sadly, Diva	Diva	16	1396	Sep 19, 2005 by browneyes
	Why when the A has no home,hes sober? (Preview) Hi I'am a newbie, hope I can ask this question, with out going on & on, sometimes I want to shut myself up. We have been battling with my 28yr. old son about his pot use & his drinking, since he has been 13-14. The man who started him & many other kids in the neighborhood on the pot, was an Disable...	Pegiscats	4	505	Sep 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	October's Business Meeting Suggestion (Preview) Sponsors I have an item for the next business meeting if I am unable to attend. Often newcomers are looking for online sponsors. I was wondering if after the scripts have run before we ask for topics if the Chair could ask by a show of hands "!" if anyone is willing to be a te...	Maria123	5	514	Sep 19, 2005 by mastiff
	A new beginning ? (Preview) Last night I was moving while my husband was working ( he was not expected home until 8am this morning ). On the way back from the condo my cell phone rang and it was my house and you guessed it he was there. Wanting to know where we were and when we were coming home. My heart bega...	Tammy	10	511	Sep 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	kim (Preview) One day at a time. i know you hurt, every right too. How old is your step daughter? If you guys are close, believe me she will want to see you. Especially as her teenager from hell comes thru, her mom will love for you to share this wonderful time! In fact the girl may be better for you than mom. ...	debilyn	3	433	Sep 18, 2005 by debilyn
	haxigonian XXV (Preview) [[ room ]] The Multnomah County library computers are down--again--so I'm at my coffeshop haunt on NW 23rd using prepaid net time. I finally got to the Park Blocks farmer's market; the directions I got put me at the wrong end and I drew a tough walk to start the day. the Park Blocks are Por...	haximon	5	529	Sep 18, 2005 by Flora123
	LONG step one questionaire (Preview) From Paths to Recovery Alanon Book revised for Coda we admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. #######ROSIE....i had to accept that LIFE was unmanageable in most respects...not just relationships, but LIFE Do I accept...	rosie light shines	0	528	Sep 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Has anyone heard how Isobel is doing? (Preview) Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone knows how Isobel is doing. thanks Jill	Jill	4	546	Sep 18, 2005 by megan
	he still is not home and no phone call since 10:00 thursday night (Preview) i just checked the bank & he took out $60.00 yesterday but today he took out $440.00 tonight it doesnt tell me where he took it from. i searched all over for him today i am wiped and cant take this anymore he left me with no money i had to give my daughter change for lunch money & borrowed money...	chrissy	7	594	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	sad and confused (Preview) Hello roomies. Tonight I had a wonderfdul night with my stepdaughter. We went to a movie and stayed up late watching TV. It's so nice to have her in her room and with me. At the same time it just breaks my heart. You see, I know that although I have a good relationship with her mother, things...	Kim	6	600	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Been Away Too Long!! (Preview)	afmom03	3	509	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Hate is love frustrated (Preview) Hello, I just wanted to thank everyone that responed to my post. I do love my A very much not sure that came across. One thing that was wrote back was Hate is Love Frustrated. Boy did I need that. I am Frustrated. My A is depressed and I can't help him. I'm so frust...	nikkilou	3	587	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Need Alt. for next week (Preview) hi boys and girls. I have to go into the hospital on Monday for catarac surgery. I need a fill in alt. for Monday and Tuesday morning meetings. If you can help out on one or both of those mornings, I really would appreciate it. Please contact Senora Bob so she will know. Thanks alot for your help!! da...	dadrrb1	3	446	Sep 17, 2005 by tea2
	Is he or isn't he? (Preview) Hi :) This is my first time here, my first time "talking" about this. I feel like an idiot because I don't know. He says everyone drinks this much. My friends and I don't. Sorry this is soooo long but I'm so happy to finally find someplace to ask. I don't even know where to start s...	Looking4Peace	8	653	Sep 17, 2005 by Looking4Peace
	letting go the need to get even (Preview) SEPTEMBER 16 >Revenge > >No matter how long we ve been recovering, no matter how >solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an >overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with >another person. > #####ROSIE...oh yeah, i have the tendency to be very vindi...	rosie light shines	0	409	Sep 17, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I hate my A (Preview) Hi, Some days I really hate my A. He is sober now almost a year but still very selfish. Now life is all about him getting sober. I really could care less about how hard it is. Like it was easy to live with an A. Does he think it is easy running the house, working, re...	nikkilou	7	667	Sep 17, 2005 by Diva
	He made up his mind (Preview) Hi all, I posted perviously that my "A" had a posibility of going to Alaska and was just waiting on a phone call on Tuesday. Well, I don't have to wait until Tuesday. My "A" had decided not to go! He stopped by my work and said that he was unable to find a reason to go besides the money, and that wasn't good...	Dolphin123	3	482	Sep 17, 2005 by Karilynn
	pinching pennies (Preview) does this sound strange to anyone else? My A quit his job after leaving a rehab. His boss had been dealing to him at work and he said that he could not return and stay sober. I was supportive of this decision. Well, he gave up a 20 year career and a million dollars/year in sales to do what , I do not know. I a...	confused	3	469	Sep 17, 2005 by nikkilou
	Moving Day (Preview) This has really been a difficult week. I am really struggling to stay above water. I am confused, hurt, dissapointed, and yet my head is clear on what I have to do. I have really been praying this week.. Praying for my God to show me the light. To make everything clear to me . To send me a sign.. Well... >	Tammy	5	448	Sep 17, 2005 by mom to 2
	be careful what you wish for (Preview) Hello all and many, many (((hugs)))) to you all!!! I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words of support these past few days. My A called today during my work day (whic hi have asked him not to do) to ask me what I am doing "next week". He meant Tues. which is our three yea...	Kim	7	668	Sep 17, 2005 by chrissy
	haxigonian XXIV (Preview) [[ room ]] I've had my 30 day check-in with my caseworker. Lucky I had that list that i'd put up in here with me; she loved it. Now to focus on job search. Only remaining hurdle is vocational rehab on 20th. I'd almost forgot...chiropractor requires fitness tests... standup/sitdown 51 reps u...	haximon	2	532	Sep 17, 2005 by Anew123
	Thank you all for your kind responses. (Preview) This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, fu...	Diva	4	514	Sep 16, 2005 by ditto
	Tammy (Preview) Hey there Just wondering how you are doing-last time you posted you were leaving your husband. I was just hoping you were ok, as ok as you can be at a time like this. Please post if you have the time and resources. Love Julie D.	browneyes	4	607	Sep 16, 2005 by browneyes
	Can't Stand it. (Preview) I am new here and don't even know where to start, all I know is my husbands drinking is making my life miserable, I don't even know if I love him anymore the man I fell in love with is gone, he is always too drunk to carry on a conversation, at this point I feel more like his mother. People think I am pathetic for...	Anttay	3	500	Sep 16, 2005 by Maria123
	Pity Party (Preview) I do not sleep with my husband. He is awake all night a lot and when he does sleep it is so restless, I get woken up. Or he snores so loud the walls shake. I cannot talk to my husband. He either does not remember things I tell him or he remembers the stuff in his twisted way.&nbs...	browneyes	4	418	Sep 16, 2005 by Anttay
	My Crazy Life (Preview) Hello All, Sorry I have been absent this week, but I know you all understand the insanity that we live in. My 6 year old started school for the first time ever, 1st grade. So now we have homework, lunch to pack, open house, and a little more drama to add to our lives. This is also very exciting, because t...	Dolphin123	2	473	Sep 16, 2005 by Karilynn
	I failed.....it's all over now (Preview) When my alcoholic husband walked out on me, i felt like i had lost it all. My step-daughters were gone and my son and I had to adjust to going from a family of 5 to just us. The only thing i had left to work for was my son and our home. Outside of that, I was empty. For years, I have stru...	Mandi	6	739	Sep 16, 2005 by rosie light shines
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