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sunny1 · sunny1

Good Morning to you. Wow! what a weekend. If I could sum it up in just one word, it would be "Powerful". I have been given the gift of "Excellence". I can not really express fully the energy that I have found. This was a "Tell the Truth" weekend. Be real, the on...

nycbt · nycbt

Surpising I had a nice weekend. There was no taking off and disappearing for a while. In the morning since he can't drive my car I drove him to the work place. He noticed when he got out of the car and didn't have his phone. The old me would of drove home right away and get the phone so I could call him. The new me...

kitty · kitty

Wow, just in the last few days, I have noticed the inspirational meetings & witnessing growth in our individual programs... God eludes us, is mystical in how HP works through us & touches us all through each other. We are all messengers of God, Angels on Earth, transforming. ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from God Grant Me . . . We cannot think first and act afterward. From the moment of birth we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought.ALFRED NORTH WHITEHEAD There’s a good reason that one of the slogans we use most in recovery is this one: Think. We are alwa...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I had the great opportunity to attend the MA AA convention this past weekend. The Alanon program included a spiritual walk. Although I had heard of them before I have never been involved with one. What a truly special thing. For someone like me with trust issues it was a real...

gardengal · gardengal

Even those of us who can identify the problem as active alcoholism probably have no idea what to do about it. We only know that we have tried lots of things that didnt work, We may have poured liquor out, hidden it, hidden money that might pay for it, even taken a few drinks ourselves in order to leave less f...

chrissy · chrissy

my husband is suppose to be moving back today he is coming after his appointment at 3 pm. now i have had serveral talks with my daughter & so has her real father & she was fine with him coming home . she is fine when she gets everything she wants or when she spends time with her boyfrien...

sg · sg

One day at a time, right? Last night my A. took me out to a very nice dinner at the Olive Garden. We actually talked and shared some laughs. It has been what I have longed for for so long. He seemed so different. The man I remembered. Quite the difference from last weekend when he got drunk and made a...

UncleLou · UncleLou

She told me she was distancing herself from the other guy. She told our friend that she broke it off with him and he didn’t take it too well. I believed her. I set myself up. Last weekend I gave her space and let her have time alone with the kids. I hardly spoke to her all week. I thought that’s what she wante...

Satori · Satori

During my meditation this morning I drifted back a few years…okay…A LOT of years…lol I had a friend in High School that was also known as a bully. She lived two doors down from my house, so we hung out. She had what I would call a love/hate relationship with me. There were w...

marmare · marmare

Well, he finally called. I did good, I am not angry just very hurt. He is on his way home, slept in his car and then went to a friends. I stated very calmly that the "we" is not fixable until his fixes the things in his life that he readily admits he is embarassed, ashamed, and angry with h...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok what I am sharing with you is something I have never shared with anyone..and something that I am not very proud of...SO don't judge me on it You may take what you like and leave the rest..or just don't read it at all I am sorry for being so cynical or blunt...but I just ya know..don't want you guys to t...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

The Memories are Fading Away You held me in your arms when I was first born, you snuggled me tight so I would be warm’ You told me you loved me and would never leave my side I should have known you lied Now I am sitting here thinking of why I believed all those things When they weren’t even...

ashraven · ashraven

I am so stressed out! The recovering alcoholic in my life, who happens to be my boyfriend, just relapsed not too long ago. Unfortunately, we don't live together so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together anyway and now he has to go to an AA meeting every night for the next 90 d...

Kim · Kim

Well, my friend cancelled tonight so another night alone. I'm a little disappointed and restless. There really isn't anything else for me to do, so I guess it's just me and the dog again. It's kinda depressing. I am trying really hard to keep on track. Focus on myself, not give in to things...

bobump · bobump

Oh the insidious disease. My HP gave me strength today thankfully. My a started on the asking for money again. Asking for $14. This is what her beverage of choice goes for today. I refused stating that I’m am not funding her addiction. She starts...

chrissy · chrissy

chuck didn't come back yet because of amanda.:( he said to give her a few days to get used to the idea of him being home again. i am so upset i really missed him even more last night. this really sucks. he is doing good though & he is still at his moms. i am so mad at amanda. but i know she is 13 an...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, When this topic was started a few days ago, I was upset. I did not see that we had a problem. But then i started wondering if someone would post this, would this be an issue? I guess the answer would be no. Now, I am starting to understand that there could be problems. That my perception did not...

captcodee · captcodee

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference three little lines, but it seems that the last few days I have neglected to make it to the last line (wisdom to know the difference) I seem to have adopte...

marmare · marmare

Well my A went snowmobiling today, called around 3:30 to tell me, they were okay and they might have to stay up in the mountains as it was snowing so badly. Then he called around 8:30 was back in town and would be headed home soon. Now his phone is turned off....is it starting all over a...

Kim · Kim

I came home from shopping today and was immediately filled with sadness. Christmas shopping today was a little hard at times b/c I was used to shopping for my family and now it is just limited to a few people (better for my pocketbook, not my psyche)...I had no plans this evening and I wanted to call my A. I...

Cyn · Cyn

Struggling VERY badly today with wanting to call him and hear his sweet voice again. But should I? I left him because he had a problem but I still love him soooo much. The last stupid conversation I ever had with him was about him planning on coming out to see me the next day and then&nb...

sunny1 · sunny1

I finally told my daughter that I LOVE HER. I have said it many times in passing or at the door or at night time. But honestly, today, I looked into her eyes and told her that I loved her and that I meant it. I hugged her so hard. She was shocked and said thanks mom. Im sure com...

Kim · Kim

So, another day without the A. Another promise broken. When he stopped over the other night to get his linens he mentioned calling the landscaper to do the fall cleanup. I said why don't you just come and help me do it, this way you don't have to pay the landscaper, I would appreciate your sweat mor...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day Who am I to judge other people? Have I proved by my great success in life that I know all the answers? Exactly the opposite. Until I came into A.A., my life could be called a failure. I made all the mistakes one could make. I took all the wrong roads there were to take. On the basis...

Christy · Christy

**snickering at what the subject line had you thinking...lol, I'm rotten While I was driving today alone, I had the opportunity for a little thought. I suppose my thought process came around from thinking about baby steps. Here's where it led me. When I walked through the doors of...

chrissy · chrissy

hi friends ,i am a little nervous my husband is coming home tomorrow and i am a little nervous. lol see what i mean lol any advice you can give would be appreciated.

thanks for always being here for me you are all wonderful!!

nycbt · nycbt

I am in a really tough spot right now. I have money in the joint savings account that is from the wedding and he is pressuring me into giving him 2000 dollars. I have said no. Now he wants me to take out a loan and I don't want do that. But he is mental draining me. He is pushing me in a corner of trying to we...

david62 · david62

I laughted so hard at Dolphin's "Waxing" post the other day....it reminded me of the last time I had read something that made me laugh so hard.... and I found it....so thought I would share it as sort of a rebuttal.... "tell a story on the guy-side" of the things...

I too, hope no one is offend...

debilyn · debilyn

(c: Your posts meant a lot to me. All of you had so many things great to say. Made me feel so much better. One of ya reminded me of the C2C book. I always kept mine close and becuz of you I gotta find it!! My poor A. This morn I asked him what got him going? He told me and was very nice. It is some...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

http://www.minnesotarecovery.info/literature/drydrunk.htm ),

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

last night i think i hit my bottom. my a hurt me so much by lying to me about where he was going. in the end today he told me he just wanted to go party with the guys and lied to me about going to a hockey game instead so we wouldnt fight. anyways... i was horrified he was cheating and i was just losing it. so my best...

debilyn · debilyn

First I am grateful to alanon, and the major part of that is the fact I can come on here and let this stuff out. The jewel to this is YOU people who understand and won't condemn me. It is the people who make alanon work by sharing, caring and being there. I am on disability for a few reasons. Some...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok...Like a lil while I just did a post and I looked back onto the board and it is not there...Now i am pissed because it was a good one..and I didn't save it,and don't know what happened to it... I am like crying right now because I am soo frustrated...I just can't take it anymore...It is...

kissers · kissers

Who are you not to be all loving and powerful????? God/HP did not create us to live in misery. We do NOT have to go there anymore. Put all of that misery and negative stuff it in a closet and burn it to the ground and tell yourself you don't need it anymore!!!!! We've suffered enough!!!! Today I choose to liv...

kitty · kitty

YES, I have been Blessed by this site/Board. I love this place, it has helped me immeasurably, inexplicably. The reponses to posts, even smply writing & venting, not to mention attending mtgs on-line, I have found to be more effective & profound than any F2F I have gone to but we...

bobump · bobump

Some of you know that I was anxious about the appointment I had with my wife’s addiction therapist and her. She was feeling pretty bold because the last visit he told her that I was controlling and my daughters therapist told her that me not giving her money is abusive and grounds for divorce. &...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Since coming to Al Anon and listening to the dialogue in F2F meetings and reading the posts here I realize that no one can tell me what I should or shouldn't do. HP gives us free will to decide what we will do and not do. So, why do I feel like my whole life I've made decisions based on what other'...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, My A has moved out. He says he wants a divorce. He says he will never change and has given in to the disease. He doesn't drink but has many other addictions like computer games. It has been so difficult trying to cope with this new life that was not my choice. We try to talk but end up screaming at eac...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it. --Malcolm X It does little good to complain about our mates or parents or lovers. We only accentuate our role as victims when we say, "I would be happier if he/she were different." "If he wo...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I finally spoke with my daughter last night about when she would be moving out and about doing some chores until she does. There are lots of "ifs" in this, since she has no place to go until she has a job & some money. I told her I'd like to see her up looking for a job in the morning whe...

Vermont635a · Vermont635a

I am an old time member, 18 years, not that it matters. I am dealing with dry drunk behavior. It had stopped for a long time. I've forgotten all the little tools to detach and how to survive without being blown away with every nastiness. many thanks.

camra · camra

ok someone help me out here I was just banned from the chat room.... Why was that??? please help me .. Thanks camra

kitty · kitty

Some ppl I see in the room, I never see on the Boards & vice versa. I come to the Boards to vent naturally but usually I am looking for the ESH from others. I go to the ch rm to vent wildly - but it's so funny to me how one sentence or two & ppl start to talk back, make their comments when they have neve...

Christy · Christy

The writer composed the attached video/song after a true experience that took place. Please take a moment to see it and reflect. A huge "Thank You" to all our veterans. Christy A Pittance of Time

Emmie11 · Emmie11

My sponsor has ingrained in my head how crucial it is to look at my motives before taking any action or making any decision. My motives are are the seeds from which all my actions sprout. I can either plant flowers that beautify my surroundings and bring&nbs...

jpembert · jpembert

Here it is a friday night ny A is in bed with his drink next to him. I'm sitting alone doing nothing but thinking. That all I do these day is think about how all this happened. They say you don't cause a person to drink but he was not like this when we married 26 years ago what happened the girls are away for the w...

sandie123 · sandie123

Well I finally got up the nerve to ask someone else to be my f2f sponsor. She said Yes!!! I don't know where this will take me or if she is the right one... but she is a start! Today was a good day. I took care of myself... stayed in bed till 11:30, took a bubble bath with music and candles (wow, never did tha...

mastiff · mastiff

Funny thing, i ordered a new/used "dillema of the alcoholic marriage" book, and inside it was a clipping from an article about resentments. I can see what the person before me held on to it as it is a great reading so i thought i'd share it with you all too. Resent Somebody "The moment you begin...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok ...like right now my soab gramma said I have to get off the pc...OMG I go on to express my feeling instead of lashing my anger out on myself..because I am self injuring at times...So this is definetely an outlet I use to cope with my living conditions,and depression(which is anger turned inw...

sunny1 · sunny1

So, I went to the first night of my "retreat" or so I thought, it is actually a self motivation course, not what I thought at all. Well I did know that we were going to do some self exploration but not to the depth of it. Im staying at the hotel where it is taking place and I was glad to be finished a...

Gailey · Gailey

I now have my A son living with me. I have an in-law apt. next to my home for guest and he is staying there. He is in an intensive outpatient program now which he goes to for 3 hours a day...4 days a week. He really likes it. My problem of course, is me. I want to constantly talk to him about reconciling with his f...

bob6502 · bob6502

Heya my wonderful friends, Just for today, I wanted to express my gratitude for all the wonders of my life. Just for today, I have you my wonderful friends, to help guide me through my recovery. Just for today, I have life, breathe, and happiness. Just for today, I can smell the popcorn my son is...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has been after me to take a loan out of the bank so he can buy a truck. Mind you he has the money but he doesn't want to give the person the cash. Well I told him to use the money that he has that I wouldn't be helping him. He has been pressuring me alot waiting for me to break. I am getting close to that ti...

Kim · Kim

My A came last night to pick up some linens to move into the sober house. I put together a few things that were his when he moved in (that's about all he brought along with his clothes) and he spoke, I listened. I had very little to say. He asked how I felt about him staying at the sober house. I sa...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi I live with an active alchoic. When he is not drinking he is the best friend. He listen he is funny, he cuddles with me at night. He loves to give hugs. Those are things I love about him. He does the cooking and he does the bills. Those are too things I do not do. He helps clean he never wants me to do all of it. H...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday was a good night we spent the time talking and watching tv. Those are the days are love and then I remeber why I got married. But then there are days like Sunday and Tuesday that make me wonder why I am in this mess. However I am getting stronger and I am getting more help from people that has helped...

UncleLou · UncleLou

My kids had off school today and tomorrow. My ex took my daughter to work today and I was going to bring my son (14) with me. We told him he could earn some money helping, a basement renovation. I thought he would like to opportunity to earn some money, he's been asking for a job lately. This morning he said h...

Barbara · Barbara

My A doesnt fool around on me My A doesnt gamble My A doesnt drive drunk My A doesnt do cocaine My A doesnt hit me/us My A sits in the finished basement and drinks. I watch him get drunk. When I hear other peoples stories I think my A isnt that bad so why do I need to go to F2F to hear their stories? Can a...

captcodee · captcodee

The last two days have been a true test to my program. I am sure many of you have heard me brag that I have found a great place of serenity, even though my husband is still drinking/using. That peaceful place has been challenged very hard the last two days. I try very hard to remember that I am n...

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	wow...what a weekend! (Preview) Good Morning to you. Wow! what a weekend. If I could sum it up in just one word, it would be "Powerful". I have been given the gift of "Excellence". I can not really express fully the energy that I have found. This was a "Tell the Truth" weekend. Be real, the on...	sunny1	2	651	Nov 14, 2005 by Karilynn
	Nice weekend (Preview) Surpising I had a nice weekend. There was no taking off and disappearing for a while. In the morning since he can't drive my car I drove him to the work place. He noticed when he got out of the car and didn't have his phone. The old me would of drove home right away and get the phone so I could call him. The new me...	nycbt	3	514	Nov 14, 2005 by captcodee
	Inspiring Each Other, Growth (Preview) Wow, just in the last few days, I have noticed the inspirational meetings & witnessing growth in our individual programs... God eludes us, is mystical in how HP works through us & touches us all through each other. We are all messengers of God, Angels on Earth, transforming. ...	kitty	3	613	Nov 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	God grant me the ability to THINK B4 i act (Preview) You are reading from God Grant Me . . . We cannot think first and act afterward. From the moment of birth we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought.ALFRED NORTH WHITEHEAD There’s a good reason that one of the slogans we use most in recovery is this one: Think. We are alwa...	rosie light shines	0	363	Nov 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Spiritual Walk (Preview) I had the great opportunity to attend the MA AA convention this past weekend. The Alanon program included a spiritual walk. Although I had heard of them before I have never been involved with one. What a truly special thing. For someone like me with trust issues it was a real...	AlaMom	1	769	Nov 14, 2005 by Satori
	CAME TO FIND OUT HWO TO GET THE "A' TO STOP DRINKING (Preview) Even those of us who can identify the problem as active alcoholism probably have no idea what to do about it. We only know that we have tried lots of things that didnt work, We may have poured liquor out, hidden it, hidden money that might pay for it, even taken a few drinks ourselves in order to leave less f...	gardengal	3	1307	Nov 14, 2005 by nycbt
	im am so fricken pissed (Preview) my husband is suppose to be moving back today he is coming after his appointment at 3 pm. now i have had serveral talks with my daughter & so has her real father & she was fine with him coming home . she is fine when she gets everything she wants or when she spends time with her boyfrien...	chrissy	11	775	Nov 14, 2005 by nycbt
	Afraid of being taken for a fool again (Preview) One day at a time, right? Last night my A. took me out to a very nice dinner at the Olive Garden. We actually talked and shared some laughs. It has been what I have longed for for so long. He seemed so different. The man I remembered. Quite the difference from last weekend when he got drunk and made a...	sg	7	697	Nov 14, 2005 by nycbt
	God, just let me die (Preview) She told me she was distancing herself from the other guy. She told our friend that she broke it off with him and he didn’t take it too well. I believed her. I set myself up. Last weekend I gave her space and let her have time alone with the kids. I hardly spoke to her all week. I thought that’s what she wante...	UncleLou	19	941	Nov 14, 2005 by gardengal
	I don't want to fight you! (Preview) During my meditation this morning I drifted back a few years…okay…A LOT of years…lol I had a friend in High School that was also known as a bully. She lived two doors down from my house, so we hung out. She had what I would call a love/hate relationship with me. There were w...	Satori	5	908	Nov 14, 2005 by lildee
	5pm (Preview) Well, he finally called. I did good, I am not angry just very hurt. He is on his way home, slept in his car and then went to a friends. I stated very calmly that the "we" is not fixable until his fixes the things in his life that he readily admits he is embarassed, ashamed, and angry with h...	marmare	3	428	Nov 14, 2005 by WakingUp
	I am Lost... (Preview) Ok what I am sharing with you is something I have never shared with anyone..and something that I am not very proud of...SO don't judge me on it You may take what you like and leave the rest..or just don't read it at all I am sorry for being so cynical or blunt...but I just ya know..don't want you guys to t...	Lauren ashley	8	781	Nov 14, 2005 by kissers
	more of my poems (Preview) The Memories are Fading Away You held me in your arms when I was first born, you snuggled me tight so I would be warm’ You told me you loved me and would never leave my side I should have known you lied Now I am sitting here thinking of why I believed all those things When they weren’t even...	Lauren ashley	6	632	Nov 14, 2005 by kitty
	So Stressful (Preview) I am so stressed out! The recovering alcoholic in my life, who happens to be my boyfriend, just relapsed not too long ago. Unfortunately, we don't live together so we don't get to spend a whole lot of time together anyway and now he has to go to an AA meeting every night for the next 90 d...	ashraven	2	438	Nov 14, 2005 by nmike
	Sat night and I ain't got nobody (Preview) Well, my friend cancelled tonight so another night alone. I'm a little disappointed and restless. There really isn't anything else for me to do, so I guess it's just me and the dog again. It's kinda depressing. I am trying really hard to keep on track. Focus on myself, not give in to things...	Kim	7	559	Nov 13, 2005 by nmike
	maybe I'm learning how to comm. with my HP (Preview) Oh the insidious disease. My HP gave me strength today thankfully. My a started on the asking for money again. Asking for $14. This is what her beverage of choice goes for today. I refused stating that I’m am not funding her addiction. She starts...	bobump	2	708	Nov 13, 2005 by rosie light shines
	he is giving amanda a few days to get used to the idea:( (Preview) chuck didn't come back yet because of amanda.:( he said to give her a few days to get used to the idea of him being home again. i am so upset i really missed him even more last night. this really sucks. he is doing good though & he is still at his moms. i am so mad at amanda. but i know she is 13 an...	chrissy	4	740	Nov 13, 2005 by kissers
	Gossip and Backstabbing- Yes, this means U---- Thank You ^Lucy (Preview) Roomies, When this topic was started a few days ago, I was upset. I did not see that we had a problem. But then i started wondering if someone would post this, would this be an issue? I guess the answer would be no. Now, I am starting to understand that there could be problems. That my perception did not...	Dolphin123	0	477	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I'm trying too hard to be perfect (Preview) God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference three little lines, but it seems that the last few days I have neglected to make it to the last line (wisdom to know the difference) I seem to have adopte...	captcodee	7	600	Nov 13, 2005 by captcodee
	All over again? (Preview) Well my A went snowmobiling today, called around 3:30 to tell me, they were okay and they might have to stay up in the mountains as it was snowing so badly. Then he called around 8:30 was back in town and would be headed home soon. Now his phone is turned off....is it starting all over a...	marmare	4	604	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Friday night. Nothing to do...but so what? (Preview) I came home from shopping today and was immediately filled with sadness. Christmas shopping today was a little hard at times b/c I was used to shopping for my family and now it is just limited to a few people (better for my pocketbook, not my psyche)...I had no plans this evening and I wanted to call my A. I...	Kim	6	612	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Miss my a (exboyfriend) want to call (Preview) Struggling VERY badly today with wanting to call him and hear his sweet voice again. But should I? I left him because he had a problem but I still love him soooo much. The last stupid conversation I ever had with him was about him planning on coming out to see me the next day and then&nb...	Cyn	6	491	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I finally told my daughter... (Preview) I finally told my daughter that I LOVE HER. I have said it many times in passing or at the door or at night time. But honestly, today, I looked into her eyes and told her that I loved her and that I meant it. I hugged her so hard. She was shocked and said thanks mom. Im sure com...	sunny1	2	491	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	promises, promises (Preview) So, another day without the A. Another promise broken. When he stopped over the other night to get his linens he mentioned calling the landscaper to do the fall cleanup. I said why don't you just come and help me do it, this way you don't have to pay the landscaper, I would appreciate your sweat mor...	Kim	4	766	Nov 13, 2005 by lin0606
	who am i to judge ANYone???? (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Who am I to judge other people? Have I proved by my great success in life that I know all the answers? Exactly the opposite. Until I came into A.A., my life could be called a failure. I made all the mistakes one could make. I took all the wrong roads there were to take. On the basis...	rosie light shines	1	843	Nov 13, 2005 by bobump
	You are all a bunch of babies!! (Preview) **snickering at what the subject line had you thinking...lol, I'm rotten While I was driving today alone, I had the opportunity for a little thought. I suppose my thought process came around from thinking about baby steps. Here's where it led me. When I walked through the doors of...	Christy	10	648	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	my husband is coming home tomorrow (Preview) hi friends ,i am a little nervous my husband is coming home tomorrow and i am a little nervous. lol see what i mean lol any advice you can give would be appreciated. thanks for always being here for me you are all wonderful!!	chrissy	4	585	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	NEED SUGGESTION (Preview) I am in a really tough spot right now. I have money in the joint savings account that is from the wedding and he is pressuring me into giving him 2000 dollars. I have said no. Now he wants me to take out a loan and I don't want do that. But he is mental draining me. He is pushing me in a corner of trying to we...	nycbt	3	413	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	One Man and a Tazer (Preview) I laughted so hard at Dolphin's "Waxing" post the other day....it reminded me of the last time I had read something that made me laugh so hard.... and I found it....so thought I would share it as sort of a rebuttal.... "tell a story on the guy-side" of the things... I too, hope no one is offend...	david62	6	506	Nov 13, 2005 by Dolphin123
	thoink you, and smoinks! (Preview) (c: Your posts meant a lot to me. All of you had so many things great to say. Made me feel so much better. One of ya reminded me of the C2C book. I always kept mine close and becuz of you I gotta find it!! My poor A. This morn I asked him what got him going? He told me and was very nice. It is some...	debilyn	5	596	Nov 13, 2005 by bob6502
	Could I Be A Dry Drunk? (Preview) http://www.minnesotarecovery.info/literature/drydrunk.htm ),	BlueCloud	5	613	Nov 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	i finally did it!!!! (Preview) last night i think i hit my bottom. my a hurt me so much by lying to me about where he was going. in the end today he told me he just wanted to go party with the guys and lied to me about going to a hockey game instead so we wouldnt fight. anyways... i was horrified he was cheating and i was just losing it. so my best...	notsonew1111	4	469	Nov 13, 2005 by gardengal
	Feeling alone (Preview) First I am grateful to alanon, and the major part of that is the fact I can come on here and let this stuff out. The jewel to this is YOU people who understand and won't condemn me. It is the people who make alanon work by sharing, caring and being there. I am on disability for a few reasons. Some...	debilyn	7	538	Nov 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	man I am soo stupid (Preview) Ok...Like a lil while I just did a post and I looked back onto the board and it is not there...Now i am pissed because it was a good one..and I didn't save it,and don't know what happened to it... I am like crying right now because I am soo frustrated...I just can't take it anymore...It is...	Lauren ashley	6	500	Nov 12, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	To All Of You (Preview) Who are you not to be all loving and powerful????? God/HP did not create us to live in misery. We do NOT have to go there anymore. Put all of that misery and negative stuff it in a closet and burn it to the ground and tell yourself you don't need it anymore!!!!! We've suffered enough!!!! Today I choose to liv...	kissers	3	496	Nov 12, 2005 by Diva
	weirdo (Preview) YES, I have been Blessed by this site/Board. I love this place, it has helped me immeasurably, inexplicably. The reponses to posts, even smply writing & venting, not to mention attending mtgs on-line, I have found to be more effective & profound than any F2F I have gone to but we...	kitty	4	533	Nov 12, 2005 by bobump
	I made it thru the a's therapist appt. (Preview) Some of you know that I was anxious about the appointment I had with my wife’s addiction therapist and her. She was feeling pretty bold because the last visit he told her that I was controlling and my daughters therapist told her that me not giving her money is abusive and grounds for divorce. &...	bobump	4	454	Nov 12, 2005 by canadianguy
	My Life Is Worth More Than This... (Preview) Since coming to Al Anon and listening to the dialogue in F2F meetings and reading the posts here I realize that no one can tell me what I should or shouldn't do. HP gives us free will to decide what we will do and not do. So, why do I feel like my whole life I've made decisions based on what other'...	twinmom2	6	579	Nov 12, 2005 by kissers
	On overwhelm but gaining insights (Preview) Hi all, My A has moved out. He says he wants a divorce. He says he will never change and has given in to the disease. He doesn't drink but has many other addictions like computer games. It has been so difficult trying to cope with this new life that was not my choice. We try to talk but end up screaming at eac...	nmike	2	469	Nov 12, 2005 by WakingUp
	nobody's gonna GIVE me justice!! i must TAKE it!!! (Preview) *Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it. --Malcolm X* It does little good to complain about our mates or parents or lovers. We only accentuate our role as victims when we say, "I would be happier if he/she were different." "If he wo...	rosie light shines	1	467	Nov 12, 2005 by kitty
	I Did It (Preview) I finally spoke with my daughter last night about when she would be moving out and about doing some chores until she does. There are lots of "ifs" in this, since she has no place to go until she has a job & some money. I told her I'd like to see her up looking for a job in the morning whe...	WakingUp	6	526	Nov 12, 2005 by WakingUp
	Dry Drunk (Preview) I am an old time member, 18 years, not that it matters. I am dealing with dry drunk behavior. It had stopped for a long time. I've forgotten all the little tools to detach and how to survive without being blown away with every nastiness. many thanks.	Vermont635a	2	488	Nov 12, 2005 by lin0606
	banned (Preview) ok someone help me out here I was just banned from the chat room.... Why was that??? please help me .. Thanks camra	camra	2	451	Nov 12, 2005 by camra
	the chat rm is strange sometimes (Preview) Some ppl I see in the room, I never see on the Boards & vice versa. I come to the Boards to vent naturally but usually I am looking for the ESH from others. I go to the ch rm to vent wildly - but it's so funny to me how one sentence or two & ppl start to talk back, make their comments when they have neve...	kitty	8	546	Nov 12, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	In rememberance of our Vets... (Preview) The writer composed the attached video/song after a true experience that took place. Please take a moment to see it and reflect. A huge "Thank You" to all our veterans. Christy A Pittance of Time	Christy	7	830	Nov 12, 2005 by nmike
	Thought for the Day/Motives (Preview) My sponsor has ingrained in my head how crucial it is to look at my motives before taking any action or making any decision. My motives are are the seeds from which all my actions sprout. I can either plant flowers that beautify my surroundings and bring&nbs...	Emmie11	1	479	Nov 12, 2005 by hopefortoday
	just another night (Preview) Here it is a friday night ny A is in bed with his drink next to him. I'm sitting alone doing nothing but thinking. That all I do these day is think about how all this happened. They say you don't cause a person to drink but he was not like this when we married 26 years ago what happened the girls are away for the w...	jpembert	1	405	Nov 11, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	I got up the nerve!!! (Preview) Well I finally got up the nerve to ask someone else to be my f2f sponsor. She said Yes!!! I don't know where this will take me or if she is the right one... but she is a start! Today was a good day. I took care of myself... stayed in bed till 11:30, took a bubble bath with music and candles (wow, never did tha...	sandie123	7	695	Nov 11, 2005 by lmt123
	resentments are slave drivers (Preview) Funny thing, i ordered a new/used "dillema of the alcoholic marriage" book, and inside it was a clipping from an article about resentments. I can see what the person before me held on to it as it is a great reading so i thought i'd share it with you all too. Resent Somebody "The moment you begin...	mastiff	7	490	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	I can't do this anymore...I am gonna loose it pretty darn soon (Preview) Ok ...like right now my soab gramma said I have to get off the pc...OMG I go on to express my feeling instead of lashing my anger out on myself..because I am self injuring at times...So this is definetely an outlet I use to cope with my living conditions,and depression(which is anger turned inw...	Lauren ashley	9	687	Nov 11, 2005 by rosie light shines
	light bulb moment (Preview) So, I went to the first night of my "retreat" or so I thought, it is actually a self motivation course, not what I thought at all. Well I did know that we were going to do some self exploration but not to the depth of it. Im staying at the hotel where it is taking place and I was glad to be finished a...	sunny1	2	413	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	Too many questions!!! (Preview) I now have my A son living with me. I have an in-law apt. next to my home for guest and he is staying there. He is in an intensive outpatient program now which he goes to for 3 hours a day...4 days a week. He really likes it. My problem of course, is me. I want to constantly talk to him about reconciling with his f...	Gailey	6	530	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	Just for Today Gratitude (Preview) Heya my wonderful friends, Just for today, I wanted to express my gratitude for all the wonders of my life. Just for today, I have you my wonderful friends, to help guide me through my recovery. Just for today, I have life, breathe, and happiness. Just for today, I can smell the popcorn my son is...	bob6502	1	421	Nov 11, 2005 by Emmie11
	Hard night (Preview) My husband has been after me to take a loan out of the bank so he can buy a truck. Mind you he has the money but he doesn't want to give the person the cash. Well I told him to use the money that he has that I wouldn't be helping him. He has been pressuring me alot waiting for me to break. I am getting close to that ti...	nycbt	10	464	Nov 11, 2005 by Christy
	another small triumph (Preview) My A came last night to pick up some linens to move into the sober house. I put together a few things that were his when he moved in (that's about all he brought along with his clothes) and he spoke, I listened. I had very little to say. He asked how I felt about him staying at the sober house. I sa...	Kim	4	445	Nov 11, 2005 by canadianguy
	things i love about my husband (Preview) Hi I live with an active alchoic. When he is not drinking he is the best friend. He listen he is funny, he cuddles with me at night. He loves to give hugs. Those are things I love about him. He does the cooking and he does the bills. Those are too things I do not do. He helps clean he never wants me to do all of it. H...	nycbt	5	731	Nov 11, 2005 by marmare
	GOOD NIGHT (Preview) Yesterday was a good night we spent the time talking and watching tv. Those are the days are love and then I remeber why I got married. But then there are days like Sunday and Tuesday that make me wonder why I am in this mess. However I am getting stronger and I am getting more help from people that has helped...	nycbt	3	423	Nov 11, 2005 by marmare
	More insanity at home (Preview) My kids had off school today and tomorrow. My ex took my daughter to work today and I was going to bring my son (14) with me. We told him he could earn some money helping, a basement renovation. I thought he would like to opportunity to earn some money, he's been asking for a job lately. This morning he said h...	UncleLou	5	494	Nov 11, 2005 by TLC2
	anyone else with the "at home" drinker? (Preview) My A doesnt fool around on me My A doesnt gamble My A doesnt drive drunk My A doesnt do cocaine My A doesnt hit me/us My A sits in the finished basement and drinks. I watch him get drunk. When I hear other peoples stories I think my A isnt that bad so why do I need to go to F2F to hear their stories? Can a...	Barbara	6	970	Nov 11, 2005 by bcanuck
	Not sure if I am okay (Preview) The last two days have been a true test to my program. I am sure many of you have heard me brag that I have found a great place of serenity, even though my husband is still drinking/using. That peaceful place has been challenged very hard the last two days. I try very hard to remember that I am n...	captcodee	3	597	Nov 11, 2005 by WakingUp
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