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sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...

rtexas · rtexas

She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...

sweetums · sweetums

Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...

irish54 · irish54

I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...

Barbara · Barbara

Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...

tea2 · tea2

Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...

gardengal · gardengal

But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...

Tammy · Tammy

Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....

Rebecca · Rebecca

HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...

rtexas · rtexas

She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...

chubbyelf · chubbyelf

hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...

bob6502 · bob6502

March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...

maresie · maresie

Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...

kicky · kicky

My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...

Serenity2Charish · Serenity2Charish

you? &nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...

leo · leo

Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx

Barbara · Barbara

Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?

sas · sas

I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you

sweetums · sweetums

OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...

flintfeet · flintfeet

anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...

nycbt · nycbt

Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...

rtexas · rtexas

Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...

kitty · kitty

I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...

Nettie · Nettie

I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...

Jayda · Jayda

Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...

ditto · ditto

His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...

iamdlm · iamdlm

I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!

kitty · kitty

Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...

gudheartedguy · gudheartedguy

Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...

seachange · seachange

Quote | ReplyBack from my sister's funeral Hello everyone! I'm back from the UK where I went to be with all the family gathered for my sister's funeral. It was an amazing week--I saw more family together than I've seen in several years. Lots of laughter and reminiscences as well as...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I just wanted to share a story of an experience I had this past week that shook me to the core. I work for an agency that houses persons who suffer from either mental illness or chemical abuse or both. I deal with over 96 households who are suffering in some capacity.&n...

mel123 · mel123

We gave our 19 year old son until Wednesday this past week to find a place to live. I had packed up all of his things last weekend. He has been uable to follow our house rules, which are that he remain clean and sober,stay in recovery and home by curfew, unless prior arrangements have b...

kitty · kitty

Aside from learning to apply self-love, as a sick ACOA & codie which took me over 37 yrs to be ready & willing to understand & apply to me, truly everything happens in God’s time & there are no coincidences. I have found nothing in this Program of spirituality has been more p...

whitie · whitie

As I mentally planned to leave my A husband in Oct. I didn't talk about it with anyone but two very trusted friends and Ala-non friends. I told family when the time came very close for me to make my move. My siblings were all behind me and helped me move. On the other hand my cousin who lives on the east co...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, My husband and I had a talk tonight and as usual he threw all blame to me. He is back at his Mothers. I have tried being compassionate, I have tried to giv ehim leeway and be understanding. I have tried to not get angry when he is always over doing things at her house. I understand that she needs the he...

kitty · kitty

I am missing my mother very much but I cannot force her to want to share herself with me or know me. She raised me single handedly & was my best friend for many years, as long as I did as she wanted. I have worked hard to break this co-die relationship w/ her since Spetmember. After her ye...

roxannejharris · roxannejharris

I guess I am not really sure where to start out. I just need some advice. I am 24 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My daughters father and I have been together for 3 years on and off because of his drinking. His drinking has gotten better from drinking every night now down to usually 2 nights a week. ...

bobump · bobump

Well, yesterday my A went out w/ my 15yo to look for a new dog. As a sidebar, we already have two, money is tight, they aren't licensed they don't always get heartworm meds, etc. Makes no sense to add another one. This gave me a chance to tell my 9yo that someone was coming to the house an...

bobump · bobump

Well today was interesting. Friday, my son told the his school counselor that he was afraid of his mom. That triggered her to call dyfs to let them know. I met w/ her and my son. I don't think he is afraid of physical harm but only anger, but then again he came home to see that my A had brok...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I got a "Delivery Confirmation" letter in the mail today to my oldest son (15) Inside was a letter to him and the other letter was to my other 3 kids. He basically wrote in both of them how sorry he was for what he's done, but he has a terrible disease which makes him do bad things and that it's no...

Barbara · Barbara

not sure what the outcome will be. He'll be brought to the courthouse on Mon night - he's already asked my mother to release him on bail. He's suppose to appear in front of the judge Tues morn. From there he'll either be let go (back to my mother's house), sent to a hospital for rehab/psychiatric care or se...

mamasan · mamasan

Hello everyone, I have been pretty busy lately in another group, one for prison moms thru Yahoo. Next week my son, my A, is coming home to me. He has been gone a yr now. Actually for the last three yrs he has been in jail more than out. The times he has been home have been p...

tea2 · tea2

Hello all, I am having issues with my mirc -lol it’s not agreeing w/ me… My registered nick won’t stick, however other nicks do when I need to re-connect. I was wondering if the cause is my version of mirc is 5.81 ??? I was told there is a newer one that many are using (6.16). Also wondering if because...

iona54 · iona54

The Affirmations: As I Change My Mind, I Change My Life All things work together for good for me today. I am supremely happy right here, right now, within my self, right where I am today. I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person. &nbs...

Christy · Christy

Just thought I'd bring everyone up to date. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon and so far so good. He is still very weak and on about a gazillion meds. No kidding!! I went and picked up 14 prscriptions last night and another today. We had to go get a couple of those week long pill boxes to keep them all st...

Barbara · Barbara

do you feel like a hypocrit? Granted we can control our drinking, alot less frequent, doesnt interfere with life, etc. But do you find yourself not being able to enjoy an alcoholic drink once you realize your spouse is an alcoholic?

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Surrender (Preview) I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...	sandie123	2	375	Mar 1, 2006 by irish54
	Finally talked to Husband (Preview) I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...	sdisnie	6	740	Mar 1, 2006 by jemco518
	Annoying drunks (Preview) Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...	Lindy	8	512	Mar 1, 2006 by Diva
	Thrown back into the s*&^ (Preview) Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...	twinmom2	2	680	Mar 1, 2006 by Lindy
	Well... (Preview) She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...	rtexas	2	358	Mar 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	es&h (Preview) Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...	sweetums	3	535	Mar 1, 2006 by Christy
	Courage to change Daily Readings March 1st + (Preview) I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...	Debbie Lee	2	5501	Mar 1, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	yuck, it gets so much worse. (Preview) Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...	debilyn	7	496	Mar 1, 2006 by leo
	Trying to learn to let go of the past (Preview) I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...	irish54	3	433	Mar 1, 2006 by Andrea12
	my poor mother is a wreck! had to testify today! (Preview) Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...	Barbara	9	575	Mar 1, 2006 by Barbara
	wife in hospital - update (Preview) Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...	bobump	23	1093	Feb 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	son said (Preview) Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......	tea2	10	455	Feb 28, 2006 by danz123
	meditation (Preview) Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...	paintthinnr	2	369	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	HOW WE SAY, WHAT WE SAY... (Preview) But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...	gardengal	3	496	Feb 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	HOW do they do that ??? (Preview) Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...	Tammy	3	376	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	Looking For Teddybearpoet (Preview) Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....	Debbie Lee	0	360	Feb 28, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	LIFE CHANGES.... (Preview) HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...	Rebecca	3	394	Feb 28, 2006 by paintthinnr
	detach with talks of seperation? (Preview) She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...	rtexas	5	512	Feb 28, 2006 by Becky1
	new to al-anon (Preview) hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...	chubbyelf	9	502	Feb 28, 2006 by chubbyelf
	New and heartbroken (Preview) I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...	RamzDear	9	505	Feb 28, 2006 by Rebecca
	General Business Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...	bob6502	3	437	Feb 28, 2006 by tea2
	wife in ER (Preview) Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...	bobump	18	556	Feb 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	grief observed (Preview) Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...	maresie	4	415	Feb 28, 2006 by maresie
	Think I'm pregnant (Preview) Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...	Lindy	3	515	Feb 28, 2006 by mamasan
	Forgot he was an A for a moment...but he reminded me. (Preview) My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...	kicky	2	489	Feb 28, 2006 by Lindy
	Hello Everyone New Here (Preview) you? &nbs...	Serenity2Charish	3	395	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	Tues 2/28 - woke with stress headache (Preview) Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...	Barbara	2	481	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	hugs (Preview) Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx	leo	9	429	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	when did you stop feeling ashamed of AlAnon and really get a grasp of the program? (Preview) Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?	Barbara	10	409	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	Warning!! Hazardous Spill...could be toxic (Preview) I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...	sas	4	490	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	He called in sick AGAIN today! Please tell me everything you know about Detachment! (Preview) OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you	Barbara	7	905	Feb 28, 2006 by debilyn
	Need some insight, please... (Preview) OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...	sweetums	2	495	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	too far gone... (Preview) anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...	flintfeet	3	453	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	taking a step (Preview) Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...	nycbt	3	367	Feb 27, 2006 by Andrea12
	Happy birthday to me... right (Preview) Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...	rtexas	5	336	Feb 27, 2006 by RamzDear
	grieving for my life - healing my life (Preview) I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...	kitty	3	369	Feb 27, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Empty (Preview) I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...	Nettie	2	345	Feb 27, 2006 by lildee
	trouble in the chat room (Preview) Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...	Jayda	9	545	Feb 27, 2006 by Picowitch
	I think the alcohol is making him crazy (Preview) His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...	ditto	3	641	Feb 27, 2006 by Lindy
	Need Information Please! (Preview) I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!	iamdlm	3	511	Feb 27, 2006 by nycbt
	bad weekend (Preview) Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...	kitty	2	371	Feb 27, 2006 by kitty
	monster in wife returns (Preview) Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...	gudheartedguy	6	642	Feb 27, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Starting a pre-cancerous skin treatment (Preview) Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...	nmike	2	367	Feb 27, 2006 by rtexas
	Back from my sister's funeral (Preview) Quote \| ReplyBack from my sister's funeral Hello everyone! I'm back from the UK where I went to be with all the family gathered for my sister's funeral. It was an amazing week--I saw more family together than I've seen in several years. Lots of laughter and reminiscences as well as...	seachange	6	458	Feb 27, 2006 by seachange
	death of an A (Preview) Hello all: I just wanted to share a story of an experience I had this past week that shook me to the core. I work for an agency that houses persons who suffer from either mental illness or chemical abuse or both. I deal with over 96 households who are suffering in some capacity.&n...	Kim	6	535	Feb 27, 2006 by bobump
	Our dilemma.... (Preview) We gave our 19 year old son until Wednesday this past week to find a place to live. I had packed up all of his things last weekend. He has been uable to follow our house rules, which are that he remain clean and sober,stay in recovery and home by curfew, unless prior arrangements have b...	mel123	8	441	Feb 27, 2006 by mel123
	forgiveness (Preview) Aside from learning to apply self-love, as a sick ACOA & codie which took me over 37 yrs to be ready & willing to understand & apply to me, truly everything happens in God’s time & there are no coincidences. I have found nothing in this Program of spirituality has been more p...	kitty	2	419	Feb 26, 2006 by Maria123
	With family like this who needs enemies?? (Preview) As I mentally planned to leave my A husband in Oct. I didn't talk about it with anyone but two very trusted friends and Ala-non friends. I told family when the time came very close for me to make my move. My siblings were all behind me and helped me move. On the other hand my cousin who lives on the east co...	whitie	7	464	Feb 26, 2006 by lin0606
	Am I too Anal? (Preview) Hi, My husband and I had a talk tonight and as usual he threw all blame to me. He is back at his Mothers. I have tried being compassionate, I have tried to giv ehim leeway and be understanding. I have tried to not get angry when he is always over doing things at her house. I understand that she needs the he...	Jeannie	12	660	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	I miss what I thought I had (Preview) I am missing my mother very much but I cannot force her to want to share herself with me or know me. She raised me single handedly & was my best friend for many years, as long as I did as she wanted. I have worked hard to break this co-die relationship w/ her since Spetmember. After her ye...	kitty	3	462	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	What do you think? NEED HELP! (Preview) I guess I am not really sure where to start out. I just need some advice. I am 24 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My daughters father and I have been together for 3 years on and off because of his drinking. His drinking has gotten better from drinking every night now down to usually 2 nights a week. ...	roxannejharris	9	482	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	dyfs update - THANK YOU ALL ! (Preview) Well, yesterday my A went out w/ my 15yo to look for a new dog. As a sidebar, we already have two, money is tight, they aren't licensed they don't always get heartworm meds, etc. Makes no sense to add another one. This gave me a chance to tell my 9yo that someone was coming to the house an...	bobump	11	658	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	update for today (Preview) Well today was interesting. Friday, my son told the his school counselor that he was afraid of his mom. That triggered her to call dyfs to let them know. I met w/ her and my son. I don't think he is afraid of physical harm but only anger, but then again he came home to see that my A had brok...	bobump	7	538	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	I can't deal with his blaming me (Preview) I got a "Delivery Confirmation" letter in the mail today to my oldest son (15) Inside was a letter to him and the other letter was to my other 3 kids. He basically wrote in both of them how sorry he was for what he's done, but he has a terrible disease which makes him do bad things and that it's no...	sdisnie	8	652	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	Brother being released from Bridgewater prison this Tues (Preview) not sure what the outcome will be. He'll be brought to the courthouse on Mon night - he's already asked my mother to release him on bail. He's suppose to appear in front of the judge Tues morn. From there he'll either be let go (back to my mother's house), sent to a hospital for rehab/psychiatric care or se...	Barbara	2	400	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	My "A" is coming home from jail next week (Preview) Hello everyone, I have been pretty busy lately in another group, one for prison moms thru Yahoo. Next week my son, my A, is coming home to me. He has been gone a yr now. Actually for the last three yrs he has been in jail more than out. The times he has been home have been p...	mamasan	4	531	Feb 26, 2006 by mamasan
	registered nick/mirc troubles (Preview) Hello all, I am having issues with my mirc -lol it’s not agreeing w/ me… My registered nick won’t stick, however other nicks do when I need to re-connect. I was wondering if the cause is my version of mirc is 5.81 ??? I was told there is a newer one that many are using (6.16). Also wondering if because...	tea2	0	329	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	affirmations (Preview) The Affirmations: As I Change My Mind, I Change My Life All things work together for good for me today. I am supremely happy right here, right now, within my self, right where I am today. I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person. &nbs...	iona54	3	508	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	Hubby is home... (Preview) Just thought I'd bring everyone up to date. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon and so far so good. He is still very weak and on about a gazillion meds. No kidding!! I went and picked up 14 prscriptions last night and another today. We had to go get a couple of those week long pill boxes to keep them all st...	Christy	11	517	Feb 26, 2006 by chris52
	how do you handle your own biyearly drinking once your realize your spouse is an Alcoholic? (Preview) do you feel like a hypocrit? Granted we can control our drinking, alot less frequent, doesnt interfere with life, etc. But do you find yourself not being able to enjoy an alcoholic drink once you realize your spouse is an alcoholic?	Barbara	11	664	Feb 26, 2006 by roygbiv
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