Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....

Rebecca · Rebecca

HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...

rtexas · rtexas

She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...

chubbyelf · chubbyelf

hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...

bob6502 · bob6502

March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...

maresie · maresie

Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...

kicky · kicky

My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...

Serenity2Charish · Serenity2Charish

you? &nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...

leo · leo

Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx

Barbara · Barbara

Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?

sas · sas

I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you

sweetums · sweetums

OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...

flintfeet · flintfeet

anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...

nycbt · nycbt

Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...

rtexas · rtexas

Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...

kitty · kitty

I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...

Nettie · Nettie

I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...

Jayda · Jayda

Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...

ditto · ditto

His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...

iamdlm · iamdlm

I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!

kitty · kitty

Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...

gudheartedguy · gudheartedguy

Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...

seachange · seachange

Quote | ReplyBack from my sister's funeral Hello everyone! I'm back from the UK where I went to be with all the family gathered for my sister's funeral. It was an amazing week--I saw more family together than I've seen in several years. Lots of laughter and reminiscences as well as...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: I just wanted to share a story of an experience I had this past week that shook me to the core. I work for an agency that houses persons who suffer from either mental illness or chemical abuse or both. I deal with over 96 households who are suffering in some capacity.&n...

mel123 · mel123

We gave our 19 year old son until Wednesday this past week to find a place to live. I had packed up all of his things last weekend. He has been uable to follow our house rules, which are that he remain clean and sober,stay in recovery and home by curfew, unless prior arrangements have b...

kitty · kitty

Aside from learning to apply self-love, as a sick ACOA & codie which took me over 37 yrs to be ready & willing to understand & apply to me, truly everything happens in God’s time & there are no coincidences. I have found nothing in this Program of spirituality has been more p...

whitie · whitie

As I mentally planned to leave my A husband in Oct. I didn't talk about it with anyone but two very trusted friends and Ala-non friends. I told family when the time came very close for me to make my move. My siblings were all behind me and helped me move. On the other hand my cousin who lives on the east co...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, My husband and I had a talk tonight and as usual he threw all blame to me. He is back at his Mothers. I have tried being compassionate, I have tried to giv ehim leeway and be understanding. I have tried to not get angry when he is always over doing things at her house. I understand that she needs the he...

kitty · kitty

I am missing my mother very much but I cannot force her to want to share herself with me or know me. She raised me single handedly & was my best friend for many years, as long as I did as she wanted. I have worked hard to break this co-die relationship w/ her since Spetmember. After her ye...

roxannejharris · roxannejharris

I guess I am not really sure where to start out. I just need some advice. I am 24 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My daughters father and I have been together for 3 years on and off because of his drinking. His drinking has gotten better from drinking every night now down to usually 2 nights a week. ...

bobump · bobump

Well, yesterday my A went out w/ my 15yo to look for a new dog. As a sidebar, we already have two, money is tight, they aren't licensed they don't always get heartworm meds, etc. Makes no sense to add another one. This gave me a chance to tell my 9yo that someone was coming to the house an...

bobump · bobump

Well today was interesting. Friday, my son told the his school counselor that he was afraid of his mom. That triggered her to call dyfs to let them know. I met w/ her and my son. I don't think he is afraid of physical harm but only anger, but then again he came home to see that my A had brok...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I got a "Delivery Confirmation" letter in the mail today to my oldest son (15) Inside was a letter to him and the other letter was to my other 3 kids. He basically wrote in both of them how sorry he was for what he's done, but he has a terrible disease which makes him do bad things and that it's no...

Barbara · Barbara

not sure what the outcome will be. He'll be brought to the courthouse on Mon night - he's already asked my mother to release him on bail. He's suppose to appear in front of the judge Tues morn. From there he'll either be let go (back to my mother's house), sent to a hospital for rehab/psychiatric care or se...

mamasan · mamasan

Hello everyone, I have been pretty busy lately in another group, one for prison moms thru Yahoo. Next week my son, my A, is coming home to me. He has been gone a yr now. Actually for the last three yrs he has been in jail more than out. The times he has been home have been p...

tea2 · tea2

Hello all, I am having issues with my mirc -lol it’s not agreeing w/ me… My registered nick won’t stick, however other nicks do when I need to re-connect. I was wondering if the cause is my version of mirc is 5.81 ??? I was told there is a newer one that many are using (6.16). Also wondering if because...

iona54 · iona54

The Affirmations: As I Change My Mind, I Change My Life All things work together for good for me today. I am supremely happy right here, right now, within my self, right where I am today. I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person. &nbs...

Christy · Christy

Just thought I'd bring everyone up to date. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon and so far so good. He is still very weak and on about a gazillion meds. No kidding!! I went and picked up 14 prscriptions last night and another today. We had to go get a couple of those week long pill boxes to keep them all st...

Barbara · Barbara

do you feel like a hypocrit? Granted we can control our drinking, alot less frequent, doesnt interfere with life, etc. But do you find yourself not being able to enjoy an alcoholic drink once you realize your spouse is an alcoholic?

Becky1 · Becky1

My A husband of 5 years left Monday night screaming at me. Sent an email that he wants a divorce. Have not heard from him since. I am unable to go to work, and am stressed about my job being there when I get back. Hub was court ordered into counseling which ins. will not pay for, and he can't afford the house pm...

Lindy · Lindy

My alcoholic husband was actually doing okay for a couple of weeks. He was drinking, but he was not drunk or rude to me. Of course I could see the small changes last night and the cycle starting all over again. He must have been sitting in a bar for awhile yesterday while I was working. He's still laid off an...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - February 22 I found a carrot and two lumps of coal on my sidewalk and wondered what they were doing there. I thought it odd. Suddenly remembering that a snowman once stood on that place, I chuckled at my own suspicious thoughts. Even so, I had an eerie feeling of something st...

codependentme · codependentme

Hi everyone. I am just wondering if this is the right place for me. I will try to be brief. I am not with an alcoholic or addict, but with a mentally ill/personality disordered person, who used to use cocaine and alcohol but has not in many years. I am codependent and grew up with an abusive alcoholi...

leo · leo

Just wanted to thank everyone for their prayers and to let you know that there is definitely a higher power. My friend is still with us for the time being and now has her husband by her side in the city. I spoke to him today and told him how much is wife loved him and that I knew he loved her just as...

kitty · kitty

All I can do, is focus on me, control me & change me. Sad for this to be so difficult & guilt laden for us but it still takes me some work & hard focus some days, to just allow myself to consider my wants, needs & desires. It gets easier with practise, just like forgiveness. ...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: Yesterday my A had an appoinment with the gastoenterologist to get the results of his Hep C blood work. While he was in treatment he was given an antibody test that came back positive. Upon the confirmatory it was found to be NEGATIVE. Whic hwas great news. He wi...

doxie · doxie

Someone in chat the other day said that they knew of a good group for Moms/families of prisoners. Does anyone remember who that was, or does anyone have any websites or groups they could recommend? Today is proving to be challenging. Thanks, Doxie

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I just wanted to say it is so nice to see so many new names here on the board and in chat. If you have questions here or there personal or technical don't be afraid to ask ask. You can ask them privately by clicking on any of our names and you will have the option to speak one on one. once aga...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok I really dont mind my son being home for school vacation. Dont need to get out the door 2.5hrs earlier than I leave for work to get him to the bus. However when I come downstairs and A husband is hungover in bed (we sleep separately) it really grinds on me! He calls in sick alot on Fridays. I cant get in ther...

marcie301 · marcie301

A couple of days ago I posted about my A relapsing. We have 2 small children (1&3) and I know one time for sure he came with beer after picking our son up from preschool. Two of the bottles were empty but he swore he poured them out on the way home because he felt bad for even buying it...

bobump · bobump

I heard that those in chat at somepoint yesterday said a group prayer for me and my family. All I can say is I heard about this while the caseworker was still at my house and couldn't even think about it anymore because I didn't want to be crying as soon as I talked to the caseworker. Thank you all so much...

Powerless · Powerless

My house is finally finished. The landscapers finished today and the painters finished yesterday. My cabinets have been installed, the front door and interior doors have been replaced. I am too exhausted to enjoy it. My mother-in-law has kep the baby for two weeks while...

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

The weekend is coming up, which means I will be going to my boyfriends'. He had recently quit drinking at the insistance of his father, whom he lives with. His father goes away sometimes on weekends and I stay at my bf's. Now that his father is away, I know he will want to get a bottle of...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

This past week things have been coming to a head here. I discovered the 17 year old stepdaughter is smoking and had a bottle of vodka (big size) hidden in her drawer - her 21 year old sister has been buying the cigarettes for her, my 23 year old son bought one pack for her. The 17 year old is visi...

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	Looking For Teddybearpoet (Preview) Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....	Debbie Lee	0	292	Feb 28, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	LIFE CHANGES.... (Preview) HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...	Rebecca	3	342	Feb 28, 2006 by paintthinnr
	detach with talks of seperation? (Preview) She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...	rtexas	5	448	Feb 28, 2006 by Becky1
	new to al-anon (Preview) hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...	chubbyelf	9	440	Feb 28, 2006 by chubbyelf
	New and heartbroken (Preview) I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...	RamzDear	9	445	Feb 28, 2006 by Rebecca
	General Business Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...	bob6502	3	378	Feb 28, 2006 by tea2
	wife in ER (Preview) Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...	bobump	18	494	Feb 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	grief observed (Preview) Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...	maresie	4	341	Feb 28, 2006 by maresie
	Think I'm pregnant (Preview) Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...	Lindy	3	462	Feb 28, 2006 by mamasan
	Forgot he was an A for a moment...but he reminded me. (Preview) My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...	kicky	2	436	Feb 28, 2006 by Lindy
	Hello Everyone New Here (Preview) you? &nbs...	Serenity2Charish	3	346	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	Tues 2/28 - woke with stress headache (Preview) Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...	Barbara	2	432	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	hugs (Preview) Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx	leo	9	362	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	when did you stop feeling ashamed of AlAnon and really get a grasp of the program? (Preview) Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?	Barbara	10	366	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	Warning!! Hazardous Spill...could be toxic (Preview) I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...	sas	4	426	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	He called in sick AGAIN today! Please tell me everything you know about Detachment! (Preview) OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you	Barbara	7	861	Feb 28, 2006 by debilyn
	Need some insight, please... (Preview) OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...	sweetums	2	420	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	too far gone... (Preview) anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...	flintfeet	3	393	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	taking a step (Preview) Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...	nycbt	3	302	Feb 27, 2006 by Andrea12
	Happy birthday to me... right (Preview) Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...	rtexas	5	282	Feb 27, 2006 by RamzDear
	grieving for my life - healing my life (Preview) I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...	kitty	3	317	Feb 27, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Empty (Preview) I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...	Nettie	2	280	Feb 27, 2006 by lildee
	trouble in the chat room (Preview) Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...	Jayda	9	485	Feb 27, 2006 by Picowitch
	I think the alcohol is making him crazy (Preview) His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...	ditto	3	594	Feb 27, 2006 by Lindy
	Need Information Please! (Preview) I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!	iamdlm	3	468	Feb 27, 2006 by nycbt
	bad weekend (Preview) Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...	kitty	2	327	Feb 27, 2006 by kitty
	monster in wife returns (Preview) Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...	gudheartedguy	6	601	Feb 27, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Starting a pre-cancerous skin treatment (Preview) Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...	nmike	2	311	Feb 27, 2006 by rtexas
	Back from my sister's funeral (Preview) Quote \| ReplyBack from my sister's funeral Hello everyone! I'm back from the UK where I went to be with all the family gathered for my sister's funeral. It was an amazing week--I saw more family together than I've seen in several years. Lots of laughter and reminiscences as well as...	seachange	6	393	Feb 27, 2006 by seachange
	death of an A (Preview) Hello all: I just wanted to share a story of an experience I had this past week that shook me to the core. I work for an agency that houses persons who suffer from either mental illness or chemical abuse or both. I deal with over 96 households who are suffering in some capacity.&n...	Kim	6	479	Feb 27, 2006 by bobump
	Our dilemma.... (Preview) We gave our 19 year old son until Wednesday this past week to find a place to live. I had packed up all of his things last weekend. He has been uable to follow our house rules, which are that he remain clean and sober,stay in recovery and home by curfew, unless prior arrangements have b...	mel123	8	379	Feb 27, 2006 by mel123
	forgiveness (Preview) Aside from learning to apply self-love, as a sick ACOA & codie which took me over 37 yrs to be ready & willing to understand & apply to me, truly everything happens in God’s time & there are no coincidences. I have found nothing in this Program of spirituality has been more p...	kitty	2	348	Feb 26, 2006 by Maria123
	With family like this who needs enemies?? (Preview) As I mentally planned to leave my A husband in Oct. I didn't talk about it with anyone but two very trusted friends and Ala-non friends. I told family when the time came very close for me to make my move. My siblings were all behind me and helped me move. On the other hand my cousin who lives on the east co...	whitie	7	401	Feb 26, 2006 by lin0606
	Am I too Anal? (Preview) Hi, My husband and I had a talk tonight and as usual he threw all blame to me. He is back at his Mothers. I have tried being compassionate, I have tried to giv ehim leeway and be understanding. I have tried to not get angry when he is always over doing things at her house. I understand that she needs the he...	Jeannie	12	580	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	I miss what I thought I had (Preview) I am missing my mother very much but I cannot force her to want to share herself with me or know me. She raised me single handedly & was my best friend for many years, as long as I did as she wanted. I have worked hard to break this co-die relationship w/ her since Spetmember. After her ye...	kitty	3	381	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	What do you think? NEED HELP! (Preview) I guess I am not really sure where to start out. I just need some advice. I am 24 years old and have a 6 month old daughter. My daughters father and I have been together for 3 years on and off because of his drinking. His drinking has gotten better from drinking every night now down to usually 2 nights a week. ...	roxannejharris	9	414	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	dyfs update - THANK YOU ALL ! (Preview) Well, yesterday my A went out w/ my 15yo to look for a new dog. As a sidebar, we already have two, money is tight, they aren't licensed they don't always get heartworm meds, etc. Makes no sense to add another one. This gave me a chance to tell my 9yo that someone was coming to the house an...	bobump	11	595	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	update for today (Preview) Well today was interesting. Friday, my son told the his school counselor that he was afraid of his mom. That triggered her to call dyfs to let them know. I met w/ her and my son. I don't think he is afraid of physical harm but only anger, but then again he came home to see that my A had brok...	bobump	7	465	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	I can't deal with his blaming me (Preview) I got a "Delivery Confirmation" letter in the mail today to my oldest son (15) Inside was a letter to him and the other letter was to my other 3 kids. He basically wrote in both of them how sorry he was for what he's done, but he has a terrible disease which makes him do bad things and that it's no...	sdisnie	8	579	Feb 26, 2006 by maresie
	Brother being released from Bridgewater prison this Tues (Preview) not sure what the outcome will be. He'll be brought to the courthouse on Mon night - he's already asked my mother to release him on bail. He's suppose to appear in front of the judge Tues morn. From there he'll either be let go (back to my mother's house), sent to a hospital for rehab/psychiatric care or se...	Barbara	2	351	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	My "A" is coming home from jail next week (Preview) Hello everyone, I have been pretty busy lately in another group, one for prison moms thru Yahoo. Next week my son, my A, is coming home to me. He has been gone a yr now. Actually for the last three yrs he has been in jail more than out. The times he has been home have been p...	mamasan	4	435	Feb 26, 2006 by mamasan
	registered nick/mirc troubles (Preview) Hello all, I am having issues with my mirc -lol it’s not agreeing w/ me… My registered nick won’t stick, however other nicks do when I need to re-connect. I was wondering if the cause is my version of mirc is 5.81 ??? I was told there is a newer one that many are using (6.16). Also wondering if because...	tea2	0	283	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	affirmations (Preview) The Affirmations: As I Change My Mind, I Change My Life All things work together for good for me today. I am supremely happy right here, right now, within my self, right where I am today. I am a happy, healthy, wholesome, beautiful, positive, prosperous person. &nbs...	iona54	3	454	Feb 26, 2006 by tea2
	Hubby is home... (Preview) Just thought I'd bring everyone up to date. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon and so far so good. He is still very weak and on about a gazillion meds. No kidding!! I went and picked up 14 prscriptions last night and another today. We had to go get a couple of those week long pill boxes to keep them all st...	Christy	11	450	Feb 26, 2006 by chris52
	how do you handle your own biyearly drinking once your realize your spouse is an Alcoholic? (Preview) do you feel like a hypocrit? Granted we can control our drinking, alot less frequent, doesnt interfere with life, etc. But do you find yourself not being able to enjoy an alcoholic drink once you realize your spouse is an alcoholic?	Barbara	11	625	Feb 26, 2006 by roygbiv
	Confused and Hurting (Preview) My A husband of 5 years left Monday night screaming at me. Sent an email that he wants a divorce. Have not heard from him since. I am unable to go to work, and am stressed about my job being there when I get back. Hub was court ordered into counseling which ins. will not pay for, and he can't afford the house pm...	Becky1	7	424	Feb 25, 2006 by iona54
	Little hints of cut downs last night (Preview) My alcoholic husband was actually doing okay for a couple of weeks. He was drinking, but he was not drunk or rude to me. Of course I could see the small changes last night and the cycle starting all over again. He must have been sitting in a bar for awhile yesterday while I was working. He's still laid off an...	Lindy	5	492	Feb 25, 2006 by maresie
	feeling crappy can be GOOD!!!! (Preview) Hope for Today - February 22 I found a carrot and two lumps of coal on my sidewalk and wondered what they were doing there. I thought it odd. Suddenly remembering that a snowman once stood on that place, I chuckled at my own suspicious thoughts. Even so, I had an eerie feeling of something st...	rosie light shines	6	297	Feb 25, 2006 by Robinks
	new, is this the place for me? Please read. (Preview) Hi everyone. I am just wondering if this is the right place for me. I will try to be brief. I am not with an alcoholic or addict, but with a mentally ill/personality disordered person, who used to use cocaine and alcohol but has not in many years. I am codependent and grew up with an abusive alcoholi...	codependentme	12	468	Feb 25, 2006 by Jayda
	prayer update (Preview) Just wanted to thank everyone for their prayers and to let you know that there is definitely a higher power. My friend is still with us for the time being and now has her husband by her side in the city. I spoke to him today and told him how much is wife loved him and that I knew he loved her just as...	leo	7	374	Feb 25, 2006 by leo
	Surrender (Preview) All I can do, is focus on me, control me & change me. Sad for this to be so difficult & guilt laden for us but it still takes me some work & hard focus some days, to just allow myself to consider my wants, needs & desires. It gets easier with practise, just like forgiveness. ...	kitty	4	457	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	good news and a lesson from HP (Preview) Hello all: Yesterday my A had an appoinment with the gastoenterologist to get the results of his Hep C blood work. While he was in treatment he was given an antibody test that came back positive. Upon the confirmatory it was found to be NEGATIVE. Whic hwas great news. He wi...	Kim	1	358	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Prison (Preview) Someone in chat the other day said that they knew of a good group for Moms/families of prisoners. Does anyone remember who that was, or does anyone have any websites or groups they could recommend? Today is proving to be challenging. Thanks, Doxie	doxie	4	475	Feb 25, 2006 by Andrea12
	Welcome newcomers (Preview) I just wanted to say it is so nice to see so many new names here on the board and in chat. If you have questions here or there personal or technical don't be afraid to ask ask. You can ask them privately by clicking on any of our names and you will have the option to speak one on one. once aga...	jrtjosey	0	282	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	hard to get into that morning routine when A husband is laying in bed hungover (Preview) Ok I really dont mind my son being home for school vacation. Dont need to get out the door 2.5hrs earlier than I leave for work to get him to the bus. However when I come downstairs and A husband is hungover in bed (we sleep separately) it really grinds on me! He calls in sick alot on Fridays. I cant get in ther...	Barbara	6	575	Feb 25, 2006 by Jeannie
	what would you do? (Preview) A couple of days ago I posted about my A relapsing. We have 2 small children (1&3) and I know one time for sure he came with beer after picking our son up from preschool. Two of the bottles were empty but he swore he poured them out on the way home because he felt bad for even buying it...	marcie301	6	475	Feb 25, 2006 by Jeannie
	chat room prayer (Preview) I heard that those in chat at somepoint yesterday said a group prayer for me and my family. All I can say is I heard about this while the caseworker was still at my house and couldn't even think about it anymore because I didn't want to be crying as soon as I talked to the caseworker. Thank you all so much...	bobump	4	2267	Feb 25, 2006 by mastiff
	Busy week (Preview) My house is finally finished. The landscapers finished today and the painters finished yesterday. My cabinets have been installed, the front door and interior doors have been replaced. I am too exhausted to enjoy it. My mother-in-law has kep the baby for two weeks while...	Powerless	4	309	Feb 25, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Not sure what to do - Advice? (Preview) The weekend is coming up, which means I will be going to my boyfriends'. He had recently quit drinking at the insistance of his father, whom he lives with. His father goes away sometimes on weekends and I stay at my bf's. Now that his father is away, I know he will want to get a bottle of...	paintthinnr	9	447	Feb 25, 2006 by maresie
	Nervous Breakdown - Self Care (Preview) This past week things have been coming to a head here. I discovered the 17 year old stepdaughter is smoking and had a bottle of vodka (big size) hidden in her drawer - her 21 year old sister has been buying the cigarettes for her, my 23 year old son bought one pack for her. The 17 year old is visi...	kismetstrand	13	752	Feb 25, 2006 by maresie
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