Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

sweetums · sweetums

well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...

chris52 · chris52

Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...

rtexas · rtexas

Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn

RamzDear · RamzDear

I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...

kitty · kitty

As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense.

Okay. What really bugged m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...

doxie · doxie

I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...

marmare · marmare

Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...

bobump · bobump

Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...

irish54 · irish54

Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Not alot of action today. Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide. I spoke to he...

RamzDear · RamzDear

My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...

rtexas · rtexas

She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...

sweetums · sweetums

Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...

irish54 · irish54

I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...

Barbara · Barbara

Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...

tea2 · tea2

Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...

gardengal · gardengal

But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...

Tammy · Tammy

Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....

Rebecca · Rebecca

HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...

rtexas · rtexas

She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...

chubbyelf · chubbyelf

hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...

bob6502 · bob6502

March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...

maresie · maresie

Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...

kicky · kicky

My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...

Serenity2Charish · Serenity2Charish

you? &nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...

leo · leo

Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx

Barbara · Barbara

Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?

sas · sas

I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you

sweetums · sweetums

OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...

flintfeet · flintfeet

anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...

nycbt · nycbt

Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...

rtexas · rtexas

Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...

kitty · kitty

I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...

Nettie · Nettie

I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...

Jayda · Jayda

Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...

ditto · ditto

His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...

iamdlm · iamdlm

I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!

kitty · kitty

Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...

gudheartedguy · gudheartedguy

Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...

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	to call or not to call? well I CALLED (Preview) well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...	sweetums	1	427	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	grateful update (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...	confused	1	401	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	a very sincere prayer (Preview) Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...	chris52	3	535	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Happy Birthday month (Preview) Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!	rtexas	2	384	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	a setback can be a step forward??? (Preview) Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...	rosie light shines	2	489	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	Uncle Lou where are you? (Preview) ((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn	Karilynn	1	556	Mar 2, 2006 by Diva
	I got my answer.. (Preview) I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...	RamzDear	2	453	Mar 2, 2006 by sas
	torture of Mom not ending (Preview) As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense. Okay. What really bugged m...	kitty	7	502	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	plan my actions, not the outcome (Preview) My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...	pixel04	2	855	Mar 1, 2006 by mebjk
	Today Show topic this week: "Strange Addictions" (Preview) I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...	DanaAngel	0	491	Mar 1, 2006 by DanaAngel
	Disturbing conversation (Preview) I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...	doxie	19	663	Mar 1, 2006 by tea2
	Prayer Request (Preview) Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...	marmare	9	468	Mar 1, 2006 by peewee
	mobil crisis unit visit....and visiting the A (Preview) Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...	bobump	16	677	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	God's will to be done (Preview) Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...	irish54	2	420	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
	Salvation Army for 6 months (Preview) Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...	Barbara	4	532	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	wife out of Critical Care (Preview) Hi all, Not alot of action today. Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide. I spoke to he...	bobump	18	613	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	Should I talk to him or not?? (Preview) My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...	RamzDear	7	475	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
	Surrender (Preview) I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...	sandie123	2	415	Mar 1, 2006 by irish54
	Finally talked to Husband (Preview) I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...	sdisnie	6	782	Mar 1, 2006 by jemco518
	Annoying drunks (Preview) Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...	Lindy	8	561	Mar 1, 2006 by Diva
	Thrown back into the s*&^ (Preview) Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...	twinmom2	2	736	Mar 1, 2006 by Lindy
	Well... (Preview) She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...	rtexas	2	399	Mar 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	es&h (Preview) Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...	sweetums	3	614	Mar 1, 2006 by Christy
	Courage to change Daily Readings March 1st + (Preview) I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...	Debbie Lee	2	5722	Mar 1, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	yuck, it gets so much worse. (Preview) Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...	debilyn	7	544	Mar 1, 2006 by leo
	Trying to learn to let go of the past (Preview) I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...	irish54	3	479	Mar 1, 2006 by Andrea12
	my poor mother is a wreck! had to testify today! (Preview) Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...	Barbara	9	622	Mar 1, 2006 by Barbara
	wife in hospital - update (Preview) Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...	bobump	23	1158	Feb 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	son said (Preview) Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......	tea2	10	498	Feb 28, 2006 by danz123
	meditation (Preview) Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...	paintthinnr	2	416	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	HOW WE SAY, WHAT WE SAY... (Preview) But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...	gardengal	3	551	Feb 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	HOW do they do that ??? (Preview) Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...	Tammy	3	423	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	Looking For Teddybearpoet (Preview) Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....	Debbie Lee	0	405	Feb 28, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	LIFE CHANGES.... (Preview) HI GUYS.... its been a while since i posted sorry!!! i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit. apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...	Rebecca	3	439	Feb 28, 2006 by paintthinnr
	detach with talks of seperation? (Preview) She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order. The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...	rtexas	5	560	Feb 28, 2006 by Becky1
	new to al-anon (Preview) hello there, I'm new.... finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out. he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...	chubbyelf	9	543	Feb 28, 2006 by chubbyelf
	New and heartbroken (Preview) I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well. What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...	RamzDear	9	542	Feb 28, 2006 by Rebecca
	General Business Group Conscience Meeting (Preview) March 1, 2006 Chair: SenorarBob Agenda Items General Opening of Meeting followed by: Old Business 1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting 2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob 3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff 4. Swearing in the Chat...	bob6502	3	487	Feb 28, 2006 by tea2
	wife in ER (Preview) Hi all, Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...	bobump	18	603	Feb 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	grief observed (Preview) Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...	maresie	4	457	Feb 28, 2006 by maresie
	Think I'm pregnant (Preview) Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...	Lindy	3	563	Feb 28, 2006 by mamasan
	Forgot he was an A for a moment...but he reminded me. (Preview) My A has "behaved" for quite some time now. Maybe it was because I stopped paying attention to his bad behavior and just appreciated the good times. But lately, I have had a rough time with my business and I have been having trouble balancing home and work. Amazing how the A's just can't deal with another...	kicky	2	533	Feb 28, 2006 by Lindy
	Hello Everyone New Here (Preview) you? &nbs...	Serenity2Charish	3	441	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	Tues 2/28 - woke with stress headache (Preview) Husband home again today - 3rd work day in a row. Today's the 1st day he's not hungover. Is he too lazy to get to work or really feeling bad? Brother released from Bridgewater today, heading back to court - not sure if he'll end up in rehab or another jail or Salvation Army or back home. If he goes ba...	Barbara	2	522	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	hugs (Preview) Hugs to each and everyone of you. My friend passed away this morning. Thankyou for the prayers to end her suffering. She is now at rest. We are on cyclone warning at the moment so I may not post for a few days. Luv Leo xx	leo	9	477	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	when did you stop feeling ashamed of AlAnon and really get a grasp of the program? (Preview) Sometimes I still feel like Im just an outsider looking in. When did you stop feeling ashamed of attending AlAnon? When did you really feel like you got a strong hold of it?	Barbara	10	446	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	Warning!! Hazardous Spill...could be toxic (Preview) I have been coming to this board for a little while now. I read a lot and post a little. I just returned from my f2f meeting today which was on the 5th step. Having just begun to work the steps I usually just listen when I go to meetings. I feel like I want to say something and I get re...	sas	4	528	Feb 28, 2006 by Barbara
	He called in sick AGAIN today! Please tell me everything you know about Detachment! (Preview) OMG! I cant believe the lazy ass called in sick again today! He may be sick but the mornings after he's been drinking if he doesnt feel well I have a very hard time feeling any sympathy. Please tell me everything you know about Detachment. I need to get a firmer grasp on it! Thank you	Barbara	7	950	Feb 28, 2006 by debilyn
	Need some insight, please... (Preview) OK so my A has been out of the house since Jan31. He called me from time to time and I knew he was drinking with his friends he is staying with. He was calling to tell me how he hates staying there with them, and how he misses me and the kids. He is starting a business and setting up a shop during all of this, and al...	sweetums	2	535	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	too far gone... (Preview) anyone have loved ones that are just too far gone mentally? my dad is just "not all there", even when he's sober! i have not talked to him for a while now b/c it justs upsets me. but looking back, i feel that its amazing that he was following a conversation. he has the attention span of a 6yr old--that's be...	flintfeet	3	503	Feb 27, 2006 by lin0606
	taking a step (Preview) Wow I have to take a step back an look at my self and look at progress. When I first came in the program I would call my husband all the time. I couldn't wait to see if he was home. I would follow him around I would wait up to see if he would come back Panick when I didn't know where he was. Always worr...	nycbt	3	413	Feb 27, 2006 by Andrea12
	Happy birthday to me... right (Preview) Well... Saturday was my birthday, but my company didn't help me out any. We had a major project going this weekend that had me up from friday night a 4am til saturday 9am. Needless to say, between the chaos here and work I was wasted. She had said last week that she and the kids wanted to go out to eat on f...	rtexas	5	383	Feb 27, 2006 by RamzDear
	grieving for my life - healing my life (Preview) I have said I'm an oinion, I know there's a bright diamond inside but I still am finding layers to peel off. I used to feel like I could sleep for a year 7 that I was having PTSD from my childhood or being pushed, prodded, worked too hard, emotionally neglected, too many responsibilities, in hono...	kitty	3	413	Feb 27, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Empty (Preview) I remember feeling this empty before. It was how I felt consistently for months, maybe even years, before he dt'd in the hospital then went through treatment. I hated him, every ounce of him. I couldn't stand the way he looked or smelled. I dispised him, yet loved him. ...	Nettie	2	388	Feb 27, 2006 by lildee
	trouble in the chat room (Preview) Last night I tried chatting in the Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room I thought it would be nice to talk to some people in real time. My experience turned out to be pretty negative though. I voiced some things that had happened recently in my life that were bothering me and I feel as I was attacked by o...	Jayda	9	582	Feb 27, 2006 by Picowitch
	I think the alcohol is making him crazy (Preview) His drinking is so out of control that he is never sober. Lately his eyes are always red and watery and he has trouble thinking clearly. I've been subjected to his drunken rages and his drunken clinging. He can't seem to hit a normal emotional position. So last night he was accusi...	ditto	3	687	Feb 27, 2006 by Lindy
	Need Information Please! (Preview) I know that there is questionaire about "if you answer yes to any of these questions, you may have a drinking problem." If anyone knows where I can find this information online it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much!!!	iamdlm	3	556	Feb 27, 2006 by nycbt
	bad weekend (Preview) Thinking about my mother & all I did for her over these passed 6 months briging me to Decemeber, than things went to hell in hand basket... I neglected my 3 cats, my condo & myself all that ime & at the expense of myself was there everyday of December... yet it was n...	kitty	2	410	Feb 27, 2006 by kitty
	monster in wife returns (Preview) Hi all..... this is my first post on this forum. i have been mistakenly, but acceptingly posting on the aa forum and being a newbie, didn't know about all the various sub forums connected to alcohol problems. so, here's mine if someone wants to listen. i had this same pr...	gudheartedguy	6	690	Feb 27, 2006 by paintthinnr
	Starting a pre-cancerous skin treatment (Preview) Hi all, My dermatologist said that I have pre-cancerous cells on my face. She has prescribed a 3-4 week long treatment that will turn my face red, itch, bleed, be painful, and scab over. I will look pretty ugly. I will share this with my students so I won't shock them but also to let them know that...	nmike	2	408	Feb 27, 2006 by rtexas
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