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quest · quest

sometimes i think it is a contradiction to think of a'ism as a disease while saying it is the a's choice to drink or not. if it is a disease and they are powerless over it, then isn't it not their choice? but yet we say they need to hit bottom and work the program steps and they need to make the cho...

kspear · kspear

Good morning all. I know that many of us have difficulties and hardships that we are going through, some as a result of living with and/or dealing with the As in our lives, some just because it is actually just life. I have found, however, as a result of working the 12 steps and pracitcing thes...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

My A and I had a good weekend...lotts of closeness and love, until yesterday. He called me at 3 and said he had been golfing all day with a friend. Then he said he was on his way to the state park to meet a friend and his GF to go fishing, THEN after that he was thinking of fishing with the friend he had been gol...

babysteps · babysteps

I would like to start a discussion about detachment and boundaries. I believe there must be a subtle art to both, but I haven't figured it out. Several months ago I attempted to set my boundaries by providing my AH a list of expectations. There was nothing radical on the list simply that...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

It is 11am my time. And already we have lost the car, and I just found out that my grandfather has to have heart surgery. I that at 28, having my granfather still here is a blessing. But I am soooooooooo not ready to face the fact that he is getting older. And the thought of losing him. Not even something I t...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Today my Dad & Me smiled it was just a few minutes but it was good. I think this morning when I was so hysterical it was an awakening which led me to my Dad and some how I help him and he helped me. Regardless of how sad we both were it was good moment. Thank you HP and MIP Friends for the replies thei...

maresie · maresie

I just found our a friend of mine has cancer. She has pretty advanced cancer actually which says a lot about her level of self care because she did not go to a doctor for like 13 years. My caretaking is in high gear because of course I am in shock and when I am in shock, I caretake. I want to...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

I am new to Alanon...My husbands drinking seems to only effect me. He will come home 3 4 5 6 hours late. No one else is aware of this. When my daughter asks... I say he his out with friends. Sometimes I feel I am making this a problem If only I didn't care Why ca...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I haven't posted in a while, thank those of you who were asking about me. As some of you know, I've made an attempt to work things out with my ex. The house was sold after the divorce, but the buyers backed out and we decided to try to stay and see if we could make thing work. I was waiting for her to get a new coun...

jojo · jojo

The past couple days I've started to see my own co-dependency...I guess I've always saw myself as a independent person...but my view has quickly changed. I'm seeing how much I've become entwined in the life of my A. I've been very down on myself for not being how I use to be...(into music a...

maresie · maresie

Unfortnuntely my other post about birthdays went awol and the only bit that showed up was at the end. My birthday is on Tuesday. This last year has been particularly difficult which is one reason I came to al-anon. I guess I had to hit a whole series of bottoms to get here. I make thi...

gardengal · gardengal

I thought I would pose this question to all, new comers, and "oldsters" alike. I know for me I was always trying to change someone else's life, leaving mine on the back burner. This is what alcoholism did to me. I would constantly be trying to "fix" him change him to my way of living or thinking. I never tho...

scared · scared

Hi its been quite some time since ive been here. but im in dire need of help. Im hoping at least one of you mite be able to help direct me to were i need to be. I grew up in a home with a father who was an A and was both physicly and mentaly abusive to my mother and I. mom seems to have came thru it ok after his death ( al...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) Today I am feeling quite unsettled. I got a drunk dial call last night, asking me to come home because he was so lonely, then told he was in the kitchen by the refrigerator .... then the phone got cut off. I did not call back. He is lonely .... why am I worried about if he will have sex w...

greta · greta

I was cleaning up some old files on my computer this weekend. Spring cleaning. I came across this. It was saved in 2003, shortly after I started alanon. I have no idea where I got it from but I am sure I stole it fair and square.

The concept of letting go was so difficul...

Gailey · Gailey

I was afraid to post what I am feeling today but it is eating at me. I need to do something now about my son staying in myguest house. Trial is over. Am I going to allow him to stay or make him go? I am fighting with it today. I know I have to do something because I am feeling so uncomfortable today with not doing a...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Its 200am Pacific Time, I’ve been crying since I put my head down on the pillow. What is about this time that winds me up? I’ve been crying hysterically now for about 3 hours. As soon as it’s 600 am I’m going to call him and ask him why do we have to do this? I don’t get it. The...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

I am sure there are many out there with a story familiar to mine. I am 32 years old and I grew up with an alcoholic mother. As most families do, we never talked about the problem. My father worked out of town and was usually only home on the weekends. I have a older brother who was consider the troublesom...

kissers · kissers

Fear has been so prevalent in my life. I fear confrontation, anger, what others think of me. This stems from growing up with a violent alcoholic father. If we stepped out of line, you could be murdered physically, verbally, and mentally. Trying to not bow down to others out of fear has debilated my life...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

(((((((((((((Hi Guys))))))))))))))))))))), Well thank you to all who responded to my post last night about the water in the gas tank. Last night after my "A" came back he went out and used, sigh, and came back a few hours later drunk and stoned. But oddly enough we had experienced some wonderful c...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this topic came up over the weekend for me..........boy it was on time............this weekend, i realized i have been running away from my pain.....................>>>>>>>>>>>>>>i

whitie · whitie

Hi all My computer and I have been out of commission for awhile, well I'm still not on the net so to speak accept when I get to this internet cafe. I have started the divorce proceeding and I am waiting for him to be served the papers, for the ti** to hit the fan. It's not like I haven't told him that I t...

Barbara · Barbara

I want to skip over the 2 steps where I need to make amends. But could it be the other person needs to come to me to make amends? I am NOT ready to face my brother. Maybe before his trial end of July but who knows. Can I skip these steps, do the later steps and come back to these?

lilms · lilms

do. ;     ; &n...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) Thanks for the support yesterday, i was really in a yucky place. I really meditated on some of the points each of you brought up. I needed to ask myself if I have been completely honest with myself and my feelings. This morning, my question to HP was did you bring...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Well as I shared in the meeting last night, my car broke down on the way to church. I was ok, My "A" said it could only be a few things that could have happened like a fuel filter or fuel pump replacement. Well today he came back from the car with a cup full of water that smelled like gas. Someone pou...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone I am so truly grateful this morning. We had a great weekend! My Mom and Dad got here safely. My little guys communion went without a hitch, he looked so cute and it was a wonderful day. He looked like such a little man in his suit. My daughters softball tournament went well. They l...

Becky1 · Becky1

Just talked to my Mom, and had the best news.....she had pneumonia, and is almost over it. Weird to be glad about pneumonia, huh?

Well, to both of us, it was good news, compared to what it could have been. She is feeling much better, just finally having the n...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today has already started off extremly crazy. while actually i tell my story about last night first. i got a horrible migraine last night and i was given a new prescription to try out from my doc, for when i get migraines. so i took it like i was supposed to. it got rid of the migraine within half an hour but....

seachange · seachange

Edit Post | Quote | ReplySteps Four and Five Hi Everyone! I just want to share something of the process I am currently going through, in working another Step Four. It's been some years since I did the last one, so I picked up that Blueprint for Progress Workbook for Step Fou... >>

quest · quest

hi all, question wrt detachment. i used to react when my a drank, lied, did drugs... lately i have been kind and understanding it is a disease. and it is certainly better for me. i say things like, i am sorry you are having such a hard time... the question is - i wonder if i...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Hi my name is Angelnomore: My boyfriend who has been attending meeting since January has now reached his 90 days actually its over 100. We have broken up. He said he is not able to handle my emotional stuff and he is taking a break; I can call it whatever I want he said bre...

tippergirl · tippergirl

I went to a counselor for the first time iin 10+ years. The counselor handles depression issues which I am very depressed at the moment. He is a marriage counselor and also my husband's addiction counselor. So it was helpful because he has some background info and knows what has been going on lately. He...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, Well, the HP works in strange ways. I had a restless night Friday thinking about my A and him not wanting to come for the weekend. About running my race and how my A and I use to do these things together. Well, I got up early, early and drove to the race. I was not feeling confident. As we warmed up I ra...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Evryone))) Quick update ... On Friday afternoon I started thinking I could stay until after work Saturday, that's when I knew I had to leave immediately or I may not. So here I am with my dogs and a few clothes. I miss my cats, I miss my house, I wish I were finishing the gardening projects I ha...

debilyn · debilyn

I just wondered??? love,debilyn

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Thanks you all so much for your prayers and there still need!!!! My trip was painful, hard, but learned that i had dealt with how to deal with my alcoholic family when i am around them but not with my Husbands Alcoholic father but he is so different from my alcoholic parents that i forget that HE is a...

girlthing181 · girlthing181

last saturday my boyfriend of 8 years asked me to marry him. i had been wanting this for a very long time and accepted. this should be one of the happiest times of my life, instead i sit here crying as i write this. i have known he had issues with acohol for a few years. it was mil...

Becky1 · Becky1

My sweet little Mom, who will be 86 this Nov. has been having problems coughing a lot for a while now. Thought it was allergies. Went to Dr. for coughing, they took x-rays, now want her to come back in tomorrow (Mon.) to talk about them. I am scared to death. I live in Ohio and my Mom lives in K...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well things have took a complete turn around once again. my a told me last night that he cant stay sober, that he cant handle it. he has been 41 days sober. these days have been the best. but now he is just giving up. he was in an outpatient program and has been finished for a week. so the cravings started. he s...

tea2 · tea2

I am glad I recalled this link

A friend had passed this along to me awhile back.. I just sent it to a few others and thought it worth sharing here as well. If you wish turn your volume/speakers on -unless on the job, even then -hey they may enjoy too

http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wi...

WishingOnAStar · WishingOnAStar

Today has been a rough day. I don't know why I have been so hard on myself today. For some reason, I am doubting if what is going on is real, or if I am just thinking all of this to put the blame on him for ending the relationship. A way to justify things in my mind. But then the images of every single empty beer ca...

SingingLeaves · SingingLeaves

Norm gets up his hair is ragged, ties his shoes without a thought. He’s going to the seven-eleven can’t recall the night. who wants to anyway. There ain’t no changin norm. Norm is Norm ain’t Norm was Norm is afraid of that. Roque bloke you are ferrel in nature ...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Let Go Let God has been a confusing and challenging task for me. I'm still mastering it. I have felt conflicted with my feelings towards my "A". He says there is nothing for me to worry about with regards to him cheating on me, but don't most people say that even when its not true?&nbs...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My husband is in Jail for multiple Duis and he hung up on me this morning because he said he "doesn't have the energy for this" because I said he was being mean. SO I said "You think I do?'' and he said "F@#@ you!" and hung up on me. It just sucks because I cannot convince myself that I didnt do anything wrong in...

tippergirl · tippergirl

UGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! I can't take it anymore. My husband has been not that great a husband for the past two years. I am trying to be supportive as he goes through his recovery. The problem is that I have no support. He doesn't support me and can nver seem to give me what I need. I locked myself in the bathroom...

lilms · lilms

Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon Annie

roxie · roxie

Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...

Miranda · Miranda

I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...

lilms · lilms

I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it. My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both. I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family Group!! And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance. Yep I GOT HAD...

txmom · txmom

I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration. Thanks, Cedarpines Aca_rebel

confused · confused

Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about. Things are going...

Christy · Christy

I have the urge to write a grateful post :) 15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi Everyone~ I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest.

On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...

Barbara · Barbara

Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament. He said the most horrible things to me when we got home. I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep. He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	choice vs disease (Preview) sometimes i think it is a contradiction to think of a'ism as a disease while saying it is the a's choice to drink or not. if it is a disease and they are powerless over it, then isn't it not their choice? but yet we say they need to hit bottom and work the program steps and they need to make the cho...	quest	7	566	May 10, 2006 by horselover58
	Joy and hope (Preview) Good morning all. I know that many of us have difficulties and hardships that we are going through, some as a result of living with and/or dealing with the As in our lives, some just because it is actually just life. I have found, however, as a result of working the 12 steps and pracitcing thes...	kspear	5	550	May 10, 2006 by tippergirl
	He is getting meaner (Preview) My A and I had a good weekend...lotts of closeness and love, until yesterday. He called me at 3 and said he had been golfing all day with a friend. Then he said he was on his way to the state park to meet a friend and his GF to go fishing, THEN after that he was thinking of fishing with the friend he had been gol...	jennneeefffurrr	6	630	May 10, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	detaching and boundaries (Preview) I would like to start a discussion about detachment and boundaries. I believe there must be a subtle art to both, but I haven't figured it out. Several months ago I attempted to set my boundaries by providing my AH a list of expectations. There was nothing radical on the list simply that...	babysteps	7	572	May 10, 2006 by babysteps
	11am, is this day over yet? (Preview) It is 11am my time. And already we have lost the car, and I just found out that my grandfather has to have heart surgery. I that at 28, having my granfather still here is a blessing. But I am soooooooooo not ready to face the fact that he is getting older. And the thought of losing him. Not even something I t...	Dolphin123	8	596	May 10, 2006 by hudsond
	My Dad & Me (Preview) Today my Dad & Me smiled it was just a few minutes but it was good. I think this morning when I was so hysterical it was an awakening which led me to my Dad and some how I help him and he helped me. Regardless of how sad we both were it was good moment. Thank you HP and MIP Friends for the replies thei...	angelnomore	1	601	May 10, 2006 by Gailey
	when a friend has cancer (Preview) I just found our a friend of mine has cancer. She has pretty advanced cancer actually which says a lot about her level of self care because she did not go to a doctor for like 13 years. My caretaking is in high gear because of course I am in shock and when I am in shock, I caretake. I want to...	maresie	2	584	May 10, 2006 by Barbara
	doubting (Preview) I am new to Alanon...My husbands drinking seems to only effect me. He will come home 3 4 5 6 hours late. No one else is aware of this. When my daughter asks... I say he his out with friends. Sometimes I feel I am making this a problem If only I didn't care Why ca...	Elizabeth M	5	531	May 10, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	I won't take it anymore (Preview) I haven't posted in a while, thank those of you who were asking about me. As some of you know, I've made an attempt to work things out with my ex. The house was sold after the divorce, but the buyers backed out and we decided to try to stay and see if we could make thing work. I was waiting for her to get a new coun...	UncleLou	10	686	May 10, 2006 by maresie
	my co-dependency (Preview) The past couple days I've started to see my own co-dependency...I guess I've always saw myself as a independent person...but my view has quickly changed. I'm seeing how much I've become entwined in the life of my A. I've been very down on myself for not being how I use to be...(into music a...	jojo	5	597	May 10, 2006 by maresie
	my birthday (Preview) Unfortnuntely my other post about birthdays went awol and the only bit that showed up was at the end. My birthday is on Tuesday. This last year has been particularly difficult which is one reason I came to al-anon. I guess I had to hit a whole series of bottoms to get here. I make thi...	maresie	11	586	May 10, 2006 by maresie
	Question? Do you still care enough to make changes in your life? (Preview) I thought I would pose this question to all, new comers, and "oldsters" alike. I know for me I was always trying to change someone else's life, leaving mine on the back burner. This is what alcoholism did to me. I would constantly be trying to "fix" him change him to my way of living or thinking. I never tho...	gardengal	5	526	May 9, 2006 by tommyecat
	abuse & anger management (Preview) Hi its been quite some time since ive been here. but im in dire need of help. Im hoping at least one of you mite be able to help direct me to were i need to be. I grew up in a home with a father who was an A and was both physicly and mentaly abusive to my mother and I. mom seems to have came thru it ok after his death ( al...	scared	6	5200	May 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	Feeking a need to understand (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) Today I am feeling quite unsettled. I got a drunk dial call last night, asking me to come home because he was so lonely, then told he was in the kitchen by the refrigerator .... then the phone got cut off. I did not call back. He is lonely .... why am I worried about if he will have sex w...	Jennifer	4	595	May 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	Letting Go (Preview) I was cleaning up some old files on my computer this weekend. Spring cleaning. I came across this. It was saved in 2003, shortly after I started alanon. I have no idea where I got it from but I am sure I stole it fair and square. The concept of letting go was so difficul...	greta	2	649	May 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	trying to set boundaries this week (Preview) I was afraid to post what I am feeling today but it is eating at me. I need to do something now about my son staying in myguest house. Trial is over. Am I going to allow him to stay or make him go? I am fighting with it today. I know I have to do something because I am feeling so uncomfortable today with not doing a...	Gailey	3	629	May 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	HP, help me get through this morning (Preview) Its 200am Pacific Time, I’ve been crying since I put my head down on the pillow. What is about this time that winds me up? I’ve been crying hysterically now for about 3 hours. As soon as it’s 600 am I’m going to call him and ask him why do we have to do this? I don’t get it. The...	angelnomore	3	557	May 9, 2006 by Jerry F
	new to Al-anon (Preview) I am sure there are many out there with a story familiar to mine. I am 32 years old and I grew up with an alcoholic mother. As most families do, we never talked about the problem. My father worked out of town and was usually only home on the weekends. I have a older brother who was consider the troublesom...	iwishuheaven	7	611	May 9, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Fear (Preview) Fear has been so prevalent in my life. I fear confrontation, anger, what others think of me. This stems from growing up with a violent alcoholic father. If we stepped out of line, you could be murdered physically, verbally, and mentally. Trying to not bow down to others out of fear has debilated my life...	kissers	0	445	May 9, 2006 by kissers
	RE: Praying For A Miracle (Preview) (((((((((((((Hi Guys))))))))))))))))))))), Well thank you to all who responded to my post last night about the water in the gas tank. Last night after my "A" came back he went out and used, sigh, and came back a few hours later drunk and stoned. But oddly enough we had experienced some wonderful c...	Dolphin123	1	621	May 9, 2006 by Jennifer
	SOME day i will run out of addictions (Preview) this topic came up over the weekend for me..........boy it was on time............this weekend, i realized i have been running away from my pain.....................>>>>>>>>>>>>>>i	rosie light shines	1	418	May 9, 2006 by FormalWare
	serving of the papers (Preview) Hi all My computer and I have been out of commission for awhile, well I'm still not on the net so to speak accept when I get to this internet cafe. I have started the divorce proceeding and I am waiting for him to be served the papers, for the ti** to hit the fan. It's not like I haven't told him that I t...	whitie	7	561	May 9, 2006 by FormalWare
	Scared of the step where I need to make amends but could it be other person needs to come to me? (Preview) I want to skip over the 2 steps where I need to make amends. But could it be the other person needs to come to me to make amends? I am NOT ready to face my brother. Maybe before his trial end of July but who knows. Can I skip these steps, do the later steps and come back to these?	Barbara	1	406	May 9, 2006 by tippergirl
	Does anyone else do this-Isolation (Preview) do. ;     ; &n...	lilms	4	622	May 9, 2006 by gardengal
	Coming to terms with the truth (Preview) (((Hello Group))) Thanks for the support yesterday, i was really in a yucky place. I really meditated on some of the points each of you brought up. I needed to ask myself if I have been completely honest with myself and my feelings. This morning, my question to HP was did you bring...	twinmom2	2	489	May 9, 2006 by lebe27
	Praying for a Miracle (Preview) Hi all, Well as I shared in the meeting last night, my car broke down on the way to church. I was ok, My "A" said it could only be a few things that could have happened like a fuel filter or fuel pump replacement. Well today he came back from the car with a cup full of water that smelled like gas. Someone pou...	Dolphin123	5	574	May 9, 2006 by rtexas
	A great weekend (Preview) Hi everyone I am so truly grateful this morning. We had a great weekend! My Mom and Dad got here safely. My little guys communion went without a hitch, he looked so cute and it was a wonderful day. He looked like such a little man in his suit. My daughters softball tournament went well. They l...	Jeannie	3	461	May 9, 2006 by leo
	My Mom (Preview) Just talked to my Mom, and had the best news.....she had pneumonia, and is almost over it. Weird to be glad about pneumonia, huh? Well, to both of us, it was good news, compared to what it could have been. She is feeling much better, just finally having the n...	Becky1	5	458	May 9, 2006 by Karilynn
	aaaahhhhhhhhhhhh (Preview) today has already started off extremly crazy. while actually i tell my story about last night first. i got a horrible migraine last night and i was given a new prescription to try out from my doc, for when i get migraines. so i took it like i was supposed to. it got rid of the migraine within half an hour but....	notsonew1111	4	570	May 9, 2006 by nmike
	Steps Four and Five (Preview) Edit Post \| Quote \| ReplySteps Four and Five Hi Everyone! I just want to share something of the process I am currently going through, in working another Step Four. It's been some years since I did the last one, so I picked up that Blueprint for Progress Workbook for Step Fou... >>	seachange	3	595	May 9, 2006 by Barbara
	detachment - not sure if i am doing it right (Preview) hi all, question wrt detachment. i used to react when my a drank, lied, did drugs... lately i have been kind and understanding it is a disease. and it is certainly better for me. i say things like, i am sorry you are having such a hard time... the question is - i wonder if i...	quest	1	415	May 9, 2006 by abbyal
	I’M TERRIFIED (Preview) Hi my name is Angelnomore: My boyfriend who has been attending meeting since January has now reached his 90 days actually its over 100. We have broken up. He said he is not able to handle my emotional stuff and he is taking a break; I can call it whatever I want he said bre...	angelnomore	9	746	May 8, 2006 by angelnomore
	esh in crisis (Preview) I went to a counselor for the first time iin 10+ years. The counselor handles depression issues which I am very depressed at the moment. He is a marriage counselor and also my husband's addiction counselor. So it was helpful because he has some background info and knows what has been going on lately. He...	tippergirl	4	619	May 8, 2006 by quest
	update on my weekend (Preview) Hi all, Well, the HP works in strange ways. I had a restless night Friday thinking about my A and him not wanting to come for the weekend. About running my race and how my A and I use to do these things together. Well, I got up early, early and drove to the race. I was not feeling confident. As we warmed up I ra...	nmike	4	488	May 8, 2006 by megan
	One day at a time (Preview) Hello (((Evryone))) Quick update ... On Friday afternoon I started thinking I could stay until after work Saturday, that's when I knew I had to leave immediately or I may not. So here I am with my dogs and a few clothes. I miss my cats, I miss my house, I wish I were finishing the gardening projects I ha...	Jennifer	3	538	May 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	Uncle Lou where are you? (Preview) I just wondered??? love,debilyn	debilyn	6	486	May 8, 2006 by Jeannie
	I am back........ (Preview) Thanks you all so much for your prayers and there still need!!!! My trip was painful, hard, but learned that i had dealt with how to deal with my alcoholic family when i am around them but not with my Husbands Alcoholic father but he is so different from my alcoholic parents that i forget that HE is a...	bubbles1990	5	495	May 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	I really need advice (Preview) last saturday my boyfriend of 8 years asked me to marry him. i had been wanting this for a very long time and accepted. this should be one of the happiest times of my life, instead i sit here crying as i write this. i have known he had issues with acohol for a few years. it was mil...	girlthing181	9	587	May 8, 2006 by girlthing181
	Prayers for my Mom (Preview) My sweet little Mom, who will be 86 this Nov. has been having problems coughing a lot for a while now. Thought it was allergies. Went to Dr. for coughing, they took x-rays, now want her to come back in tomorrow (Mon.) to talk about them. I am scared to death. I live in Ohio and my Mom lives in K...	Becky1	14	669	May 8, 2006 by aunitedway
	need esh (Preview) well things have took a complete turn around once again. my a told me last night that he cant stay sober, that he cant handle it. he has been 41 days sober. these days have been the best. but now he is just giving up. he was in an outpatient program and has been finished for a week. so the cravings started. he s...	notsonew1111	10	750	May 8, 2006 by Juster
	happy thoughts (Preview) I am glad I recalled this link A friend had passed this along to me awhile back.. I just sent it to a few others and thought it worth sharing here as well. If you wish turn your volume/speakers on -unless on the job, even then -hey they may enjoy too http://www.llangley.com/yoga/wi...	tea2	2	536	May 8, 2006 by Maria123
	The images are still there, yet I am still doubting things (Preview) Today has been a rough day. I don't know why I have been so hard on myself today. For some reason, I am doubting if what is going on is real, or if I am just thinking all of this to put the blame on him for ending the relationship. A way to justify things in my mind. But then the images of every single empty beer ca...	WishingOnAStar	3	440	May 8, 2006 by Maria123
	Poem - There ain't no changin norm (Preview) Norm gets up his hair is ragged, ties his shoes without a thought. He’s going to the seven-eleven can’t recall the night. who wants to anyway. There ain’t no changin norm. Norm is Norm ain’t Norm was Norm is afraid of that. Roque bloke you are ferrel in nature ...	SingingLeaves	2	411	May 8, 2006 by peewee
	Letting go of my Fears... (Preview) Let Go Let God has been a confusing and challenging task for me. I'm still mastering it. I have felt conflicted with my feelings towards my "A". He says there is nothing for me to worry about with regards to him cheating on me, but don't most people say that even when its not true?&nbs...	twinmom2	5	637	May 8, 2006 by serendipity
	He hung up on me-feel so hopeless-need hope (Preview) My husband is in Jail for multiple Duis and he hung up on me this morning because he said he "doesn't have the energy for this" because I said he was being mean. SO I said "You think I do?'' and he said "F@#@ you!" and hung up on me. It just sucks because I cannot convince myself that I didnt do anything wrong in...	sarahlm	8	523	May 8, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	new and raw (Preview) UGGGGGGGHHHHHHH!!! I can't take it anymore. My husband has been not that great a husband for the past two years. I am trying to be supportive as he goes through his recovery. The problem is that I have no support. He doesn't support me and can nver seem to give me what I need. I locked myself in the bathroom...	tippergirl	7	694	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Motherinlaw Had a stroke (Preview) Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon Annie	lilms	5	418	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	HELP! (Preview) Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...	roxie	4	528	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Questions (Preview) I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...	Miranda	6	568	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	and what if they die (Preview) I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it. My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both. I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...	lilms	10	663	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	What tools are in your toolbox? (Preview) Good morning, all. Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...	kspear	1	860	May 8, 2006 by angel123
	No Guarantees!! (Preview) Aloha Family Group!! And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance. Yep I GOT HAD...	Jerry F	1	587	May 8, 2006 by tippergirl
	Public Amends (Preview) I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...	txmom	5	705	May 8, 2006 by leo
	short update (Preview) Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration. Thanks, Cedarpines Aca_rebel	cedarpines	13	658	May 7, 2006 by cedarpines
	hey everyone, missed you all (Preview) Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about. Things are going...	confused	1	449	May 7, 2006 by Ria
	15 months later in Alanon (Preview) I have the urge to write a grateful post :) 15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...	Christy	19	719	May 7, 2006 by sunny123
	Am I Crazy? (Preview) Hi Everyone~ I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...	SerenityGirl	6	573	May 7, 2006 by tippergirl
	New car, new boundaries (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest. On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...	Karilynn	6	587	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Good day - just returned home from being out all day (Preview) Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...	Barbara	4	469	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Rum & Diet = evil (Preview) He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament. He said the most horrible things to me when we got home. I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep. He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......	jennneeefffurrr	5	642	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
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