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lilms · lilms

Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon Annie

roxie · roxie

Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...

Miranda · Miranda

I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...

lilms · lilms

I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it. My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both. I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family Group!! And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance. Yep I GOT HAD...

txmom · txmom

I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration. Thanks, Cedarpines Aca_rebel

confused · confused

Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about. Things are going...

Christy · Christy

I have the urge to write a grateful post :) 15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi Everyone~ I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest.

On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...

Barbara · Barbara

Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament. He said the most horrible things to me when we got home. I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep. He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((((alanon family)))) I understand the meaning of these three words more right now than I ever have. I have said before on another post that thanks to Alanon I have recently realized that one of the reasons I have stayed in a bad marriage to my A is because I was afraid of the insanity of my family of o...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanon Friends, I am a mess today. I asked my sober AH to come for the weekend. He said he was golfing and couldn't make it. He said next weekend maybe. Then he told me how he was so busy this afternoon helping his neighbor prepare for a race tomorrow. I asked him last weekend too. He said he was too busy....

Maria123 · Maria123

You're my sunshine after the rain you're the cure against my fear and my pain 'cause im losing my mind when you're not around it's all . . . it's all because of you credit goes to 98 degrees God is the sunshine after my rain . . . This week's weather began with ominous clouds followed by three da...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Well today is 16 days of seperationn for my a hub. Today is also my 19th Wedding how crazy is that......Anyway, I am trying to remain strong, hub keeps calling, he's at his dad's house. He is recovering from surgery on his leg. This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do in my life. The proble...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I am not stupid. I found my A last night after mulitple attempts to contact him on his cell phone. He was in the American Legion, thankfully I knew a lady going in and asked her if she could get me in too. (need a key card to enter) She gladly obliged. I walked in and there sat my A, he look stunned to say the le...

Tammy · Tammy

I have been here nearly a year posting on this board reading everyone's post and relating it to my crazy life. I realized today, i am further along on the path of recovery than i give myself credit. During the last year, i have left and returned twice, once being gone for over a mont...

Barbara · Barbara

Is it a nearby lake, rock chasm, back yard deck? Im thinking mine this year is going to be the nearby dam/beach. Its less than .5mile from our house. My backyard neighbors have some type of wood cutting business maybe? They really trashed the place so the backyard is out. I do enjoy our front yard as it l...

serendipity · serendipity

the rehab that my a is in called this afternoon. in part because they won't be keeping him very long and were wondering about a discharge plan. i actually was caught so off guard that i think all i said was that the kids will be happy to know he is ok and we love him and care. she was telling me he was there as if i...

tigerseye · tigerseye

Tonight, I went to my first Friday night meeting, and stayed afterward to chat (which is fairly unusual for me). And...I just want to say thank you so much to those who were there. I haven't had SO MUCH JOY in my life for months, and it was such a huge blessing to me to laugh for so long, so absolutely sensele...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I was doing a little research this morning on the meanings of certain words. My question for myself was: when is it gossip vs. constructive criticism vs. inventory taking vs. opinion? First I'd like to share the meanings I found online (bear with me, some are long), then I'd like to share...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. I'm sitting here at my computer, having just made my first blog entry. I've been writing for as long as I can remember, especially when I am faced with something painful or difficult - or even sometimes when I am so full of joy I cannot find my voice to express myself. I have f...

Cyn · Cyn

Today is exactly 6 months that I broke up with my A - to me it doesnt feel that long. Sometimes it feels longer and that the time I spent with him was a dream and sometimes it feels somewhat shorter like I can still hear his voice. I know with him 6 months iapart is typical, a year is typical, 2 yea...

tigerseye · tigerseye

Hi, All. I'm looking for that list that someone (can't for the life of me remember who...maybe angel) referred to and copy/pasted into this morning's meeting. It was about rights and responsibilities... If anyone could post it in here, I'd really appreciate it. I had c/ped it and lost it....

Jennifer · Jennifer

Morning Everyone, err I guess it is afternoon, Well, where to begin .... With my zero tolerance boundary for lies that I set months ago and let slide little by little until last night. To make a long story short my A and I had an agreement about financial decisions, and in the last few days there were num...

WishingOnAStar · WishingOnAStar

I have never had to deal with alcoholism before, so this is entirely new to me, and confusing. My story goes like this.....14 years ago my boyfriend and I met at a mutual friend's party. We were both 14. We stayed together almost 3 years, but the relationship ended and 7 years went by...

Gailey · Gailey

as you saw in my prior post , charges were dropped when my A son went to court this morning. I prayed for my HP to accept His will for the outcome of this hearing. now, certain people at work are saying things like "that is not a good outcome for him, he is learning nothing from this experience". I sort of...

gardengal · gardengal

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I few days ago a topic was stated titled "Why are you here". I thought it was a great topic, I didn't take any offense to it, I believe I saw it for how it was meant to be seen. I read the responses and I got some out of them. I have been doing alot of thinking since I discovered last night th...

sparkette · sparkette

Tonights meeting had this as a topic. I was sitting down reading some Robert Frost tonight and came upon this poem that reminded me how easy it can be to keep things simple :O) You can always just rebalance the load :O) Love you all...enjoy! "The Armful" For every parcel I stoop down to seize I lose...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I have read alot of the stuff on the board the last couple of days. I took sometime away from it all for me. Took time off work to figure out what makes me Smile inside and out and wasn't feeling all that great. Happiness for me is being me being happy, perky, humble when wrong,&n...

luv123 · luv123

HUMOR IN RECOVERY When I take a look at the disease of alcoholism from the distance of years of detachment that my recovery has put between us, I can often have a good chuckle for myself. What a gift that is considering all the pain and suffering I once felt. When I see how someone goes from one alcoh...

kspear · kspear

Hello all, I love this program for so many reasons, today because I can come and share something difficult and know that somewhere in the rooms, someone has gone through something similar and can share ESH on it. My mom just emailed me the news from her doctor. About 1 year ago (almost to the d...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My A has had some major outbursts and rages the last two days and of course he blames me for his reactions and actions. Says if I didn't say that this way, or make a comment like this that way he wouldn't get so furious with me. Wednesday, I asked him to take the kids to school and I would fill his...

kspear · kspear

Thank you to everyone, I so appreciate all the prayers and sympathies and ESH with regards to my mother. I truly feel wrapped in the love of this program! Karen

debilyn · debilyn

Someone brought up to me something that made me want to share this. I have been here a very long time at mip. Along with growing in alanon I am growing in my spiritual life. You guys know I am not perfect. I am doing my best to be the best person I know how to be. I make mistakes. I hope you know that...

Juster · Juster

As I have said in prior posts, my problems do not seem very significant in consideration of what some of you go through. My AW and I are very close, probably very codependent, and together all of the time except during work. We commute together so I don't have to worry about her driving, I ca...

Gailey · Gailey

and his charges were dropped. I don't know if that is a good thing or not but I prayed that the outcome is God's will so I have to believe it is a good thing. Thanks everyone! Now I can go on with my plans and feel ok for today.

Barbara · Barbara

His restraining order is lifted. He's back to visiting my mother. She's back to enabling. My brother's mad at me for calling the cops when he violated his restraining order. Im ready to detach from the family. I want off the roller coaster.

Gailey · Gailey

In about 1 hour my son is going to court for a dui. He is very scared and I think that is a good thing. Last night he was full of anxiety because of all the footwork he was suppose to do in preparation for this hearing and did not do. Why??? Because he is an A and could only drink away his problems up until last nig...

Unsure · Unsure

I wanted to take the time to thank the board for allowing me to be me, for never judging the things that I did before Alanon, the things that I did to have acceptance, to be with someone, the low self-esteem that had me by the throat for years. But then I realized that someone could either like me for w...

serendipity · serendipity

last night i heard thru the grapevine that my ah went into rehab. but he still owes the rehab thousands from the last time....and they do not except dual diagnoses. which he is. my father is in the end stages of cancer. down to days i think. i am trying to be there for my dad as i am an only child. it's just me. s...

tkr · tkr

I have been searching for answers and sort of found it. brief history, married 16 yrs, together 24 yrs, no children, husband began cocaine use in 04, found out and he stopped in 5-31-05. no cocaine since, now occasionaly drinks, he moved out 12 days ago. had affair during dr...

Christy · Christy

Comes the Dawn After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promi...

Jay · Jay

Hi everyone, I joined Al-Anon about two months ago and have been going to weekly meetings. I'm feeling much better but I'm a bit stuck in terms of how to clean up a mess I got myself into. Here's the short version of my story. My relationship with my sister is what drove me into the program. Fo...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I remember trying to get involved with Alanon years ago, when my AH first got sober.I went to those meetings because I was told I had to or he would get better and I would stay sick.I wanted the marriage to work out so I went. I hated it.I sat there and listened to women tell horror stories of their lives wi...

sunny123 · sunny123

Hi Everyone, I just wanted to thank those who prayed for me to get through my finals in the midst of a crisis with my A. With the help and support I made it! I am currently staying with a dear friend. My therapist suggested that I leave our apartment ASAP. My A husband is requesting the separation a...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Maybe it is because everything I am doing right now is "new" to me, but I am feeling between a rock and hard place right now. It is the end of the school year and it looks like there is a possiblity my AW's possition may be eliminated, ok, well they may find something else for her as the...

canadianguy · canadianguy

We quite often read posts on hear referring to either really good OR really bad experiences that people have had at f2f Al-Anon meetings they have tried. Some feel immediately welcomed and loved - others feel shunned and judged. I'd like to offer my own personal experience, and then a...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I took some time to write down all my feelings about my A. I wrote him a letter, that I never intended to give him. I realized I do not need this BS existence. He stayed somewhere, God only knows where, with his friend ( I know this because the friends car is in his driveway ) and did well, I can guess tha...

Barbara · Barbara

coffee coffee and more coffee? Had a very hard time sleeping last night - besides my brother going for his pretrial today my boss is throwing even more changes my way. Some Im accepting easier than others. Some Im trying to adapt/rationalize/etc. Some Im trying to anticipate so they are less stressfu...

sarahlm · sarahlm

Hi, I am new and very confused. I used to go to Alanon and still talk to my sponsor periodically but I have decided I want to get better now and go to meetings again and do everything I can to stay connected. My A husband is in jail on multiple DUIs until at least September, probaby longer. My friend reminded...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this daily was for when we were still escaping through alcohol........this is the gist of what was shared When I was drinking, I always tried to build myself up. I used to "bs" people about myself. I told them so often i began to believe my own crap..... I used to hang around the lowbrow barr...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

since joining alanon I have tried to let my Hp take over, I finally let her face her own consequences & I think it finally worked. Last weekend was really rough but......My A has been sober 6 days now. I am hopeful.

Today is my 46th birthday and she is sober for the first time since I can't reme...

sas · sas

I was reading another post which started me thinking about something. I have some "issues" with my father-in-law. He lived with us for 7 months last year and is back again for another month. I have never really liked him much, but I love the man because he is family. He pick...

hudsond · hudsond

Went to church Sunday--preacher talked about letting stuff go, not carrying around our "baggage"--our perceived or even real hurts and disappointments, our troubles. He said that we should let it go, all that stuff just drags us down and makes it pretty impossible to really live life. ...

Faith73 · Faith73

Yesterday evening I stood in front of 20 people in my class and gave a presentation on Helen Keller. My biggest fear is public speaking.I do it anyway. I signed up to go first, so I wouldn't spend time feeling anxious while listening to others. I'm not sure if that was a wise decision. As I started to read m...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Motherinlaw Had a stroke (Preview) Am new and try and read everyday this stuff. My motherinlaw had a stroke on Wednesday and seems to be getting worse. So thank you for all of the amazing thoughts and advice I have seen on here in the last few days. Hope to get to more of it soon Annie	lilms	5	282	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	HELP! (Preview) Can someone explain how to get into the chat room? I can get onto the page but the chat space is a black void with a small x up in the corner. I don't have the option to chat live. Can anyone walk me through the process? Is there an option under tools/internet options that will hel...	roxie	4	361	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	Questions (Preview) I joined the Family Teens sight about a month or so ago. I just joined this one, and I'm trying to figure out how this all works. Are most of the people here dealing with alcoholics that are they're spouses, or children? I was just wondering because it's my dad who is the alcoholic and I've been trying to fi...	Miranda	6	352	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	and what if they die (Preview) I am new to this, not living with an A but talking about it. My stepdaughter is 27 and has used drugs and or alcohol for many many years, usually consuming both. I have been in her life for a little over six years and have seen more than I have time to say. Her Mom and I have lived together for...	lilms	10	516	May 8, 2006 by nycbt
	What tools are in your toolbox? (Preview) Good morning, all. Every once in a while I've found it's been helpful to me to look through my "toolbox" of things I've learned through the program. It gives me a bit of an inventory and reminds me what's in there for when situations arise. My sponsor at one point had me do it just as if I was...	kspear	1	672	May 8, 2006 by angel123
	No Guarantees!! (Preview) Aloha Family Group!! And thanks so much (Mahalo Nui) for the sharing and caring I have read before posting. I surely needed to come here and recenter because I got complacent and when sucked back into Alcoholic Personalities lost my serenity, perspective and balance. Yep I GOT HAD...	Jerry F	1	426	May 8, 2006 by tippergirl
	Public Amends (Preview) I made a huge mistake and hurt one of our MIP family this morning. In the chat room after the meeting there were several people sharing with one another. While I was concentrating on a conversation with a newcomer, a veteran of the room posted a plea for help. I completely missed it a...	txmom	5	534	May 8, 2006 by leo
	short update (Preview) Just got back from ER -had been to Doc earlier today -pray for healing from migraine, nauseu, dehydration. Thanks, Cedarpines Aca_rebel	cedarpines	13	520	May 7, 2006 by cedarpines
	hey everyone, missed you all (Preview) Been away for a little while. Took 68 8th grader's to Nature's Classroom for 5 days. What a great experience. My students got more out of the experience than I had even hoped for. I cannot wait to go to work tomorrow and see what they are still buzzing about. Things are going...	confused	1	296	May 7, 2006 by Ria
	15 months later in Alanon (Preview) I have the urge to write a grateful post :) 15 months ago I crawled in to MIP chat on my knees. I didn't think I could stand one more day of living with alcohol. Kismetstrand and Mastiff welcomed me with open arms and talked to me until 4:00 a.m. (I even laughed a little bit by the time I left and will be ete...	Christy	19	565	May 7, 2006 by sunny123
	Am I Crazy? (Preview) Hi Everyone~ I have had a lousy week. I am emotional this week for a few reasons. My alanon friend lost her boyfriend to this disease just over a week ago. My alcoholic boyfriend drank over it, which scares me. (He only had about a month sober...but still...) I came h...	SerenityGirl	6	423	May 7, 2006 by tippergirl
	New car, new boundaries (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Well it's been an exciting and exhausting week! This old woman with bifocals needs some rest. On Tuesday, hubby gave me a belated birthday present, by letting me redecorate the bathroom. We went to lunch, and then he said do what you want wi...	Karilynn	6	435	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Good day - just returned home from being out all day (Preview) Took today for myself to attend an Informed Women/Healthy Women seminar from 8-4. Then since I was up in the area I went to a mall and to my favorite store (Disney Store of course) also to Yankee Candle and bought more samplers (12 for $12). Returned home and husband was waiting for us. He had his friend ov...	Barbara	4	323	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Rum & Diet = evil (Preview) He was drinking again last night during the Euchre tournament. He said the most horrible things to me when we got home. I tried to tell myself it is the disease talking, it still cut deep. He said I dont turn him on anymore, he is not sure we are compatible, he does not know if he wants to be with me.......	jennneeefffurrr	5	453	May 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	experience,strength ,and hope (Preview) (((((alanon family)))) I understand the meaning of these three words more right now than I ever have. I have said before on another post that thanks to Alanon I have recently realized that one of the reasons I have stayed in a bad marriage to my A is because I was afraid of the insanity of my family of o...	drucilla06	3	410	May 7, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi Alanon Friends, I am a mess today. I asked my sober AH to come for the weekend. He said he was golfing and couldn't make it. He said next weekend maybe. Then he told me how he was so busy this afternoon helping his neighbor prepare for a race tomorrow. I asked him last weekend too. He said he was too busy....	nmike	6	423	May 7, 2006 by sweetums
	it's outta my hands (and I thank God it is) (Preview) You're my sunshine after the rain you're the cure against my fear and my pain 'cause im losing my mind when you're not around it's all . . . it's all because of you credit goes to 98 degrees God is the sunshine after my rain . . . This week's weather began with ominous clouds followed by three da...	Maria123	13	502	May 7, 2006 by bob6502
	Words of Wisdom Needed (Preview) Well today is 16 days of seperationn for my a hub. Today is also my 19th Wedding how crazy is that......Anyway, I am trying to remain strong, hub keeps calling, he's at his dad's house. He is recovering from surgery on his leg. This is the most difficult thing I have ever had to do in my life. The proble...	Andrea12	5	446	May 6, 2006 by sandie123
	He pulled me back in...and I know better (Preview) I am not stupid. I found my A last night after mulitple attempts to contact him on his cell phone. He was in the American Legion, thankfully I knew a lady going in and asked her if she could get me in too. (need a key card to enter) She gladly obliged. I walked in and there sat my A, he look stunned to say the le...	jennneeefffurrr	7	366	May 6, 2006 by isabela40
	And I laugh... (Preview) I have been here nearly a year posting on this board reading everyone's post and relating it to my crazy life. I realized today, i am further along on the path of recovery than i give myself credit. During the last year, i have left and returned twice, once being gone for over a mont...	Tammy	3	343	May 6, 2006 by Christy
	where is your place for serenity/ "happy place"? (Preview) Is it a nearby lake, rock chasm, back yard deck? Im thinking mine this year is going to be the nearby dam/beach. Its less than .5mile from our house. My backyard neighbors have some type of wood cutting business maybe? They really trashed the place so the backyard is out. I do enjoy our front yard as it l...	Barbara	7	455	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	suprise i changed! (Preview) the rehab that my a is in called this afternoon. in part because they won't be keeping him very long and were wondering about a discharge plan. i actually was caught so off guard that i think all i said was that the kids will be happy to know he is ok and we love him and care. she was telling me he was there as if i...	serendipity	2	433	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Joy (Preview) Tonight, I went to my first Friday night meeting, and stayed afterward to chat (which is fairly unusual for me). And...I just want to say thank you so much to those who were there. I haven't had SO MUCH JOY in my life for months, and it was such a huge blessing to me to laugh for so long, so absolutely sensele...	tigerseye	2	335	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	gossip/inventory/opinion/constructive criticism? (Preview) I was doing a little research this morning on the meanings of certain words. My question for myself was: when is it gossip vs. constructive criticism vs. inventory taking vs. opinion? First I'd like to share the meanings I found online (bear with me, some are long), then I'd like to share...	kismetstrand	4	586	May 6, 2006 by gardengal
	Written word (Preview) Good morning, all. I'm sitting here at my computer, having just made my first blog entry. I've been writing for as long as I can remember, especially when I am faced with something painful or difficult - or even sometimes when I am so full of joy I cannot find my voice to express myself. I have f...	kspear	1	273	May 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Taking inventory (Preview) Today is exactly 6 months that I broke up with my A - to me it doesnt feel that long. Sometimes it feels longer and that the time I spent with him was a dream and sometimes it feels somewhat shorter like I can still hear his voice. I know with him 6 months iapart is typical, a year is typical, 2 yea...	Cyn	5	337	May 5, 2006 by sandie123
	Looking for that awesome LIST that someone posted in the morning meeting. Help! (Preview) Hi, All. I'm looking for that list that someone (can't for the life of me remember who...maybe angel) referred to and copy/pasted into this morning's meeting. It was about rights and responsibilities... If anyone could post it in here, I'd really appreciate it. I had c/ped it and lost it....	tigerseye	3	357	May 5, 2006 by angel123
	I'm in my HP's hands now (Preview) Morning Everyone, err I guess it is afternoon, Well, where to begin .... With my zero tolerance boundary for lies that I set months ago and let slide little by little until last night. To make a long story short my A and I had an agreement about financial decisions, and in the last few days there were num...	Jennifer	4	326	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I'm new here and really could use help/support (Preview) I have never had to deal with alcoholism before, so this is entirely new to me, and confusing. My story goes like this.....14 years ago my boyfriend and I met at a mutual friend's party. We were both 14. We stayed together almost 3 years, but the relationship ended and 7 years went by...	WishingOnAStar	6	352	May 5, 2006 by WishingOnAStar
	not sure what to think (Preview) as you saw in my prior post , charges were dropped when my A son went to court this morning. I prayed for my HP to accept His will for the outcome of this hearing. now, certain people at work are saying things like "that is not a good outcome for him, he is learning nothing from this experience". I sort of...	Gailey	3	336	May 5, 2006 by lin0606
	Question? How do you let go of feelings of guilt for something that isnt your fault? (Preview)	gardengal	10	431	May 5, 2006 by abbyal
	Why I am here (Preview) Hello all, I few days ago a topic was stated titled "Why are you here". I thought it was a great topic, I didn't take any offense to it, I believe I saw it for how it was meant to be seen. I read the responses and I got some out of them. I have been doing alot of thinking since I discovered last night th...	Dolphin123	6	479	May 5, 2006 by tea2
	Keep it simple (Preview) Tonights meeting had this as a topic. I was sitting down reading some Robert Frost tonight and came upon this poem that reminded me how easy it can be to keep things simple :O) You can always just rebalance the load :O) Love you all...enjoy! "The Armful" For every parcel I stoop down to seize I lose...	sparkette	6	419	May 5, 2006 by peewee
	Trying to look at today not torrow (Preview) I have read alot of the stuff on the board the last couple of days. I took sometime away from it all for me. Took time off work to figure out what makes me Smile inside and out and wasn't feeling all that great. Happiness for me is being me being happy, perky, humble when wrong,&n...	angeleyes8462	1	412	May 5, 2006 by mebjk
	humor from distancing (Preview) HUMOR IN RECOVERY When I take a look at the disease of alcoholism from the distance of years of detachment that my recovery has put between us, I can often have a good chuckle for myself. What a gift that is considering all the pain and suffering I once felt. When I see how someone goes from one alcoh...	luv123	1	348	May 5, 2006 by Faith73
	Sad News (Preview) Hello all, I love this program for so many reasons, today because I can come and share something difficult and know that somewhere in the rooms, someone has gone through something similar and can share ESH on it. My mom just emailed me the news from her doctor. About 1 year ago (almost to the d...	kspear	22	628	May 5, 2006 by Ria
	Feeling bummed out today (Preview) My A has had some major outbursts and rages the last two days and of course he blames me for his reactions and actions. Says if I didn't say that this way, or make a comment like this that way he wouldn't get so furious with me. Wednesday, I asked him to take the kids to school and I would fill his...	twinmom2	6	347	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Thank you, a response to sad news (Preview) Thank you to everyone, I so appreciate all the prayers and sympathies and ESH with regards to my mother. I truly feel wrapped in the love of this program! Karen	kspear	1	498	May 5, 2006 by Ria
	some of me to you (Preview) Someone brought up to me something that made me want to share this. I have been here a very long time at mip. Along with growing in alanon I am growing in my spiritual life. You guys know I am not perfect. I am doing my best to be the best person I know how to be. I make mistakes. I hope you know that...	debilyn	7	436	May 5, 2006 by DanaAngel
	A little ESH Please (Preview) As I have said in prior posts, my problems do not seem very significant in consideration of what some of you go through. My AW and I are very close, probably very codependent, and together all of the time except during work. We commute together so I don't have to worry about her driving, I ca...	Juster	7	408	May 5, 2006 by Juster
	his trial is over already (Preview) and his charges were dropped. I don't know if that is a good thing or not but I prayed that the outcome is God's will so I have to believe it is a good thing. Thanks everyone! Now I can go on with my plans and feel ok for today.	Gailey	1	314	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	brother made it through his pretrial, trial sent for end of July (Preview) His restraining order is lifted. He's back to visiting my mother. She's back to enabling. My brother's mad at me for calling the cops when he violated his restraining order. Im ready to detach from the family. I want off the roller coaster.	Barbara	4	346	May 5, 2006 by Jeannie
	feeling a little scared this morning (Preview) In about 1 hour my son is going to court for a dui. He is very scared and I think that is a good thing. Last night he was full of anxiety because of all the footwork he was suppose to do in preparation for this hearing and did not do. Why??? Because he is an A and could only drink away his problems up until last nig...	Gailey	2	395	May 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	What To Do (Preview) I wanted to take the time to thank the board for allowing me to be me, for never judging the things that I did before Alanon, the things that I did to have acceptance, to be with someone, the low self-esteem that had me by the throat for years. But then I realized that someone could either like me for w...	Unsure	5	477	May 5, 2006 by Faith73
	rehab: take 2 (Preview) last night i heard thru the grapevine that my ah went into rehab. but he still owes the rehab thousands from the last time....and they do not except dual diagnoses. which he is. my father is in the end stages of cancer. down to days i think. i am trying to be there for my dad as i am an only child. it's just me. s...	serendipity	3	310	May 5, 2006 by debilyn
	new and confused. (Preview) I have been searching for answers and sort of found it. brief history, married 16 yrs, together 24 yrs, no children, husband began cocaine use in 04, found out and he stopped in 5-31-05. no cocaine since, now occasionaly drinks, he moved out 12 days ago. had affair during dr...	tkr	5	368	May 5, 2006 by debilyn
	ComesThe Dawn (Preview) Comes the Dawn After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning And company doesn't mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promi...	Christy	6	391	May 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	New to AlAnon, not sure what to do (Preview) Hi everyone, I joined Al-Anon about two months ago and have been going to weekly meetings. I'm feeling much better but I'm a bit stuck in terms of how to clean up a mess I got myself into. Here's the short version of my story. My relationship with my sister is what drove me into the program. Fo...	Jay	10	492	May 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Couldn't do it without Alanon..... (Preview) I remember trying to get involved with Alanon years ago, when my AH first got sober.I went to those meetings because I was told I had to or he would get better and I would stay sick.I wanted the marriage to work out so I went. I hated it.I sat there and listened to women tell horror stories of their lives wi...	drucilla06	3	335	May 5, 2006 by debilyn
	update (Preview) Hi Everyone, I just wanted to thank those who prayed for me to get through my finals in the midst of a crisis with my A. With the help and support I made it! I am currently staying with a dear friend. My therapist suggested that I leave our apartment ASAP. My A husband is requesting the separation a...	sunny123	3	314	May 5, 2006 by debilyn
	Projecting or Proactive (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Maybe it is because everything I am doing right now is "new" to me, but I am feeling between a rock and hard place right now. It is the end of the school year and it looks like there is a possiblity my AW's possition may be eliminated, ok, well they may find something else for her as the...	rtexas	7	408	May 5, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Support of f2f meetings... (Preview) We quite often read posts on hear referring to either really good OR really bad experiences that people have had at f2f Al-Anon meetings they have tried. Some feel immediately welcomed and loved - others feel shunned and judged. I'd like to offer my own personal experience, and then a...	canadianguy	7	527	May 5, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Calling It QUITS with my A (Preview) I took some time to write down all my feelings about my A. I wrote him a letter, that I never intended to give him. I realized I do not need this BS existence. He stayed somewhere, God only knows where, with his friend ( I know this because the friends car is in his driveway ) and did well, I can guess tha...	jennneeefffurrr	10	694	May 4, 2006 by isabela40
	how do you function after those sleepless nights? (Preview) coffee coffee and more coffee? Had a very hard time sleeping last night - besides my brother going for his pretrial today my boss is throwing even more changes my way. Some Im accepting easier than others. Some Im trying to adapt/rationalize/etc. Some Im trying to anticipate so they are less stressfu...	Barbara	4	325	May 4, 2006 by Maria123
	New to this board-husband in jail (Preview) Hi, I am new and very confused. I used to go to Alanon and still talk to my sponsor periodically but I have decided I want to get better now and go to meetings again and do everything I can to stay connected. My A husband is in jail on multiple DUIs until at least September, probaby longer. My friend reminded...	sarahlm	5	367	May 4, 2006 by abbyal
	what a diference the program can make (Preview) this daily was for when we were still escaping through alcohol........this is the gist of what was shared When I was drinking, I always tried to build myself up. I used to "bs" people about myself. I told them so often i began to believe my own crap..... I used to hang around the lowbrow barr...	rosie light shines	3	299	May 4, 2006 by sunny123
	bestest birthday ever today may 4th (Preview) since joining alanon I have tried to let my Hp take over, I finally let her face her own consequences & I think it finally worked. Last weekend was really rough but......My A has been sober 6 days now. I am hopeful. Today is my 46th birthday and she is sober for the first time since I can't reme...	hmrnrnmm	8	408	May 4, 2006 by Jennifer
	My Part In It (Preview) I was reading another post which started me thinking about something. I have some "issues" with my father-in-law. He lived with us for 7 months last year and is back again for another month. I have never really liked him much, but I love the man because he is family. He pick...	sas	2	488	May 4, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Letting Go (Preview) Went to church Sunday--preacher talked about letting stuff go, not carrying around our "baggage"--our perceived or even real hurts and disappointments, our troubles. He said that we should let it go, all that stuff just drags us down and makes it pretty impossible to really live life. ...	hudsond	4	342	May 4, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Walking thru the fear (Preview) Yesterday evening I stood in front of 20 people in my class and gave a presentation on Helen Keller. My biggest fear is public speaking.I do it anyway. I signed up to go first, so I wouldn't spend time feeling anxious while listening to others. I'm not sure if that was a wise decision. As I started to read m...	Faith73	13	605	May 4, 2006 by Faith73
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