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robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all~ I am just having a very tough, emotional day...so I thought I would write a bit. I went away with my 2 best girlfriends this weekend, had a wonderfully relaxing time...but the quiet made me do some thinking. I think when I got away from life, the hustle and bustle of the last month o...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Not exactly sure what happened yesterday...last night....this morning. I share this with you, my friends, to try to keep in check what is happening to me. I am drawing on the experience of those on this board in all of their differing stages of recovery. My hope is that SOME...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I just logged on and discovered a hoax personal message - the usual help me get millions of dollars out of my home country, for your help, I will deposit a large sum into your account. Don't fall for it, it is a scam. BTW, I was surprised to get it in my pm's I guess these crims infiltrate every...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, It has been a year since my AH moved. I still ask why. Why didn't I see it coming? Why am I so lonely and apparently he is not? Why won't he go to meetings? Why can't I move on? Why am I left behind in an isolated area? Why do I keep asking him to come home? And he said it is too isolated for him; that he need...

penny · penny

Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or ca...

Barbara · Barbara

They remind me that we dont have many friends or family

DrystaneDyke · DrystaneDyke

and found this forum by Googling "Al-Anon forum". I don't really know who you are or what you do or how it works. I only know that I need help to cope with my (very lovable) husband's alcoholism. Am I in the right place?

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison as I have posted about many times. I am so unsure how I feel. I have not spoken to him in 5 days as he is in reception now where there are no phones... I used to be soooooooo in love with this man. I mean, i would have done anything for him. Slowly, i have come to see how sick we are together. (...

QOD · QOD

My son (12-1/2 years old) went to karate class yesterday right after school. He has been wanting to come home first to spend time w/his dad (my AH). So it took me a bit by surprise that he made that choice. When I got home from work, my AH was laying in his recliner (slept all damn day). When I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I'm angry confused and need to vent ... any ESH would be appreciated. In the last few days for various reasons I have had contact with my AH who I filed for divorce from a week ago. In the last 3 days I have been told "I'm gonna get you back" "You keep my wedding ring we'll use them...

Tracys Mom · Tracys Mom

I just read the "Separated" string. I've been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. In some ways it doesn't get any better! At least it didn't for me. Well, not at first. It got real bad actually because I got so depressed when I least expected it. I thought I was gonna feel this huge...

New member · sandi

Hello, Not really sure how to begin so I'll just say hello and thank you for allowing me to join. I'm kind of lost with all of this. My AH has decided to quit drinking but it never really lasts, guess that's negative on my part. So I'm just trying to learn how not to be an enabler and what is the difference be...

shadow1 · shadow1

Well i think i really hit rock bottom this week. I felt like my life was totally out of control. I did something that i totally regret to a friend and it was taken the wrong way. I have tried to make amends but to no avail. When I hit rock bottom my AH was at home and we had a long chat. I told him that I was sorry t...

lin0606 · lin0606

I was at a roundup this weekend, and had an enlightening experience. There is a woman in our town whose husband is a recovering A, in AA. He has been sober for five or six years. She is not in alanon, yet she usually comes to the roundups and conventions, as a sort of social occasion. This is how I know he...

miamiave · miamiave

hello, this is the first time I am coming to this discussion board. My dry drunk mother died six months ago. I have no brothers or sisters and my parents were divorced....since her death, I very rarely if ever hear from the rest of the family (who are all alcoholic or dry drunks). Nobody has ever asked me h...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I have just been thinking alot the past couple of days....kids are with friends, had alot of time to actually look at my life.......I am hoping that I saw the answers to some things that have been bothering me. I know it's suppose to be one day at a time but, hub is going to anot...

nycbt · nycbt

i am going to be unable to run the meeting tom due to something coming up. Please can someone take my place and I will do it the next week. thanks becky

momofthree · momofthree

My A husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. My AH did not drink at all when we meet and married. I started drinking about 2 years ago. At first is was maybe a 6 pack a month and then ended up being a 12 pack a night. He was arrested last July for being drunk with a neighbo...

sunny123 · sunny123

My AH and I are separating in 2 days as he has requested. I have been suspicious that it was more than my coming down on the drinking that spurred this on. I believe it is a combination of factors. I figured that he was either having an affair or wanting to have an affair with someone. I confronted him and of c...

krise · krise

My husband (A) and I separated 3 months ago. It was a spur of the moment thing . . . another fight . . . well, more like a non-fight (I get upset and he hides in a shell) . . . but it ended with him saying that maybe I should go to my mother's house for a while. So, I left and haven't been back.&n...

serendipity · serendipity

today was my father's memorial service. it was perfect. we had a reception afterwards at his favorite resturant. he was a very popular loved man. the entire community cam to show their love. my kids were terrific. i had all of my friends there. i am such a lucky woman. to have had my father in my life and be...

Christy · Christy

If anyone's interested the site is at: www.rockisland.com/~castalia/friends.html I found this on the site..lots and lots of good stuff there, many links at bottom of page.. [url=http://www.rockisland.com/~cas...

angelnomore · angelnomore

I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART4 Dear Friends Yesterday, the A in my life told me that while on this break he realized that; he doesn’t have that kick in stomach feeling for me and he never has, also the lack of attention both emotional and physical that I been feeling fro...

MrBlue42 · MrBlue42

(((everyone)))

sandie123 · sandie123

I have been having a bad problem with my self confidence... well that has been going on all my life but I am realizing it more now. I am feeling very confused as to why someone would want to be my friend, why someone would be willing to spend their time sponsoring me. I don't feel I deserve it. There is a p...

leo · leo

Today has been a long one. My husband was late it has been raining all day very unusual for here and my gut instinct told me he was drinking. He did not answer my phone calls and my instinct was spot on. He rocks up with his friend and pretends he has not been drinking which always makes m...

Attention AOL Users · John

If you are using AOL as your internet provider, please read the post at the top of our message board and it will tell you what you need to do in order to be seen by other room members when you enter our chatroom. Your chatroom nickname needs to be registered with StarChat.net in order for AOL users to have...

jonniejane1314 · jonniejane1314

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

It is strange how making changes in ourselves and how we approach our A and our own shortcomings creates changes in our family, life, acquaintances, relationships. My A is still not living at home. I am just amazed at how much peace I am feeling with all of this. I find myself lookin...

debilyn · debilyn

Mil went to the "dark" side. lol I don't care one bit. She called and told friend that she does not want her or me doing anything now.Meth daughter came to her on her knees and begged her to give her another chance. Co that she is... uno the rest. Whatever. What do light and darkness have in common anywa...

Rita G · Rita G

Have you ever looked in the mirror and said: "God, I can't believe this is my Life" Prior to recovery everyday in my life, I remember looking in my mirror, trying to get ready for work, dark circles from no sleep, a night of worry, financial woes, fretting about my daughters, wond...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

If not for being able to come here and REALLY expose myself I would NEVER have gotten through the past several weeks.

I have been blessed with so many burdens and blessings, God led me here, I feel like I have grown more in the past few weeks than I had in my last 3...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((Family))))))))), One of you kind souls sent me the Alanon Bill of Rights. However my ancient computer couldn't print it out. Can someone PM me with it, or reprint it here? It is really good and I think it would be helpful to others. Thank you. Love and blessings t...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

What is the trick to keep moving forward in recovery? We may not be able to stop it completely, but maybe we can stop crashing backwards and slow the fall. I found this saying in my readings... BACKSLIDING BEGINS, WHEN KNEE-BENDING STOPS so if we remember to use our higher po...

Barbara · Barbara

I need to hear more about how to actively live with an alcoholic husband. Not how to shift the focus onto myself. How to connect to my husband, live with him happily, etc. I need to be told to spend time with my husband, join my husband & son when they fish, hang out on the deck with him and his friends (ev...

debilyn · debilyn

I got a horrible call first thing this morn. Mil's sister, who I have never met, was very rude to me. Telling me I was NOT part of the family and to BACK OFF. All I did was call and leave a message that mil had no cloths at the nursing home, and that mil's friend tried to go to the house to get some and mil's meth...

megan · megan

Thursday night my best friend and I got our butterfly pin in a celebration ceremony put on by our home group of alanon. This pin was given to us for our one year anniversary in alanon. The ceremony had an alanon speaker and an AA speaker and plenty of refreshments. The butterfly story w...

Emafer · Emafer

Lately I feel like everyone has permission to express thier feelings, to have excuses for their actions to have a free pass to do as they please whithout suffering the consequences, except ME. I feel like any time I express myself or just in general live my life, I can't turn around without getting hit....

Lanchas · Lanchas

I just realized I have been on this board for a total of 1 year, 2 months, 3 weeks, and 1 day! I've learned some things but I still have lots to learn. Lanchas

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((hello friends)))) These past two days have been insane....hub checked out of the hospital yesterday. I picked him up and tok him to his dads.....hub was really out of it...I was worried but, left there to deal with it. Then he jut kept calling, he was telling me I have to get out of here....he doe...

Barbara · Barbara

People are always telling me "you have to relax!" Ive gotten back into reading fiction books, walk 30mins before work, 30mins after work, play catch w/DS most weeknights. This weekend with the nice weather finally coming Im planning on taking my book, my chair and myself to a nearby lake and just si...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

"It's not how many times you breathe in your life time, it is the number of times your life takes your breath away" Are you doing special things in your life to allow to enjoy life enough to take your breath away? Finding serenity and keeping it, is one way to ensure that you never lose one of these mome...

AlaMom · AlaMom

It seems like forever since I have posted to this board or for that matter getting to a meeting. I certainly feel the difference in myself. Between computer problems, kids activities, and life in general, I have found very little time for myself. But I have found that there is hope...

Scota · Scota

Hey-

I just joined up as wggk but decided to change it scota b/c my A. hubby is familiar with wggk and don't want him to go snooping and read my posts in case I leave this screen up by accident. Wendy

angel123 · angel123

Alanon co-founder Lois Lois would have bin 99years young on March 4'1990 She died Oct.5,1988 If she was still alive today she would have bin 115years old Her life story has opened many doors for us.As I grew in AlAnon.I reserched manythings.I was interested in.Where Alanon started...In my reserc...

serendipity · serendipity

my ah just called. haven't spoken with him in a week. he has left messages but never called back. so he calls today. and i really let him have it. i didn't scream but i did tell him that he is a horrible person and i don't care if he has a disease or a mental illness. what he has done can never be undone. i told him...

hudsond · hudsond

Well today was the last day of school for me--yeah! Summer is officially here for me. I am not teaching summer school, so I can take some me time. I will not be posting or getting online as much since I do all of that at school--I don't have internet access at home. That may have t...

angel123 · angel123

I once posted about a skit we did at our convention and our aniversary party of Alanon,Found the words wanted to share..... *sung to the tune "I heard it through the Grapevine"(the california Raisins song) Ooh ooh I bet you wonder how I knew bout the trips to get your booze All those nights I w...

angel123 · angel123

Begining each day with one day at a time. Today my computor net was down so I was sitting here with foot in cast tring ,to stay put for I can not walk on it.Patiences is the key word for me.I thought how the ODAT book One day at a time is looking so old.But it does show I use it often.Turning to pages I spend valua...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I think I'm due for a break from the hum drum routine, the A, and the kids. Some days I want to get in my car and travel to a remote beach area, check into a hotel and just relax for two whole days. I could use a week honestly, who couldn't right?

I hate to admit this to myself much less...

Gailey · Gailey

can someone please share what this slogan means. It is not one that I understand.

debilyn · debilyn

I was just thinking how i have NO expectations from my A. If I cannot accept him as is, then it is not being fair to him. I don't control him. I don't control anyone. I watch and see how they are and then if I can be around them fine. If not, then I don't. My sil is the meth user. She is real nice when she wants s...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi roomies, I have been feeling really down all week. Then I went to my sons dance class. He is four and loves to dance. There big show was last saturday today was there last class for the year. There was a little girl there her father used to take her to every class. Tod...

sarahlm · sarahlm

Allright, so my AH cant contact me for awhile in Prison. Its been 2 days and I am already freaked. My fridge broke this morning, my printer is out of ink, Im afraid to get the mail because of bills, my registration is due and car insurance, I cant get approved to visit him til I pay off an old $500 traffic tick...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I started off today feeling very productive and like I had regained some of my dignity and my mental and emotional state were starting to return to "normal". As the day has gone on, I have become very emotional about my A. I have re-read my posts and I see agony, fear, desperation, anger, strength an...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Well, it seems the 1st impressions of me are not so good in the place I found to try to get support. I felt a need to work them out as I felt after effects from reaching out in a time of panic and desperation coming back to haunt me. I had wanted clarity in case I was misinterpreted when I was in such awful crisis...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Today, is my father’s 81’st B-day, it didn’t think he would be here; I’m Thankful to God, Thank you Lord. I’m trying to stay focus on his care and my goal/boundaries of not speaking to the A in my life, as he needs a break, he said maybe in two weeks we can talk which will be June 5th (what the point...

sarahlm · sarahlm

I called a friend who is very grownup (the responsible kind of ACoA) and he bought me a new fridge at Best Buy (open box-total $400!) and I am going to pay it back in installments. He came over before we went and cleaned the dog poop for me while I got ready for work (and scolded her for me-I cant do it very well...

jecy · jecy

the last few days have been rough, but i have to say thank you all for listening. i have found peace in saying how i feel and not being made to feel guilty for feeling that way. mind you i'm on my first step and it seems 20 feet high. but i am sitting on top of it and it's only the begining. tomorrow's another day...

wggk · wggk

Hi, I just joined this message board the other day, thought I'd post an intro. I've already posted in the ACA board as well. I am married to an A, for 13 years now. Hubby is getting worse, so of course I am feeling more and more desperate. Right now I'd like nothing more to just end this marraige b...

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	Hard choices...Big cries (Preview) Hi all~ I am just having a very tough, emotional day...so I thought I would write a bit. I went away with my 2 best girlfriends this weekend, had a wonderfully relaxing time...but the quiet made me do some thinking. I think when I got away from life, the hustle and bustle of the last month o...	robyn76	4	352	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	OH MY.... (Preview) Not exactly sure what happened yesterday...last night....this morning. I share this with you, my friends, to try to keep in check what is happening to me. I am drawing on the experience of those on this board in all of their differing stages of recovery. My hope is that SOME...	Jennfer32	3	325	May 30, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Beware hoax email... (Preview) Hi! I just logged on and discovered a hoax personal message - the usual help me get millions of dollars out of my home country, for your help, I will deposit a large sum into your account. Don't fall for it, it is a scam. BTW, I was surprised to get it in my pm's I guess these crims infiltrate every...	Feather	4	391	May 30, 2006 by rosie light shines
	I ask too many questions (Preview) Hi all, It has been a year since my AH moved. I still ask why. Why didn't I see it coming? Why am I so lonely and apparently he is not? Why won't he go to meetings? Why can't I move on? Why am I left behind in an isolated area? Why do I keep asking him to come home? And he said it is too isolated for him; that he need...	nmike	3	337	May 30, 2006 by canadianguy
	Being strong (Preview) Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or ca...	penny	3	301	May 30, 2006 by Dolphin123
	holidays are bad times (Preview) They remind me that we dont have many friends or family	Barbara	6	360	May 30, 2006 by Hopefloats
	I'm new (Preview) and found this forum by Googling "Al-Anon forum". I don't really know who you are or what you do or how it works. I only know that I need help to cope with my (very lovable) husband's alcoholism. Am I in the right place?	DrystaneDyke	7	350	May 30, 2006 by DrystaneDyke
	Dont know if I love him anymore/sponsor not calling back (Preview) My AH is in prison as I have posted about many times. I am so unsure how I feel. I have not spoken to him in 5 days as he is in reception now where there are no phones... I used to be soooooooo in love with this man. I mean, i would have done anything for him. Slowly, i have come to see how sick we are together. (...	sarahlm	4	353	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	The Tension Finally Exploded! (Preview) My son (12-1/2 years old) went to karate class yesterday right after school. He has been wanting to come home first to spend time w/his dad (my AH). So it took me a bit by surprise that he made that choice. When I got home from work, my AH was laying in his recliner (slept all damn day). When I...	QOD	10	394	May 30, 2006 by QOD
	Confusion vent (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I'm angry confused and need to vent ... any ESH would be appreciated. In the last few days for various reasons I have had contact with my AH who I filed for divorce from a week ago. In the last 3 days I have been told "I'm gonna get you back" "You keep my wedding ring we'll use them...	Jennifer	5	354	May 30, 2006 by canadianguy
	Divorced - But he's relapsing (Preview) I just read the "Separated" string. I've been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. In some ways it doesn't get any better! At least it didn't for me. Well, not at first. It got real bad actually because I got so depressed when I least expected it. I thought I was gonna feel this huge...	Tracys Mom	3	406	May 30, 2006 by gardengal
	New member (Preview) Hello, Not really sure how to begin so I'll just say hello and thank you for allowing me to join. I'm kind of lost with all of this. My AH has decided to quit drinking but it never really lasts, guess that's negative on my part. So I'm just trying to learn how not to be an enabler and what is the difference be...	sandi	4	312	May 30, 2006 by sandi
	Things are looking up (Preview) Well i think i really hit rock bottom this week. I felt like my life was totally out of control. I did something that i totally regret to a friend and it was taken the wrong way. I have tried to make amends but to no avail. When I hit rock bottom my AH was at home and we had a long chat. I told him that I was sorry t...	shadow1	1	323	May 30, 2006 by nmike
	Why I Need Program (Preview) I was at a roundup this weekend, and had an enlightening experience. There is a woman in our town whose husband is a recovering A, in AA. He has been sober for five or six years. She is not in alanon, yet she usually comes to the roundups and conventions, as a sort of social occasion. This is how I know he...	lin0606	4	380	May 30, 2006 by abbyal
	mother died 6 months ago (Preview) hello, this is the first time I am coming to this discussion board. My dry drunk mother died six months ago. I have no brothers or sisters and my parents were divorced....since her death, I very rarely if ever hear from the rest of the family (who are all alcoholic or dry drunks). Nobody has ever asked me h...	miamiave	6	546	May 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Thinking (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I have just been thinking alot the past couple of days....kids are with friends, had alot of time to actually look at my life.......I am hoping that I saw the answers to some things that have been bothering me. I know it's suppose to be one day at a time but, hub is going to anot...	Andrea12	4	319	May 29, 2006 by maresie2
	need coverage for may 30 tuesday (Preview) i am going to be unable to run the meeting tom due to something coming up. Please can someone take my place and I will do it the next week. thanks becky	nycbt	1	293	May 29, 2006 by tea2
	I am new. Advice needed. (Preview) My A husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. My AH did not drink at all when we meet and married. I started drinking about 2 years ago. At first is was maybe a 6 pack a month and then ended up being a 12 pack a night. He was arrested last July for being drunk with a neighbo...	momofthree	10	413	May 29, 2006 by nycbt
	Snooping and Venting (Preview) My AH and I are separating in 2 days as he has requested. I have been suspicious that it was more than my coming down on the drinking that spurred this on. I believe it is a combination of factors. I figured that he was either having an affair or wanting to have an affair with someone. I confronted him and of c...	sunny123	6	558	May 29, 2006 by aunitedway
	Separated (Preview) My husband (A) and I separated 3 months ago. It was a spur of the moment thing . . . another fight . . . well, more like a non-fight (I get upset and he hides in a shell) . . . but it ended with him saying that maybe I should go to my mother's house for a while. So, I left and haven't been back.&n...	krise	6	337	May 29, 2006 by Jennfer32
	i don't want to (Preview) today was my father's memorial service. it was perfect. we had a reception afterwards at his favorite resturant. he was a very popular loved man. the entire community cam to show their love. my kids were terrific. i had all of my friends there. i am such a lucky woman. to have had my father in my life and be...	serendipity	3	305	May 29, 2006 by Maria123
	Came across awesome site while surfing.. (Preview) If anyone's interested the site is at: www.rockisland.com/~castalia/friends.html I found this on the site..lots and lots of good stuff there, many links at bottom of page.. [url=http://www.rockisland.com/~cas...	Christy	4	420	May 28, 2006 by marmare
	I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART4 (Preview) I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART4 Dear Friends Yesterday, the A in my life told me that while on this break he realized that; he doesn’t have that kick in stomach feeling for me and he never has, also the lack of attention both emotional and physical that I been feeling fro...	angelnomore	5	337	May 28, 2006 by nmike
	New Server (Preview) (((everyone)))	MrBlue42	3	331	May 28, 2006 by kismetstrand
	self confidence (Preview) I have been having a bad problem with my self confidence... well that has been going on all my life but I am realizing it more now. I am feeling very confused as to why someone would want to be my friend, why someone would be willing to spend their time sponsoring me. I don't feel I deserve it. There is a p...	sandie123	2	312	May 28, 2006 by canadianguy
	gut instinct (Preview) Today has been a long one. My husband was late it has been raining all day very unusual for here and my gut instinct told me he was drinking. He did not answer my phone calls and my instinct was spot on. He rocks up with his friend and pretends he has not been drinking which always makes m...	leo	9	653	May 28, 2006 by canadianguy
	Attention AOL Users (Preview) If you are using AOL as your internet provider, please read the post at the top of our message board and it will tell you what you need to do in order to be seen by other room members when you enter our chatroom. Your chatroom nickname needs to be registered with StarChat.net in order for AOL users to have...	John	0	314	May 28, 2006 by John
	hello im jonnie (Preview)	jonniejane1314	5	346	May 28, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Strange... (Preview) It is strange how making changes in ourselves and how we approach our A and our own shortcomings creates changes in our family, life, acquaintances, relationships. My A is still not living at home. I am just amazed at how much peace I am feeling with all of this. I find myself lookin...	Jennfer32	2	262	May 28, 2006 by sandie123
	typical (Preview) Mil went to the "dark" side. lol I don't care one bit. She called and told friend that she does not want her or me doing anything now.Meth daughter came to her on her knees and begged her to give her another chance. Co that she is... uno the rest. Whatever. What do light and darkness have in common anywa...	debilyn	0	241	May 28, 2006 by debilyn
	God, I can't believe this is my Life (Preview) Have you ever looked in the mirror and said: "God, I can't believe this is my Life" Prior to recovery everyday in my life, I remember looking in my mirror, trying to get ready for work, dark circles from no sleep, a night of worry, financial woes, fretting about my daughters, wond...	Rita G	6	367	May 27, 2006 by lonely girl
	feeling SO much better! TY all and TY God (Preview) If not for being able to come here and REALLY expose myself I would NEVER have gotten through the past several weeks. I have been blessed with so many burdens and blessings, God led me here, I feel like I have grown more in the past few weeks than I had in my last 3...	jennneeefffurrr	7	398	May 27, 2006 by whitie
	Bill of rights (Preview) (((((((((((((Family))))))))), One of you kind souls sent me the Alanon Bill of Rights. However my ancient computer couldn't print it out. Can someone PM me with it, or reprint it here? It is really good and I think it would be helpful to others. Thank you. Love and blessings t...	Karilynn	5	2991	May 27, 2006 by d53sjurne
	how to stop 2 steps forward, 3 steps back (Preview) What is the trick to keep moving forward in recovery? We may not be able to stop it completely, but maybe we can stop crashing backwards and slow the fall. I found this saying in my readings... BACKSLIDING BEGINS, WHEN KNEE-BENDING STOPS so if we remember to use our higher po...	jrtjosey	7	694	May 27, 2006 by Andrea12
	seems we really dont hear much about how to live with the A but more on how to focus on ourselves (Preview) I need to hear more about how to actively live with an alcoholic husband. Not how to shift the focus onto myself. How to connect to my husband, live with him happily, etc. I need to be told to spend time with my husband, join my husband & son when they fish, hang out on the deck with him and his friends (ev...	Barbara	7	381	May 27, 2006 by Tiger2006
	do u relate? (Preview) I got a horrible call first thing this morn. Mil's sister, who I have never met, was very rude to me. Telling me I was NOT part of the family and to BACK OFF. All I did was call and leave a message that mil had no cloths at the nursing home, and that mil's friend tried to go to the house to get some and mil's meth...	debilyn	4	347	May 27, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Butterfly pin for 1 year in alanon (Preview) Thursday night my best friend and I got our butterfly pin in a celebration ceremony put on by our home group of alanon. This pin was given to us for our one year anniversary in alanon. The ceremony had an alanon speaker and an AA speaker and plenty of refreshments. The butterfly story w...	megan	17	1165	May 27, 2006 by Faith73
	When is it MY turn??? (Preview) Lately I feel like everyone has permission to express thier feelings, to have excuses for their actions to have a free pass to do as they please whithout suffering the consequences, except ME. I feel like any time I express myself or just in general live my life, I can't turn around without getting hit....	Emafer	8	379	May 27, 2006 by Karilynn
	Time (Preview) I just realized I have been on this board for a total of 1 year, 2 months, 3 weeks, and 1 day! I've learned some things but I still have lots to learn. Lanchas	Lanchas	2	253	May 27, 2006 by Maria123
	Two days of insanity (Preview) (((hello friends)))) These past two days have been insane....hub checked out of the hospital yesterday. I picked him up and tok him to his dads.....hub was really out of it...I was worried but, left there to deal with it. Then he jut kept calling, he was telling me I have to get out of here....he doe...	Andrea12	8	358	May 27, 2006 by mel123
	Relax relax - how do you relax? (Preview) People are always telling me "you have to relax!" Ive gotten back into reading fiction books, walk 30mins before work, 30mins after work, play catch w/DS most weeknights. This weekend with the nice weather finally coming Im planning on taking my book, my chair and myself to a nearby lake and just si...	Barbara	5	318	May 26, 2006 by whitie
	breathing (Preview) "It's not how many times you breathe in your life time, it is the number of times your life takes your breath away" Are you doing special things in your life to allow to enjoy life enough to take your breath away? Finding serenity and keeping it, is one way to ensure that you never lose one of these mome...	jrtjosey	8	342	May 26, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Taking time for self... (Preview) It seems like forever since I have posted to this board or for that matter getting to a meeting. I certainly feel the difference in myself. Between computer problems, kids activities, and life in general, I have found very little time for myself. But I have found that there is hope...	AlaMom	5	351	May 26, 2006 by Tracys Mom
	name change- but still me (Preview) Hey- I just joined up as wggk but decided to change it scota b/c my A. hubby is familiar with wggk and don't want him to go snooping and read my posts in case I leave this screen up by accident. Wendy	Scota	4	391	May 26, 2006 by Scota
	memory of our Lois (Preview) Alanon co-founder Lois Lois would have bin 99years young on March 4'1990 She died Oct.5,1988 If she was still alive today she would have bin 115years old Her life story has opened many doors for us.As I grew in AlAnon.I reserched manythings.I was interested in.Where Alanon started...In my reserc...	angel123	0	285	May 26, 2006 by angel123
	whoops (Preview) my ah just called. haven't spoken with him in a week. he has left messages but never called back. so he calls today. and i really let him have it. i didn't scream but i did tell him that he is a horrible person and i don't care if he has a disease or a mental illness. what he has done can never be undone. i told him...	serendipity	6	286	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Summer is here (Preview) Well today was the last day of school for me--yeah! Summer is officially here for me. I am not teaching summer school, so I can take some me time. I will not be posting or getting online as much since I do all of that at school--I don't have internet access at home. That may have t...	hudsond	0	223	May 26, 2006 by hudsond
	lifeline (Preview) I once posted about a skit we did at our convention and our aniversary party of Alanon,Found the words wanted to share..... *sung to the tune "I heard it through the Grapevine"(the california Raisins song) Ooh ooh I bet you wonder how I knew bout the trips to get your booze All those nights I w...	angel123	2	285	May 26, 2006 by Juster
	ODAT (Preview) Begining each day with one day at a time. Today my computor net was down so I was sitting here with foot in cast tring ,to stay put for I can not walk on it.Patiences is the key word for me.I thought how the ODAT book One day at a time is looking so old.But it does show I use it often.Turning to pages I spend valua...	angel123	1	318	May 26, 2006 by toto12
	Need a break and having anxiety over it. (Preview) I think I'm due for a break from the hum drum routine, the A, and the kids. Some days I want to get in my car and travel to a remote beach area, check into a hotel and just relax for two whole days. I could use a week honestly, who couldn't right? I hate to admit this to myself much less...	twinmom2	4	326	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	the next best thing!!! (Preview) can someone please share what this slogan means. It is not one that I understand.	Gailey	5	342	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	expectations, my experience (Preview) I was just thinking how i have NO expectations from my A. If I cannot accept him as is, then it is not being fair to him. I don't control him. I don't control anyone. I watch and see how they are and then if I can be around them fine. If not, then I don't. My sil is the meth user. She is real nice when she wants s...	debilyn	5	325	May 26, 2006 by QOD
	feeling better (Preview) Hi roomies, I have been feeling really down all week. Then I went to my sons dance class. He is four and loves to dance. There big show was last saturday today was there last class for the year. There was a little girl there her father used to take her to every class. Tod...	nikkilou	2	263	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	In fear-dont know how to do "grownup" stuff (Preview) Allright, so my AH cant contact me for awhile in Prison. Its been 2 days and I am already freaked. My fridge broke this morning, my printer is out of ink, Im afraid to get the mail because of bills, my registration is due and car insurance, I cant get approved to visit him til I pay off an old $500 traffic tick...	sarahlm	4	347	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	5 minutes at a time (Preview) I started off today feeling very productive and like I had regained some of my dignity and my mental and emotional state were starting to return to "normal". As the day has gone on, I have become very emotional about my A. I have re-read my posts and I see agony, fear, desperation, anger, strength an...	jennneeefffurrr	7	296	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Prayers and Blessings to All (Preview) Well, it seems the 1st impressions of me are not so good in the place I found to try to get support. I felt a need to work them out as I felt after effects from reaching out in a time of panic and desperation coming back to haunt me. I had wanted clarity in case I was misinterpreted when I was in such awful crisis...	d53sjurne	4	430	May 26, 2006 by d53sjurne
	I DON’T KNOW HOW it’s evolved to this PART 3 (Preview) Today, is my father’s 81’st B-day, it didn’t think he would be here; I’m Thankful to God, Thank you Lord. I’m trying to stay focus on his care and my goal/boundaries of not speaking to the A in my life, as he needs a break, he said maybe in two weeks we can talk which will be June 5th (what the point...	angelnomore	3	339	May 26, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Update on being a grownup and thanks for being here (Preview) I called a friend who is very grownup (the responsible kind of ACoA) and he bought me a new fridge at Best Buy (open box-total $400!) and I am going to pay it back in installments. He came over before we went and cleaned the dog poop for me while I got ready for work (and scolded her for me-I cant do it very well...	sarahlm	4	317	May 26, 2006 by QOD
	making ground (Preview) the last few days have been rough, but i have to say thank you all for listening. i have found peace in saying how i feel and not being made to feel guilty for feeling that way. mind you i'm on my first step and it seems 20 feet high. but i am sitting on top of it and it's only the begining. tomorrow's another day...	jecy	2	247	May 26, 2006 by wggk
	Hi-newbie (Preview) Hi, I just joined this message board the other day, thought I'd post an intro. I've already posted in the ACA board as well. I am married to an A, for 13 years now. Hubby is getting worse, so of course I am feeling more and more desperate. Right now I'd like nothing more to just end this marraige b...	wggk	10	433	May 26, 2006 by wggk
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