Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Having a hard time understanding this program....I have to change...I have to become this perfect compasionate calm caring person who sees the glass half full and sees the A as a person who can't help himself(poor him)..Really struggling with how I am suppose to respond(not react) st...

debilyn · debilyn

I decided not to write then changed my mind. A called me collect from jail. Told him what was happening with his family. Then he got on how he did not know what he would do when he got out. I replied, "it is totally up to you." He comes back with, "My options are very limited." I told him we have been togeth...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Just thinking about a couple of "aha" moments in my recovery, kind of 'lines in the sand' that are memories, and perhaps stepping stones for me finally "getting it" and moving towards a healthier life for me.... 1. Blame - I was at a family conference at my ex-wife's treatment center, and was talking...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK I have had several respond interested in the "Pen Pal Club"...could everyone do me a HUGE favor and PLEASE send me an email with your info: real full name "snail mail" address birthday (optional) AlAnon anniversary date (optional) any other info please email THIS info to: &nb...

Little Lisa · Little Lisa

Well, it took me 43 years to get here and honestly I don't quite know where "here" is or if it's where I need to be. There is so much to say...I feel like I am opening a can of worms, but, I don't know that I can continue this balancing act much longer. I have been depressed since high school, on anti...

rio · rio

My husband has been an alcoholic for the entire time that we've been together. He was drunk the night we met and he was drinking on our first date. We were both very young then...he was 22 and I had just turned 19. I chalked it up to the typical young adult craziness that most of u...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

We have 5 people interested in the "PEN PAL CLUB"

If anyone is interested, PM me your address & if you want it shared with others, your B-day and etc info. I will have everything organized to start it up by mid or end of next week. LOVE and BEST WISHES!!! Jen

Dog · Dog

I went to my first f2f meeting last night…people were incredibly warm and welcoming but honestly I was left wondering if I ought to go to an AA. Not instead of Al-Alon, but in addition to. Because although I definitely have al-anon type problems, what is primary for me in the short term…what is acute f...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm a little confused this morning. My AH told his family he filed for divorce. It made me angry that he lied once again and asked why he would do that ... they were bad mouthing me ... saying I had put too much guilt on him over the years, that he deserved to be happy. I l...

Lexie · Lexie

Hello (((((((friends)))))) I am still unable to get into the chat room. I have registered four times with starchat and have never heard back from them. I will continue to try to work this out, so I can join you all again. In the meantime, just know that I am missing you guys and the meeting...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I dont know WHAT the deal was last night, but I all of a sudden went into panic mode about my A, who I have not spoken to in 11 days now.

I am doing so well with my recovery, getting stronger, feeling more confident, calm and accepting.

I have even been talking to God in prayer and instead of be...

DrystaneDyke · DrystaneDyke

I have felt a lot less hopeful since looking at this site and reading a few things by people who have been married to/partners of alcoholics. The general consensus seems to be that As don't get better, they just go on drinking and they basically don't give a damn about anyone or anything if it conflicts w...

MdmDragonfly · MdmDragonfly

Well, I have flirted with the idea of sharing my story, asking for advice, etc. and figured that I may as well do what I always do and jump in with both feet. I have been with my A for 2 years. I knew him when he was active, then he went to rehab and when he came home, that is when we got together. Shortly...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello roomies, Yesterday my "A" was offered a job in Alaska, and due to car troubles he has taken the job. I am taking him later today to the boat. This place is about 2 hours away from our house (depending on the traffic). I may need back up for the meeting I am supposed to chair tonight. I am not sure. I w...

Briana5587 · Briana5587

Hi, I am looking for anyone who is willing to sponser, over the internet. Because, of my school situation and such I feel this would be the best course, I have asked in chats and this was suggested to me. Thank you briana My e-mail is briana5587@adelphi.net

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I feel like I live with Peter Pan. No responsiblities & don't want to grow up. We are two women who were friends/ coworkers. We went to a neurologist today for me. I had to pay $250 cash. We are on a fixed income. I have been having migraine headaches. She tells him how I have...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK, in my most recent post, I told you all that I snubbed my A when he waved at me...

Today makes 9 days

and I have not spoken to him, called him, texted him, drove past his house on purpose or sent any desperate letters in the mail. I even found more of his belongings in my apartment and TH...

Scamper · Scamper

I tried to log into the chat room this morning (June 3, 2006) and nothing 'took'. Is this a 'new' program? Thanks for helping me out guys. XOXO, scamper

tommyecat · tommyecat

I am wrestling with a new concept throughout my recovery process. It is LOVE. I have made it through the steps with a loving, wonderful sponsor who has 25 years in the program. The happiness, peace and serenity that I have found from doing the work is rem...

miamiave · miamiave

Hello everybody. I'm so grateful that this message board is here to allow me to vent! My birthday is on Monday- the first one since my mother died. I feel so alone. I'm throwing a party tomorrow night to 'celebrate' with my friends, but have no energy to shop for it. I am filled with dread that nobody in my f...

debilyn · debilyn

http://www.infotecbusinesssystems.com/wildlife/ I watch this eagle cam all day long. I love it. It keeps me centered about how the world is more than pain and aism. Also it is just so darn interesting! What do you do for you? There are no rules. I raise things. I love raising chicks and austral...

suzydawn · suzydawn

hi, I'm new to this board. I have a situation that I'm trying to sort out & I think I'm too close to really see the whole picture. Is there anyone out there that has had an experience with a "loved one" that abuses alcohol on the weekends & had kids involved? My "boyfriend" &am...

Akasha · Akasha

I'm still reeling. My A called me this morning, I wasn't awake yet. With the normal "formalities" such as "Hi Honey. Good Morning. Are you awake?" out of the way...he got into the real "meat" of the call. "I'm so &*^% up right now. I have been for over a week.&nbs...

dipstick75 · dipstick75

well i feel guilty and good at the same time... phew what a feeling. A feeling that I am not quite sure I like but once again time will tell. I had a very honest conversation with my A this morning. The first one in a long time and he was sober so it was a good time to do it. I had to be pi...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I am so grateful for all of my Al Anon friends!

Is anyone interested in starting a "pen pal club"...just a thought.

I always love to recieve a send a note and a card to someone on their birthday, Christmas or just to let them know I care. I am pretty old fashioned - what can I say? I am willing...

serendipity · serendipity

my a called a bit ago to talk to the kids. he had not called mon. or tues. and called and left a message yesterday on my cell. he says he is not using but i don't believe it. he is at his mother's. i wasted an hour putting him down and listening to his insanity. that it was me that kept him away from his family. he t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Help! I was looking for the MIP map on www.frappr.com/miraclesinprogress but when i typed it in they said there was no map?

I remembering registering. I mean I know I am an old lady with bifocals

but I'm not that crazy. Has anybody else had trouble finding the m...

suzydawn · suzydawn

Thanks to those that responded to my first post. I will keep coming back here & check out a meeting. Although, I feel very nervous allowing my BF to know that I'm going to meetings . . . I constantly ask myself if I'm just creating the problem . . . I've had a few friends tell m...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Ok my A must be making me stupid by osmosis. I have tried 3 times to get my nickname to show in the chatroom. I go to the bottom left corner as I have done in the past & type it in & hit enter. and wait................................Nothing happens. I am aol . I have registered my nickname wi...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

hello ((((family)))) As some of you know my marriage to my A is over.We will separate as soon as the house is sold.Hub is sober,not a drink in 16 years, but has been dry drunk for several years. He is looking for my replacement...apparently has been for some time.He is going to live in a used motor hom...

Gailey · Gailey

should you be struggling with what you surrendered....or does it mean you did not totally surrender. What I mean is....if you ask God to have your problems and have trouble not taking them back...is that truly surrender?

rtexas · rtexas

So just to level set anyone who thinks I have this program all down pat.... LOL Today my AW asked me why I didn't run out and fix her second wedding ring for our aniversery today. And I told her... 5 years ago when you decided you had had enough of me and were leaving your wedding ring was bent up so you c...

rtexas · rtexas

My work phone woke me up to fix a system problem, and I find the card and M&M's from my AW in the garage where I left her to go to bed a few hours ago. You see I planned a trip to a cabin for the 2 of us for this weekend. Part of what we have been arguing about is this trip. It boils down to she does...

Jayda · Jayda

Thank you everyone for your prayers. My brother is still at my mom's. He's getting better, but unfortunately he doesn't feel rehab will help him so I guess he's obviously not ready to fully deal with this yet. But I guess the good part is that he's still there and hasn't left yet. In the past he's only ever...

serendipity · serendipity

my mil and i used to be very close. i really respected her. liked her, loved her. but as the disease progressed with my h it also progressed with the family. she had gone to alanon many times in the past. it just never stuck. but when my marriage blew up 3 years ago the entire family dumped me and the kids, clo...

Christy · Christy

Wayne Dyer wrote the book "The Power of Intention", a great book..The Power of Intention is about what he (Dr. Dyer) believes HP had intended for us, and way to get there. These thoughts aren't from that book, but another called "Dr. Dyer's Everyday Wisdom for Success"...I think he's awesome!...

chris52 · chris52

Last time I was on in chat(about 2 months ago) a storm kicked up and I kept losing my connection. No idea what happened but couldn't get back on again and the engineer said I had some damage to the puter.Then lost my ADSL line and phone line when road works damaged the phone cables.(The house phone is still...

MFran · MFran

It has been a while since I posted. It just seemed like it hurt less if I didn't talk or think about it. I haven't been to a f2f lately because if I don't go, I don't have to talk or think about it. She needs to go to a residental treatment center, but refuses. I feel like I am w...

kas · kas

I've only just discovered this on line forum and chat room and have been avidly reading the posts. I am in rough shape emotionally and amazed at some of the people who have been dealing with much worse situations but I guess it is all relative. I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend (we have...

cloudspeed · cloudspeed

Hi, I've been to alanon meetings for a couple years on and off, and of course, now I am seeing that I do much better with my life when I am attending alanon. Interesting, to realize this now, because I was not before but Now I am with a "possible" alcoholic (again). I am not sure - about everything - abou...

mbernal99 · mbernal99

Hello, New Guy here. I found your excellent forum so here is my story: I am 35 years old and still live at home. I have degree in electrical engineering, but I suffer from panic disorder so I can't seem to hold down a job to help me move out of the house. And boy do I...

Akasha · Akasha

I did it - didn't back out. I had every excuse in the book prepared and ready to use - but I didn't. It was my children's lunch time - it was their nap time - I was there and no one else was (rare that I'm early! LOL). I didn't pull those out and use them - although I desperately wanted...

maresie2 · maresie2

For some reason my original Maresie account was deleted. I am not going to wonder why. These past weekend I took care of myself when I had some awful novo virus thing, totally wiped out with the flu. Normally when I am sick, I am just as sick with resentment. The a normally runs for the hill...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Thanks)))) to everyone for your support the other day. I was relapsing pretty hard and your responses really helped. She is still a mess, but your strength helped me keep a slippery hold on my sanity. I think what is making this harder is that tomorrow is our 15th aniv...

lilms · lilms

Okay, I am not a complete moron, honestly truly I am not. Yet in reading your posts, and thank you all for sharing vast amounts of wisdom, I have come across all kinds of smileys. Where the heck do I find those things??? Annie

Barbara · Barbara

anyone else feel this way? I sure do

Rita G · Rita G

This is a flyer that we give out at my home group, New Beginnings, in Lake Charles, LA - I keep it taped on my mirror in my dressing area to remind me every morning about the Promises of working this program. Hope it helps you as much as it helps me. One Day at a Time Rita ...

Dog · Dog

Whew! I’ve been reading the board and it’s…sobering! I am surely in the right place. I plan to attend my first al-anon meeting on Wednesday and in the meantime found your board. I have an alcoholic boyfriend… for 2 years now. He’s 52…and fell off the wagon after 13 years of sobriety. When I met him he...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I saw my A today, first time in a week. His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!! This may seem like - so wha...

lila · lila

Hi everyone, I learned a great tip at Yoga last week to calm yourself and stop your mind from ticking over and letting those nagative thoughts take over.

Did you know that when your tongue is against the roof of your mouth it triggers your brain to become more active, th...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, It's official...I am finally the proud parent of a high school graduate! Graduation is over, I am done cleaning the house and preparing food (for at least 4 years, lolol) although I'm still going to be doing that daily, LOL. My daughter is now officially a "grown up".

...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just want to take a moment to thank all of you who have family serving in the military around the world. Politics aside, what the military families do to serve all of our countries is heroic, unselfish and to be commended. I know how hard i...

tea2 · tea2

I knew when I was thinking of this as a question to post I would end up sharing a bit (perhaps a vent?) on why I am asking. Also would serve as my daily al-anon journaling, so a win win. I will share two instances that come to mind for example on why I am asking: I recall the first time I felt it from my A (ex hu...

lebe27 · lebe27

Hi all, wish I could join you in chat but can't get in. I registered nickname like I was suppose to for AOL on Saturday and still have not been emailed activation code from starchat. I even registered again today and tried to contact them by email in the starchat website and still nothing...

babysteps · babysteps

We went to my in-laws for the weekend. They live 4 hours away. My AH has many "family of origin" issues with them (both a's, especially mom; and explosive tempers). I told my ah on the way there it would be better if he didn't drink (they know he is a). He said he would try. He never got in any way intoxicated b...

flintfeet · flintfeet

well, some of you may have read my post about giving my dad one more chance to be sober around me and my kids. he can do whatever he wants on his own time, but on my time-he must be sober or we will cut off all ties. i am happy to share with you that he has been good so far. i am still worried that he is going to go back...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Can anyone give me some input on how they established for themselves healthy boundaries? I am contemplating taking my AH back, and I feel like I am able to live in this marriage and be happy, but I feel like I am taking myself in a direction that will only allow my AH to step all over me. He is fa...

Scota · Scota

Hey- Well, another week has started. The M.D weekend wasn't so good for me, I was mired in a depressed fog practically the whole time. I felt like a zombie most of the time. It just hit me so bad, like a black thing wrapping itself around my soul.

Damn I hate that. I don't want...

QOD · QOD

I went to my consultation w/a divorce lawyer on Friday. What a great meeting! This woman was absolutely wonderful. She answered all of my questions, covered everything. She gave me the property settlement papers needed to file for separation. All I have to do is an...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was just reading Monday daily readings. Sorry I do not know which book at this moment. It basically said what I have been saying just before I found alanon. If our lives are truely planned before we got here, then the only thing we had choice in is to accept it and live happily. Or fight it ever st...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	because (Preview) Having a hard time understanding this program....I have to change...I have to become this perfect compasionate calm caring person who sees the glass half full and sees the A as a person who can't help himself(poor him)..Really struggling with how I am suppose to respond(not react) st...	Elizabeth M	3	468	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	It is what it is, but what is it? (Preview) I decided not to write then changed my mind. A called me collect from jail. Told him what was happening with his family. Then he got on how he did not know what he would do when he got out. I replied, "it is totally up to you." He comes back with, "My options are very limited." I told him we have been togeth...	debilyn	3	550	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	When did you start "getting it"? (Preview) Just thinking about a couple of "aha" moments in my recovery, kind of 'lines in the sand' that are memories, and perhaps stepping stones for me finally "getting it" and moving towards a healthier life for me.... 1. Blame - I was at a family conference at my ex-wife's treatment center, and was talking...	canadianguy	9	1284	Jun 4, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	PLEASE read IMPORTANT Pen Pal Club People (Preview) OK I have had several respond interested in the "Pen Pal Club"...could everyone do me a HUGE favor and PLEASE send me an email with your info: real full name "snail mail" address birthday (optional) AlAnon anniversary date (optional) any other info please email THIS info to: &nb...	jennneeefffurrr	0	440	Jun 4, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	New and a bit scared (Preview) Well, it took me 43 years to get here and honestly I don't quite know where "here" is or if it's where I need to be. There is so much to say...I feel like I am opening a can of worms, but, I don't know that I can continue this balancing act much longer. I have been depressed since high school, on anti...	Little Lisa	15	589	Jun 4, 2006 by peewee
	Throwing in the towel (Preview) My husband has been an alcoholic for the entire time that we've been together. He was drunk the night we met and he was drinking on our first date. We were both very young then...he was 22 and I had just turned 19. I chalked it up to the typical young adult craziness that most of u...	rio	8	578	Jun 3, 2006 by krise
	PEN PAL CLUB (Preview) We have 5 people interested in the "PEN PAL CLUB" If anyone is interested, PM me your address & if you want it shared with others, your B-day and etc info. I will have everything organized to start it up by mid or end of next week. LOVE and BEST WISHES!!! Jen	jennneeefffurrr	1	482	Jun 3, 2006 by patience
	I am so freakishly confused!! (Preview) I went to my first f2f meeting last night…people were incredibly warm and welcoming but honestly I was left wondering if I ought to go to an AA. Not instead of Al-Alon, but in addition to. Because although I definitely have al-anon type problems, what is primary for me in the short term…what is acute f...	Dog	11	568	Jun 3, 2006 by patience
	not my business yet hurting me (Preview) Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm a little confused this morning. My AH told his family he filed for divorce. It made me angry that he lied once again and asked why he would do that ... they were bad mouthing me ... saying I had put too much guilt on him over the years, that he deserved to be happy. I l...	Jennifer	6	869	Jun 3, 2006 by peewee
	Missing you (Preview) Hello (((((((friends)))))) I am still unable to get into the chat room. I have registered four times with starchat and have never heard back from them. I will continue to try to work this out, so I can join you all again. In the meantime, just know that I am missing you guys and the meeting...	Lexie	7	506	Jun 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	Hard Night dealing with detachment (Preview) I dont know WHAT the deal was last night, but I all of a sudden went into panic mode about my A, who I have not spoken to in 11 days now. I am doing so well with my recovery, getting stronger, feeling more confident, calm and accepting. I have even been talking to God in prayer and instead of be...	jennneeefffurrr	2	574	Jun 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	Hopeless? (Preview) I have felt a lot less hopeful since looking at this site and reading a few things by people who have been married to/partners of alcoholics. The general consensus seems to be that As don't get better, they just go on drinking and they basically don't give a damn about anyone or anything if it conflicts w...	DrystaneDyke	9	708	Jun 3, 2006 by DrystaneDyke
	New here and sad and confused and... (Preview) Well, I have flirted with the idea of sharing my story, asking for advice, etc. and figured that I may as well do what I always do and jump in with both feet. I have been with my A for 2 years. I knew him when he was active, then he went to rehab and when he came home, that is when we got together. Shortly...	MdmDragonfly	6	603	Jun 3, 2006 by MdmDragonfly
	Tonight's meeting! (Preview) Hello roomies, Yesterday my "A" was offered a job in Alaska, and due to car troubles he has taken the job. I am taking him later today to the boat. This place is about 2 hours away from our house (depending on the traffic). I may need back up for the meeting I am supposed to chair tonight. I am not sure. I w...	Dolphin123	0	379	Jun 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi, I am looking for anyone who is willing to sponser, over the internet. Because, of my school situation and such I feel this would be the best course, I have asked in chats and this was suggested to me. Thank you briana My e-mail is briana5587@adelphi.net	Briana5587	2	470	Jun 3, 2006 by lmt123
	I live with Peter Pan (Preview) I feel like I live with Peter Pan. No responsiblities & don't want to grow up. We are two women who were friends/ coworkers. We went to a neurologist today for me. I had to pay $250 cash. We are on a fixed income. I have been having migraine headaches. She tells him how I have...	hmrnrnmm	3	460	Jun 3, 2006 by Becky1
	recovery...9 days (Preview) OK, in my most recent post, I told you all that I snubbed my A when he waved at me... Today makes 9 days and I have not spoken to him, called him, texted him, drove past his house on purpose or sent any desperate letters in the mail. I even found more of his belongings in my apartment and TH...	jennneeefffurrr	7	556	Jun 3, 2006 by Andrea12
	Help - I can't get into the chat room? (Preview) I tried to log into the chat room this morning (June 3, 2006) and nothing 'took'. Is this a 'new' program? Thanks for helping me out guys. XOXO, scamper	Scamper	0	375	Jun 3, 2006 by Scamper
	Love (Preview) I am wrestling with a new concept throughout my recovery process. It is LOVE. I have made it through the steps with a loving, wonderful sponsor who has 25 years in the program. The happiness, peace and serenity that I have found from doing the work is rem...	tommyecat	6	602	Jun 3, 2006 by isabela40
	my first birthday after my alcoholic mother died (Preview) Hello everybody. I'm so grateful that this message board is here to allow me to vent! My birthday is on Monday- the first one since my mother died. I feel so alone. I'm throwing a party tomorrow night to 'celebrate' with my friends, but have no energy to shop for it. I am filled with dread that nobody in my f...	miamiave	3	496	Jun 2, 2006 by Jill
	something for me (Preview) http://www.infotecbusinesssystems.com/wildlife/ I watch this eagle cam all day long. I love it. It keeps me centered about how the world is more than pain and aism. Also it is just so darn interesting! What do you do for you? There are no rules. I raise things. I love raising chicks and austral...	debilyn	6	470	Jun 2, 2006 by maresie2
	need input (Preview) hi, I'm new to this board. I have a situation that I'm trying to sort out & I think I'm too close to really see the whole picture. Is there anyone out there that has had an experience with a "loved one" that abuses alcohol on the weekends & had kids involved? My "boyfriend" &am...	suzydawn	6	561	Jun 2, 2006 by maresie2
	Honesty-filled phone call as alarm clock (Preview) I'm still reeling. My A called me this morning, I wasn't awake yet. With the normal "formalities" such as "Hi Honey. Good Morning. Are you awake?" out of the way...he got into the real "meat" of the call. "I'm so &*^% up right now. I have been for over a week.&nbs...	Akasha	7	545	Jun 2, 2006 by Akasha
	dropped the bomb (Preview) well i feel guilty and good at the same time... phew what a feeling. A feeling that I am not quite sure I like but once again time will tell. I had a very honest conversation with my A this morning. The first one in a long time and he was sober so it was a good time to do it. I had to be pi...	dipstick75	5	617	Jun 2, 2006 by shadow1
	PEN PALS? WHO IS INTERESTED? (Preview) I am so grateful for all of my Al Anon friends! Is anyone interested in starting a "pen pal club"...just a thought. I always love to recieve a send a note and a card to someone on their birthday, Christmas or just to let them know I care. I am pretty old fashioned - what can I say? I am willing...	jennneeefffurrr	6	1066	Jun 2, 2006 by Barbara
	i think it's a problem (Preview) my a called a bit ago to talk to the kids. he had not called mon. or tues. and called and left a message yesterday on my cell. he says he is not using but i don't believe it. he is at his mother's. i wasted an hour putting him down and listening to his insanity. that it was me that kept him away from his family. he t...	serendipity	4	586	Jun 2, 2006 by Rita G
	MIP map where are you? (Preview) Help! I was looking for the MIP map on www.frappr.com/miraclesinprogress but when i typed it in they said there was no map? I remembering registering. I mean I know I am an old lady with bifocals but I'm not that crazy. Has anybody else had trouble finding the m...	Karilynn	2	526	Jun 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	thanks & more questions (Preview) Thanks to those that responded to my first post. I will keep coming back here & check out a meeting. Although, I feel very nervous allowing my BF to know that I'm going to meetings . . . I constantly ask myself if I'm just creating the problem . . . I've had a few friends tell m...	suzydawn	4	850	Jun 2, 2006 by suzydawn
	unable to get nickname in chatroom (Preview) Ok my A must be making me stupid by osmosis. I have tried 3 times to get my nickname to show in the chatroom. I go to the bottom left corner as I have done in the past & type it in & hit enter. and wait................................Nothing happens. I am aol . I have registered my nickname wi...	hmrnrnmm	4	609	Jun 1, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	the scary unknown (Preview) hello ((((family)))) As some of you know my marriage to my A is over.We will separate as soon as the house is sold.Hub is sober,not a drink in 16 years, but has been dry drunk for several years. He is looking for my replacement...apparently has been for some time.He is going to live in a used motor hom...	drucilla06	6	590	Jun 1, 2006 by drucilla06
	when you totally surrender (Preview) should you be struggling with what you surrendered....or does it mean you did not totally surrender. What I mean is....if you ask God to have your problems and have trouble not taking them back...is that truly surrender?	Gailey	4	460	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	Brutal Honesty... Needs more work (Preview) So just to level set anyone who thinks I have this program all down pat.... LOL Today my AW asked me why I didn't run out and fix her second wedding ring for our aniversery today. And I told her... 5 years ago when you decided you had had enough of me and were leaving your wedding ring was bent up so you c...	rtexas	4	459	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	So... it's officially my Aniversery (Preview) My work phone woke me up to fix a system problem, and I find the card and M&M's from my AW in the garage where I left her to go to bed a few hours ago. You see I planned a trip to a cabin for the 2 of us for this weekend. Part of what we have been arguing about is this trip. It boils down to she does...	rtexas	5	571	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	Programs? (Preview) Thank you everyone for your prayers. My brother is still at my mom's. He's getting better, but unfortunately he doesn't feel rehab will help him so I guess he's obviously not ready to fully deal with this yet. But I guess the good part is that he's still there and hasn't left yet. In the past he's only ever...	Jayda	5	528	Jun 1, 2006 by lilms
	mother-in-law (Preview) my mil and i used to be very close. i really respected her. liked her, loved her. but as the disease progressed with my h it also progressed with the family. she had gone to alanon many times in the past. it just never stuck. but when my marriage blew up 3 years ago the entire family dumped me and the kids, clo...	serendipity	3	910	Jun 1, 2006 by Gailey
	Inspirational Thoughts from Dr. Wayne Dyer (Preview) Wayne Dyer wrote the book "The Power of Intention", a great book..The Power of Intention is about what he (Dr. Dyer) believes HP had intended for us, and way to get there. These thoughts aren't from that book, but another called "Dr. Dyer's Everyday Wisdom for Success"...I think he's awesome!...	Christy	5	782	Jun 1, 2006 by Christy
	Oh God I have missed you guys (Preview) Last time I was on in chat(about 2 months ago) a storm kicked up and I kept losing my connection. No idea what happened but couldn't get back on again and the engineer said I had some damage to the puter.Then lost my ADSL line and phone line when road works damaged the phone cables.(The house phone is still...	chris52	12	502	Jun 1, 2006 by toto12
	My daughter, again (Preview) It has been a while since I posted. It just seemed like it hurt less if I didn't talk or think about it. I haven't been to a f2f lately because if I don't go, I don't have to talk or think about it. She needs to go to a residental treatment center, but refuses. I feel like I am w...	MFran	6	590	Jun 1, 2006 by leo
	Newbie my story.....long post (Preview) I've only just discovered this on line forum and chat room and have been avidly reading the posts. I am in rough shape emotionally and amazed at some of the people who have been dealing with much worse situations but I guess it is all relative. I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend (we have...	kas	6	498	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	unsure (Preview) Hi, I've been to alanon meetings for a couple years on and off, and of course, now I am seeing that I do much better with my life when I am attending alanon. Interesting, to realize this now, because I was not before but Now I am with a "possible" alcoholic (again). I am not sure - about everything - abou...	cloudspeed	4	437	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	Another Newbie, Please Help. (Preview) Hello, New Guy here. I found your excellent forum so here is my story: I am 35 years old and still live at home. I have degree in electrical engineering, but I suffer from panic disorder so I can't seem to hold down a job to help me move out of the house. And boy do I...	mbernal99	7	573	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	Went to first f2f today... (Preview) I did it - didn't back out. I had every excuse in the book prepared and ready to use - but I didn't. It was my children's lunch time - it was their nap time - I was there and no one else was (rare that I'm early! LOL). I didn't pull those out and use them - although I desperately wanted...	Akasha	4	466	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	giving up martyrdoom (Preview) For some reason my original Maresie account was deleted. I am not going to wonder why. These past weekend I took care of myself when I had some awful novo virus thing, totally wiped out with the flu. Normally when I am sick, I am just as sick with resentment. The a normally runs for the hill...	maresie2	5	489	May 31, 2006 by maresie2
	Just a quick note... (Preview) ((((Thanks)))) to everyone for your support the other day. I was relapsing pretty hard and your responses really helped. She is still a mess, but your strength helped me keep a slippery hold on my sanity. I think what is making this harder is that tomorrow is our 15th aniv...	rtexas	3	449	May 31, 2006 by quest
	Smileys (Preview) Okay, I am not a complete moron, honestly truly I am not. Yet in reading your posts, and thank you all for sharing vast amounts of wisdom, I have come across all kinds of smileys. Where the heck do I find those things??? Annie	lilms	3	445	May 31, 2006 by confused
	Side effect of A husband is too much alone time for wife (Preview) anyone else feel this way? I sure do	Barbara	12	541	May 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Al-Anon's Promises (Preview) This is a flyer that we give out at my home group, New Beginnings, in Lake Charles, LA - I keep it taped on my mirror in my dressing area to remind me every morning about the Promises of working this program. Hope it helps you as much as it helps me. One Day at a Time Rita ...	Rita G	5	1151	May 31, 2006 by Lana
	New here, new to Al-Anon (Preview) Whew! I’ve been reading the board and it’s…sobering! I am surely in the right place. I plan to attend my first al-anon meeting on Wednesday and in the meantime found your board. I have an alcoholic boyfriend… for 2 years now. He’s 52…and fell off the wagon after 13 years of sobriety. When I met him he...	Dog	5	594	May 31, 2006 by Dog
	I did good...AND weirdo is BAAAACCCKKKK! (Preview) I saw my A today, first time in a week. His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!! This may seem like - so wha...	jennneeefffurrr	6	627	May 31, 2006 by debilyn
	I learned a good tip in Yoga to calm yourself and stop your mind ticking over! (Preview) Hi everyone, I learned a great tip at Yoga last week to calm yourself and stop your mind from ticking over and letting those nagative thoughts take over. Did you know that when your tongue is against the roof of your mouth it triggers your brain to become more active, th...	lila	3	448	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	it's official... (Preview) Hi all, It's official...I am finally the proud parent of a high school graduate! Graduation is over, I am done cleaning the house and preparing food (for at least 4 years, lolol) although I'm still going to be doing that daily, LOL. My daughter is now officially a "grown up". ...	lmt123	6	477	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	Memorial Day (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just want to take a moment to thank all of you who have family serving in the military around the world. Politics aside, what the military families do to serve all of our countries is heroic, unselfish and to be commended. I know how hard i...	Karilynn	11	558	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	Fight or Flight? (Preview) I knew when I was thinking of this as a question to post I would end up sharing a bit (perhaps a vent?) on why I am asking. Also would serve as my daily al-anon journaling, so a win win. I will share two instances that come to mind for example on why I am asking: I recall the first time I felt it from my A (ex hu...	tea2	4	765	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	New Server (Preview) Hi all, wish I could join you in chat but can't get in. I registered nickname like I was suppose to for AOL on Saturday and still have not been emailed activation code from starchat. I even registered again today and tried to contact them by email in the starchat website and still nothing...	lebe27	4	481	May 31, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Using my tools (Preview) We went to my in-laws for the weekend. They live 4 hours away. My AH has many "family of origin" issues with them (both a's, especially mom; and explosive tempers). I told my ah on the way there it would be better if he didn't drink (they know he is a). He said he would try. He never got in any way intoxicated b...	babysteps	3	464	May 31, 2006 by kismetstrand
	so far so good... (Preview) well, some of you may have read my post about giving my dad one more chance to be sober around me and my kids. he can do whatever he wants on his own time, but on my time-he must be sober or we will cut off all ties. i am happy to share with you that he has been good so far. i am still worried that he is going to go back...	flintfeet	1	487	May 31, 2006 by Gailey
	Setting healthy Boundaries (Preview) Can anyone give me some input on how they established for themselves healthy boundaries? I am contemplating taking my AH back, and I feel like I am able to live in this marriage and be happy, but I feel like I am taking myself in a direction that will only allow my AH to step all over me. He is fa...	Jennfer32	7	1932	May 31, 2006 by canadianguy
	another week..... (Preview) Hey- Well, another week has started. The M.D weekend wasn't so good for me, I was mired in a depressed fog practically the whole time. I felt like a zombie most of the time. It just hit me so bad, like a black thing wrapping itself around my soul. Damn I hate that. I don't want...	Scota	6	446	May 31, 2006 by babysteps
	So Confused - Just a Wishy Washy Mess!! (Preview) I went to my consultation w/a divorce lawyer on Friday. What a great meeting! This woman was absolutely wonderful. She answered all of my questions, covered everything. She gave me the property settlement papers needed to file for separation. All I have to do is an...	QOD	8	564	May 31, 2006 by QOD
	Gods will? (Preview) I was just reading Monday daily readings. Sorry I do not know which book at this moment. It basically said what I have been saying just before I found alanon. If our lives are truely planned before we got here, then the only thing we had choice in is to accept it and live happily. Or fight it ever st...	hmrnrnmm	3	558	May 31, 2006 by tiredtonite
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