Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

tommyecat · tommyecat

I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is: "Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial" It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just got back from the ICU and seeing hubby. His pancreas has been damaged. The past 2 weeks that he has been staying with his friend from rehab (the one he saved a couple of months ago from a heroine overdose) he hasn't been able to ke...

Christy · Christy

As some of you know.... Last month my son's first car was hit by a truck and totaled (son was fine). He had it 6 weeks. We lost $700.00 on the deal and took it with a grain of salt. Insuranse would only give us X amount. So we found him another car for a good price. A red 1993 Mitsubishi Eclipse. Old, but h...

kitty · kitty

For personal complications I have avoided the site all together for a time... and it didn't take long for my mind to slip completely & fall into the preying brain suck of depression. I need the outlet, support & grounding, for as much as I know, truly each moment I'm a beginner and all o...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

I understand that an A must be allowed to suffer the consequences of his actions if he is ever going to seek help or admit a problem soooo isn't one of these consequences my hurt and anger and the wedge it places in our relationship. If I pretend that everythig is fine and ignore last n...

patience · patience

Somebody please tell me I am not crazy. Giving pills like Vicodine, Valiums, Oxyconton (sp?) to your son, age 25, is just sick. My husband has a back injury and abuses his medication to the point that he's throwing up while driving or sometimes in the middle of a meal and can only make it to the kitchen sin...

dusk2dawn · dusk2dawn

I've just removed my A sister from my life. Can't take being jerked around anymore. Haven't seen who I always knew as my sister for years. She has managed to keep my family in turmoil for so long. It's as if I've buried someone. But then, it's as if she died so long ago.&n...

patrice · patrice

Hello to my brothers and sisters on the path of recovery. I have been with my man for almost two years now. At first I was in some denial about his alcoholism as he is a very functional drunk and I figured hey lot's of ladies stay with alcohoic men and go to alan-on to get relief. Believe it or not, I once actua...

debilyn · debilyn

Well after going clear out to the toolyboons with my Brownijoy , my chocolatelab/rottie pup, to pick up two NIgerian goats.. don't ask, the day was getting fuller. They had too many goats. Were wonderfully taken care of, but the gal did not smile once. Seemed like life was a chore f...

Akasha · Akasha

I've just hung up the phone w/ my A. He is high again. He's used more per diem money to pay for his drugs. This time, there is no paycheck to cover it. He is supposed to have the money tomorrow for the crew going out of town. I told him that when he wanted to get well to let me know.&...

rio · rio

Right now I don't care!!! I had my last drink while out with friends when my husband was in rehab. It'll be three years in November. What did I do as soon as hubby left for the Alano club tonight? I went across the street to the party store and bought myself a pint of watermelon sc...

angelnomore · angelnomore

Dear Friends How is everyone today? I hope well, today is Saturday June 3, 2006 and usually I would be spending the day with my A-boyfriend or a least talking on the phone with him to plan a day adventure with him. But today I won’t be, in fact never. As most of you know he bro...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Going on 10 months

Been here since Hurricanes Katrina and Rita. That was bad enough to loose everything and have to find anew. Being back in touch with A-dau and A-m...

MdmDragonfly · MdmDragonfly

Well, my A has decided to go to rehab on Monday. We went and got everything set up on Friday and they got him a bed asap. He'll be gone for at least 28 days. He has cut off contact with his drinking buddies and is having his dad and another AA friend take him to the rehab. BUT, this weekend has been Hell so far....

dwa1163 · dwa1163

THIS IS MY FIRST POST. I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO ATTEND MY ONLINE MEETINGS BECAUSE I AM OUT OF TOWN AND BECAUSE OF THIS NIGHTMARE I HAVE BEEN LIVING SINCE APRIL 11. I FINALLY GOT THE COURAGE TO LEAVE MY A OF 27 YEARS. I MET A MAN IN OREGON ABOUT A YEAR AGO. FLEW OUT TO BE WITH HIM MANY TIMES. WE FELL IN LOVE AT FIRST SI...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family)))))))))), Just thinking out loud here. Ever since I asked hubby to leave, I have been awfully calm about all of this. I'm wondering if I'm almost too calm.

Now granted I don't have the chaos to come home too because he was drinking. I am slowly put...

Barbara · Barbara

Adopted 2 bunnies yesterday Painters coming this morn to give estimate on painting our main floor - dining/living, kitchen, 2 bedrooms & 2 baths. Its me with the $ in savings and its time to start spending it! I dont need A husband's approval to open my savings account! Also have a grassman com...

marmare · marmare

Just a little prayer, that I continue to work my program and have the strength not to talk to the disease. I worked very late last night out observing a job at the job site, I have now been accused of being selfish and cheating on my A. I am asking my HP to guide me with my words and actions. Hugs M...

LittleWing · LittleWing

Before I Turned Into A ButterFly [img]I was released into a world that was unfamilure. Falling from a tree that stood high in the sky. Laying there lifeless and confused I finally had the will to crawl and find my way Where I was going was unknown But, I started out for my journey ...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, This morning a light bulb went off for me.

My A called to say hi and I love you... I expressed to him that I missed him and wanted to see how things were going for him. He said fine. O.K. maybe I should have left it at that, but I needed to say how I have be...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Having a hard time understanding this program....I have to change...I have to become this perfect compasionate calm caring person who sees the glass half full and sees the A as a person who can't help himself(poor him)..Really struggling with how I am suppose to respond(not react) st...

debilyn · debilyn

I decided not to write then changed my mind. A called me collect from jail. Told him what was happening with his family. Then he got on how he did not know what he would do when he got out. I replied, "it is totally up to you." He comes back with, "My options are very limited." I told him we have been togeth...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Just thinking about a couple of "aha" moments in my recovery, kind of 'lines in the sand' that are memories, and perhaps stepping stones for me finally "getting it" and moving towards a healthier life for me.... 1. Blame - I was at a family conference at my ex-wife's treatment center, and was talking...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK I have had several respond interested in the "Pen Pal Club"...could everyone do me a HUGE favor and PLEASE send me an email with your info: real full name "snail mail" address birthday (optional) AlAnon anniversary date (optional) any other info please email THIS info to: &nb...

Little Lisa · Little Lisa

Well, it took me 43 years to get here and honestly I don't quite know where "here" is or if it's where I need to be. There is so much to say...I feel like I am opening a can of worms, but, I don't know that I can continue this balancing act much longer. I have been depressed since high school, on anti...

rio · rio

My husband has been an alcoholic for the entire time that we've been together. He was drunk the night we met and he was drinking on our first date. We were both very young then...he was 22 and I had just turned 19. I chalked it up to the typical young adult craziness that most of u...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

We have 5 people interested in the "PEN PAL CLUB"

If anyone is interested, PM me your address & if you want it shared with others, your B-day and etc info. I will have everything organized to start it up by mid or end of next week. LOVE and BEST WISHES!!! Jen

Dog · Dog

I went to my first f2f meeting last night…people were incredibly warm and welcoming but honestly I was left wondering if I ought to go to an AA. Not instead of Al-Alon, but in addition to. Because although I definitely have al-anon type problems, what is primary for me in the short term…what is acute f...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm a little confused this morning. My AH told his family he filed for divorce. It made me angry that he lied once again and asked why he would do that ... they were bad mouthing me ... saying I had put too much guilt on him over the years, that he deserved to be happy. I l...

Lexie · Lexie

Hello (((((((friends)))))) I am still unable to get into the chat room. I have registered four times with starchat and have never heard back from them. I will continue to try to work this out, so I can join you all again. In the meantime, just know that I am missing you guys and the meeting...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I dont know WHAT the deal was last night, but I all of a sudden went into panic mode about my A, who I have not spoken to in 11 days now.

I am doing so well with my recovery, getting stronger, feeling more confident, calm and accepting.

I have even been talking to God in prayer and instead of be...

DrystaneDyke · DrystaneDyke

I have felt a lot less hopeful since looking at this site and reading a few things by people who have been married to/partners of alcoholics. The general consensus seems to be that As don't get better, they just go on drinking and they basically don't give a damn about anyone or anything if it conflicts w...

MdmDragonfly · MdmDragonfly

Well, I have flirted with the idea of sharing my story, asking for advice, etc. and figured that I may as well do what I always do and jump in with both feet. I have been with my A for 2 years. I knew him when he was active, then he went to rehab and when he came home, that is when we got together. Shortly...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello roomies, Yesterday my "A" was offered a job in Alaska, and due to car troubles he has taken the job. I am taking him later today to the boat. This place is about 2 hours away from our house (depending on the traffic). I may need back up for the meeting I am supposed to chair tonight. I am not sure. I w...

Briana5587 · Briana5587

Hi, I am looking for anyone who is willing to sponser, over the internet. Because, of my school situation and such I feel this would be the best course, I have asked in chats and this was suggested to me. Thank you briana My e-mail is briana5587@adelphi.net

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I feel like I live with Peter Pan. No responsiblities & don't want to grow up. We are two women who were friends/ coworkers. We went to a neurologist today for me. I had to pay $250 cash. We are on a fixed income. I have been having migraine headaches. She tells him how I have...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK, in my most recent post, I told you all that I snubbed my A when he waved at me...

Today makes 9 days

and I have not spoken to him, called him, texted him, drove past his house on purpose or sent any desperate letters in the mail. I even found more of his belongings in my apartment and TH...

Scamper · Scamper

I tried to log into the chat room this morning (June 3, 2006) and nothing 'took'. Is this a 'new' program? Thanks for helping me out guys. XOXO, scamper

tommyecat · tommyecat

I am wrestling with a new concept throughout my recovery process. It is LOVE. I have made it through the steps with a loving, wonderful sponsor who has 25 years in the program. The happiness, peace and serenity that I have found from doing the work is rem...

miamiave · miamiave

Hello everybody. I'm so grateful that this message board is here to allow me to vent! My birthday is on Monday- the first one since my mother died. I feel so alone. I'm throwing a party tomorrow night to 'celebrate' with my friends, but have no energy to shop for it. I am filled with dread that nobody in my f...

debilyn · debilyn

http://www.infotecbusinesssystems.com/wildlife/ I watch this eagle cam all day long. I love it. It keeps me centered about how the world is more than pain and aism. Also it is just so darn interesting! What do you do for you? There are no rules. I raise things. I love raising chicks and austral...

suzydawn · suzydawn

hi, I'm new to this board. I have a situation that I'm trying to sort out & I think I'm too close to really see the whole picture. Is there anyone out there that has had an experience with a "loved one" that abuses alcohol on the weekends & had kids involved? My "boyfriend" &am...

Akasha · Akasha

I'm still reeling. My A called me this morning, I wasn't awake yet. With the normal "formalities" such as "Hi Honey. Good Morning. Are you awake?" out of the way...he got into the real "meat" of the call. "I'm so &*^% up right now. I have been for over a week.&nbs...

dipstick75 · dipstick75

well i feel guilty and good at the same time... phew what a feeling. A feeling that I am not quite sure I like but once again time will tell. I had a very honest conversation with my A this morning. The first one in a long time and he was sober so it was a good time to do it. I had to be pi...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I am so grateful for all of my Al Anon friends!

Is anyone interested in starting a "pen pal club"...just a thought.

I always love to recieve a send a note and a card to someone on their birthday, Christmas or just to let them know I care. I am pretty old fashioned - what can I say? I am willing...

serendipity · serendipity

my a called a bit ago to talk to the kids. he had not called mon. or tues. and called and left a message yesterday on my cell. he says he is not using but i don't believe it. he is at his mother's. i wasted an hour putting him down and listening to his insanity. that it was me that kept him away from his family. he t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Help! I was looking for the MIP map on www.frappr.com/miraclesinprogress but when i typed it in they said there was no map?

I remembering registering. I mean I know I am an old lady with bifocals

but I'm not that crazy. Has anybody else had trouble finding the m...

suzydawn · suzydawn

Thanks to those that responded to my first post. I will keep coming back here & check out a meeting. Although, I feel very nervous allowing my BF to know that I'm going to meetings . . . I constantly ask myself if I'm just creating the problem . . . I've had a few friends tell m...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Ok my A must be making me stupid by osmosis. I have tried 3 times to get my nickname to show in the chatroom. I go to the bottom left corner as I have done in the past & type it in & hit enter. and wait................................Nothing happens. I am aol . I have registered my nickname wi...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

hello ((((family)))) As some of you know my marriage to my A is over.We will separate as soon as the house is sold.Hub is sober,not a drink in 16 years, but has been dry drunk for several years. He is looking for my replacement...apparently has been for some time.He is going to live in a used motor hom...

Gailey · Gailey

should you be struggling with what you surrendered....or does it mean you did not totally surrender. What I mean is....if you ask God to have your problems and have trouble not taking them back...is that truly surrender?

rtexas · rtexas

So just to level set anyone who thinks I have this program all down pat.... LOL Today my AW asked me why I didn't run out and fix her second wedding ring for our aniversery today. And I told her... 5 years ago when you decided you had had enough of me and were leaving your wedding ring was bent up so you c...

rtexas · rtexas

My work phone woke me up to fix a system problem, and I find the card and M&M's from my AW in the garage where I left her to go to bed a few hours ago. You see I planned a trip to a cabin for the 2 of us for this weekend. Part of what we have been arguing about is this trip. It boils down to she does...

Jayda · Jayda

Thank you everyone for your prayers. My brother is still at my mom's. He's getting better, but unfortunately he doesn't feel rehab will help him so I guess he's obviously not ready to fully deal with this yet. But I guess the good part is that he's still there and hasn't left yet. In the past he's only ever...

serendipity · serendipity

my mil and i used to be very close. i really respected her. liked her, loved her. but as the disease progressed with my h it also progressed with the family. she had gone to alanon many times in the past. it just never stuck. but when my marriage blew up 3 years ago the entire family dumped me and the kids, clo...

Christy · Christy

Wayne Dyer wrote the book "The Power of Intention", a great book..The Power of Intention is about what he (Dr. Dyer) believes HP had intended for us, and way to get there. These thoughts aren't from that book, but another called "Dr. Dyer's Everyday Wisdom for Success"...I think he's awesome!...

chris52 · chris52

Last time I was on in chat(about 2 months ago) a storm kicked up and I kept losing my connection. No idea what happened but couldn't get back on again and the engineer said I had some damage to the puter.Then lost my ADSL line and phone line when road works damaged the phone cables.(The house phone is still...

MFran · MFran

It has been a while since I posted. It just seemed like it hurt less if I didn't talk or think about it. I haven't been to a f2f lately because if I don't go, I don't have to talk or think about it. She needs to go to a residental treatment center, but refuses. I feel like I am w...

kas · kas

I've only just discovered this on line forum and chat room and have been avidly reading the posts. I am in rough shape emotionally and amazed at some of the people who have been dealing with much worse situations but I guess it is all relative. I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend (we have...

cloudspeed · cloudspeed

Hi, I've been to alanon meetings for a couple years on and off, and of course, now I am seeing that I do much better with my life when I am attending alanon. Interesting, to realize this now, because I was not before but Now I am with a "possible" alcoholic (again). I am not sure - about everything - abou...

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	Pain (Preview) I heard something from my home group last week that I thought I should share with those working on recovery. The following statement is so profound, it is: "Pain is the only knife sharp enough to cut through denial" It reminded me of how long I fought and struggled against the d...	tommyecat	1	492	Jun 5, 2006 by doxie
	Prayers please, please, please. (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just got back from the ICU and seeing hubby. His pancreas has been damaged. The past 2 weeks that he has been staying with his friend from rehab (the one he saved a couple of months ago from a heroine overdose) he hasn't been able to ke...	Karilynn	16	758	Jun 5, 2006 by bubbles1990
	A crack in my serenity (Preview) As some of you know.... Last month my son's first car was hit by a truck and totaled (son was fine). He had it 6 weeks. We lost $700.00 on the deal and took it with a grain of salt. Insuranse would only give us X amount. So we found him another car for a good price. A red 1993 Mitsubishi Eclipse. Old, but h...	Christy	10	830	Jun 5, 2006 by tea2
	Missed Everyone while I Slipped (Preview) For personal complications I have avoided the site all together for a time... and it didn't take long for my mind to slip completely & fall into the preying brain suck of depression. I need the outlet, support & grounding, for as much as I know, truly each moment I'm a beginner and all o...	kitty	14	806	Jun 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	consequences (Preview) I understand that an A must be allowed to suffer the consequences of his actions if he is ever going to seek help or admit a problem soooo isn't one of these consequences my hurt and anger and the wedge it places in our relationship. If I pretend that everythig is fine and ignore last n...	Elizabeth M	3	575	Jun 5, 2006 by canadianguy
	Drug Abuser Dad gives pills to son (Preview) Somebody please tell me I am not crazy. Giving pills like Vicodine, Valiums, Oxyconton (sp?) to your son, age 25, is just sick. My husband has a back injury and abuses his medication to the point that he's throwing up while driving or sometimes in the middle of a meal and can only make it to the kitchen sin...	patience	8	581	Jun 5, 2006 by nycbt
	Removing A from my life (Preview) I've just removed my A sister from my life. Can't take being jerked around anymore. Haven't seen who I always knew as my sister for years. She has managed to keep my family in turmoil for so long. It's as if I've buried someone. But then, it's as if she died so long ago.&n...	dusk2dawn	4	549	Jun 5, 2006 by nycbt
	engaged to an active alcoholic- HELP (Preview) Hello to my brothers and sisters on the path of recovery. I have been with my man for almost two years now. At first I was in some denial about his alcoholism as he is a very functional drunk and I figured hey lot's of ladies stay with alcohoic men and go to alan-on to get relief. Believe it or not, I once actua...	patrice	2	529	Jun 5, 2006 by nycbt
	typical day at Eden (Preview) Well after going clear out to the toolyboons with my Brownijoy , my chocolatelab/rottie pup, to pick up two NIgerian goats.. don't ask, the day was getting fuller. They had too many goats. Were wonderfully taken care of, but the gal did not smile once. Seemed like life was a chore f...	debilyn	8	586	Jun 5, 2006 by Barbara
	God give me Strength, Please (Preview) I've just hung up the phone w/ my A. He is high again. He's used more per diem money to pay for his drugs. This time, there is no paycheck to cover it. He is supposed to have the money tomorrow for the crew going out of town. I told him that when he wanted to get well to let me know.&...	Akasha	10	573	Jun 5, 2006 by leo
	Slipping big time and you know what? (Preview) Right now I don't care!!! I had my last drink while out with friends when my husband was in rehab. It'll be three years in November. What did I do as soon as hubby left for the Alano club tonight? I went across the street to the party store and bought myself a pint of watermelon sc...	rio	6	697	Jun 5, 2006 by lin0606
	What goes around comes around (Preview) Dear Friends How is everyone today? I hope well, today is Saturday June 3, 2006 and usually I would be spending the day with my A-boyfriend or a least talking on the phone with him to plan a day adventure with him. But today I won’t be, in fact never. As most of you know he bro...	angelnomore	2	625	Jun 4, 2006 by nmike
	Lost, need ESH and prayers (Preview) Going on 10 months Been here since Hurricanes Katrina and Rita. That was bad enough to loose everything and have to find anew. Being back in touch with A-dau and A-m...	d53sjurne	3	519	Jun 4, 2006 by peewee
	My A is going to rehab on Monday (Preview) Well, my A has decided to go to rehab on Monday. We went and got everything set up on Friday and they got him a bed asap. He'll be gone for at least 28 days. He has cut off contact with his drinking buddies and is having his dad and another AA friend take him to the rehab. BUT, this weekend has been Hell so far....	MdmDragonfly	5	573	Jun 4, 2006 by abbyal
	HE'S GONE AND I AM SO LOST (Preview) THIS IS MY FIRST POST. I HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO ATTEND MY ONLINE MEETINGS BECAUSE I AM OUT OF TOWN AND BECAUSE OF THIS NIGHTMARE I HAVE BEEN LIVING SINCE APRIL 11. I FINALLY GOT THE COURAGE TO LEAVE MY A OF 27 YEARS. I MET A MAN IN OREGON ABOUT A YEAR AGO. FLEW OUT TO BE WITH HIM MANY TIMES. WE FELL IN LOVE AT FIRST SI...	dwa1163	18	670	Jun 4, 2006 by dwa1163
	Hmm...must be doing okay (Preview) (((((((((Family)))))))))), Just thinking out loud here. Ever since I asked hubby to leave, I have been awfully calm about all of this. I'm wondering if I'm almost too calm. Now granted I don't have the chaos to come home too because he was drinking. I am slowly put...	Karilynn	5	621	Jun 4, 2006 by dwa1163
	Decided this week its time to start doing for my son and myself (Preview) Adopted 2 bunnies yesterday Painters coming this morn to give estimate on painting our main floor - dining/living, kitchen, 2 bedrooms & 2 baths. Its me with the $ in savings and its time to start spending it! I dont need A husband's approval to open my savings account! Also have a grassman com...	Barbara	6	545	Jun 4, 2006 by abbyal
	Little Prayer Please (Preview) Just a little prayer, that I continue to work my program and have the strength not to talk to the disease. I worked very late last night out observing a job at the job site, I have now been accused of being selfish and cheating on my A. I am asking my HP to guide me with my words and actions. Hugs M...	marmare	5	514	Jun 4, 2006 by Maria123
	LittleWings Poems From The Heart (Preview) Before I Turned Into A ButterFly [img]I was released into a world that was unfamilure. Falling from a tree that stood high in the sky. Laying there lifeless and confused I finally had the will to crawl and find my way Where I was going was unknown But, I started out for my journey ...	LittleWing	2	1089	Jun 4, 2006 by LittleWing
	I'm not going to apologize anymore for my feelings (Preview) Hello Group, This morning a light bulb went off for me. My A called to say hi and I love you... I expressed to him that I missed him and wanted to see how things were going for him. He said fine. O.K. maybe I should have left it at that, but I needed to say how I have be...	twinmom2	5	642	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	because (Preview) Having a hard time understanding this program....I have to change...I have to become this perfect compasionate calm caring person who sees the glass half full and sees the A as a person who can't help himself(poor him)..Really struggling with how I am suppose to respond(not react) st...	Elizabeth M	3	558	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	It is what it is, but what is it? (Preview) I decided not to write then changed my mind. A called me collect from jail. Told him what was happening with his family. Then he got on how he did not know what he would do when he got out. I replied, "it is totally up to you." He comes back with, "My options are very limited." I told him we have been togeth...	debilyn	3	634	Jun 4, 2006 by maresie2
	When did you start "getting it"? (Preview) Just thinking about a couple of "aha" moments in my recovery, kind of 'lines in the sand' that are memories, and perhaps stepping stones for me finally "getting it" and moving towards a healthier life for me.... 1. Blame - I was at a family conference at my ex-wife's treatment center, and was talking...	canadianguy	9	1414	Jun 4, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	PLEASE read IMPORTANT Pen Pal Club People (Preview) OK I have had several respond interested in the "Pen Pal Club"...could everyone do me a HUGE favor and PLEASE send me an email with your info: real full name "snail mail" address birthday (optional) AlAnon anniversary date (optional) any other info please email THIS info to: &nb...	jennneeefffurrr	0	502	Jun 4, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	New and a bit scared (Preview) Well, it took me 43 years to get here and honestly I don't quite know where "here" is or if it's where I need to be. There is so much to say...I feel like I am opening a can of worms, but, I don't know that I can continue this balancing act much longer. I have been depressed since high school, on anti...	Little Lisa	15	666	Jun 4, 2006 by peewee
	Throwing in the towel (Preview) My husband has been an alcoholic for the entire time that we've been together. He was drunk the night we met and he was drinking on our first date. We were both very young then...he was 22 and I had just turned 19. I chalked it up to the typical young adult craziness that most of u...	rio	8	642	Jun 3, 2006 by krise
	PEN PAL CLUB (Preview) We have 5 people interested in the "PEN PAL CLUB" If anyone is interested, PM me your address & if you want it shared with others, your B-day and etc info. I will have everything organized to start it up by mid or end of next week. LOVE and BEST WISHES!!! Jen	jennneeefffurrr	1	549	Jun 3, 2006 by patience
	I am so freakishly confused!! (Preview) I went to my first f2f meeting last night…people were incredibly warm and welcoming but honestly I was left wondering if I ought to go to an AA. Not instead of Al-Alon, but in addition to. Because although I definitely have al-anon type problems, what is primary for me in the short term…what is acute f...	Dog	11	633	Jun 3, 2006 by patience
	not my business yet hurting me (Preview) Good Morning (((Everyone))) I'm a little confused this morning. My AH told his family he filed for divorce. It made me angry that he lied once again and asked why he would do that ... they were bad mouthing me ... saying I had put too much guilt on him over the years, that he deserved to be happy. I l...	Jennifer	6	939	Jun 3, 2006 by peewee
	Missing you (Preview) Hello (((((((friends)))))) I am still unable to get into the chat room. I have registered four times with starchat and have never heard back from them. I will continue to try to work this out, so I can join you all again. In the meantime, just know that I am missing you guys and the meeting...	Lexie	7	577	Jun 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	Hard Night dealing with detachment (Preview) I dont know WHAT the deal was last night, but I all of a sudden went into panic mode about my A, who I have not spoken to in 11 days now. I am doing so well with my recovery, getting stronger, feeling more confident, calm and accepting. I have even been talking to God in prayer and instead of be...	jennneeefffurrr	2	669	Jun 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	Hopeless? (Preview) I have felt a lot less hopeful since looking at this site and reading a few things by people who have been married to/partners of alcoholics. The general consensus seems to be that As don't get better, they just go on drinking and they basically don't give a damn about anyone or anything if it conflicts w...	DrystaneDyke	9	790	Jun 3, 2006 by DrystaneDyke
	New here and sad and confused and... (Preview) Well, I have flirted with the idea of sharing my story, asking for advice, etc. and figured that I may as well do what I always do and jump in with both feet. I have been with my A for 2 years. I knew him when he was active, then he went to rehab and when he came home, that is when we got together. Shortly...	MdmDragonfly	6	666	Jun 3, 2006 by MdmDragonfly
	Tonight's meeting! (Preview) Hello roomies, Yesterday my "A" was offered a job in Alaska, and due to car troubles he has taken the job. I am taking him later today to the boat. This place is about 2 hours away from our house (depending on the traffic). I may need back up for the meeting I am supposed to chair tonight. I am not sure. I w...	Dolphin123	0	451	Jun 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi, I am looking for anyone who is willing to sponser, over the internet. Because, of my school situation and such I feel this would be the best course, I have asked in chats and this was suggested to me. Thank you briana My e-mail is briana5587@adelphi.net	Briana5587	2	555	Jun 3, 2006 by lmt123
	I live with Peter Pan (Preview) I feel like I live with Peter Pan. No responsiblities & don't want to grow up. We are two women who were friends/ coworkers. We went to a neurologist today for me. I had to pay $250 cash. We are on a fixed income. I have been having migraine headaches. She tells him how I have...	hmrnrnmm	3	521	Jun 3, 2006 by Becky1
	recovery...9 days (Preview) OK, in my most recent post, I told you all that I snubbed my A when he waved at me... Today makes 9 days and I have not spoken to him, called him, texted him, drove past his house on purpose or sent any desperate letters in the mail. I even found more of his belongings in my apartment and TH...	jennneeefffurrr	7	650	Jun 3, 2006 by Andrea12
	Help - I can't get into the chat room? (Preview) I tried to log into the chat room this morning (June 3, 2006) and nothing 'took'. Is this a 'new' program? Thanks for helping me out guys. XOXO, scamper	Scamper	0	454	Jun 3, 2006 by Scamper
	Love (Preview) I am wrestling with a new concept throughout my recovery process. It is LOVE. I have made it through the steps with a loving, wonderful sponsor who has 25 years in the program. The happiness, peace and serenity that I have found from doing the work is rem...	tommyecat	6	693	Jun 3, 2006 by isabela40
	my first birthday after my alcoholic mother died (Preview) Hello everybody. I'm so grateful that this message board is here to allow me to vent! My birthday is on Monday- the first one since my mother died. I feel so alone. I'm throwing a party tomorrow night to 'celebrate' with my friends, but have no energy to shop for it. I am filled with dread that nobody in my f...	miamiave	3	561	Jun 2, 2006 by Jill
	something for me (Preview) http://www.infotecbusinesssystems.com/wildlife/ I watch this eagle cam all day long. I love it. It keeps me centered about how the world is more than pain and aism. Also it is just so darn interesting! What do you do for you? There are no rules. I raise things. I love raising chicks and austral...	debilyn	6	538	Jun 2, 2006 by maresie2
	need input (Preview) hi, I'm new to this board. I have a situation that I'm trying to sort out & I think I'm too close to really see the whole picture. Is there anyone out there that has had an experience with a "loved one" that abuses alcohol on the weekends & had kids involved? My "boyfriend" &am...	suzydawn	6	628	Jun 2, 2006 by maresie2
	Honesty-filled phone call as alarm clock (Preview) I'm still reeling. My A called me this morning, I wasn't awake yet. With the normal "formalities" such as "Hi Honey. Good Morning. Are you awake?" out of the way...he got into the real "meat" of the call. "I'm so &*^% up right now. I have been for over a week.&nbs...	Akasha	7	618	Jun 2, 2006 by Akasha
	dropped the bomb (Preview) well i feel guilty and good at the same time... phew what a feeling. A feeling that I am not quite sure I like but once again time will tell. I had a very honest conversation with my A this morning. The first one in a long time and he was sober so it was a good time to do it. I had to be pi...	dipstick75	5	689	Jun 2, 2006 by shadow1
	PEN PALS? WHO IS INTERESTED? (Preview) I am so grateful for all of my Al Anon friends! Is anyone interested in starting a "pen pal club"...just a thought. I always love to recieve a send a note and a card to someone on their birthday, Christmas or just to let them know I care. I am pretty old fashioned - what can I say? I am willing...	jennneeefffurrr	6	1178	Jun 2, 2006 by Barbara
	i think it's a problem (Preview) my a called a bit ago to talk to the kids. he had not called mon. or tues. and called and left a message yesterday on my cell. he says he is not using but i don't believe it. he is at his mother's. i wasted an hour putting him down and listening to his insanity. that it was me that kept him away from his family. he t...	serendipity	4	649	Jun 2, 2006 by Rita G
	MIP map where are you? (Preview) Help! I was looking for the MIP map on www.frappr.com/miraclesinprogress but when i typed it in they said there was no map? I remembering registering. I mean I know I am an old lady with bifocals but I'm not that crazy. Has anybody else had trouble finding the m...	Karilynn	2	599	Jun 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	thanks & more questions (Preview) Thanks to those that responded to my first post. I will keep coming back here & check out a meeting. Although, I feel very nervous allowing my BF to know that I'm going to meetings . . . I constantly ask myself if I'm just creating the problem . . . I've had a few friends tell m...	suzydawn	4	972	Jun 2, 2006 by suzydawn
	unable to get nickname in chatroom (Preview) Ok my A must be making me stupid by osmosis. I have tried 3 times to get my nickname to show in the chatroom. I go to the bottom left corner as I have done in the past & type it in & hit enter. and wait................................Nothing happens. I am aol . I have registered my nickname wi...	hmrnrnmm	4	729	Jun 1, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	the scary unknown (Preview) hello ((((family)))) As some of you know my marriage to my A is over.We will separate as soon as the house is sold.Hub is sober,not a drink in 16 years, but has been dry drunk for several years. He is looking for my replacement...apparently has been for some time.He is going to live in a used motor hom...	drucilla06	6	672	Jun 1, 2006 by drucilla06
	when you totally surrender (Preview) should you be struggling with what you surrendered....or does it mean you did not totally surrender. What I mean is....if you ask God to have your problems and have trouble not taking them back...is that truly surrender?	Gailey	4	524	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	Brutal Honesty... Needs more work (Preview) So just to level set anyone who thinks I have this program all down pat.... LOL Today my AW asked me why I didn't run out and fix her second wedding ring for our aniversery today. And I told her... 5 years ago when you decided you had had enough of me and were leaving your wedding ring was bent up so you c...	rtexas	4	525	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	So... it's officially my Aniversery (Preview) My work phone woke me up to fix a system problem, and I find the card and M&M's from my AW in the garage where I left her to go to bed a few hours ago. You see I planned a trip to a cabin for the 2 of us for this weekend. Part of what we have been arguing about is this trip. It boils down to she does...	rtexas	5	646	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	Programs? (Preview) Thank you everyone for your prayers. My brother is still at my mom's. He's getting better, but unfortunately he doesn't feel rehab will help him so I guess he's obviously not ready to fully deal with this yet. But I guess the good part is that he's still there and hasn't left yet. In the past he's only ever...	Jayda	5	628	Jun 1, 2006 by lilms
	mother-in-law (Preview) my mil and i used to be very close. i really respected her. liked her, loved her. but as the disease progressed with my h it also progressed with the family. she had gone to alanon many times in the past. it just never stuck. but when my marriage blew up 3 years ago the entire family dumped me and the kids, clo...	serendipity	3	1018	Jun 1, 2006 by Gailey
	Inspirational Thoughts from Dr. Wayne Dyer (Preview) Wayne Dyer wrote the book "The Power of Intention", a great book..The Power of Intention is about what he (Dr. Dyer) believes HP had intended for us, and way to get there. These thoughts aren't from that book, but another called "Dr. Dyer's Everyday Wisdom for Success"...I think he's awesome!...	Christy	5	889	Jun 1, 2006 by Christy
	Oh God I have missed you guys (Preview) Last time I was on in chat(about 2 months ago) a storm kicked up and I kept losing my connection. No idea what happened but couldn't get back on again and the engineer said I had some damage to the puter.Then lost my ADSL line and phone line when road works damaged the phone cables.(The house phone is still...	chris52	12	563	Jun 1, 2006 by toto12
	My daughter, again (Preview) It has been a while since I posted. It just seemed like it hurt less if I didn't talk or think about it. I haven't been to a f2f lately because if I don't go, I don't have to talk or think about it. She needs to go to a residental treatment center, but refuses. I feel like I am w...	MFran	6	666	Jun 1, 2006 by leo
	Newbie my story.....long post (Preview) I've only just discovered this on line forum and chat room and have been avidly reading the posts. I am in rough shape emotionally and amazed at some of the people who have been dealing with much worse situations but I guess it is all relative. I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend (we have...	kas	6	560	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	unsure (Preview) Hi, I've been to alanon meetings for a couple years on and off, and of course, now I am seeing that I do much better with my life when I am attending alanon. Interesting, to realize this now, because I was not before but Now I am with a "possible" alcoholic (again). I am not sure - about everything - abou...	cloudspeed	4	530	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
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