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drucilla06 · drucilla06

hello ((((family)))) As some of you know my marriage to my A is over.We will separate as soon as the house is sold.Hub is sober,not a drink in 16 years, but has been dry drunk for several years. He is looking for my replacement...apparently has been for some time.He is going to live in a used motor hom...

Gailey · Gailey

should you be struggling with what you surrendered....or does it mean you did not totally surrender. What I mean is....if you ask God to have your problems and have trouble not taking them back...is that truly surrender?

rtexas · rtexas

So just to level set anyone who thinks I have this program all down pat.... LOL Today my AW asked me why I didn't run out and fix her second wedding ring for our aniversery today. And I told her... 5 years ago when you decided you had had enough of me and were leaving your wedding ring was bent up so you c...

rtexas · rtexas

My work phone woke me up to fix a system problem, and I find the card and M&M's from my AW in the garage where I left her to go to bed a few hours ago. You see I planned a trip to a cabin for the 2 of us for this weekend. Part of what we have been arguing about is this trip. It boils down to she does...

Jayda · Jayda

Thank you everyone for your prayers. My brother is still at my mom's. He's getting better, but unfortunately he doesn't feel rehab will help him so I guess he's obviously not ready to fully deal with this yet. But I guess the good part is that he's still there and hasn't left yet. In the past he's only ever...

serendipity · serendipity

my mil and i used to be very close. i really respected her. liked her, loved her. but as the disease progressed with my h it also progressed with the family. she had gone to alanon many times in the past. it just never stuck. but when my marriage blew up 3 years ago the entire family dumped me and the kids, clo...

Christy · Christy

Wayne Dyer wrote the book "The Power of Intention", a great book..The Power of Intention is about what he (Dr. Dyer) believes HP had intended for us, and way to get there. These thoughts aren't from that book, but another called "Dr. Dyer's Everyday Wisdom for Success"...I think he's awesome!...

chris52 · chris52

Last time I was on in chat(about 2 months ago) a storm kicked up and I kept losing my connection. No idea what happened but couldn't get back on again and the engineer said I had some damage to the puter.Then lost my ADSL line and phone line when road works damaged the phone cables.(The house phone is still...

MFran · MFran

It has been a while since I posted. It just seemed like it hurt less if I didn't talk or think about it. I haven't been to a f2f lately because if I don't go, I don't have to talk or think about it. She needs to go to a residental treatment center, but refuses. I feel like I am w...

kas · kas

I've only just discovered this on line forum and chat room and have been avidly reading the posts. I am in rough shape emotionally and amazed at some of the people who have been dealing with much worse situations but I guess it is all relative. I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend (we have...

cloudspeed · cloudspeed

Hi, I've been to alanon meetings for a couple years on and off, and of course, now I am seeing that I do much better with my life when I am attending alanon. Interesting, to realize this now, because I was not before but Now I am with a "possible" alcoholic (again). I am not sure - about everything - abou...

mbernal99 · mbernal99

Hello, New Guy here. I found your excellent forum so here is my story: I am 35 years old and still live at home. I have degree in electrical engineering, but I suffer from panic disorder so I can't seem to hold down a job to help me move out of the house. And boy do I...

Akasha · Akasha

I did it - didn't back out. I had every excuse in the book prepared and ready to use - but I didn't. It was my children's lunch time - it was their nap time - I was there and no one else was (rare that I'm early! LOL). I didn't pull those out and use them - although I desperately wanted...

maresie2 · maresie2

For some reason my original Maresie account was deleted. I am not going to wonder why. These past weekend I took care of myself when I had some awful novo virus thing, totally wiped out with the flu. Normally when I am sick, I am just as sick with resentment. The a normally runs for the hill...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Thanks)))) to everyone for your support the other day. I was relapsing pretty hard and your responses really helped. She is still a mess, but your strength helped me keep a slippery hold on my sanity. I think what is making this harder is that tomorrow is our 15th aniv...

lilms · lilms

Okay, I am not a complete moron, honestly truly I am not. Yet in reading your posts, and thank you all for sharing vast amounts of wisdom, I have come across all kinds of smileys. Where the heck do I find those things??? Annie

Barbara · Barbara

anyone else feel this way? I sure do

Rita G · Rita G

This is a flyer that we give out at my home group, New Beginnings, in Lake Charles, LA - I keep it taped on my mirror in my dressing area to remind me every morning about the Promises of working this program. Hope it helps you as much as it helps me. One Day at a Time Rita ...

Dog · Dog

Whew! I’ve been reading the board and it’s…sobering! I am surely in the right place. I plan to attend my first al-anon meeting on Wednesday and in the meantime found your board. I have an alcoholic boyfriend… for 2 years now. He’s 52…and fell off the wagon after 13 years of sobriety. When I met him he...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I saw my A today, first time in a week. His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!! This may seem like - so wha...

lila · lila

Hi everyone, I learned a great tip at Yoga last week to calm yourself and stop your mind from ticking over and letting those nagative thoughts take over.

Did you know that when your tongue is against the roof of your mouth it triggers your brain to become more active, th...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, It's official...I am finally the proud parent of a high school graduate! Graduation is over, I am done cleaning the house and preparing food (for at least 4 years, lolol) although I'm still going to be doing that daily, LOL. My daughter is now officially a "grown up".

...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just want to take a moment to thank all of you who have family serving in the military around the world. Politics aside, what the military families do to serve all of our countries is heroic, unselfish and to be commended. I know how hard i...

tea2 · tea2

I knew when I was thinking of this as a question to post I would end up sharing a bit (perhaps a vent?) on why I am asking. Also would serve as my daily al-anon journaling, so a win win. I will share two instances that come to mind for example on why I am asking: I recall the first time I felt it from my A (ex hu...

lebe27 · lebe27

Hi all, wish I could join you in chat but can't get in. I registered nickname like I was suppose to for AOL on Saturday and still have not been emailed activation code from starchat. I even registered again today and tried to contact them by email in the starchat website and still nothing...

babysteps · babysteps

We went to my in-laws for the weekend. They live 4 hours away. My AH has many "family of origin" issues with them (both a's, especially mom; and explosive tempers). I told my ah on the way there it would be better if he didn't drink (they know he is a). He said he would try. He never got in any way intoxicated b...

flintfeet · flintfeet

well, some of you may have read my post about giving my dad one more chance to be sober around me and my kids. he can do whatever he wants on his own time, but on my time-he must be sober or we will cut off all ties. i am happy to share with you that he has been good so far. i am still worried that he is going to go back...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Can anyone give me some input on how they established for themselves healthy boundaries? I am contemplating taking my AH back, and I feel like I am able to live in this marriage and be happy, but I feel like I am taking myself in a direction that will only allow my AH to step all over me. He is fa...

Scota · Scota

Hey- Well, another week has started. The M.D weekend wasn't so good for me, I was mired in a depressed fog practically the whole time. I felt like a zombie most of the time. It just hit me so bad, like a black thing wrapping itself around my soul.

Damn I hate that. I don't want...

QOD · QOD

I went to my consultation w/a divorce lawyer on Friday. What a great meeting! This woman was absolutely wonderful. She answered all of my questions, covered everything. She gave me the property settlement papers needed to file for separation. All I have to do is an...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was just reading Monday daily readings. Sorry I do not know which book at this moment. It basically said what I have been saying just before I found alanon. If our lives are truely planned before we got here, then the only thing we had choice in is to accept it and live happily. Or fight it ever st...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, Having some trust isssues. First let me say that when I met my husband, he was the only man I had ever trusted, he didn't gawk @ other women. He didn't flirt with them. But lately, I am not feeling very trusting of him. He has become good friends with our nieghbors, they are alcoholics. I witnessed...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Poor me! I have to go to a training the next two days. Poor me! I have to go to Leavenworth, WA (not the prison

) Poor me! I have to stay in this resort called the Sleeping Lady! Poor me! I have to eat wonderful food that I don't have to cook. (Doesn't that make it bett...

confused · confused

Hi (((roomies))) Hope everyone had a fantastic long weekend. My AH, sons and I went to Maryland for the long weekend. Had a really great time and I have decided that I am ready to reconcile with my AH. Will definitely need to stay focused on my own program....living with recovery...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

Things have been quiet in our house for the last week and a half. No late night binges or 2 hour disappearing acts. I have been to f2f meetings BUT today I am angry. I should be happy ...right...things have been calm I am angry for the past hurt and the future hurt t...

Lana · Lana

I’ve been hearing a lot about people’s business lately. There’s my business, your business, and God’s business. I’m finding that I am much happier when I mind my own business, but sometimes figuring out what is my business is difficult. I’ve also been learning that a part...

kerry5 · kerry5

This will be a long share. I come back to mip a changed person. Some of you know my story some dont, for those of your that dont i was raised in a violent acoholic home abused on a regular basis. I am so confused and for the first time in my life, not in complete panic mode. Which is usually how i ha...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

Well, I made it through the weekend without calling him, sending text messages or any desperate letters. Saturday I went to a friend's house just to hang out. A girl I graduated with in 1987 and had only really seen a few times since then was there. She was very friendly, both hugging me, but both of the...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) I just can't seem to get over this hump in the road. My AW is screaming and crying again over the fact that I refuse to quit going to Al-Anon meetings. We had a decient weekend last weekend going out of town with her folks to the beach. Almost as soon as we got home sh...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am back after an absence, then not long after i lost my computer for a few months. I have grown somehow in my absence i guess thats why hp took my computer away so i could really see, and i had to be alone to see it. I realized how very mean i was in chat also. How mean i was period. I realized that i do not a...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Here's a link I got from a friend that i found helpful: http://joy2meu.com/Alcoholism.html Lanchas

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Ok, I admit it...I listen to country, I'm a country gal at heart. Heehee. Just heard this song and thought to myself how it gives a tiny bit of insight into the other side, the struggle they go thru, the shame they feel. Why does that matter to me? Well, it helps me to have compassion, t...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all~ I am just having a very tough, emotional day...so I thought I would write a bit. I went away with my 2 best girlfriends this weekend, had a wonderfully relaxing time...but the quiet made me do some thinking. I think when I got away from life, the hustle and bustle of the last month o...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Not exactly sure what happened yesterday...last night....this morning. I share this with you, my friends, to try to keep in check what is happening to me. I am drawing on the experience of those on this board in all of their differing stages of recovery. My hope is that SOME...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I just logged on and discovered a hoax personal message - the usual help me get millions of dollars out of my home country, for your help, I will deposit a large sum into your account. Don't fall for it, it is a scam. BTW, I was surprised to get it in my pm's I guess these crims infiltrate every...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, It has been a year since my AH moved. I still ask why. Why didn't I see it coming? Why am I so lonely and apparently he is not? Why won't he go to meetings? Why can't I move on? Why am I left behind in an isolated area? Why do I keep asking him to come home? And he said it is too isolated for him; that he need...

penny · penny

Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or ca...

Barbara · Barbara

They remind me that we dont have many friends or family

DrystaneDyke · DrystaneDyke

and found this forum by Googling "Al-Anon forum". I don't really know who you are or what you do or how it works. I only know that I need help to cope with my (very lovable) husband's alcoholism. Am I in the right place?

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison as I have posted about many times. I am so unsure how I feel. I have not spoken to him in 5 days as he is in reception now where there are no phones... I used to be soooooooo in love with this man. I mean, i would have done anything for him. Slowly, i have come to see how sick we are together. (...

QOD · QOD

My son (12-1/2 years old) went to karate class yesterday right after school. He has been wanting to come home first to spend time w/his dad (my AH). So it took me a bit by surprise that he made that choice. When I got home from work, my AH was laying in his recliner (slept all damn day). When I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I'm angry confused and need to vent ... any ESH would be appreciated. In the last few days for various reasons I have had contact with my AH who I filed for divorce from a week ago. In the last 3 days I have been told "I'm gonna get you back" "You keep my wedding ring we'll use them...

Tracys Mom · Tracys Mom

I just read the "Separated" string. I've been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. In some ways it doesn't get any better! At least it didn't for me. Well, not at first. It got real bad actually because I got so depressed when I least expected it. I thought I was gonna feel this huge...

New member · sandi

Hello, Not really sure how to begin so I'll just say hello and thank you for allowing me to join. I'm kind of lost with all of this. My AH has decided to quit drinking but it never really lasts, guess that's negative on my part. So I'm just trying to learn how not to be an enabler and what is the difference be...

shadow1 · shadow1

Well i think i really hit rock bottom this week. I felt like my life was totally out of control. I did something that i totally regret to a friend and it was taken the wrong way. I have tried to make amends but to no avail. When I hit rock bottom my AH was at home and we had a long chat. I told him that I was sorry t...

lin0606 · lin0606

I was at a roundup this weekend, and had an enlightening experience. There is a woman in our town whose husband is a recovering A, in AA. He has been sober for five or six years. She is not in alanon, yet she usually comes to the roundups and conventions, as a sort of social occasion. This is how I know he...

miamiave · miamiave

hello, this is the first time I am coming to this discussion board. My dry drunk mother died six months ago. I have no brothers or sisters and my parents were divorced....since her death, I very rarely if ever hear from the rest of the family (who are all alcoholic or dry drunks). Nobody has ever asked me h...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I have just been thinking alot the past couple of days....kids are with friends, had alot of time to actually look at my life.......I am hoping that I saw the answers to some things that have been bothering me. I know it's suppose to be one day at a time but, hub is going to anot...

nycbt · nycbt

i am going to be unable to run the meeting tom due to something coming up. Please can someone take my place and I will do it the next week. thanks becky

momofthree · momofthree

My A husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. My AH did not drink at all when we meet and married. I started drinking about 2 years ago. At first is was maybe a 6 pack a month and then ended up being a 12 pack a night. He was arrested last July for being drunk with a neighbo...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	the scary unknown (Preview) hello ((((family)))) As some of you know my marriage to my A is over.We will separate as soon as the house is sold.Hub is sober,not a drink in 16 years, but has been dry drunk for several years. He is looking for my replacement...apparently has been for some time.He is going to live in a used motor hom...	drucilla06	6	487	Jun 1, 2006 by drucilla06
	when you totally surrender (Preview) should you be struggling with what you surrendered....or does it mean you did not totally surrender. What I mean is....if you ask God to have your problems and have trouble not taking them back...is that truly surrender?	Gailey	4	373	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	Brutal Honesty... Needs more work (Preview) So just to level set anyone who thinks I have this program all down pat.... LOL Today my AW asked me why I didn't run out and fix her second wedding ring for our aniversery today. And I told her... 5 years ago when you decided you had had enough of me and were leaving your wedding ring was bent up so you c...	rtexas	4	378	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	So... it's officially my Aniversery (Preview) My work phone woke me up to fix a system problem, and I find the card and M&M's from my AW in the garage where I left her to go to bed a few hours ago. You see I planned a trip to a cabin for the 2 of us for this weekend. Part of what we have been arguing about is this trip. It boils down to she does...	rtexas	5	470	Jun 1, 2006 by kitty
	Programs? (Preview) Thank you everyone for your prayers. My brother is still at my mom's. He's getting better, but unfortunately he doesn't feel rehab will help him so I guess he's obviously not ready to fully deal with this yet. But I guess the good part is that he's still there and hasn't left yet. In the past he's only ever...	Jayda	5	440	Jun 1, 2006 by lilms
	mother-in-law (Preview) my mil and i used to be very close. i really respected her. liked her, loved her. but as the disease progressed with my h it also progressed with the family. she had gone to alanon many times in the past. it just never stuck. but when my marriage blew up 3 years ago the entire family dumped me and the kids, clo...	serendipity	3	774	Jun 1, 2006 by Gailey
	Inspirational Thoughts from Dr. Wayne Dyer (Preview) Wayne Dyer wrote the book "The Power of Intention", a great book..The Power of Intention is about what he (Dr. Dyer) believes HP had intended for us, and way to get there. These thoughts aren't from that book, but another called "Dr. Dyer's Everyday Wisdom for Success"...I think he's awesome!...	Christy	5	575	Jun 1, 2006 by Christy
	Oh God I have missed you guys (Preview) Last time I was on in chat(about 2 months ago) a storm kicked up and I kept losing my connection. No idea what happened but couldn't get back on again and the engineer said I had some damage to the puter.Then lost my ADSL line and phone line when road works damaged the phone cables.(The house phone is still...	chris52	12	423	Jun 1, 2006 by toto12
	My daughter, again (Preview) It has been a while since I posted. It just seemed like it hurt less if I didn't talk or think about it. I haven't been to a f2f lately because if I don't go, I don't have to talk or think about it. She needs to go to a residental treatment center, but refuses. I feel like I am w...	MFran	6	492	Jun 1, 2006 by leo
	Newbie my story.....long post (Preview) I've only just discovered this on line forum and chat room and have been avidly reading the posts. I am in rough shape emotionally and amazed at some of the people who have been dealing with much worse situations but I guess it is all relative. I am in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend (we have...	kas	6	409	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	unsure (Preview) Hi, I've been to alanon meetings for a couple years on and off, and of course, now I am seeing that I do much better with my life when I am attending alanon. Interesting, to realize this now, because I was not before but Now I am with a "possible" alcoholic (again). I am not sure - about everything - abou...	cloudspeed	4	352	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	Another Newbie, Please Help. (Preview) Hello, New Guy here. I found your excellent forum so here is my story: I am 35 years old and still live at home. I have degree in electrical engineering, but I suffer from panic disorder so I can't seem to hold down a job to help me move out of the house. And boy do I...	mbernal99	7	474	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	Went to first f2f today... (Preview) I did it - didn't back out. I had every excuse in the book prepared and ready to use - but I didn't. It was my children's lunch time - it was their nap time - I was there and no one else was (rare that I'm early! LOL). I didn't pull those out and use them - although I desperately wanted...	Akasha	4	382	Jun 1, 2006 by nycbt
	giving up martyrdoom (Preview) For some reason my original Maresie account was deleted. I am not going to wonder why. These past weekend I took care of myself when I had some awful novo virus thing, totally wiped out with the flu. Normally when I am sick, I am just as sick with resentment. The a normally runs for the hill...	maresie2	5	394	May 31, 2006 by maresie2
	Just a quick note... (Preview) ((((Thanks)))) to everyone for your support the other day. I was relapsing pretty hard and your responses really helped. She is still a mess, but your strength helped me keep a slippery hold on my sanity. I think what is making this harder is that tomorrow is our 15th aniv...	rtexas	3	363	May 31, 2006 by quest
	Smileys (Preview) Okay, I am not a complete moron, honestly truly I am not. Yet in reading your posts, and thank you all for sharing vast amounts of wisdom, I have come across all kinds of smileys. Where the heck do I find those things??? Annie	lilms	3	354	May 31, 2006 by confused
	Side effect of A husband is too much alone time for wife (Preview) anyone else feel this way? I sure do	Barbara	12	458	May 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Al-Anon's Promises (Preview) This is a flyer that we give out at my home group, New Beginnings, in Lake Charles, LA - I keep it taped on my mirror in my dressing area to remind me every morning about the Promises of working this program. Hope it helps you as much as it helps me. One Day at a Time Rita ...	Rita G	5	899	May 31, 2006 by Lana
	New here, new to Al-Anon (Preview) Whew! I’ve been reading the board and it’s…sobering! I am surely in the right place. I plan to attend my first al-anon meeting on Wednesday and in the meantime found your board. I have an alcoholic boyfriend… for 2 years now. He’s 52…and fell off the wagon after 13 years of sobriety. When I met him he...	Dog	5	507	May 31, 2006 by Dog
	I did good...AND weirdo is BAAAACCCKKKK! (Preview) I saw my A today, first time in a week. His car was parked at the light waiting to turn left (golf course I am assuming) and I was coming from his right turning right. I saw his car, he saw me, he waved and smiled and I JUST LOOKED AT HIM AND LOOKED AHEAD AND MADE MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!! This may seem like - so wha...	jennneeefffurrr	6	532	May 31, 2006 by debilyn
	I learned a good tip in Yoga to calm yourself and stop your mind ticking over! (Preview) Hi everyone, I learned a great tip at Yoga last week to calm yourself and stop your mind from ticking over and letting those nagative thoughts take over. Did you know that when your tongue is against the roof of your mouth it triggers your brain to become more active, th...	lila	3	364	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	it's official... (Preview) Hi all, It's official...I am finally the proud parent of a high school graduate! Graduation is over, I am done cleaning the house and preparing food (for at least 4 years, lolol) although I'm still going to be doing that daily, LOL. My daughter is now officially a "grown up". ...	lmt123	6	386	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	Memorial Day (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))), I just want to take a moment to thank all of you who have family serving in the military around the world. Politics aside, what the military families do to serve all of our countries is heroic, unselfish and to be commended. I know how hard i...	Karilynn	11	475	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	Fight or Flight? (Preview) I knew when I was thinking of this as a question to post I would end up sharing a bit (perhaps a vent?) on why I am asking. Also would serve as my daily al-anon journaling, so a win win. I will share two instances that come to mind for example on why I am asking: I recall the first time I felt it from my A (ex hu...	tea2	4	662	May 31, 2006 by peewee
	New Server (Preview) Hi all, wish I could join you in chat but can't get in. I registered nickname like I was suppose to for AOL on Saturday and still have not been emailed activation code from starchat. I even registered again today and tried to contact them by email in the starchat website and still nothing...	lebe27	4	392	May 31, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Using my tools (Preview) We went to my in-laws for the weekend. They live 4 hours away. My AH has many "family of origin" issues with them (both a's, especially mom; and explosive tempers). I told my ah on the way there it would be better if he didn't drink (they know he is a). He said he would try. He never got in any way intoxicated b...	babysteps	3	378	May 31, 2006 by kismetstrand
	so far so good... (Preview) well, some of you may have read my post about giving my dad one more chance to be sober around me and my kids. he can do whatever he wants on his own time, but on my time-he must be sober or we will cut off all ties. i am happy to share with you that he has been good so far. i am still worried that he is going to go back...	flintfeet	1	393	May 31, 2006 by Gailey
	Setting healthy Boundaries (Preview) Can anyone give me some input on how they established for themselves healthy boundaries? I am contemplating taking my AH back, and I feel like I am able to live in this marriage and be happy, but I feel like I am taking myself in a direction that will only allow my AH to step all over me. He is fa...	Jennfer32	7	1793	May 31, 2006 by canadianguy
	another week..... (Preview) Hey- Well, another week has started. The M.D weekend wasn't so good for me, I was mired in a depressed fog practically the whole time. I felt like a zombie most of the time. It just hit me so bad, like a black thing wrapping itself around my soul. Damn I hate that. I don't want...	Scota	6	350	May 31, 2006 by babysteps
	So Confused - Just a Wishy Washy Mess!! (Preview) I went to my consultation w/a divorce lawyer on Friday. What a great meeting! This woman was absolutely wonderful. She answered all of my questions, covered everything. She gave me the property settlement papers needed to file for separation. All I have to do is an...	QOD	8	474	May 31, 2006 by QOD
	Gods will? (Preview) I was just reading Monday daily readings. Sorry I do not know which book at this moment. It basically said what I have been saying just before I found alanon. If our lives are truely planned before we got here, then the only thing we had choice in is to accept it and live happily. Or fight it ever st...	hmrnrnmm	3	465	May 31, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Trust issues (Preview) Hi, Having some trust isssues. First let me say that when I met my husband, he was the only man I had ever trusted, he didn't gawk @ other women. He didn't flirt with them. But lately, I am not feeling very trusting of him. He has become good friends with our nieghbors, they are alcoholics. I witnessed...	horselover58	6	453	May 31, 2006 by maresie2
	Poor Me! (Preview) Poor me! I have to go to a training the next two days. Poor me! I have to go to Leavenworth, WA (not the prison ) Poor me! I have to stay in this resort called the Sleeping Lady! Poor me! I have to eat wonderful food that I don't have to cook. (Doesn't that make it bett...	Dolphin123	1	449	May 31, 2006 by tiredtonite
	reconciling with AH - ESH??? (Preview) Hi (((roomies))) Hope everyone had a fantastic long weekend. My AH, sons and I went to Maryland for the long weekend. Had a really great time and I have decided that I am ready to reconcile with my AH. Will definitely need to stay focused on my own program....living with recovery...	confused	4	477	May 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	anger (Preview) Things have been quiet in our house for the last week and a half. No late night binges or 2 hour disappearing acts. I have been to f2f meetings BUT today I am angry. I should be happy ...right...things have been calm I am angry for the past hurt and the future hurt t...	Elizabeth M	9	479	May 30, 2006 by alystylz
	Whose business is it? (Preview) I’ve been hearing a lot about people’s business lately. There’s my business, your business, and God’s business. I’m finding that I am much happier when I mind my own business, but sometimes figuring out what is my business is difficult. I’ve also been learning that a part...	Lana	9	1237	May 30, 2006 by Lana
	For me (long) kind of mixed :) just thoughts (Preview) This will be a long share. I come back to mip a changed person. Some of you know my story some dont, for those of your that dont i was raised in a violent acoholic home abused on a regular basis. I am so confused and for the first time in my life, not in complete panic mode. Which is usually how i ha...	kerry5	3	386	May 30, 2006 by jrtjosey
	back and forth weekend (Preview) Well, I made it through the weekend without calling him, sending text messages or any desperate letters. Saturday I went to a friend's house just to hang out. A girl I graduated with in 1987 and had only really seen a few times since then was there. She was very friendly, both hugging me, but both of the...	jennneeefffurrr	4	373	May 30, 2006 by Tammy
	The hump... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I just can't seem to get over this hump in the road. My AW is screaming and crying again over the fact that I refuse to quit going to Al-Anon meetings. We had a decient weekend last weekend going out of town with her folks to the beach. Almost as soon as we got home sh...	rtexas	6	432	May 30, 2006 by Jennifer
	For Our Oldtimers Of Alanon (Preview) I am back after an absence, then not long after i lost my computer for a few months. I have grown somehow in my absence i guess thats why hp took my computer away so i could really see, and i had to be alone to see it. I realized how very mean i was in chat also. How mean i was period. I realized that i do not a...	kerry5	13	595	May 30, 2006 by Christy
	internet help (Preview) Here's a link I got from a friend that i found helpful: http://joy2meu.com/Alcoholism.html Lanchas	Lanchas	0	285	May 30, 2006 by Lanchas
	Anywhere but Here (a share and lyrics) (Preview) Ok, I admit it...I listen to country, I'm a country gal at heart. Heehee. Just heard this song and thought to myself how it gives a tiny bit of insight into the other side, the struggle they go thru, the shame they feel. Why does that matter to me? Well, it helps me to have compassion, t...	kismetstrand	2	441	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Hard choices...Big cries (Preview) Hi all~ I am just having a very tough, emotional day...so I thought I would write a bit. I went away with my 2 best girlfriends this weekend, had a wonderfully relaxing time...but the quiet made me do some thinking. I think when I got away from life, the hustle and bustle of the last month o...	robyn76	4	409	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	OH MY.... (Preview) Not exactly sure what happened yesterday...last night....this morning. I share this with you, my friends, to try to keep in check what is happening to me. I am drawing on the experience of those on this board in all of their differing stages of recovery. My hope is that SOME...	Jennfer32	3	374	May 30, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Beware hoax email... (Preview) Hi! I just logged on and discovered a hoax personal message - the usual help me get millions of dollars out of my home country, for your help, I will deposit a large sum into your account. Don't fall for it, it is a scam. BTW, I was surprised to get it in my pm's I guess these crims infiltrate every...	Feather	4	424	May 30, 2006 by rosie light shines
	I ask too many questions (Preview) Hi all, It has been a year since my AH moved. I still ask why. Why didn't I see it coming? Why am I so lonely and apparently he is not? Why won't he go to meetings? Why can't I move on? Why am I left behind in an isolated area? Why do I keep asking him to come home? And he said it is too isolated for him; that he need...	nmike	3	410	May 30, 2006 by canadianguy
	Being strong (Preview) Well since my last posting my EX A, smashed a friends car into the back of a police van, demolished a row of road barriers and just missed ploughing into 20 people leaving a night club. Today he is in court for this offence. BUT just one week after that, he got mad because I would not answer texts or ca...	penny	3	347	May 30, 2006 by Dolphin123
	holidays are bad times (Preview) They remind me that we dont have many friends or family	Barbara	6	428	May 30, 2006 by Hopefloats
	I'm new (Preview) and found this forum by Googling "Al-Anon forum". I don't really know who you are or what you do or how it works. I only know that I need help to cope with my (very lovable) husband's alcoholism. Am I in the right place?	DrystaneDyke	7	406	May 30, 2006 by DrystaneDyke
	Dont know if I love him anymore/sponsor not calling back (Preview) My AH is in prison as I have posted about many times. I am so unsure how I feel. I have not spoken to him in 5 days as he is in reception now where there are no phones... I used to be soooooooo in love with this man. I mean, i would have done anything for him. Slowly, i have come to see how sick we are together. (...	sarahlm	4	404	May 30, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	The Tension Finally Exploded! (Preview) My son (12-1/2 years old) went to karate class yesterday right after school. He has been wanting to come home first to spend time w/his dad (my AH). So it took me a bit by surprise that he made that choice. When I got home from work, my AH was laying in his recliner (slept all damn day). When I...	QOD	10	454	May 30, 2006 by QOD
	Confusion vent (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I'm angry confused and need to vent ... any ESH would be appreciated. In the last few days for various reasons I have had contact with my AH who I filed for divorce from a week ago. In the last 3 days I have been told "I'm gonna get you back" "You keep my wedding ring we'll use them...	Jennifer	5	422	May 30, 2006 by canadianguy
	Divorced - But he's relapsing (Preview) I just read the "Separated" string. I've been separated for a year and divorced for 6 months. In some ways it doesn't get any better! At least it didn't for me. Well, not at first. It got real bad actually because I got so depressed when I least expected it. I thought I was gonna feel this huge...	Tracys Mom	3	446	May 30, 2006 by gardengal
	New member (Preview) Hello, Not really sure how to begin so I'll just say hello and thank you for allowing me to join. I'm kind of lost with all of this. My AH has decided to quit drinking but it never really lasts, guess that's negative on my part. So I'm just trying to learn how not to be an enabler and what is the difference be...	sandi	4	361	May 30, 2006 by sandi
	Things are looking up (Preview) Well i think i really hit rock bottom this week. I felt like my life was totally out of control. I did something that i totally regret to a friend and it was taken the wrong way. I have tried to make amends but to no avail. When I hit rock bottom my AH was at home and we had a long chat. I told him that I was sorry t...	shadow1	1	398	May 30, 2006 by nmike
	Why I Need Program (Preview) I was at a roundup this weekend, and had an enlightening experience. There is a woman in our town whose husband is a recovering A, in AA. He has been sober for five or six years. She is not in alanon, yet she usually comes to the roundups and conventions, as a sort of social occasion. This is how I know he...	lin0606	4	436	May 30, 2006 by abbyal
	mother died 6 months ago (Preview) hello, this is the first time I am coming to this discussion board. My dry drunk mother died six months ago. I have no brothers or sisters and my parents were divorced....since her death, I very rarely if ever hear from the rest of the family (who are all alcoholic or dry drunks). Nobody has ever asked me h...	miamiave	6	598	May 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Thinking (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I have just been thinking alot the past couple of days....kids are with friends, had alot of time to actually look at my life.......I am hoping that I saw the answers to some things that have been bothering me. I know it's suppose to be one day at a time but, hub is going to anot...	Andrea12	4	359	May 29, 2006 by maresie2
	need coverage for may 30 tuesday (Preview) i am going to be unable to run the meeting tom due to something coming up. Please can someone take my place and I will do it the next week. thanks becky	nycbt	1	329	May 29, 2006 by tea2
	I am new. Advice needed. (Preview) My A husband and I have been married for almost 13 years. My AH did not drink at all when we meet and married. I started drinking about 2 years ago. At first is was maybe a 6 pack a month and then ended up being a 12 pack a night. He was arrested last July for being drunk with a neighbo...	momofthree	10	462	May 29, 2006 by nycbt
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