Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i just wanted to ask how some of you deal with things without over reacting or stopping yourself from overreacting. how do you get out of the moment to stop and think before you do something too rash. this is something i'd like to fix about myself. i have a problem with forcing my a out of the hou...

lilms · lilms

Will apologize first off for cursing but don't have any milder words. The first thoughts were much worse believe me. I am confused and befuddled

Have been attending f2f meetings, went to my 3rd one yesterday and I enjoy them and am learning lots. This is where the con...

omajoy · omajoy

My son called on his way home from work today in a lather over actions from his ex. He was so angry. And that is how he often is. He is sober during the week, saving his drinking for Saturdays and Sundays. He is enrolled in a continuing ed class and started to gripe about that. When he is drinking we just don't...

Mia2 · Mia2

Newbie here. I'm very confused where to go... "A" myself and started in that program 7 years ago with many relapses. Found face to face Al-anon meetings two years ago...as I curb my own addictions by monitoring drinking habits and forcing recovery upon loved ones. First siblings, then...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games (I'm...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi, am new at this but very much need support. Am surrounded by alcoholic family, grew up in an alcoholic home and feel isolated and alone at present. Have just broken up with alcholic boyfriend whom I was in complete denial about on most occasions where alcohol use was concerned. This morning I passed...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I am really being tested. I am not understanding what the lesson is. I go the spare tire , mounted, & balanced this afternoon with the help of a dear freind/ neighbor giving me a ride. Then struggling about half and hour just to get the lugs off. I thought the tire looked low on air but it was too close to...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Well I knew I was getting close to the 1000 posts mark. So I went back and re-read my posts throughout my time here at MIP, well all the ones I started anyway. I was able to reflect on where I was when I first started posting here. I was able to see the growth, and to see the areas in which...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

((((Roomies)))), Tonight I browsing and reading through a Dating-How-To book I recently picked up at the library. The book made suggestions on questions to ask onself (Who am I looking for, what is important to me in a partner?) and questions to ask about one's partner (How well do they get along wi...

shamama · shamama

he had been doing so well. consistant in his visitation - 9 hours a week that we mutually agreed on. (he was only abstaining, not working towards sobriety, not interested in recovery . . . i knew it's be a matter of time before he was binging again.) he's finally stopped drinking today after 5 days of bi...

John · John

http://www.mipchat.net also takes you directly into our Al-Anon Chat/Meeting Room. Please let any one having a hard time entering the room know of this method of entering it as it may resolve their problem. Thanks, John

hersh · hersh

    Hi everyone: This verse really spoke to me today. Love is the most important thing in our lives to pass on, but if we do not love ourselves, how can we giv...

hersh · hersh

From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...

talbotts · talbotts

My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...

marmare · marmare

I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old,

.... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...

sunnymom · sunnymom

I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...

RamzDear · RamzDear

Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....

ollie · ollie

Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...

ollie · ollie

i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...

david62 · david62

Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...

shadow1 · shadow1

How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...

Powerless · Powerless

Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...

ollie · ollie

Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...

dori · dori

Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words

debora · debora

Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...

afglin · afglin

I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...

dori · dori

Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...

Cilla · Cilla

Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...

manic2 · manic2

Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...

evey · evey

Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...

bewildered · bewildered

hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...

gracefull · gracefull

Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...

gardengal · gardengal

Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...

ohera101 · ohera101

Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff".

My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...

gracefull · gracefull

I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....

sandie123 · sandie123

Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...

Rob · Rob

Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...

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	over reactions (Preview) hi everyone i just wanted to ask how some of you deal with things without over reacting or stopping yourself from overreacting. how do you get out of the moment to stop and think before you do something too rash. this is something i'd like to fix about myself. i have a problem with forcing my a out of the hou...	notsonew1111	7	566	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Well Hell (Preview) Will apologize first off for cursing but don't have any milder words. The first thoughts were much worse believe me. I am confused and befuddled Have been attending f2f meetings, went to my 3rd one yesterday and I enjoy them and am learning lots. This is where the con...	lilms	8	925	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	sober rants (Preview) My son called on his way home from work today in a lather over actions from his ex. He was so angry. And that is how he often is. He is sober during the week, saving his drinking for Saturdays and Sundays. He is enrolled in a continuing ed class and started to gripe about that. When he is drinking we just don't...	omajoy	4	660	Jul 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Which group do I choose? (Preview) Newbie here. I'm very confused where to go... "A" myself and started in that program 7 years ago with many relapses. Found face to face Al-anon meetings two years ago...as I curb my own addictions by monitoring drinking habits and forcing recovery upon loved ones. First siblings, then...	Mia2	4	835	Jul 7, 2006 by Rita G
	finally found a meeting..and not too soon (Preview) I don't know what is going on with him.It's been a very ugly week.He came home tonight and he looked...(sigh)..so bad. I've been getting through with words of encouragemment.I've been getting through with reading.I've been getting through tonight with immersing myself in video games (I'm...	RamzDear	2	376	Jul 7, 2006 by Dolphin123
	embarrassed and ashamed (Preview) Hi, am new at this but very much need support. Am surrounded by alcoholic family, grew up in an alcoholic home and feel isolated and alone at present. Have just broken up with alcholic boyfriend whom I was in complete denial about on most occasions where alcohol use was concerned. This morning I passed...	maire rua	3	550	Jul 7, 2006 by nycbt
	ok this tire problem is getting old/return to tire shop (Preview) I am really being tested. I am not understanding what the lesson is. I go the spare tire , mounted, & balanced this afternoon with the help of a dear freind/ neighbor giving me a ride. Then struggling about half and hour just to get the lugs off. I thought the tire looked low on air but it was too close to...	hmrnrnmm	1	698	Jul 7, 2006 by hersh
	The Big 1000 (Preview) Hi all, Well I knew I was getting close to the 1000 posts mark. So I went back and re-read my posts throughout my time here at MIP, well all the ones I started anyway. I was able to reflect on where I was when I first started posting here. I was able to see the growth, and to see the areas in which...	Dolphin123	7	514	Jul 7, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	What's Love Got To Do, Got To Do With It? (Preview) ((((Roomies)))), Tonight I browsing and reading through a Dating-How-To book I recently picked up at the library. The book made suggestions on questions to ask onself (Who am I looking for, what is important to me in a partner?) and questions to ask about one's partner (How well do they get along wi...	BlueCloud	1	509	Jul 7, 2006 by annmarie
	need advice with kids' visitation and A father (Preview) he had been doing so well. consistant in his visitation - 9 hours a week that we mutually agreed on. (he was only abstaining, not working towards sobriety, not interested in recovery . . . i knew it's be a matter of time before he was binging again.) he's finally stopped drinking today after 5 days of bi...	shamama	6	767	Jul 7, 2006 by isabela40
	http://www.mipchat.net (Preview) http://www.mipchat.net also takes you directly into our Al-Anon Chat/Meeting Room. Please let any one having a hard time entering the room know of this method of entering it as it may resolve their problem. Thanks, John	John	0	780	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	Words of Wisdom about LOVE (Preview)     Hi everyone: This verse really spoke to me today. Love is the most important thing in our lives to pass on, but if we do not love ourselves, how can we giv...	hersh	3	592	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	Don't put your life on hold... (Preview) From MIP Founder, John F. (aka OP_Present) As soon as you clicked the submit button on this message board post, you violated the publisher of The Language of Letting Go copyright, which you also posted at the bottom of this post. When we place something on this message board, or...	hersh	6	904	Jul 7, 2006 by John
	light bulb moment/ a new way to look at life (Preview) I was reflecting on my past lately. I felt like my past relationships, jobs & marriage that ended in divorce was just a series of failures & mistakes I have made. But with the knowledge I have now & my HP. I am thinking different. Was my past really mistakes & fail...	hmrnrnmm	2	874	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	Hello (Preview) My name is Nancy and I have been an al-anoner for about 3 years, since my sister came home from rehab. She is still sober, thanks to my and her HP. I was in an on-line group and have been looking for a message board b/c I need help! I am having issues with a new boss, BIG issues and being treated unfa...	talbotts	5	766	Jul 6, 2006 by talbotts
	Balance and Discipline (Preview) 7-6-06 Sigh. It’s the A.M. I prayed before I read my readers. Sometimes I get the entire entry—and it becomes revelation—and other times I feel like saying “who cares.” I’m still gonna do my best here. Daily Affirmations: Balance and discipline. Ok, ok, ok—discipline? Got...	Wizkid	1	616	Jul 6, 2006 by Faith73
	Mom and Me (Preview) I don't have access to a computer, so here I am thinking of you all and wishing I could post every day. First let me tell you my A is being an angel, he is taking care of home and kids as for me I left my job June 9th and am staying at my mom's to care for her. She is upbeat and doing well with pai...	marmare	2	454	Jul 6, 2006 by Maria123
	Payback (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), Well yesterday I had one of those old fashioned "Poor me" parties. Hubby was driving me crazy (or was that my reaction to him?), work was same old same old, .... On and on it went. I was in a foul mood, and although I wasn't arguing with...	Karilynn	8	579	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Up All Night... (Preview) I just couldn't sleep. Every little noise made me jump....thinking of my lost cat who playing with his up in heaven (altho, I don't know why? They never played together when they both were alive...lol, but at least, they are together again, soulmates, I guess). My A gave me the guilt tr...	CAM0914	3	423	Jul 6, 2006 by omajoy
	Not sure (Preview) I have been reading your posts for a while now. I have an alcoholic 23 year old son. He has been to rehab twice-once at at a state facility and most recently through the Army's ASAP program. He joined the Army in May of 2005 after we had kicked him out of the house for the second time in tw...	sunnymom	4	651	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	my bull-headed self (Preview) I'm just plain old stubborn sometimes. Number one-I started hounding my A as to when he was going to call around for treatment centers after I collected many references. Every hour I saw him get more drunk I would ask when,when,when he would call. It's a neccessary step in him keeping his stat...	RamzDear	5	669	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Thanks guys (Preview) Man, I decided to break part of a sticky little pattern of checking up on him. It's gonna sound silly but I've gotten in the habit of checking on whether his light is on early in the morning under his door. The earlier he gets up (let's say..5:30) the worse he is and though he drinks every day....	RamzDear	3	612	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	big thanks (Preview) Hi to all my new loving friends, Just needed to say how much your replys lifted me up so much,i get through my day much better now,knowing when i come home and join you i dont feel alone,it keeps me focused on what i need to do,if there are any more newbies out there,just keep coming here for support,and t...	ollie	1	405	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	relieving some stresses (Preview) hi everyone. after some deep talks ive had on here ive figured so much out and really feel good. thank you. i had a one and one talk with my friend, then my a, then my mom. i let it all out how what i choose is my choice and for them to let go of me and allow me to do what i want without trying to influence me. i told my...	notsonew1111	2	402	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	hmm, worse than having a flat tire tonite & solution thursday 7/6 (Preview) I was feeling like a idiot a little tonite. Monday on my way home from town. I noticed the truck was bouncing really bad. I had to keep slowing down & finally put on my flashers and continued home. I was thinking it must be the front end, we have known the steering box is shot just recently but it ,...	hmrnrnmm	2	709	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	my first f2f meeting... (Preview) I did it!! Last night I went to my first f2f meeting. It was great and felt good about myself after the meeting. It felt good to share abit aout myself and hear other people stories. The group I went to, deals with one step each week and last night was step 2. I am not famliar with how other groups work but...	iwishuheaven	5	440	Jul 6, 2006 by beachbaby
	confused (Preview) i have been apart from my a/c for 3 months,this seemed to me the only way i could survive,as i am very new to this program,i have read the book courage to change ,which i find so helpful,the words are very incouraging.i think im doing well,until i meet up with certain members of my family,who i think have t...	ollie	10	1586	Jul 6, 2006 by aunitedway
	MMMMM....That new car smell! (Preview) Hello everyone! I just bought a new car! Woohoo! Well, I bought it last Friday. A Sunburst Orange, Dodge Caliber. I feel so releived, to finally have the deed done. I have been looking at the kind of car I wanted for the last month...and yep....pretty much obsessing over it. Trying to get the model,...	david62	13	931	Jul 6, 2006 by Andrea12
	Missing the "A" (Preview) Hello Roomies, I was sharing with a new comer on Monday night about how I see my "A"as two different people, and how this helps me to let go of resentments and how I am able to love him. Well my "A" called me early Tuesday morning, really early. We talked for 10 minutes, calling cards are expensive and d...	Dolphin123	7	976	Jul 6, 2006 by tea2
	How is HP working in your life? (Preview) How is HP working in your life? I used to think that HP was just a figment of people’s imagination. I recently had a light bulb moment!!! I had a friend that lives on the other side of the country. We would chat on line and a few times we would call on the phone. It was limited because of the cost. I kep...	shadow1	5	423	Jul 6, 2006 by Rita G
	Just For Today (Preview) Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...	Powerless	3	549	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	sleep needed (Preview) Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...	ollie	3	559	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Feel like I'm doing my kids an injustice (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...	twinmom2	6	615	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	update (Preview) hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...	notsonew1111	6	457	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Andrea and Diva (Preview) Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words	dori	0	454	Jul 6, 2006 by dori
	New and fearful (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...	debora	4	585	Jul 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Grumpy/Moody (Preview) I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...	DoN4me	2	571	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	My husband sent me a poem from prison (Preview) My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...	sarahlm	8	765	Jul 6, 2006 by david62
	only regulars in meetings? (Preview) I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...	afglin	6	734	Jul 6, 2006 by afglin
	Sara (Preview) Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...	dori	0	370	Jul 5, 2006 by dori
	Freeing (Preview) I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...	DoN4me	4	507	Jul 5, 2006 by DoN4me
	What Do We Teach Our Children (Preview) Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...	Cilla	3	508	Jul 5, 2006 by lin0606
	New here (Preview) Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...	manic2	5	668	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	visit to rehab (Preview) Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...	evey	6	867	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	returning newbie (Preview) hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...	bewildered	5	678	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Checking In (Preview) Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...	gracefull	3	659	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Importance of reaching out... (Preview) Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...	hersh	1	338	Jul 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Should Children Witness Childbirth? (Preview) Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...	Dolphin123	1	340	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Do you try to reason things through rather than act on impulse? (Preview) Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...	gardengal	3	433	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Staying Strong... (Preview) Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...	AlaMom	3	507	Jul 5, 2006 by tea2
	Response to reader, & Q-TIP (Preview) 7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...	Wizkid	2	1153	Jul 5, 2006 by drucilla06
	overcast of alcoholism (Preview) Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...	ohera101	3	501	Jul 5, 2006 by twinmom2
	Happy 4th! (Preview) Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff". My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...	lmt123	4	445	Jul 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	don't know what to do now.. (Preview) Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...	annmarie	6	639	Jul 5, 2006 by annmarie
	Need ESH, Please! (Preview) I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....	gracefull	7	827	Jul 4, 2006 by nmike
	Struggling with Grief...need ESH (Preview) Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...	sandie123	5	798	Jul 4, 2006 by angelnomore
	please send all of your prayers!!!! (Preview) its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...	notsonew1111	11	880	Jul 4, 2006 by peewee
	hi guys update (Preview) hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...	chrissy	5	642	Jul 4, 2006 by afglin
	What to do... (Preview) Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...	iwishuheaven	5	695	Jul 4, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Newbee to this board...My parents drink but im an alki too.. (Preview) Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...	Rob	13	945	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
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