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Powerless · Powerless

Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...

ollie · ollie

Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...

dori · dori

Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words

debora · debora

Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...

afglin · afglin

I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...

dori · dori

Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...

Cilla · Cilla

Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...

manic2 · manic2

Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...

evey · evey

Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...

bewildered · bewildered

hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...

gracefull · gracefull

Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...

gardengal · gardengal

Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...

ohera101 · ohera101

Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff".

My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...

gracefull · gracefull

I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....

sandie123 · sandie123

Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...

iwishuheaven · iwishuheaven

Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...

Rob · Rob

Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...

omajoy · omajoy

I am new here, having found this site a few months ago but never joining until tonight...just reading the posts by all of you almost daily, seeking help for my own situation. My son is probably an A....I say probably because he doesn't fit the profile I have always believed about someone who is an alcoho...

RamzDear · RamzDear

I'm just taking a breather in the place that I know I should. Kind of like finding that safe spot in a frenzied game of tag. AH has had the state on his case to get rehabilitation-his state license is in serious jeopardy.This is a topic that he let go by the wayside because they haven't contacted h...

ollie · ollie

Hi everone, I only been with you since the 9th june ,since then i have had big pc problems,i eventually bought a new one. after my first letter ,i recieved a reply from someone who offered me thier e mail address,as i lost all my old e mails ,i would love that person to get in touch again as i would love to...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-04-06 Good morning! I need new glasses. Sigh. Am I already complaining? I have been up since 5 am again. My Sweetie stayed the night – then we got up and went for a bike ride. 10.5 miles. It was awesome! Okay, yesterday I didn’t bike. Instead I went to the gym to swim with the mom. Blah! I have...

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone, Its been a while since I posted. My addict has been sober since entering rehab 3 months ago, we have had no contact with each other. According to a fellow AA member, he is following the advice of his sponsor which is "he and I need very little contact with each ri...

jacksmom · jacksmom

Good morning to all! You may have read an earlier thread of mine about my boyfriend's passing. Well...turns out I went home to visit him at just the right time! I'm pregnant and ecstatic. This is a miracle. Before he passed he had the chance to make me a mother, and his p...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

We are on a fixed income of $734 a month. Some times we have more money , doing sales, recycling aluminum cans or my 2 or 3 days of work. Not alot of money to splurge. Our arguement is we get a monthly credit at a local little country store/ gas station. We are able to fill up the gas tank & fill it the foll...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi everyone. its quarter after 9am right now and i havnt heard from my a since 2pm yesterday. im not surprised. he has been struggling with trying to stay sober for a while now. in and out of different programs for the past six months or so. he has been sober around three weeks now (i stopped keeping track)...

dori · dori

Hi, I thought since it the 4th of July that we could all post something we are free of or working on being free of.I am free of starting to learn to be me and who that is .I am free of pain of the loss of my ex a and him moveing on with someone new. I am free of anger towards him and aa .I am free of re...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

Hi. I'm Joni. Hope you don't mind me seeking some advice tonight. I am a recovering alcoholic who is extremely involved in AA. I sponsor women, and I use my own sponsor and Grand-sponsor. I attend 5 meetings a week. My family is part of Akron, Ohio AlAnon Intergroup. We have program principles runn...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Hi everyone, I'm not new here but it's been a while since I've posted. My "A" lives 5 hours away & we talk on the phone everyday. He's very active with his drinking and is very selfish. I have been sober 111 days now. I got my green chip today! He has had a spot on his lung for...

dori · dori

Deb, When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else. We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for y...

Maria123 · Maria123

Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.SA.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. ************* There's wor...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Happy Monday Group))) After my last post on how the A is completly callous and cold towards me I took some much needed time for myself. I didn't get much work done on Friday, but was able to come in for a couple hours on Saturday and accomplish at least one major important task. I was abl...

Wizkid · Wizkid

7-03-06 Georgia is good name, so I chose the font for that reason. I just wanted to follow-up. My Sweetie gets off of work soon, goes to an A.A. meeting, and then will be on his way to see me. My recovery is important to me. I must fit time in. I must write. I mu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi All, Yesterday when I posted the original post, I had just finished the conversation with the woman who told me the story. And I was hot, as you can tell form the post. I have a tendancy to let my anger get the better of me, and just needed to vent when I came here So vent I did. I don't know the whole stor...

Wizkid · Wizkid

Okay, here goes... I don't know if it's okay with the members of this site that I journal here or not. Please let me know. When I was in college--often times--students were asked to respond to what they've read. I'd like to do that here since the material I am reading is Al-anon,...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok you know A wrote and did not want a divorce? He is in jail, dui. So I sent him a letter that he has a lot of work to do if he wants to stay married. Then I sent a letter telling him my boundaries. 90 in 90, AA serious program of recovery, go on lithium he is bi polar, go to Va everytime he feels sick headacke t...

texaslady417 · texaslady417

I am new to this website but not new to al-anon. I have been attending al-anon and co-anon for the past year and a half. My A just celebrated a year of sobriety. and I am happy for that. But I am working on my 6th step and I keep clinging on to my character defects. I can't let god rem...

angel123 · angel123

Back to work and also working in my yard.It feels so free to beable to be out doors after the long hual healing with my foot.I found I was healing in other ways too...For i was learning patiences not an patient patient..but learned when i was down that this was a reflection to learn within myself.Think...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I have been thinking lately about control. alanon speaks of me wanting to control my situation and others. I have a hard time understanding that. I left a marriage in the late 89's because I allowed myself ( I can say this now) to be controlled. I did as I was told. I was told wh...

serendipity · serendipity

my ah came over today to spend time with the kids. the oldest headed off to sleep- away camp (first time!). so i left him here with the 2 younger ones to drop the oldest one off. that was all fine. i have been friendly to him for awhile now. just bitting my tounge and recognizing my feelings and lettin...

Jill · Jill

I've been thinking WAY too much about an old friend. OK obsessing. It hurts me - I end up sad and frustrated. It starts out with a good memory and I end up wanting to practically own him. What's he doing, counting how long since I spoke with him, etc. all bad. I've prayed for release because I feel trapped by...

shamama · shamama

bd (baby daddy) never came to get the kids this morning for their weekly visit. i haven't heard from him for 2.5 days. my worries have diminished in the last 3 years. i used to wait up nights. stomach turning. thinking about calling the hospitals, the county jail. ...

peewee · peewee

This is my holiday greeting for the 4th of July weekend.. life, liberty, happiness now ! Love, PW

LosingHope · LosingHope

Hello to all. I am a new member; just signed up. I've spent the last several hours reading everyone's posts and it has motivated me to reach out for the help I so desperately need. My story is very similar to others I've read, so I will spare you the gorey details. I am a mother of...

megan · megan

Where do I begin? So my lawyer calls me yesterday morning and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to get me divorced without A husband in court. Then, me being me, I call...

Gailey · Gailey

I just received some cds I ordered from someone I heard speaking on Public Television last Sunday. I started listening to them last night and I really like them. They are not religious but very "in spirit" He speaks alot about getting in concious contact with your higher source...whatever it may be. H...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Oh great webmaster, I promise I won't bother you again. (Well maybe not never,lol

) But I can't get into my PM unless I bring up someone else's profiles and click on view messages. It brings up my messages. Then when I click on reply to one, it brings up my registratio...

Karilynn · Karilynn

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Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Just For Today (Preview) Just for today I will focus on "I" instead of "he". Just for today I will take an honest look at my part in things and not just blame the A for everything because it is convenient. Today I will seek knowledge of my hPs Will for me and the power to carry it out. Today I will focus on what I can...	Powerless	3	464	Jul 6, 2006 by hersh
	sleep needed (Preview) Hi to All, As i am a newbie,has anyone got any tips for a good nights sleep,i am reading courage to change in the evening after working a 8 hr day. but still manage to be woken up with nightmares,reliving all the bad things that went on between my hubby and me. We have been apart f...	ollie	3	480	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Feel like I'm doing my kids an injustice (Preview) ((( Hello Group))) Feels like a Monday to me today. The last couple of days I have maintained a good lighthearted attitude, even when my A gave me an attitude. I guess I'm faking it until I make it. I've been keeping busy with the kids, family, friends, and researching this side bu...	twinmom2	6	539	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	update (Preview) hi everyone i want to thank all of you for your love filled replies with my situation. you are all so wonderful and i wouldnt be sane without you. my a did eventually turn up thank god. of course was drunk. so i sent him to his mom's. then i went there to get the keys to our apartment which literally turned int...	notsonew1111	6	377	Jul 6, 2006 by maresie2
	Andrea and Diva (Preview) Andrea and Diva Thanks for your kind words	dori	0	377	Jul 6, 2006 by dori
	New and fearful (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I have a young adult daughter who is addicted to cocaine. Now, after leaving two rehabs, she has just attained 46 days clean. Last night I got a call from the family she is living with. They said that she did not come home or call and wanted me to help find her. I thought that she was using a...	debora	4	505	Jul 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Grumpy/Moody (Preview) I have noticed lately I have been moody and grumpy. Been taking some time today just read a bunch of post and see if any of them relate to things going on in my life. But didn't see anything that triggered what I am feeling so I decided to post. My A bf came to stay with me and try to make a go of it...	DoN4me	2	492	Jul 6, 2006 by nmike
	My husband sent me a poem from prison (Preview) My AH is in prison for multiple DUIs. He has 3 months sober now-obviously doing some soul searching and this poem he sent me yesterday tells me what its like for him being trapped by this disease: Made me cry-its all true, our life through the years of his chronic relapsing. Its our story-perhaps some of...	sarahlm	8	689	Jul 6, 2006 by david62
	only regulars in meetings? (Preview) I'm not a "regular" at the meetings here. I go to ACA meetings more often than ALANon. I go to ALAnon when I can. I chat there often early on Sundays, but the meeting times are a bit late for me. I just went to the morning meeting. I missed part of it. I raised my hand to share at the beginning of...	afglin	6	652	Jul 6, 2006 by afglin
	Sara (Preview) Hi Sara, I tried to respond to your private message privately.Some reason I couldnt or didnt know how.So here is my reponse I am sorry you felt it was a attack on you as I said in my post it wasnt I said it was about my issues not yours I responded.I do not think every alcholic should...	dori	0	293	Jul 5, 2006 by dori
	Freeing (Preview) I read a post about how some of you are freeing yourselfs from various things are your journey. When I started my journey I had to face one of my biggest fears my fear was not being loved by anyone. May sound silly to some but to me it was really hard for me to face. My son's father w...	DoN4me	4	425	Jul 5, 2006 by DoN4me
	What Do We Teach Our Children (Preview) Life can sometimes be very bittersweet. This evening my eldest daughter and two grandsons will be arriving from Germany to spend about a month with us. What a joy that is going to be! Tomorrow my youngest, a 13 year old son is going to court for a few delinquency issues that he has devel...	Cilla	3	428	Jul 5, 2006 by lin0606
	New here (Preview) Hi all, I am so glad to have found this forum and be able to read your stories because they reassure me that I am not crazy. I often feel out of place and all alone and the only time I don't is when I get to a meeting. I am so grateful to have found another venue for release. Thankyo...	manic2	5	592	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	visit to rehab (Preview) Hello all, Went to see AH in rehab. He looks and sounds much better. He got a pass and we took the kids to lunch. Had a nice couple of hours. We could go visit today again but I said no. My son (9) wants to go, its the first time my AH was "himself" in a long time but I feel my AH thrives on the attention the diseas...	evey	6	782	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	returning newbie (Preview) hello all Its my first post on the boards , but not my first visit to al-anon. i first came to al-non nearly 3 years ago , i was having difficultlies with my sister and my unability to let go of trying to control her and her drinking i became very resentful of her and her behaviours. It wasnt until i sat in...	bewildered	5	600	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Checking In (Preview) Hello - I'm new here and checking things out. I thought I should dive right in and post now or I'll never do it! I've been in Alanon for over 14 years and I'm feeling like a newcomer right now. I'm full of self pity and grief. I'm trying to stay in the moment and not project. I'm very glad I found this web...	gracefull	3	575	Jul 5, 2006 by aunitedway
	Importance of reaching out... (Preview) Hi everyone! Hope you all are having a good day. I was just reminded today how important having contact with someone is, and how much better we can feel if we just reach out... I wasn't feeling so great, just kind of blah. I called my friend that I met through Alanon, and we BOTH felt so mu...	hersh	1	268	Jul 5, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Should Children Witness Childbirth? (Preview) Hello Roomies, Just got this at work and had to share it with ya! Due to a power outage, only one paramedic responded to the call. The house was very dark so the paramedic asked Kathleen, a 3-yr old girl to hold a flashlight high over her mommy so h...	Dolphin123	1	252	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Do you try to reason things through rather than act on impulse? (Preview) Pre - Alanon I would react almost immediately to most situations, without thinking. I would leave myself afterwards literally beating myself up, and rehashing a situation over and over again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, HUH, and alanon has taught me to "think" before I jump into any situation t...	gardengal	3	344	Jul 5, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	Staying Strong... (Preview) Hiya everyone, For the past few days I have been in the meeting and chat room sharing what has been going on in my life and it has been extemely helpful. This past weekend my husband picked up again after 9 mons of being dry. I have posted here over the past few months of my difficulties in...	AlaMom	3	420	Jul 5, 2006 by tea2
	Response to reader, & Q-TIP (Preview) 7-5-06 Okay, responses from the daily readers. Daily Affirmations ACoA and Hope for Today: The entries were similar. They were basically about helping, providing services in al-anon. Imposing my beliefs on someone hinders their growth process, so if I really want to h...	Wizkid	2	953	Jul 5, 2006 by drucilla06
	overcast of alcoholism (Preview) Hi all! I am fairly new to alanon....have started working the steps.....and have also committed to learning as much about alcoholism as possible so I can be understanding and patient with my AH.....i have two questions for anyone with some insight..... 1- If you feel confident you have accompl...	ohera101	3	423	Jul 5, 2006 by twinmom2
	Happy 4th! (Preview) Hi all, Just wanted to wish everyone a great 4th of July! I hope you all get to enjoy a lazy, relaxing day off from your everyday "stuff". My A (sober over 2 years now) is off today as well. I sometimes feel a bit uneasy with him home, as this "interrupts" my daily routine, L...	lmt123	4	348	Jul 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	don't know what to do now.. (Preview) Hi everyone, What should I do now? What's for the best? Last week I had a big bust up with my Aboyfriend. I came to realise I deserved better and was not going to settle for bad treatment anymore. He had been in rehab a few months ago but had had two relapses since. He wasn't working any recovery p...	annmarie	6	560	Jul 5, 2006 by annmarie
	Need ESH, Please! (Preview) I'm finally ready to start sharing my story. I've been hanging around the last few days and couldn't get up the courage. So, here goes. I'm in a relationship of 16 years, 12 of which we've been married. I've been in Alanon 14 years and he's sober 14 years, we have an 8 yr old daughter (love her to pieces)....	gracefull	7	739	Jul 4, 2006 by nmike
	Struggling with Grief...need ESH (Preview) Well, I'm back from vacation and already new feelings are creaping in. Vacation truned out to be good, some relaxation and time for me. Thank you all for your help at getting me through vacation with a more positive focus. Now I am back at reality and my mind is starting to give me trouble again. I tho...	sandie123	5	693	Jul 4, 2006 by angelnomore
	please send all of your prayers!!!! (Preview) its now 1:30pm and i still have not heard from my a, nor has anyone else. i called all the hospitals he is not there or has not been there. so i called the police. they came over and i gave them all the phone numbers i could and people i knew that might know anything. his mom was here too and we both told th...	notsonew1111	11	801	Jul 4, 2006 by peewee
	hi guys update (Preview) hi guys it has been a long time since i posted and i am so sorry. everything is going good i am overwhelmed with watching not one baby but 3 other children as well no school so its crazy the only cool thing is amanda can bring a friend. chuck had a slip up on our vacation he was hiding that he drank he wanted me to...	chrissy	5	566	Jul 4, 2006 by afglin
	What to do... (Preview) Up until yesterday I thought that my A mother was the only one I had problems with. I guess I always knew it but it was never a problem for me personally. My brother is also an alcoholic. I received a call from his common-law wife yesterday telling me she has kick him out and can't live with his drinking anym...	iwishuheaven	5	614	Jul 4, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Newbee to this board...My parents drink but im an alki too.. (Preview) Hi All.. Just thought I'd say hi.. Just joined.. I am an alcoholic (hate saying that). My mum n dad both get drunk every night and it eats me up inside.. I dont drink because of that.. infact i started drinking long before they became alkis. Seeing them get drunk every night ea...	Rob	13	863	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	grieving (Preview) I am new here, having found this site a few months ago but never joining until tonight...just reading the posts by all of you almost daily, seeking help for my own situation. My son is probably an A....I say probably because he doesn't fit the profile I have always believed about someone who is an alcoho...	omajoy	13	854	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	Taking a breather where I should (Preview) I'm just taking a breather in the place that I know I should. Kind of like finding that safe spot in a frenzied game of tag. AH has had the state on his case to get rehabilitation-his state license is in serious jeopardy.This is a topic that he let go by the wayside because they haven't contacted h...	RamzDear	2	539	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	help (Preview) Hi everone, I only been with you since the 9th june ,since then i have had big pc problems,i eventually bought a new one. after my first letter ,i recieved a reply from someone who offered me thier e mail address,as i lost all my old e mails ,i would love that person to get in touch again as i would love to...	ollie	0	377	Jul 4, 2006 by ollie
	Long Entry: maybe it's necessary. (Preview) 7-04-06 Good morning! I need new glasses. Sigh. Am I already complaining? I have been up since 5 am again. My Sweetie stayed the night – then we got up and went for a bike ride. 10.5 miles. It was awesome! Okay, yesterday I didn’t bike. Instead I went to the gym to swim with the mom. Blah! I have...	Wizkid	2	566	Jul 4, 2006 by horselover58
	Confused (Preview) Hi Everyone, Its been a while since I posted. My addict has been sober since entering rehab 3 months ago, we have had no contact with each other. According to a fellow AA member, he is following the advice of his sponsor which is "he and I need very little contact with each ri...	beachbaby	8	733	Jul 4, 2006 by nycbt
	I'm Pregnant! (Preview) Good morning to all! You may have read an earlier thread of mine about my boyfriend's passing. Well...turns out I went home to visit him at just the right time! I'm pregnant and ecstatic. This is a miracle. Before he passed he had the chance to make me a mother, and his p...	jacksmom	7	424	Jul 4, 2006 by iwishuheaven
	stupid disagreement , which is the best way? (Preview) We are on a fixed income of $734 a month. Some times we have more money , doing sales, recycling aluminum cans or my 2 or 3 days of work. Not alot of money to splurge. Our arguement is we get a monthly credit at a local little country store/ gas station. We are able to fill up the gas tank & fill it the foll...	hmrnrnmm	4	602	Jul 4, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	sh*it hit the fan.....again (Preview) hi everyone. its quarter after 9am right now and i havnt heard from my a since 2pm yesterday. im not surprised. he has been struggling with trying to stay sober for a while now. in and out of different programs for the past six months or so. he has been sober around three weeks now (i stopped keeping track)...	notsonew1111	5	754	Jul 4, 2006 by Jerry F
	freedom.-free of (Preview) Hi, I thought since it the 4th of July that we could all post something we are free of or working on being free of.I am free of starting to learn to be me and who that is .I am free of pain of the loss of my ex a and him moveing on with someone new. I am free of anger towards him and aa .I am free of re...	dori	8	486	Jul 3, 2006 by drucilla06
	I'm an AAer who needs help 'letting go' (Preview) Hi. I'm Joni. Hope you don't mind me seeking some advice tonight. I am a recovering alcoholic who is extremely involved in AA. I sponsor women, and I use my own sponsor and Grand-sponsor. I attend 5 meetings a week. My family is part of Akron, Ohio AlAnon Intergroup. We have program principles runn...	jonibaloni	14	972	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Cancer Scare (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not new here but it's been a while since I've posted. My "A" lives 5 hours away & we talk on the phone everyday. He's very active with his drinking and is very selfish. I have been sober 111 days now. I got my green chip today! He has had a spot on his lung for...	CAM0914	3	592	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	debilyn-hopeful (Preview) Deb, When I scanned down and saw your name I smiled so big .You know there is nothing wrong in loveing someone .Now how we manifest that love it can be something else. We know in alanon we cant tell someone to stay or go.For me I went but you know the same courage it took me to go it takes for y...	dori	1	355	Jul 3, 2006 by RichardA
	ASAP (Preview) Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.SA.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. ************* There's wor...	Maria123	4	481	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	HP has me where he wants me... for now (Preview) (((Happy Monday Group))) After my last post on how the A is completly callous and cold towards me I took some much needed time for myself. I didn't get much work done on Friday, but was able to come in for a couple hours on Saturday and accomplish at least one major important task. I was abl...	twinmom2	4	628	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Follow-up journal entry... (Preview) 7-03-06 Georgia is good name, so I chose the font for that reason. I just wanted to follow-up. My Sweetie gets off of work soon, goes to an A.A. meeting, and then will be on his way to see me. My recovery is important to me. I must fit time in. I must write. I mu...	Wizkid	1	467	Jul 3, 2006 by bubbles1990
	RE: Words Can Kill (Preview) Hi All, Yesterday when I posted the original post, I had just finished the conversation with the woman who told me the story. And I was hot, as you can tell form the post. I have a tendancy to let my anger get the better of me, and just needed to vent when I came here So vent I did. I don't know the whole stor...	Dolphin123	8	832	Jul 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Is it okay if I journal here? 7-3-06 (Preview) Okay, here goes... I don't know if it's okay with the members of this site that I journal here or not. Please let me know. When I was in college--often times--students were asked to respond to what they've read. I'd like to do that here since the material I am reading is Al-anon,...	Wizkid	4	547	Jul 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I am hopeless (Preview) Ok you know A wrote and did not want a divorce? He is in jail, dui. So I sent him a letter that he has a lot of work to do if he wants to stay married. Then I sent a letter telling him my boundaries. 90 in 90, AA serious program of recovery, go on lithium he is bi polar, go to Va everytime he feels sick headacke t...	debilyn	12	680	Jul 3, 2006 by TLC2
	Can't let go of resentments (Preview) I am new to this website but not new to al-anon. I have been attending al-anon and co-anon for the past year and a half. My A just celebrated a year of sobriety. and I am happy for that. But I am working on my 6th step and I keep clinging on to my character defects. I can't let god rem...	texaslady417	5	613	Jul 3, 2006 by nmike
	Thank You (Preview) Back to work and also working in my yard.It feels so free to beable to be out doors after the long hual healing with my foot.I found I was healing in other ways too...For i was learning patiences not an patient patient..but learned when i was down that this was a reflection to learn within myself.Think...	angel123	1	474	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	Am I controlling or being controlled (Preview) I have been thinking lately about control. alanon speaks of me wanting to control my situation and others. I have a hard time understanding that. I left a marriage in the late 89's because I allowed myself ( I can say this now) to be controlled. I did as I was told. I was told wh...	hmrnrnmm	6	685	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	now what am i doing? (Preview) my ah came over today to spend time with the kids. the oldest headed off to sleep- away camp (first time!). so i left him here with the 2 younger ones to drop the oldest one off. that was all fine. i have been friendly to him for awhile now. just bitting my tounge and recognizing my feelings and lettin...	serendipity	3	547	Jul 3, 2006 by maresie2
	Finding relief (Preview) I've been thinking WAY too much about an old friend. OK obsessing. It hurts me - I end up sad and frustrated. It starts out with a good memory and I end up wanting to practically own him. What's he doing, counting how long since I spoke with him, etc. all bad. I've prayed for release because I feel trapped by...	Jill	1	560	Jul 3, 2006 by annmarie
	the worrying if they are dead or not (Preview) bd (baby daddy) never came to get the kids this morning for their weekly visit. i haven't heard from him for 2.5 days. my worries have diminished in the last 3 years. i used to wait up nights. stomach turning. thinking about calling the hospitals, the county jail. ...	shamama	5	538	Jul 3, 2006 by shamama
	2 L's and HN (Preview) This is my holiday greeting for the 4th of July weekend.. life, liberty, happiness now ! Love, PW	peewee	3	425	Jul 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	In Desperation (Preview) Hello to all. I am a new member; just signed up. I've spent the last several hours reading everyone's posts and it has motivated me to reach out for the help I so desperately need. My story is very similar to others I've read, so I will spare you the gorey details. I am a mother of...	LosingHope	8	864	Jul 2, 2006 by abbyal
	My latest divorce saga (long) (Preview) Where do I begin? So my lawyer calls me yesterday morning and says A husband is too sick for court, bellyache. I rage at the lawyer that A husband will never be well enough for court. That he better figure out how to get me divorced without A husband in court. Then, me being me, I call...	megan	10	498	Jul 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Dr Wayne Dyer (Preview) I just received some cds I ordered from someone I heard speaking on Public Television last Sunday. I started listening to them last night and I really like them. They are not religious but very "in spirit" He speaks alot about getting in concious contact with your higher source...whatever it may be. H...	Gailey	2	469	Jul 2, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Private Messages (Preview) Oh great webmaster, I promise I won't bother you again. (Well maybe not never,lol ) But I can't get into my PM unless I bring up someone else's profiles and click on view messages. It brings up my messages. Then when I click on reply to one, it brings up my registratio...	Karilynn	2	367	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
	Prayers for Alanon families please (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))),	Karilynn	6	453	Jul 2, 2006 by lmt123
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