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I answered my own question
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(((friends)))
I had a different post here but I erased it.It was a relapse,I think.
I had listed some of the resentments I have had come to the surface while doing my 4th step.
I re-read my post this morning and my answers were staring me in the face.The resentments I have toward my AH are all due to h...
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Minimizing
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One of the things that the A does that used to kill me was to minimize my needs. Whatever I want is discounted and diminished. When I had asthma he said I just needed to exercise. When I had sepsis he told me I'd be fine it was all in my head and he could not help me get to the hospital. I eventually ended up with a...
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are they laughing at me really?
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Hi everyone,
I'm trying to figure out why I feel people are laughing at me quite a lot. It's as if I have to struggle to make sure it doesn't happen.
If my Aboyfriend does something that upsets me and involves other people (eg inappropriate conversation in my view..not his), I think they're lau...
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annmarie
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I'm I finally getting it?????
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I’m confused
I know that when an AA is active in his/her addiction, they don’t care about much i.e.; work, family, themselves and life in general.
What I’m confused about is: if the AA in your life is working on sobriety and working the steps going to meetings, go...
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Dealing with mortality
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A friends wife passed on this past week....I met her a few times, and they both were very happy newlyweds....Before the program I probably would have wondered, where is God right now? How could he let this happen?? But thankfully I know that it is all part of a plan, one I cant see. I however can only exten...
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buzzfree
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I want to give up. I am not understanding why I screwed up the truck.
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I do not know which way to go now. I totally screwed up yesterday. I blame myself. My A says that HP has a reason for yesterdays disaster. I was doing great or so I thought. I got outside an hour before I had to leave. I was going to take off the fuel filter that screws into the carborator. I have d...
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hmrnrnmm
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Making decisions using recovery thinking
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As a child, to help keep the fragile balence that was our alcholic home, decisions were generally made for me. From what I wore to what I ate, I was told what to do. Furthermore, when I made my own decisions, I was told (very loudly and violently) that I had made a "mistake" and that I needed "to learn...
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Tiger2006
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thanks to all
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Thanks to all who replied to my post last week. I went away for a few days so until now did not have a chance to reply....
It helps so much to share with others our experiences although at times it is difficult even on here. The release of finally begining to figure out these confusing feeli...
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jj
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Some Birthday! UGH!
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afmom03
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Inner Child and Aging Parents
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Hi,
My parents are in their 70s and I find myself getting increasingly preoccupied and concerned with their health issues. I feel like a child inside despite my advancing age (39- LOL). I love them so much and can't imagine anything happening to them. I would be devastated. I think there is someth...
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So Confused!
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Ok I am frusted to all end again. I don't understand why my HP does the things they do. I was really hoping that today would turn out for the better. I was hoping he would finally see what damaged he had caused his family not to mention mine. I had a long talk with his family they agreed helping him fi...
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Sharing my miracles
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A PM with (((bump))) the other day inspired me to think back of the miracles in my life, so I want to share as I truly believe they can't be coincedense.
Starting with finding Alanon, and at the same time connecting with a cousin that I am very close to. The miracle: Alanon cut the path of chang...
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Christy
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Staggering down the road of recovery
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((((Everyone))))
Thanks to my wonderful family here, I have realized that my compass may be broken. I was heading full speed down the path of recovery for myself, and I missed a turn somewhere.
I have gotten anxious and resentful again without realizing it. Had a conversati...
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What is "AW"
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Hi all,
i see this here a lot, but couldnt make it what means, do get the first - alcoholic, but what is W stand for?
exuse me my ingorance
Daisy
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daisy2
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Taking it too personal....
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I learned of someones remark about me the other night that hurt, and my first reaction was to get fired up and say something mean about them. I stopped myself mid-sentence and changed the topic. ( a little progress!) However, it lead to a later committee meeting. That dreaded committee! ...
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greta
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DAISY
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ollie
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Hello All!!
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Hi Everybody!
I haven't been around here for awhile and I miss everybody. I come here almost everyday and read the posts and keep tabs on ya'll (not to sound creepy thought :) ). I have been busy with my purse orders and candle orders and getting my flooring done plus one of my cats had kitt...
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ragingchild
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ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW YOU FEEL, OR DO YOU BLAME EVERYONE FOR YOUR UNHAPPINESS?
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For years I blamed everyone else for my unhappiness,my feelings of dispair and worry. Coming to alanon I can see blaming my parents, my husband , my siblings, or my children was wrong. I learned in alanon that I was responsible for my own happiness, that no one didnt owe it to me to make me happy. I h...
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gardengal
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What makes you decide to respond?
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Hi roomies,
-------Just some thoughts if you have some to add, please feel free to do so.
I have been a member of this board for a while, and throughout that time I have heard several people coment on lack of replies to their posts. And that got me to thinking about what makes...
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Funny tale
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Hi
Just thought I would share what I think is a hilarious tale.
I bumped into my ex A's past friend and my A is telling everyone that when he met me several years ago that he had to pick me up out of the gutter and that he could never have drink in the house cause I would down it all, so therefore he had...
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penny
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trusting HP
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I began this site only 2 wks ago while my A was out of town with work. Yesterday, We went to court and lost his daughter back to his ex.(she only wants her for child support in my opinion) But we are both very sad. After he got drunk, passed out; I got online for company sake. Just after th...
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on leaving an a
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i just wanted to add something that might help others that were in a situation like mine. as most of you know i played the game of kicking him out letting him back and on anon anon for the past year. someone once told me that i wasnt ready to go yet. and when we are ready if we are ready we will leave. that is real...
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notsonew1111
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new here, overwhelmed with a crisis
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hi, i'm totally new here. i've been trying to attend a local Al-Anon meeting but no one shows up. my boyfriend, well i'm almost 40 so boyfriend sounds silly, anyway he is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. he did warn me he had intimacy issues before we began our relationship. i have child abuse iss...
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purpleraven
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Boundries
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Hello ((((Everyone))))
Well...We had a rough weekend. I am afraid I didn't handle things as well as I should have. It hurts so bad to have someone I love tell me that I don't show her I love her and respect her. When she was screaming it to me in the car at 11:00 at night on the highway I...
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rtexas
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proud of myself for not feeding into my A's rage
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I feel like I made some progress last night. I got out of work early, my husband was out shooting golf balls when I called him. We had a miscommunication about dinner, I told him I would shop and cook and to take his time coming home-not to rush just because I was out early. Well, I shopp...
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liliana
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Praying for a Miracle from a bottle
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Hiya roomies,
Well I went to the shop the morning to check on the car as asked to by the guys there. I took a young man for a ride in my car so hopefully he could see/hear what I was seeing/hearing. They had taken the car for quite a ride yesterday and heard nothing. The hope was that either I would hear nothi...
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Dolphin123
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Can your A see a change in you
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((((Everyone))))
My wife was trying to start something last night, but instead paid me a compliment by accident. She said "...you are different and its weird. I just want my husband back."
Obviously she was implying I was turning into a freak, but it acturally made me feel good that...
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rtexas
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After its over...then what??
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I was in a relatonship with an alchoholic for 16 years. I finally ended it for myself and for my children. I did what everyone said I should do. I pulled my self up by the bootstraps and I got my life straight. We have been apart for almost three years. The divorce will be final aug 21 because up until now he re...
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Looking for information
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Hi
I'm looking for info that might help my 15 year old son. He is old enough now that he has figured out his grandfather (my dad)is an alcoholic. His drinking has really increased, starts in the am.now, usually slurring by afternoon. My son his so afraid his grandfather is going to die in...
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waykar
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THANK YOU
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THANK-YOU ALL FOR YOUR REPLYS AND PRAYERS. YOU GUYS ARE THE GREATEST!!! i'M STILL IN MY BEDROOM WHERE I'VE BEEN MOST OF THE DAY. WHILE I WAS OUT FEEDING MY PETS, HE DID SOMETHING TO THE TV SO HE COULD WATCH IT FROM THE LIVING ROOM. I NOTICED HE ALSO REFILLED THE FRIDGE WITH BEER, SO GUESS HE MUST STILL BE BLAM...
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laughing at myself!
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I was thinking how precious laughter is to me. I didn't show up at alanon laughing, and I am very, very grateful for the laughter I have gotten from this program. I always say my best program comes when I laugh at myself. Got me to thinking about that, and I wanted to share this.
When...
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greta
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Alone time...
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Hi everyone:
Well, it happened again. A and I had plans to go camping, to get out of town this past weekend. He ended up working (which is actually good - he needs to) but I was pretty let down. All of this year, it seems he has been running away from our relationship, it feels like we d...
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hersh
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Unconditional Love
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"Today I can accepet myself for what I am because I know that whatever happens, I have a higher power and a group of people who will love me anyway"
This quote stopped me dead in my meeting tonight. I read it and couldn't speak. I later did get my voice enough to express how unbe...
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sandie123
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Examining my relationship with Alcohol
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Hey everyone
I needed to share and vent about my questionable relationship with alcohol and would love to hear more stories of others in the program who feel they could be or determined they were alcholic ....aka ..."double winner"
Until recently, I never ever thought I had an issue. My al...
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beachbaby
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Any one seen Pico?
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Has anyone seen Pico?
On the board or in chat ?
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bobump
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healing going on here.....
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hello everyone, havnt been on here in a while but id thought i would update you all. two weeks ago if you recall my a relapsed and that was it for me. and this time it really is. he has begged me back numerous times promising me the world and in the past i always believed. but watch the feet right? i dont see any...
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notsonew1111
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Pulling my hair out
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I am so stressed and I just want some peace in my life...even for a day. Doesn't everyone deserve a break once in a while?
I want to be able to go to bed and fall asleep peacefully, not with 1000 things running through my head. I want to wake up in the morning thinking about positive things...not worried a...
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Jayda
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JUST DONT KNOW?
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Hi All,well another saturday meeting with my H ,who i haven,t live with for 12 wks,he comes down to see me i suppose and our new grandson,who i look after sat mornings.
We are now talking much more than we ever have in the last 3 yrs,WHY do i feel sorry for him,he wants us to have another go at saving our mar...
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ollie
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me
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Everyone I had an awsome weekend. I left my husband for over night and hung out with the girls, we went on the beach got a nice tan, bought some stuff I had lots of fun. I got a couple henna. I have come since a log way, last yr I would of Not be able to do this. I was not ready to leave my husband over night. I was so h...
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nycbt
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money issues & others enabling A
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Before I start, what do you do about a neighbor enabling buying the booze & transporting it her when I have the wheels? Can I tell the neighbor no more? I have not yet.
I got off work at 8pm. I came home and loaded the sale items by myself. I acted like everything was great when I came inside.
&...
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hmrnrnmm
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Lull in the storm...
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Hi Friends,
Well, I don't know what this is all about. My AHSober and I have been at each other's throats for a year. In the last 3 weeks, we seemed to have hit the eye in the storm. We usually end of fighting about our relationship (mostly on my part) because he wants a divorce. About 3 weeks...
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nmike
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New here, but need lots of help!
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Hello. My husband is an alcoholic and I am at wits end. I don't know where to turn and thought I would start here. He only drinks at night, but drinks EVERY night, 7 nights a week. He gets completely drunk. He drinks straight vodka and swtiches back and forth to beer.&nb...
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desperate for help
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WHAT HAPPENS AFTER ASCITES?
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Does anyone know the stages after ascites progresses? I need to speak to someone who has been there or "is" at this point. I'm dealing with an "A" that has been diagnosed with "no liver" and will (hopefully) be added to the transplant list in 6 mos. from what the hospital told...
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vangellic
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Hello, new here...
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I'm very...tired.
I think my husband is an A. He says that he isn't...um...even though he admits that he's been drinking to dull his pain for the past...well...years.
When he is not drinking, he is disconnected, grouchy, short-tempered, angry, sullen, forgetful, mean...once he's had a drink...
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pj
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I need Help! I am new!!
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My husband has a drinking problem that he won't admit to and it is tearing this family apart!! We have all addressed the issue, however he doesn't seem to get it. He feels as long as it is controlled he is okay! He makes more excuses!!!! I can't take anymore of this. I hav...
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s1234
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update (sorry, long)
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I don't know what is going on in my life right now.
I had layed out his meds (in a box) on the floor outside the bedroom door. When he came in, I told him he could sleep in the spare room, I'd be da**ed if he was going to sleep in MY bed.
I tried not to respond to any of his rantings, but he was trying to blame my s...
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TLC2
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where do I belong
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Hi,
Has any one ever felt they dont belong any where?I am in alanon but my ex a hasnt been with me over 3 years there is no A in my life.
I tried comeing here and posting and try to give and respond to help others.I have gone to the aa side of posting, even though they been extra kind to me i just...
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dori
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How stupid does he think I am...
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Hi everyone,
I'm shocked. Don't know why but I am!
I'm working my program quite well I think, detatching with love, not padding his (my Aboyfriend) fall when he drinks all his wages etc.
Anyway, I made it clear that I would not be around drinking, and if he chose to disappear for three days wit...
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annmarie
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can't stop obsessing
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I am brand new to this board (about 5 minutes) and go about once a week to in person Alanon meetings. My former husband is my qualifier, as well as my psychotic mother. I am typical enabeler, trying to heal the world, one addict at a time. I
need help because I want and need to s...
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leigh
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stress free
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Hi everyone,
Just wanted to check in and let you know how things are going. Last weekend my husband came home drunk and I ignored him when he walked in. The next morning I made a very strained phone call to him telling him that if he wanted any papers signed in future he needed to have only hi...
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leo
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War is over, Alcohol 1, TLC 0
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Well folks, this is it.(please HP, let it really be over!! Give me the strength to stand by ME!!)
I know a lot of you may be wondering why I call it quits after such a trivial (?) thing?? He got drunk on July 9th (my birthday) and ruined that, I called my son and cancelled because I didn't want the kids to see...
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TLC2
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Maturity vs. Immaturity
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I wandered into a chat room and was looking at the top of the screen where it says "topic" and was then thinking how people come in and ask "whats the topic?" which led me to thinking, gee wouldn't it be fun to have a "today's topic" every day. So then I opened up my ODAT to July 16 and started reading. R...
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kismetstrand
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I THINK I did it right..
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I've been zeroing in on detaching with love. I see now where it is considered difficult by some. Between my almost uncontrollable urge to be in his business and feeling I need to completely ignore him..that narrow bridge became a bit more visible to me...I THINK..
Darling A came home today tanked af...
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RamzDear
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how insedious is MY disease
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all of the sudden i am having a hard time keeping the focus on myself. i am starting to wonder what my soon to be ah is doing and with who. up till now, when i would wonder, i could change my thought or say a prayer to let it go. and it worked. i was not obsessing. but the past couple of days i have been behaving mis...
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serendipity
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gratitude
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I'm writing to thank all of you who have touched my life via this site.
My f2f mtgs and of course my sponsor deserve (and will get) a lot of my thanks too, but there is something about all of you and this site that really helped me to understand and incorporate the al anon program into my life these last few...
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emma
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Wait a minute....
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ok so he is him. Tells me he is still in love with me. So what? lol I mean it is not like he is wooing me and sending a lot of letters and calling.
Not saying, "I want to do this for you and that for you. I have not treated you like I want to treat you....."
I have always been the last consideration for hi...
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debilyn
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I am progressing
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When I first came to these rooms, I was lost. I had lost my A for a year, and my kids left to live with thier A Dad. It has been a very hard year for me, but with the help of Al-anon, my sponsor, and all of you. I am able to see progress in me. I am getting stronger and learning more everyday. I am also getting in touc...
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heartless39470
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Hi
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Hi, this is my first time at any type of Al-Anon message board. I haven't been to a meeting either. I read several postings and started to cry. I have felt so alone in this and a lot of what I read mirrored how I feel. It is nice to know that there are others who can understand what I live through e...
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Alethea
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i could of miss the pain
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Hi,
I could of missed the pain but than I would of missed the dance.I loved you and I am thankful I loved you.I am thankful for all you did in my life.Yes I mean all the drama the pain all of it.I landed in alanon where I got sanity for the first time in my life.
It got to me a place in my li...
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dori
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The end of a long day
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Hi (((Everyone)))
It's late and I should be sleeping but I wanted to end my day here. After posting this morning I went with my A to his appointment, let me clarify I would have stayed home but the center confirmed to me and him that they would like me there to provide info he may not be capable of. unfortu...
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Jennifer
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