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Rita G · Rita G

I went to an Al-Anon convention this weekend - was not as great as I expected, but my fault for having an expectation . . . Anyway, I did hear two things that I had not heard in recovery that I really liked - wanted to share - hope they help you as much as they helped me . . . 1. Religion is for pe...

Annie · Annie

Hi, all--I know I haven't been here for awhile (two jobs now), but I would like to hear how many of you how handle this situation. My A goes to the bar just about every day now--he was self employed and has just about stopped all activity regarding work. He has a small pension and took early...

daisy2 · daisy2

Hi all, My bf is in early recovery and I see one huge problem rising and it will have impact on both our recoveries. I’m not been heard by him, even he thinks he is listening. When he was drinking, I was trying to tell him a little bit about myself and about my past. He doesn’t remember...

daisy2 · daisy2

I had hard thought about myself and maybe over reacting myself. It was selfish think to say no to such a small think. I set high standard to future father of my kids, that’s maybe the problem. We are talking about starting family in future and I watch him closely how is he with his daughter. I shouldn’t be s...

maire rua · maire rua

Yesterday evening my ex A and I discussed in a reasonable manner the way we were going to transport our son to Irish summer camp. The distance is negligible for many living in other countries but it is over a bank holiday august weekend and over hellish terrain. I wanted us to share the driving, I could dr...

purpleraven · purpleraven

i'm afraid to get too excited, i don't want to jinx myself ... but my A and i had a breakthrough this weekend and i honestly think it's because i started Al-Anon!!! he was pissy about it at first, and pumping me for info, it was like he didn't want me to be in recovery. it was frustrating and i wanted to just gi...

mysticmidian · mysticmidian

Ok, so my A has never been an active drinker as long as I've known him but from a lot of the posts that I've read, it seems like a lot of the behaviors are the same whether he drinks or not. Behaviors such as he is right and I am wrong all the time, controlling things (i.e. telling me...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Have you ever found yourself in that really dark, scary place? I'm so sad and just can't shake it. Everyone has bad days and I know I've had more than my share since January, but I'm finding myself in so deep I can't find my way back. The divorce is dragging and becoming increasingly nasty. I know that's pa...

Diva · Diva

I have felt so much better this evening, thanks to the support of all of you. Thank you. THANK YOU!!! Look out. The old Diva is back in full swing... Tomorrow is my birthday, and the A got me a pair of cockatiels. I have never had birds before, although I devote a lot of time to caring for the wild ones in t...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I was on vacation, had a great one until flight back, it took 24 hours, for 1000 miles. Long story, but the stress of it all has left me in a hypertentive crisis and numb on my complete left side, so I am ordered to bed until resolved. Or until I get a hold of one of my regular doctors. I have mis...

maire rua · maire rua

Today, for the first time since I remember I stood up for myself when treated in a shabby way. I feel nervous, and have a knot in my stomach as I sent my response by email and said what I meant in an honest way. Will this get easier in time? Sometimes I feel like such an imposter.

waterlesschain · waterlesschain

My mother told me that out of the mouths of Drunkards and Babies comes the truth. I want to know is this true. My boyfriend is very kind to me when sober but when drunk he is very very verbally abusive. Its like living with a man with a spilt personality. Its horrible. Can...

mysticmidian · mysticmidian

Hi, I've been trying to get into the chat but I keep getting the message "unable to connect." I am trying to enter through the website link that I found in the above post. Help!

midwestgirlatheart · midwestgirlatheart

Hello all, I don't know what to say except thank God that I have found you! And thank you for being here! I have been struggling with this, and so few people know. Our families do not all even know. For what purpose? I do not want to be condemned. It affects so much of our fa...

krise · krise

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who shared on the topics of "Anger" and "Separated." I have read and reread them and will continue to do so to soak up as much wisdom as I can :)

david62 · david62

ahem.....(clears throat in preparation for singing) cues the band..and a 1 and a 2......... You say it's your birthday Happy birthday to you, yeah They say it's your birthday We're gonna have a good time I'm glad it's your birthday Happy birthday to you Ah Ah Ah...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I have not posted in awhile, been reading a lot and replying but had not posted myself. I realized this morning as I was reading that I had not posted because so often in the past I only did so when I was feeling desperate, mixed up, angry, frustrated .... you all know the feelings, an...

serenity62 · serenity62

Hi group,Some of u know my situation, married to my hub who was an active drinker 4 over 20 yrs, past 4 months started shooting cocaine, i left him 1 month ago, took our 2 kids 600 miles away to my old hometown, i'm in contact few times week with him, he's still using but not as much, he got behind in ren...

krise · krise

Just had to share this, because it has been brewing in me. My husband is an alcoholic/addict. I met him when he was 6 months sober, then a year into our marriage a back injury kicked off his addiction again, which lasted a couple years. It was an awful time, he almost died a couple of times,...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Life is like walking on water you just keep taking one step at a time!!! My journey to recovery is like wallking on water there are times when I am afraid and unsure of walking on water but I have my HP,sponsor,and tools to help me through thoses times of being unsure!!! There are times walking on water in m...

lebe27 · lebe27

Not anything we don't already know but something that is sticking in my mind today. A got an email from his sister last night. Her 17 year old son got stopped by the cops last night with 2 cases of beer and some dope after cutting cop off. She wants A to talk to him about what a bad r...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Great. we were getting along great till I disagreed with her. She had the bright idea to go next door and buy the neighbors 1991 Lincoln Continental. The rear end is almost dragging the ground. They did offer to sell it to us the other day for $200. Now it is a different story. Seems we have a 1971 17ft cam...

angel123 · angel123

One of my son's gave me a patio swing. I really wanted a patio to put it on. I made up my mind I can do this Could not afford to get material all at one shot so it took time piece by peace to build. Just as Alanon taught me to take piece by pieace of things with in me. My feelings dealings situations all types of t...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

That, just for tonight, is my solution to a problem I'm having letting go of someone/something. I think it might be the best one yet... :) Jonibaloni -- Edited by jonibaloni at 08:58, 2006-07-22

serendipity · serendipity

i was just reading the posts on anger and that is where i am today. i feel all that resentment. but i really apperciated the post from the sober alcoholic. that is why i go to open aa meetings. to remember to have compassion. everything that was said seems so right on. all the opinions i could relate to. i ha...

Diva · Diva

Most of the time I cope very well. I have a naturally happy nature, and pride myself on the fact that I can handle life quite well. I have nothing at all to worry about really, except the A. Usually, I accept that he is sober and, I hope, likely to remain so. But every now and then, the resentment and anger cre...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi, I was just wondering if anyone here is in the Oklahoma City, OK or Albuquerque, NM area.

My husband and I are moving someone to Albuquerque a week from tomorrow (we have a moving business), and will be traveling Interstate 40 west from Tennessee straight to Albuq...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Does anyone know if memory loss is common among alcoholics? I'm not talking about blackouts,I know about those.Here's why I ask. I was looking for something in a drawer and I came across about 4 or 5 birthday cards I had gotten in different years from my husband.We've been married 36 years,the last 1...

gardengal · gardengal

For me trying to be the one who was always right. (or thought I was especially with the A) I would not listen to others and their suggestions and go about doing things "my way". As my A's drinking escalated the more I tried to prove to him and others that I was right and he was wrong. I would not listen to other...

debilyn · debilyn

Browni: four months, chocolate brown and butterscotch. red dobie/choc lab mix. Estersue: 1200 pound pink farm pig, seven years old. Fannie Alice: 6mo old pink farm pig. Sauvy: great pyrenees. Barlow: big bronze turkey Chief: big ole white appy mix luster, augra, spi...

Rita G · Rita G

Before Al-Anon, I used to think things happened by chance, accident or coincidence - not so much anymore - Let me explain . . . About 5 yrs before getting into Al-Anon, my younger brother who is very active in AA, gave me an Al-Anon speaker tape. The speaker was a lady from California. I li...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, (Continued from previous post Praying for a Miracle From A Bottle, that is what the mechanic called the stuff he put in my car last week) I just drove my car the 100 miles needed to see if the "Miracle in a Bottle" would work, well it didn't I need to replace the tranny. And I just got the quot...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Well, We got a ride to town today to drop of the part ( carborator). We were able to get dog food & our medications. I got to work early. I was due at noon. I sat on a porch out of site & did my daily readings. I was in a better mood. I have been accused of being negative. My A says she is hurting an...

Diva · Diva

I believe he has secrets. He has a yahoo email address; he has a web-cam that I just discovered yesterday. I have issues with trust anyway, and I find incriminating evidence. He also received an email on his regular email site from some porn site. He said it was something he had no knowledge of and delete...

Becky1 · Becky1

I posted a couple of days ago about a slip I had. While I was at the library, using the computer to post, my A sent me a text message.......I'm sorry, are you coming home. I sent back "Why" He sent "Because I love you and want you here" Weird. Just the night before, I was fat, u...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Today child services is at my house to interview myself and my kids related to the incident a few weeks ago at my house. This for me is the consequence of me dropping the restraining order on my husband. Standard stuff but I am pretty freaked out over it. It is somewhere that I thought...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

How in the world do you deal with someone just 'vanishing' from your life? How do you not think it's about YOU...??? I don't believe the person is drinking... it is a woman friend, online... just said 'goodbye' and nothing else. Grieving. Help.

-- Edited by jonibaloni at 09:53, 2006...

codyvic · codyvic

Hello I am new to this site....I have a long term partner who seems to have struggled with alcohol since I have known her. I feel lucky in so many ways because there is no abuse and in fact she is always kind, considerate and caring whether drunk or sober. The problem is that we have a new bab...

smpoli · smpoli

For those that are keeping up with me, we are all doing ok. I am so bad at posting, I am used to just going to the chat room and letting those know who are on line at the time. Anyway, I am doing ok today. I am on a major spiritual path of a lifetime. I believe my HP has a plan for me.&n...

sg · sg

It's been awhile since I have logged on here. I don't know how to say this other than to just say it...my husband committed suicide Thursday, July 6th. Friggen alcoholism. Those that know me here know that we had been having difficulties in our marriage for the past 4 yrs w/relapses and contin...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I wanted to share something that was wonderful that I did for myself last night. When I started the program I had lost all interest I had in music. I had just walked away from it all. Gradually in time my love for music has returned again. When I joined the program I had given up everything I had enjoy...

babysteps · babysteps

Well, after ten beautiful days of sobriety, he is passed out on the floor of our bedroom. I spoke with him just after 5 pm and he sounded just fine. As soon as I got home at 5:30 I could tell something was up and by the time dinner was over he was staggering. He must of pounded some of those 8% alcohol beers they...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Everyone, I have not posted in a while. I was on a much needed four day weekend and enjoyed myself. Feels good to say that.

My A and I are plugging along. He's keeping busy with work and his music projects. I'm keeping busy with work, recovery, kids, and...

nal · nal

Hi everyone, My Dad is the A in my life, allegedly clean and doing all the right things. My mother just told me that she found a Tiffany bag with a receipt for an expensive bracelet bought in April. The bracelet was gone, and he did not give it to her. He made some lame excuse about it being an early Chris...

mysticmidian · mysticmidian

I posted earlier with the topic "husband in recovery" and these are some of the specific issues that I referred to in that post: Well, one of the problems that we have is that he says that I always have to be right. That is not the case, I don't always have to be right but I am certainly not going to ke...

Lindy · Lindy

I haven't had access to a computer until today so here's what happened over the weekend. The weekends are almost always rough for my son and me. It was 100 degrees over this last weekend. I took my son to the pool. I always invite my AH to come with, but he always declines because he can't drink and smoke the...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) You know today is one of those days that i don't even want to post this. It seems like everything I say lately is so negative and needy. I am praying for something positive to say SOON, and I am praying that I am digging up and out faster than he is digging down. I can't remember the...

liliana · liliana

My husband was going out with friends from work tonight. The last time we spoke on the phone was around 5 this afternoon. It is now 11 pm. He was really drunk this afternoon. I am so tired of his inconsideration. He has his cell phone off. My sponser tells me to change my r...

serendipity · serendipity

last night and today were hellish. last night my 3 year old said the bump on her head was because my mother's live in alcoholic hit her. i wanted to throw up and then kill him. but i didn't react. we ate dinner and i thought about what to do and how to do it. it was late so my decision was to go home and put them to b...

serendipity · serendipity

i spent an hour on the phone with my a. he was served on friday so i guess i can start calling him my ex-a. the convo was as ok as it could be. i asked him what he was going to do with the papers (sign them, fight them...) he didn't answer me till later in the convo. he said something about me having full custody an...

lebe27 · lebe27

Hi, Well the money problems are starting already. A used up the last of his insurance settlement money. Today his checking account shows negative $107 and he doesn't get his disabiilty check until the 1st. With the settlement money the last 5 months he has been living high on th...

dori · dori

Hi, I am in Houston so it rains alot some weeks.I love the rain the storms the lighting .I know soon the sun comes out the rainbow shows and it is over.The calm is here and I made it thuogh the storm.It makes me see it will pass. I thought for all who are going through a storm today you can say...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Well, Today is almost over. We have rides for tommorrow. lol Today, I guess I was suppose to give over control and responsiblity to my HP & my A, Tina.

I have been dealing with depression for years. I have been on antidepressants since 1989. Soon after my divorce, I have been on many di...

AlaMom · AlaMom

(((Everyone))) I want to thank everyone for all the birthday wishes over the past couple of days. I would also like to thank everyone who each and every day shares their ES&H. From the newcomer who reminds me how far I have come to the oldtimers who show me that I have that much furthe...

mysticmidian · mysticmidian

Hi, I met my husband when he had a year and a half sobriety, we have now been together for 6 years and he has 7+years sobriety now. I have never known him when he was drinking and I have never been around other alcoholics before, not friends or family. I have been very supportive and understandi...

Jennifer · Jennifer

GRUMBLE GRUMBLE Hemming and hawing over posting this but here it goes Good morning (((Everyone))) I'm not gonna go into the whole background of my last few posts because of time, I gotta get to work soon LOL My AH or soon to be ex AH (I'm not sure what to call this relationship anymore) called Monda...

annmarie · annmarie

He said he was sorry but he had no money to get me a present. It's my birthday today. He said he would get me something when he gets paid tomorrow, but that he wouldn't be able to afford much anyway...then he asked me if this was okay. I just said that he should do whatever he has to do. I knew this would hap...

jonibaloni · jonibaloni

...don't ever deny an alcoholic his/her suffering. This statement is so meaningful to me, as a recovering alcoholic and as a sponsor of an alcoholic. All the enabling, butt-patting, caretaking and 'rescuing' in the world did not get me sober. Being at a place where I was literally BEATEN down to...

jj · jj

(((TLC))) My long winded friend!! lol i love it. I am glad that things are on the mend!! And I love to here from you weather it is here or in a email. I can so relate to summer and all the excuses but it sure seems like any day of the week could be an excuse for hubby these days. I don't really care...

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	Convention (Preview) I went to an Al-Anon convention this weekend - was not as great as I expected, but my fault for having an expectation . . . Anyway, I did hear two things that I had not heard in recovery that I really liked - wanted to share - hope they help you as much as they helped me . . . 1. Religion is for pe...	Rita G	2	693	Jul 24, 2006 by Rita G
	$$$ (Preview) Hi, all--I know I haven't been here for awhile (two jobs now), but I would like to hear how many of you how handle this situation. My A goes to the bar just about every day now--he was self employed and has just about stopped all activity regarding work. He has a small pension and took early...	Annie	11	974	Jul 24, 2006 by lin0606
	Not been heard- long and confusing (Preview) Hi all, My bf is in early recovery and I see one huge problem rising and it will have impact on both our recoveries. I’m not been heard by him, even he thinks he is listening. When he was drinking, I was trying to tell him a little bit about myself and about my past. He doesn’t remember...	daisy2	3	710	Jul 24, 2006 by daisy2
	Not been heard part 2 (Preview) I had hard thought about myself and maybe over reacting myself. It was selfish think to say no to such a small think. I set high standard to future father of my kids, that’s maybe the problem. We are talking about starting family in future and I watch him closely how is he with his daughter. I shouldn’t be s...	daisy2	8	762	Jul 24, 2006 by daisy2
	simple things made complicated (Preview) Yesterday evening my ex A and I discussed in a reasonable manner the way we were going to transport our son to Irish summer camp. The distance is negligible for many living in other countries but it is over a bank holiday august weekend and over hellish terrain. I wanted us to share the driving, I could dr...	maire rua	4	804	Jul 24, 2006 by jonibaloni
	it's already working! (Preview) i'm afraid to get too excited, i don't want to jinx myself ... but my A and i had a breakthrough this weekend and i honestly think it's because i started Al-Anon!!! he was pissy about it at first, and pumping me for info, it was like he didn't want me to be in recovery. it was frustrating and i wanted to just gi...	purpleraven	5	709	Jul 24, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Just deal with it? (Preview) Ok, so my A has never been an active drinker as long as I've known him but from a lot of the posts that I've read, it seems like a lot of the behaviors are the same whether he drinks or not. Behaviors such as he is right and I am wrong all the time, controlling things (i.e. telling me...	mysticmidian	7	720	Jul 24, 2006 by niperonline
	Could use some support (Preview) Have you ever found yourself in that really dark, scary place? I'm so sad and just can't shake it. Everyone has bad days and I know I've had more than my share since January, but I'm finding myself in so deep I can't find my way back. The divorce is dragging and becoming increasingly nasty. I know that's pa...	findingmyway	8	794	Jul 24, 2006 by findingmyway
	Out of the doldrums!!! (Preview) I have felt so much better this evening, thanks to the support of all of you. Thank you. THANK YOU!!! Look out. The old Diva is back in full swing... Tomorrow is my birthday, and the A got me a pair of cockatiels. I have never had birds before, although I devote a lot of time to caring for the wild ones in t...	Diva	12	779	Jul 24, 2006 by chris52
	Finally back!! Not avoiding you all (Preview) I was on vacation, had a great one until flight back, it took 24 hours, for 1000 miles. Long story, but the stress of it all has left me in a hypertentive crisis and numb on my complete left side, so I am ordered to bed until resolved. Or until I get a hold of one of my regular doctors. I have mis...	jrtjosey	10	722	Jul 24, 2006 by chris52
	confrontation on bad treatment (Preview) Today, for the first time since I remember I stood up for myself when treated in a shabby way. I feel nervous, and have a knot in my stomach as I sent my response by email and said what I meant in an honest way. Will this get easier in time? Sometimes I feel like such an imposter.	maire rua	6	497	Jul 24, 2006 by annmarie
	"Out of the mouths of drunkards and babies comes the truth" (Preview) My mother told me that out of the mouths of Drunkards and Babies comes the truth. I want to know is this true. My boyfriend is very kind to me when sober but when drunk he is very very verbally abusive. Its like living with a man with a spilt personality. Its horrible. Can...	waterlesschain	8	1586	Jul 24, 2006 by waterlesschain
	Unable to get into chat room, what am I doing wrong? (Preview) Hi, I've been trying to get into the chat but I keep getting the message "unable to connect." I am trying to enter through the website link that I found in the above post. Help!	mysticmidian	4	520	Jul 23, 2006 by midwestgirlatheart
	DH/DUI/1st time here..... (Preview) Hello all, I don't know what to say except thank God that I have found you! And thank you for being here! I have been struggling with this, and so few people know. Our families do not all even know. For what purpose? I do not want to be condemned. It affects so much of our fa...	midwestgirlatheart	4	686	Jul 23, 2006 by midwestgirlatheart
	Thank you (Preview) Just wanted to say thanks to everyone who shared on the topics of "Anger" and "Separated." I have read and reread them and will continue to do so to soak up as much wisdom as I can :)	krise	0	472	Jul 23, 2006 by krise
	Diva!!! You say it's your birthday?????? (Preview) ahem.....(clears throat in preparation for singing) cues the band..and a 1 and a 2......... You say it's your birthday Happy birthday to you, yeah They say it's your birthday We're gonna have a good time I'm glad it's your birthday Happy birthday to you Ah Ah Ah...	david62	5	871	Jul 23, 2006 by Becky1
	there is hope (Preview) Hi everyone, I have not posted in awhile, been reading a lot and replying but had not posted myself. I realized this morning as I was reading that I had not posted because so often in the past I only did so when I was feeling desperate, mixed up, angry, frustrated .... you all know the feelings, an...	confused	7	538	Jul 23, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	Worried (Preview) Hi group,Some of u know my situation, married to my hub who was an active drinker 4 over 20 yrs, past 4 months started shooting cocaine, i left him 1 month ago, took our 2 kids 600 miles away to my old hometown, i'm in contact few times week with him, he's still using but not as much, he got behind in ren...	serenity62	3	540	Jul 23, 2006 by kerry5
	Anger (Preview) Just had to share this, because it has been brewing in me. My husband is an alcoholic/addict. I met him when he was 6 months sober, then a year into our marriage a back injury kicked off his addiction again, which lasted a couple years. It was an awful time, he almost died a couple of times,...	krise	5	505	Jul 23, 2006 by babysteps
	What my life is like walking on water.. (Preview) Life is like walking on water you just keep taking one step at a time!!! My journey to recovery is like wallking on water there are times when I am afraid and unsure of walking on water but I have my HP,sponsor,and tools to help me through thoses times of being unsure!!! There are times walking on water in m...	bubbles1990	3	592	Jul 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	Alcoholism runs in families (Preview) Not anything we don't already know but something that is sticking in my mind today. A got an email from his sister last night. Her 17 year old son got stopped by the cops last night with 2 cases of beer and some dope after cutting cop off. She wants A to talk to him about what a bad r...	lebe27	3	610	Jul 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHH (Preview) Great. we were getting along great till I disagreed with her. She had the bright idea to go next door and buy the neighbors 1991 Lincoln Continental. The rear end is almost dragging the ground. They did offer to sell it to us the other day for $200. Now it is a different story. Seems we have a 1971 17ft cam...	hmrnrnmm	6	873	Jul 23, 2006 by Jerry F
	Just as (Preview) One of my son's gave me a patio swing. I really wanted a patio to put it on. I made up my mind I can do this Could not afford to get material all at one shot so it took time piece by peace to build. Just as Alanon taught me to take piece by pieace of things with in me. My feelings dealings situations all types of t...	angel123	6	401	Jul 22, 2006 by Maria123
	the solution: "OH FRIGGIN' WELL!!!!!" (Preview) That, just for tonight, is my solution to a problem I'm having letting go of someone/something. I think it might be the best one yet... :) Jonibaloni -- Edited by jonibaloni at 08:58, 2006-07-22	jonibaloni	3	571	Jul 22, 2006 by drucilla06
	re:anger (Preview) i was just reading the posts on anger and that is where i am today. i feel all that resentment. but i really apperciated the post from the sober alcoholic. that is why i go to open aa meetings. to remember to have compassion. everything that was said seems so right on. all the opinions i could relate to. i ha...	serendipity	4	667	Jul 22, 2006 by drucilla06
	Feeling the resentment and anger today. (Preview) Most of the time I cope very well. I have a naturally happy nature, and pride myself on the fact that I can handle life quite well. I have nothing at all to worry about really, except the A. Usually, I accept that he is sober and, I hope, likely to remain so. But every now and then, the resentment and anger cre...	Diva	11	640	Jul 22, 2006 by Karilynn
	anyone here in oklahoma city or albuquerque area? (Preview) Hi, I was just wondering if anyone here is in the Oklahoma City, OK or Albuquerque, NM area. My husband and I are moving someone to Albuquerque a week from tomorrow (we have a moving business), and will be traveling Interstate 40 west from Tennessee straight to Albuq...	lmt123	2	609	Jul 22, 2006 by lmt123
	another stick in the pincushion that was my heart (Preview) Does anyone know if memory loss is common among alcoholics? I'm not talking about blackouts,I know about those.Here's why I ask. I was looking for something in a drawer and I came across about 4 or 5 birthday cards I had gotten in different years from my husband.We've been married 36 years,the last 1...	drucilla06	6	557	Jul 22, 2006 by Becky1
	CAN I ACCEPT DISAGREEMENT AND CRITICISM GOOD NATURELY, WITH AN OPEN MIND, RECOGNIZING IN IT A POTENTIAL FOR GROWTH? (Preview) For me trying to be the one who was always right. (or thought I was especially with the A) I would not listen to others and their suggestions and go about doing things "my way". As my A's drinking escalated the more I tried to prove to him and others that I was right and he was wrong. I would not listen to other...	gardengal	1	536	Jul 22, 2006 by sld488
	eden part one (Preview) Browni: four months, chocolate brown and butterscotch. red dobie/choc lab mix. Estersue: 1200 pound pink farm pig, seven years old. Fannie Alice: 6mo old pink farm pig. Sauvy: great pyrenees. Barlow: big bronze turkey Chief: big ole white appy mix luster, augra, spi...	debilyn	0	781	Jul 22, 2006 by debilyn
	Coincidence? I think not - Geaux HP!! (Preview) Before Al-Anon, I used to think things happened by chance, accident or coincidence - not so much anymore - Let me explain . . . About 5 yrs before getting into Al-Anon, my younger brother who is very active in AA, gave me an Al-Anon speaker tape. The speaker was a lady from California. I li...	Rita G	4	563	Jul 22, 2006 by Christy
	There wasn't a miracle in a bottle for me (Preview) Hi roomies, (Continued from previous post Praying for a Miracle From A Bottle, that is what the mechanic called the stuff he put in my car last week) I just drove my car the 100 miles needed to see if the "Miracle in a Bottle" would work, well it didn't I need to replace the tranny. And I just got the quot...	Dolphin123	7	521	Jul 22, 2006 by Christy
	my diabolical plan to disable the truck a week before I was to leave (Preview) Well, We got a ride to town today to drop of the part ( carborator). We were able to get dog food & our medications. I got to work early. I was due at noon. I sat on a porch out of site & did my daily readings. I was in a better mood. I have been accused of being negative. My A says she is hurting an...	hmrnrnmm	2	473	Jul 22, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Secrets (Preview) I believe he has secrets. He has a yahoo email address; he has a web-cam that I just discovered yesterday. I have issues with trust anyway, and I find incriminating evidence. He also received an email on his regular email site from some porn site. He said it was something he had no knowledge of and delete...	Diva	12	629	Jul 22, 2006 by Diva
	After My Slip (Preview) I posted a couple of days ago about a slip I had. While I was at the library, using the computer to post, my A sent me a text message.......I'm sorry, are you coming home. I sent back "Why" He sent "Because I love you and want you here" Weird. Just the night before, I was fat, u...	Becky1	5	549	Jul 22, 2006 by Becky1
	Child Services Visit... (Preview) Today child services is at my house to interview myself and my kids related to the incident a few weeks ago at my house. This for me is the consequence of me dropping the restraining order on my husband. Standard stuff but I am pretty freaked out over it. It is somewhere that I thought...	AlaMom	6	475	Jul 22, 2006 by TLC2
	someone 'vanishes' from your life..... (Preview) How in the world do you deal with someone just 'vanishing' from your life? How do you not think it's about YOU...??? I don't believe the person is drinking... it is a woman friend, online... just said 'goodbye' and nothing else. Grieving. Help. -- Edited by jonibaloni at 09:53, 2006...	jonibaloni	8	583	Jul 21, 2006 by jonibaloni
	breathalyzer (Preview) Hello I am new to this site....I have a long term partner who seems to have struggled with alcohol since I have known her. I feel lucky in so many ways because there is no abuse and in fact she is always kind, considerate and caring whether drunk or sober. The problem is that we have a new bab...	codyvic	3	391	Jul 21, 2006 by codyvic
	I am still around! (Preview) For those that are keeping up with me, we are all doing ok. I am so bad at posting, I am used to just going to the chat room and letting those know who are on line at the time. Anyway, I am doing ok today. I am on a major spiritual path of a lifetime. I believe my HP has a plan for me.&n...	smpoli	5	406	Jul 21, 2006 by sandie123
	sad and devastating news (Preview) It's been awhile since I have logged on here. I don't know how to say this other than to just say it...my husband committed suicide Thursday, July 6th. Friggen alcoholism. Those that know me here know that we had been having difficulties in our marriage for the past 4 yrs w/relapses and contin...	sg	30	921	Jul 21, 2006 by allison
	Wonderful night for myself (Preview) I wanted to share something that was wonderful that I did for myself last night. When I started the program I had lost all interest I had in music. I had just walked away from it all. Gradually in time my love for music has returned again. When I joined the program I had given up everything I had enjoy...	DoN4me	3	423	Jul 21, 2006 by david62
	Fooled again (Preview) Well, after ten beautiful days of sobriety, he is passed out on the floor of our bedroom. I spoke with him just after 5 pm and he sounded just fine. As soon as I got home at 5:30 I could tell something was up and by the time dinner was over he was staggering. He must of pounded some of those 8% alcohol beers they...	babysteps	6	481	Jul 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	What's with obsession? (Preview) Hello Everyone, I have not posted in a while. I was on a much needed four day weekend and enjoyed myself. Feels good to say that. My A and I are plugging along. He's keeping busy with work and his music projects. I'm keeping busy with work, recovery, kids, and...	twinmom2	7	547	Jul 21, 2006 by Rebecca
	Here we go again... (Preview) Hi everyone, My Dad is the A in my life, allegedly clean and doing all the right things. My mother just told me that she found a Tiffany bag with a receipt for an expensive bracelet bought in April. The bracelet was gone, and he did not give it to her. He made some lame excuse about it being an early Chris...	nal	1	435	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	Problems with husband in recovery (Preview) I posted earlier with the topic "husband in recovery" and these are some of the specific issues that I referred to in that post: Well, one of the problems that we have is that he says that I always have to be right. That is not the case, I don't always have to be right but I am certainly not going to ke...	mysticmidian	4	503	Jul 21, 2006 by nmike
	AH driving drunk (Preview) I haven't had access to a computer until today so here's what happened over the weekend. The weekends are almost always rough for my son and me. It was 100 degrees over this last weekend. I took my son to the pool. I always invite my AH to come with, but he always declines because he can't drink and smoke the...	Lindy	3	519	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	I pray I am digging up faster than he is digging down (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) You know today is one of those days that i don't even want to post this. It seems like everything I say lately is so negative and needy. I am praying for something positive to say SOON, and I am praying that I am digging up and out faster than he is digging down. I can't remember the...	Jennifer	5	448	Jul 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	worried sick about my a and tired of feeling this way. (Preview) My husband was going out with friends from work tonight. The last time we spoke on the phone was around 5 this afternoon. It is now 11 pm. He was really drunk this afternoon. I am so tired of his inconsideration. He has his cell phone off. My sponser tells me to change my r...	liliana	4	471	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	scared but ok (Preview) last night and today were hellish. last night my 3 year old said the bump on her head was because my mother's live in alcoholic hit her. i wanted to throw up and then kill him. but i didn't react. we ate dinner and i thought about what to do and how to do it. it was late so my decision was to go home and put them to b...	serendipity	4	444	Jul 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	realistic (Preview) i spent an hour on the phone with my a. he was served on friday so i guess i can start calling him my ex-a. the convo was as ok as it could be. i asked him what he was going to do with the papers (sign them, fight them...) he didn't answer me till later in the convo. he said something about me having full custody an...	serendipity	4	409	Jul 21, 2006 by maresie2
	Money Problems (Preview) Hi, Well the money problems are starting already. A used up the last of his insurance settlement money. Today his checking account shows negative $107 and he doesn't get his disabiilty check until the 1st. With the settlement money the last 5 months he has been living high on th...	lebe27	2	370	Jul 21, 2006 by Karilynn
	love the rain (Preview) Hi, I am in Houston so it rains alot some weeks.I love the rain the storms the lighting .I know soon the sun comes out the rainbow shows and it is over.The calm is here and I made it thuogh the storm.It makes me see it will pass. I thought for all who are going through a storm today you can say...	dori	12	626	Jul 21, 2006 by Diva
	LET GO....~~~~~~ (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	jonibaloni	5	473	Jul 20, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	giving control and responsibity over to HP & my A (Preview) Well, Today is almost over. We have rides for tommorrow. lol Today, I guess I was suppose to give over control and responsiblity to my HP & my A, Tina. I have been dealing with depression for years. I have been on antidepressants since 1989. Soon after my divorce, I have been on many di...	hmrnrnmm	2	465	Jul 20, 2006 by jonibaloni
	Grateful Me... (Preview) (((Everyone))) I want to thank everyone for all the birthday wishes over the past couple of days. I would also like to thank everyone who each and every day shares their ES&H. From the newcomer who reminds me how far I have come to the oldtimers who show me that I have that much furthe...	AlaMom	4	388	Jul 20, 2006 by Maria123
	Husband in Recovery (Preview) Hi, I met my husband when he had a year and a half sobriety, we have now been together for 6 years and he has 7+years sobriety now. I have never known him when he was drinking and I have never been around other alcoholics before, not friends or family. I have been very supportive and understandi...	mysticmidian	3	462	Jul 20, 2006 by Tammy
	I fell into the pit of his words (Preview) GRUMBLE GRUMBLE Hemming and hawing over posting this but here it goes Good morning (((Everyone))) I'm not gonna go into the whole background of my last few posts because of time, I gotta get to work soon LOL My AH or soon to be ex AH (I'm not sure what to call this relationship anymore) called Monda...	Jennifer	6	498	Jul 20, 2006 by Tammy
	he had no money for a present... (Preview) He said he was sorry but he had no money to get me a present. It's my birthday today. He said he would get me something when he gets paid tomorrow, but that he wouldn't be able to afford much anyway...then he asked me if this was okay. I just said that he should do whatever he has to do. I knew this would hap...	annmarie	12	684	Jul 20, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Don't ever deny an ALCOHOLIC... (Preview) ...don't ever deny an alcoholic his/her suffering. This statement is so meaningful to me, as a recovering alcoholic and as a sponsor of an alcoholic. All the enabling, butt-patting, caretaking and 'rescuing' in the world did not get me sober. Being at a place where I was literally BEATEN down to...	jonibaloni	8	626	Jul 20, 2006 by Becky1
	TLC (Preview) (((TLC))) My long winded friend!! lol i love it. I am glad that things are on the mend!! And I love to here from you weather it is here or in a email. I can so relate to summer and all the excuses but it sure seems like any day of the week could be an excuse for hubby these days. I don't really care...	jj	0	361	Jul 20, 2006 by jj
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