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Miranda · Miranda

I've been writing alot lately, after the kids are asleep... Innocent Dreams There once was a girl, Who was hurt and confused, She fell into love, Was hurt and abused. For years she just smiled, Pulled on her coat, Kept her head up, She learned how to cope. One day she walked out, She stepped out that d...

java · java

I saw this poem posted in a doctor's office the other day...I suppose it was meant to be funny...but I saw a deeper meaning. I'm Lost

I've lost myself. If I return when I get back, please ask me to wait. This got me to thinking about how many lost people there are out there ...

still searching · still searching

I just wanted to let everyone know that after talking with the courts they would not issue a restraining order. Didn't feel that it met the "requirements" here. I am so angry I don't know what to do, but, yet I am so confused. In my state it the restraining order refers to adults doing...

david62 · david62

Good morning, (((((Family))))) A friend emailed these to me this morning and that were such great things for me to think about as I travel through my life today I thought I would share them with all my best friends.

Lessons about the way we treat people. 1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lad...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how one day can seem so awful that you think you'll never get through it but if you just hang on to your sanity for a little longer things get better. Yesterday I was depressed with no friends and feeling sorry for myself and today I can't figure out what to do this weekend because...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Ever since I entered this wonderful group I felt a peaceful closeness to all of you. When I was confused you helped me to see; What it is all about, and what is happening to me. I just want to thank you all for listening, caring, and reaching out. It just leaves me without a doubt..... That this group's...

lilms · lilms

(((((((Dear Friends))))))) My server for the past couple of weeks or so has been a real rat bastage. They seem to have worked out the kinks so for now I am back.

I sure have missed you all and when life allows the time will be able to catch up on posts, make it into meetings etc. YAAAAAAAAAAY!...

kopkreations · kopkreations

I would like to know does anyone try to have a heart to heart with their alchoic while trying to find themselves going through the steps. I have read a lot on it but confused on this issue. Does one still try?

serendipity · serendipity

again thank you for the love and support. Luna said grow up and that really made sense. i am trying. i don't know how, at least i wasn't shown how to be an adult, or have an adult relationship. i have tried so hard but when working with an A it might just be impossible. Yet again, i see it is me. i went...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, what an evening---straight into Hell. I should have known that by his nasty attitude earlier today that it would not be good for a visit today. We both fell asleep at our own dwellings, and I called him back. Same attitude. I was totally set on keeping my boundaries in my home. I dont think he likes...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

It's been a while since my A has made me cry. He succeeded tonight. I could have banged my head against a wall trying to make him wake up and see. Yes, I've been there and done that -- you'd think I'd have learned by now. My Son has to finish his pinewood derby car (scouts) by Sunday aft...

still searching · still searching

He walked into my daughters room (she is 8) and starts complaining about her shoes being in the way in her bedroom. She says they are on the floor. So this grown man then takes her papers from her dresser and her blanket and throws them on the floor and then tells her to pick it up. She tells him no. He then tel...

java · java

I can't breath. I have known this feeling before, it's anxiety over feeling controlled. I feel out of control. What's the first step? Admitted we were powerless. Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. I feel out of control and insane. I am w...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I have done step one and two, but get a little shy of step 3. I was wondering if I could just work it over in my head, or if I need a sponsor in order to say "Hey, I'm on step 3"? I don't really know how to find a sponsor right now. thanks Jamie

serendipity · serendipity

first of all, i want to thank you all for the love and support in your replies. i try to keep those thoughts in my head when my feelings come up. i'm having a difficult day today. the thought of my ex with another woman is driving me insane. i am so hurt. and i'm trying to justify these feelings in my h...

albertarose · albertarose

Hi Friends, I am feeling a little sad today. My AH and I split up again. The second time since August. It's for the best as I see he is not willing to change. I am changing and making progress in my f2f meetings, couseling, support group for abused women, open AA meetings every Friday and I just starte...

evey · evey

AH called me at work crying and carrying on that he was going to "do something" and wanted to say goodbye to me. I didn't run home, he has done this before, but he also called various family members, including his college age daughters, who all began calling me at work, and then he called a...

Alanoner · Alanoner

Hi Everyone, Recently I posted something about how I was looking for the "recovery" on this board and it was hard to find, this was after reading what felt like the upteenth self obsessed "poor me" vent from someone who claimed to have like loads of recovery and years in the prog...

nmike · nmike

Hi Friends, I don't even recognize the man I have been married to for 33 years. We haven't lived together for 2 years. I cannot believe the things he says and does. Was I in denial all those years of marriage? Did I want him to be who I wanted him to be? We use to talk about our values of money and child...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))), A called me at work this afternoon. He called and said: " I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate you and all you do. I don't say it often enough, but I do." Oh he prefaced this by saying, "I'm not drinking." (He's been sober 10 month...

eyeteach1 · eyeteach1

My name is Teresa and I'm fairly certain the answer is yes, but in reading a few of the posts here, I'm wondering if this is the place I need to come or not. It seems that many people here are family and friends of people who are not trying to work on their disease, and they are trying to deal with tha...

ShelBell · ShelBell

And I am doing the happy leader dance. The girls did great, though, earning around $700.00 for their troop. Now I have to help them spend it!!! Every year, I say I am not going to let the GS Cookie sale take over my life, but they still do. So I have written a little humor to share with my fellow leaders, le...

serendipity · serendipity

i am not letting my ex see the kids.last friday he confessed to me that he had been reading all of my journals, had broken into my computer, had hidden under my deck to see what i doing. then he was very very disrespectful of me, my family and my friends. so, the little trust (or denile) i had was gone and i de...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((My Special Family))))) What does it take to live life at your own pace? I got in a panic this week because my AW who I have been sperated from for 5 months now, declared that when her lease is up " she's coming home ". Well, since she has declared that she is not ready to stop drinking, I...

kopkreations · kopkreations

Okay I thought maybe i understood the disease but I guess I further progress into rebuilding myself, there are new things I am seeing. Basically I am curious to know, does an A see the changes his spouse maybe going through. Does it affect them? and if it does has anyones A acted out cause they didn'...

Becky1 · Becky1

For the last couple of weeks, I have been beseiged by torrents of tears. These can happen any time.....riding in the car with hubby driving, us not even talking, just going to the grocery. This morning at a fast food restaurant, eating breakfast with him. All day yesterday, on my birthday. I don'...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

UGGGHHHH! I downloaded this mirc thing and I just can not understand it. I wish I would be able to get java totally downloaded but something keeps happening. I feel like a fool. Please someone help me in either direction mirc or java or both. I am totally lost and calling it a day on that one.

debilyn · debilyn

I have chosen to delete the threads about prejudice, or not prejudice comments. I feel we need to do our best to be supportive, loving, and stick to our alanon sharing. Want to add, I am sure the comments were never meant to hurt anyone on purpose. Please remember a lot of us are already very tender with wh...

emma · emma

Dear ((((Roomies))))))) Since finding the rooms of Al Anon I've looked back at my life to see if I could learn any patterns that were sabotaging me, where I was sabotaging myself. Has anyone else found themselves sabotaging themselves? --- And how have you stopped the cycle? This is a bit long...

rtexas · rtexas

..... it's been a few weeks since my last confession. LOL - I have worried more than once a day that my life isn't all it should be. - I have pushed my will on others at least twice - I put my plans on hold in lieu of what my A wanted me to do instead only to be disappointed. - I voiced anger over anoth...

arty · arty

It is very strange that the days my A is depressed i am strong, but the days he is ok... i am the one depressed. I am the one who cancelled the wedding. I am the one who is taking over the home loan. I am the one making all the decisions to move on... Yet i am so sad. i spend so many days just happy that this part of my...

Diva · Diva

She had been ill with Canine Cushing's Disease for about a year. She also had bladder cancer and arthritis. But she was not suffering, and she was happy. Just about 30 minutes ago, she lost the use of all four of her little legs, and the vet believes she had a stroke. God I am so sad. She has been my...

eyeteach1 · eyeteach1

I keep reading posts about having a sponsor and the 12 steps--is this true for members of Al-Anon as well as AA? I'm confused...do I need a sponsor if I'm not an alcoholic?

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I feel like everytime I get used to something or think it's OK then I am reminded that really it sucks. THe A picked me up 30 minutes late from work, whick was silly because we only live 7 driving minutes from home. typical. Then we go to the park garden and it is nice out and he starts trying to cut the flo...

eyeteach1 · eyeteach1

My name is Teresa and I'm fairly certain the answer is yes, but in reading a few of the posts here, I'm wondering if this is the place I need to come or not. It seems that many people here are family and friends of people who are not trying to work on their disease, and they are trying to deal with tha...

eva · eva

Daer MIP family! I am new here and I am not native speaker, so I hope you will understand what Iwant to say. I am an adult child of alcoholic. It is a long time since I do not live in my parents house, I have my own family and attend Al-Anon for 3 years. This program is wonderfull but in our country it is wor...

shannon · shannon

I went to my first Al-anon meeting, and it felt really good, but also very frightening. My father was an alcoholic for the thirteen years I lived with him, and I'm sure he still is till this day, but I wouldn't know because I haven't talked to him in so long. I was nervous about attending Al-Anon because I a...

kopkreations · kopkreations

Hi all, I am new here, I believe I have come along way in dealing with my husbands alcholism and not only that but in realizing I have to move on myself. I didn't realize until just before unitl I read a article on detachment that I have gone through that phase or going through it more like it. I hav...

desperate for help · desperate for help

Well, i have decided that enough is enough and I am planning on divorcing husband. He is now drinking a fifth of vodka every night. I showed him an empty bottle today (the one he bought last night and drank the WHOLE thing). His response? "Yeah, I guess I need to cut back a little!" I said ho...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hi guys! you know I have been urged by my regular doctor to see a psychiatrist, because she doesnt feel comfortable treating someone (don't mind the pun) who is as nuts as I am! I ended up calling the number I got for the hospital I used to get shrink help from. It turns out my doc is retiring. I explaine...

cloud123 · cloud123

Here is my Tyler if this worked love cloudy and tyler

marmare · marmare

I am finding more and more that I am taking more baby steps. This is such an amazing journey. First off my A tried to bait me last weekend, I wouldn't allow it, when he threatened to leave (this hasn't happened in over 8 months) I calmly walked him to the door and told him good bye.....(that make...

Rita G · Rita G

Just read in your post that it was your birthday yesterday, Alyce. Wanted to say "Happy Birthday" Enjoy some calorie free cake Hope today is a better day for You. ((Alyce)) Rita

babysteps · babysteps

I have started to post several times over the past few weeks about my AH's strong tendency to adopt whatever mood I am in. I confided in him some fears a few weeks ago and he talked me out of them, but proceeded to relapse and refer to our conversation as the spark. Then I made a big sale for work and got re...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Well, I had two nice ladies from a small church nearby come and clean my house up some. One did the bathroom, the other the kitchen, and they swept and mopped my house. All I could say was I don't know how to thank you. One lady blurted out--we will be rewarded in heaven. It was nice to hug and cry on these...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

OK ok, I know about the boundaries/mixed messages etc. with this guy. I guess what I really wanted was just to be wanted and he made me feel that way. I have been living here for a year and a half and still have NOT ONE SOUL that I could call to go do someething with me EVER!!! I am desperate for companionsh...

Maria123 · Maria123

I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. A true friend is some...

cloud123 · cloud123

Hey all cloud here aka Clud---lol Tyler and I are doing good I have had a few problems here and there and I started to rip open after the steri strips came open on this past Sat after a fri nite snow storm and the walks stairs and the parking lot and even the friggen road was not plowed my mom parked at the bot...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))))), Spring has finally come! While there is still snow on the ground, I can see little signs of life that the changing of the seasons is here. Pipers Kitty is bouncing off the walls, ready for the warm weather so she can chase mice, moles and leaves. We are getting ready for...

Alyce · Alyce

I am having such a hard time with my kids and feel totally lost. We moved from NY to Florida and they are not adjusting well at all. One is 16 and the other is 20. They sit in the house all day and refuse to do anything to make it better....they won't join anything, work, etc... What scares me is now th...

rtexas · rtexas

..... it's been a few weeks since my last confession. LOL - I have worried more than once a day that my life isn't all it should be. - I have pushed my will on others at least twice - I put my plans on hold in lieu of what my A wanted me to do instead only to be disappointed. - I voiced anger over anoth...

Katy · Katy

Yep this is something I need to do,think it's called self awareness? a few weeks ago I had my first a wakening, and that was like wow, I woke up and smelt the coffee, then I had lot's of little a wakenings, like they came in the shape of,well,I could chose them really,but I only got to enjoy the b...

amyh · amyh

hi, im new here. my name is amy. my husband is a addict/ with bipolar disorder. we are in bancrupcy so we dont lose our home. i have been feeling very resentfull, hateful and depressed. i just want to start healing. i am reading the melodie beattie books codependent no more and journey to the heart. my h...

jmk · jmk

Hi everyone. Im new to alanon... i went to my 4th meeting tonight and i was pretty disappointed. i felt as though i really needed a meeting today and i went to the one i could make and the majority of the meeting was taking care of business aspects of the group. i know that this only happens once in a while but...

kicky · kicky

After 7 years with a raging A...I've been dating someone new...Ironically, he's an A ...BUT sober 2 years...and in the program. He's got his stuff that he's dealing with and seems to really be concentrating on himself. But he's very attentive and caring towards me and you'...

HELPLESSMOM · HELPLESSMOM

my son that thinks partying on the weekends and having his 3rd dwi, now might not have been so fun after all. this is his 3rd night in jail he spent Saturady night and the next 14 nights in jail he gets to go to work during the week, but on weekends he's there all day. Today i talked to him before he went ba...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

In my last post you could see I broke it off with a guy I really liked because he was no good for me. Well last night I broke down and sent him a text message and called him. I missed having someone to talk to. I told him that we would only be friends never more because I can't take the chance with another...

kissers · kissers

I met someone a year ago and we talked a lot. We finally met one night and one thing led to another. I asked him before it happened what was going to happen afterwards. He told me that we would discuss it afterward to see how we both felt. He told me afterward that he is not looking for a relationship and that h...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, those of you who know me know I have been struggling as of late with being in love with an active A, my husband. And it has been tearing me up inside. Last night, I lay awake thinking. I do that from time to time...

I started thinking about Christopher Reeves, the guy we all knew as "S...

MaggiG · MaggiG

Maggi is again dealing with death..... It seems of late for the last 2 years every so often Maggi is dealing with death issues. Last week it was the death of my mothers brother and although it had no direct impact on me , hearing my mom process it was hard to see my mom fragile and unable to process all thos...

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	Writing the lyrics to my life (Preview) I've been writing alot lately, after the kids are asleep... Innocent Dreams There once was a girl, Who was hurt and confused, She fell into love, Was hurt and abused. For years she just smiled, Pulled on her coat, Kept her head up, She learned how to cope. One day she walked out, She stepped out that d...	Miranda	2	520	Mar 25, 2007 by Maria123
	I'm Lost (Preview) I saw this poem posted in a doctor's office the other day...I suppose it was meant to be funny...but I saw a deeper meaning. I'm Lost I've lost myself. If I return when I get back, please ask me to wait. This got me to thinking about how many lost people there are out there ...	java	5	677	Mar 25, 2007 by Becky1
	no restraining order issued (Preview) I just wanted to let everyone know that after talking with the courts they would not issue a restraining order. Didn't feel that it met the "requirements" here. I am so angry I don't know what to do, but, yet I am so confused. In my state it the restraining order refers to adults doing...	still searching	6	571	Mar 25, 2007 by debilyn
	5 Life Lessons (Preview) Good morning, (((((Family))))) A friend emailed these to me this morning and that were such great things for me to think about as I travel through my life today I thought I would share them with all my best friends. Lessons about the way we treat people. 1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lad...	david62	11	612	Mar 25, 2007 by maresie2
	Just hang on a little longer... (Preview) It's funny how one day can seem so awful that you think you'll never get through it but if you just hang on to your sanity for a little longer things get better. Yesterday I was depressed with no friends and feeling sorry for myself and today I can't figure out what to do this weekend because...	carolinagirl	7	525	Mar 25, 2007 by maresie2
	Here is a great big hug to all at our Al-anon MIP! (Preview) Ever since I entered this wonderful group I felt a peaceful closeness to all of you. When I was confused you helped me to see; What it is all about, and what is happening to me. I just want to thank you all for listening, caring, and reaching out. It just leaves me without a doubt..... That this group's...	hippietrippiechick	2	684	Mar 25, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Finally, I'm back (Preview) (((((((Dear Friends))))))) My server for the past couple of weeks or so has been a real rat bastage. They seem to have worked out the kinks so for now I am back. I sure have missed you all and when life allows the time will be able to catch up on posts, make it into meetings etc. YAAAAAAAAAAY!...	lilms	4	396	Mar 25, 2007 by John
	Does one have a heart to heart with their alcoholic? (Preview) I would like to know does anyone try to have a heart to heart with their alchoic while trying to find themselves going through the steps. I have read a lot on it but confused on this issue. Does one still try?	kopkreations	11	793	Mar 25, 2007 by Demilas
	my anger motivates me (Preview) again thank you for the love and support. Luna said grow up and that really made sense. i am trying. i don't know how, at least i wasn't shown how to be an adult, or have an adult relationship. i have tried so hard but when working with an A it might just be impossible. Yet again, i see it is me. i went...	serendipity	4	625	Mar 25, 2007 by Kim65
	ESH needed. My A came over and I had to make him leave. (Preview) Well, what an evening---straight into Hell. I should have known that by his nasty attitude earlier today that it would not be good for a visit today. We both fell asleep at our own dwellings, and I called him back. Same attitude. I was totally set on keeping my boundaries in my home. I dont think he likes...	hippietrippiechick	4	548	Mar 24, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Hard night (Preview) It's been a while since my A has made me cry. He succeeded tonight. I could have banged my head against a wall trying to make him wake up and see. Yes, I've been there and done that -- you'd think I'd have learned by now. My Son has to finish his pinewood derby car (scouts) by Sunday aft...	Lunamoth	8	527	Mar 24, 2007 by Karilynn
	am I over reacting?? (Preview) He walked into my daughters room (she is 8) and starts complaining about her shoes being in the way in her bedroom. She says they are on the floor. So this grown man then takes her papers from her dresser and her blanket and throws them on the floor and then tells her to pick it up. She tells him no. He then tel...	still searching	16	672	Mar 24, 2007 by still searching
	Can't breath (Preview) I can't breath. I have known this feeling before, it's anxiety over feeling controlled. I feel out of control. What's the first step? Admitted we were powerless. Step 2: Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. I feel out of control and insane. I am w...	java	4	529	Mar 24, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Do you need a sponsor to do the steps? (Preview) I have done step one and two, but get a little shy of step 3. I was wondering if I could just work it over in my head, or if I need a sponsor in order to say "Hey, I'm on step 3"? I don't really know how to find a sponsor right now. thanks Jamie	RainyJamie	3	361	Mar 24, 2007 by lin0606
	my green eyes (Preview) first of all, i want to thank you all for the love and support in your replies. i try to keep those thoughts in my head when my feelings come up. i'm having a difficult day today. the thought of my ex with another woman is driving me insane. i am so hurt. and i'm trying to justify these feelings in my h...	serendipity	4	420	Mar 24, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Letting Go (Preview) Hi Friends, I am feeling a little sad today. My AH and I split up again. The second time since August. It's for the best as I see he is not willing to change. I am changing and making progress in my f2f meetings, couseling, support group for abused women, open AA meetings every Friday and I just starte...	albertarose	9	654	Mar 24, 2007 by albertarose
	alcoholic game or real threat (Preview) AH called me at work crying and carrying on that he was going to "do something" and wanted to say goodbye to me. I didn't run home, he has done this before, but he also called various family members, including his college age daughters, who all began calling me at work, and then he called a...	evey	12	671	Mar 24, 2007 by evey
	Please accept my amends (Preview) Hi Everyone, Recently I posted something about how I was looking for the "recovery" on this board and it was hard to find, this was after reading what felt like the upteenth self obsessed "poor me" vent from someone who claimed to have like loads of recovery and years in the prog...	Alanoner	9	526	Mar 23, 2007 by drucilla06
	Was I in that much denial? (Preview) Hi Friends, I don't even recognize the man I have been married to for 33 years. We haven't lived together for 2 years. I cannot believe the things he says and does. Was I in denial all those years of marriage? Did I want him to be who I wanted him to be? We use to talk about our values of money and child...	nmike	8	619	Mar 23, 2007 by drucilla06
	Nice to hear (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))), A called me at work this afternoon. He called and said: " I just wanted to let you know that I appreciate you and all you do. I don't say it often enough, but I do." Oh he prefaced this by saying, "I'm not drinking." (He's been sober 10 month...	Karilynn	12	477	Mar 23, 2007 by lin0606
	Do I Belong Here? (Preview) My name is Teresa and I'm fairly certain the answer is yes, but in reading a few of the posts here, I'm wondering if this is the place I need to come or not. It seems that many people here are family and friends of people who are not trying to work on their disease, and they are trying to deal with tha...	eyeteach1	5	556	Mar 23, 2007 by CJ
	GS Cookies are OVER!!!! (Preview) And I am doing the happy leader dance. The girls did great, though, earning around $700.00 for their troop. Now I have to help them spend it!!! Every year, I say I am not going to let the GS Cookie sale take over my life, but they still do. So I have written a little humor to share with my fellow leaders, le...	ShelBell	9	535	Mar 23, 2007 by jajanma
	i think i am wrong (Preview) i am not letting my ex see the kids.last friday he confessed to me that he had been reading all of my journals, had broken into my computer, had hidden under my deck to see what i doing. then he was very very disrespectful of me, my family and my friends. so, the little trust (or denile) i had was gone and i de...	serendipity	5	370	Mar 23, 2007 by lin0606
	In whose time.... (Preview) (((((My Special Family))))) What does it take to live life at your own pace? I got in a panic this week because my AW who I have been sperated from for 5 months now, declared that when her lease is up " she's coming home ". Well, since she has declared that she is not ready to stop drinking, I...	rtexas	6	519	Mar 23, 2007 by emma
	Question about the disease (Preview) Okay I thought maybe i understood the disease but I guess I further progress into rebuilding myself, there are new things I am seeing. Basically I am curious to know, does an A see the changes his spouse maybe going through. Does it affect them? and if it does has anyones A acted out cause they didn'...	kopkreations	7	522	Mar 23, 2007 by MsgBo
	I Hope These are Healing Tears, Cos I am Drowning! (Preview) For the last couple of weeks, I have been beseiged by torrents of tears. These can happen any time.....riding in the car with hubby driving, us not even talking, just going to the grocery. This morning at a fast food restaurant, eating breakfast with him. All day yesterday, on my birthday. I don'...	Becky1	12	746	Mar 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Some one please explain this MIRC chat to me like I am a 3 year old (Preview) UGGGHHHH! I downloaded this mirc thing and I just can not understand it. I wish I would be able to get java totally downloaded but something keeps happening. I feel like a fool. Please someone help me in either direction mirc or java or both. I am totally lost and calling it a day on that one.	hippietrippiechick	1	305	Mar 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Dearest Friends (closed) (Preview) I have chosen to delete the threads about prejudice, or not prejudice comments. I feel we need to do our best to be supportive, loving, and stick to our alanon sharing. Want to add, I am sure the comments were never meant to hurt anyone on purpose. Please remember a lot of us are already very tender with wh...	debilyn	6	626	Mar 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Al Anon lessons (Preview) Dear ((((Roomies))))))) Since finding the rooms of Al Anon I've looked back at my life to see if I could learn any patterns that were sabotaging me, where I was sabotaging myself. Has anyone else found themselves sabotaging themselves? --- And how have you stopped the cycle? This is a bit long...	emma	4	548	Mar 23, 2007 by nmike
	Forgive me (HP) for I have sinned... (Preview) ..... it's been a few weeks since my last confession. LOL - I have worried more than once a day that my life isn't all it should be. - I have pushed my will on others at least twice - I put my plans on hold in lieu of what my A wanted me to do instead only to be disappointed. - I voiced anger over anoth...	rtexas	2	295	Mar 23, 2007 by debilyn
	having a bad day (Preview) It is very strange that the days my A is depressed i am strong, but the days he is ok... i am the one depressed. I am the one who cancelled the wedding. I am the one who is taking over the home loan. I am the one making all the decisions to move on... Yet i am so sad. i spend so many days just happy that this part of my...	arty	5	295	Mar 22, 2007 by nmike
	My 14 year old Boston Terrier passed away today. (Preview) She had been ill with Canine Cushing's Disease for about a year. She also had bladder cancer and arthritis. But she was not suffering, and she was happy. Just about 30 minutes ago, she lost the use of all four of her little legs, and the vet believes she had a stroke. God I am so sad. She has been my...	Diva	25	1604	Mar 22, 2007 by Diane43
	Stupd Question (Preview) I keep reading posts about having a sponsor and the 12 steps--is this true for members of Al-Anon as well as AA? I'm confused...do I need a sponsor if I'm not an alcoholic?	eyeteach1	4	365	Mar 22, 2007 by Friendofyours
	stuck (Preview) I feel like everytime I get used to something or think it's OK then I am reminded that really it sucks. THe A picked me up 30 minutes late from work, whick was silly because we only live 7 driving minutes from home. typical. Then we go to the park garden and it is nice out and he starts trying to cut the flo...	RainyJamie	6	316	Mar 22, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Do I Belong Here? (Preview) My name is Teresa and I'm fairly certain the answer is yes, but in reading a few of the posts here, I'm wondering if this is the place I need to come or not. It seems that many people here are family and friends of people who are not trying to work on their disease, and they are trying to deal with tha...	eyeteach1	2	348	Mar 22, 2007 by lin0606
	Am I normal? (Preview) Daer MIP family! I am new here and I am not native speaker, so I hope you will understand what Iwant to say. I am an adult child of alcoholic. It is a long time since I do not live in my parents house, I have my own family and attend Al-Anon for 3 years. This program is wonderfull but in our country it is wor...	eva	4	575	Mar 22, 2007 by ally
	This is all new to me (Preview) I went to my first Al-anon meeting, and it felt really good, but also very frightening. My father was an alcoholic for the thirteen years I lived with him, and I'm sure he still is till this day, but I wouldn't know because I haven't talked to him in so long. I was nervous about attending Al-Anon because I a...	shannon	7	469	Mar 22, 2007 by abbyal
	How do I separate alcoholism detachement from love detachment (Preview) Hi all, I am new here, I believe I have come along way in dealing with my husbands alcholism and not only that but in realizing I have to move on myself. I didn't realize until just before unitl I read a article on detachment that I have gone through that phase or going through it more like it. I hav...	kopkreations	6	727	Mar 22, 2007 by kopkreations
	I can't take it anymore! (Preview) Well, i have decided that enough is enough and I am planning on divorcing husband. He is now drinking a fifth of vodka every night. I showed him an empty bottle today (the one he bought last night and drank the WHOLE thing). His response? "Yeah, I guess I need to cut back a little!" I said ho...	desperate for help	5	541	Mar 22, 2007 by HowToSaveALife
	It is always darkest before the dawn :) (Preview) Hi guys! you know I have been urged by my regular doctor to see a psychiatrist, because she doesnt feel comfortable treating someone (don't mind the pun) who is as nuts as I am! I ended up calling the number I got for the hospital I used to get shrink help from. It turns out my doc is retiring. I explaine...	hippietrippiechick	2	389	Mar 22, 2007 by maire rua
	Here is the baby if this works (Preview) Here is my Tyler if this worked love cloudy and tyler	cloud123	13	434	Mar 22, 2007 by maire rua
	Taking Baby Steps (Preview) I am finding more and more that I am taking more baby steps. This is such an amazing journey. First off my A tried to bait me last weekend, I wouldn't allow it, when he threatened to leave (this hasn't happened in over 8 months) I calmly walked him to the door and told him good bye.....(that make...	marmare	5	369	Mar 21, 2007 by Kim65
	Happy Belated Birthday, Alyce (Preview) Just read in your post that it was your birthday yesterday, Alyce. Wanted to say "Happy Birthday" Enjoy some calorie free cake Hope today is a better day for You. ((Alyce)) Rita	Rita G	5	432	Mar 21, 2007 by Karilynn
	AH figured something out for himself. (Preview) I have started to post several times over the past few weeks about my AH's strong tendency to adopt whatever mood I am in. I confided in him some fears a few weeks ago and he talked me out of them, but proceeded to relapse and refer to our conversation as the spark. Then I made a big sale for work and got re...	babysteps	3	479	Mar 21, 2007 by lin0606
	some positive news (Preview) Well, I had two nice ladies from a small church nearby come and clean my house up some. One did the bathroom, the other the kitchen, and they swept and mopped my house. All I could say was I don't know how to thank you. One lady blurted out--we will be rewarded in heaven. It was nice to hug and cry on these...	hippietrippiechick	7	486	Mar 21, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	Wow didn't expect so much response... (Preview) OK ok, I know about the boundaries/mixed messages etc. with this guy. I guess what I really wanted was just to be wanted and he made me feel that way. I have been living here for a year and a half and still have NOT ONE SOUL that I could call to go do someething with me EVER!!! I am desperate for companionsh...	carolinagirl	6	584	Mar 21, 2007 by RainyJamie
	LOVE (Preview) I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. A true friend is some...	Maria123	8	548	Mar 21, 2007 by bob6502
	If you want LOVE join our family @MIP (Preview) Hey all cloud here aka Clud---lol Tyler and I are doing good I have had a few problems here and there and I started to rip open after the steri strips came open on this past Sat after a fri nite snow storm and the walks stairs and the parking lot and even the friggen road was not plowed my mom parked at the bot...	cloud123	5	444	Mar 21, 2007 by bob6502
	HAPPY SPRING! (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))), Spring has finally come! While there is still snow on the ground, I can see little signs of life that the changing of the seasons is here. Pipers Kitty is bouncing off the walls, ready for the warm weather so she can chase mice, moles and leaves. We are getting ready for...	Karilynn	3	257	Mar 21, 2007 by Becky1
	Totally disraught. (Preview) I am having such a hard time with my kids and feel totally lost. We moved from NY to Florida and they are not adjusting well at all. One is 16 and the other is 20. They sit in the house all day and refuse to do anything to make it better....they won't join anything, work, etc... What scares me is now th...	Alyce	5	724	Mar 21, 2007 by Alyce
	Forgive me (HP) for I have sinned... (Preview) ..... it's been a few weeks since my last confession. LOL - I have worried more than once a day that my life isn't all it should be. - I have pushed my will on others at least twice - I put my plans on hold in lieu of what my A wanted me to do instead only to be disappointed. - I voiced anger over anoth...	rtexas	10	381	Mar 21, 2007 by twinmom2
	Understanding our feelings? (Preview) Yep this is something I need to do,think it's called self awareness? a few weeks ago I had my first a wakening, and that was like wow, I woke up and smelt the coffee, then I had lot's of little a wakenings, like they came in the shape of,well,I could chose them really,but I only got to enjoy the b...	Katy	5	486	Mar 21, 2007 by Tiger2006
	healing (Preview) hi, im new here. my name is amy. my husband is a addict/ with bipolar disorder. we are in bancrupcy so we dont lose our home. i have been feeling very resentfull, hateful and depressed. i just want to start healing. i am reading the melodie beattie books codependent no more and journey to the heart. my h...	amyh	5	297	Mar 21, 2007 by carosie
	New to the program (4 meetings) Feeling Anxious (Preview) Hi everyone. Im new to alanon... i went to my 4th meeting tonight and i was pretty disappointed. i felt as though i really needed a meeting today and i went to the one i could make and the majority of the meeting was taking care of business aspects of the group. i know that this only happens once in a while but...	jmk	8	552	Mar 21, 2007 by Karilynn
	What I need shouldn't have to come from someone else (Preview) After 7 years with a raging A...I've been dating someone new...Ironically, he's an A ...BUT sober 2 years...and in the program. He's got his stuff that he's dealing with and seems to really be concentrating on himself. But he's very attentive and caring towards me and you'...	kicky	5	620	Mar 21, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Son's 3rd night in jail (Preview) my son that thinks partying on the weekends and having his 3rd dwi, now might not have been so fun after all. this is his 3rd night in jail he spent Saturady night and the next 14 nights in jail he gets to go to work during the week, but on weekends he's there all day. Today i talked to him before he went ba...	HELPLESSMOM	8	525	Mar 21, 2007 by roygbiv
	I broke down and called him back. (Preview) In my last post you could see I broke it off with a guy I really liked because he was no good for me. Well last night I broke down and sent him a text message and called him. I missed having someone to talk to. I told him that we would only be friends never more because I can't take the chance with another...	carolinagirl	11	428	Mar 21, 2007 by roygbiv
	Going Crazy!! Desperate for a reality check!! (Preview) I met someone a year ago and we talked a lot. We finally met one night and one thing led to another. I asked him before it happened what was going to happen afterwards. He told me that we would discuss it afterward to see how we both felt. He told me afterward that he is not looking for a relationship and that h...	kissers	8	466	Mar 21, 2007 by Moon
	My Husband is Superman (Preview) Well, those of you who know me know I have been struggling as of late with being in love with an active A, my husband. And it has been tearing me up inside. Last night, I lay awake thinking. I do that from time to time... I started thinking about Christopher Reeves, the guy we all knew as "S...	Becky1	6	329	Mar 21, 2007 by roygbiv
	death surrounds me (Preview) Maggi is again dealing with death..... It seems of late for the last 2 years every so often Maggi is dealing with death issues. Last week it was the death of my mothers brother and although it had no direct impact on me , hearing my mom process it was hard to see my mom fragile and unable to process all thos...	MaggiG	7	634	Mar 20, 2007 by MaggiG
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