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netty34ny · netty34ny

Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...

serendipity · serendipity

I am having a bad day. We used to have a big easter egg hunt with all the family (about 30) at our house with a big ham dinner. We all had so much fun. This disease has taken all of those people from me. I tried so hard to put on my happy face for the kids sake. But I am not in a good spot. My ex ah texed me again with his...

wp · wp

Here ya go all you peeps :) Saturday's accomplishment........mswp aka pw

danz123 · danz123

I found this on an alzheimer's site I frequent because of my husband's illness. Sounds al-anon to me. Maybe you have read it before, maybe not! Anyway I thought it was worth posting. Letting Go To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself...

meagain · meagain

Happy Easter to all!--I am quite "preplexed" over the topic of making amends. we just got back from a Great Easter Sunday service. The minister talked on forgiving, making amends, clean slate--(New beginning-Easter) etc. My Hubby's brother and wife are "mad" at us---ve...

Kim65 · Kim65

It helps nothing to 'lose it'. It only gives the A more to resist, and somehow, more of their own ammunition. Losing it makes me physically ill, drains my emotional reservoir so I do not meet my own needs. So what is it that I need the most? I need serenity like I need air, I need peace and comfort. These...

lilms · lilms

Okay, so the peeps have arrived (short form for people here) and you can buy them at walgreens. I am pretty sure they are not selling people so.....What the hell is a peep?????

lilms

ally · ally

((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))) HERE'S TO A BRILLIANT EASTER FOR YOU ALL..... MAKE SURE YOU ALL EAT LOADS OF CHOCOLATE.....(p.s NOT the childrens.)lol Love you all in an special way Allyoops

AndiLynn · AndiLynn

Just wanted to say Happy Easter to my alanon family. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding you have given to me. Andi

Tammy · Tammy

I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night.. My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings (...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

We took our daughter to a B-day party that was a long drive. My AH woke up shortly before we left and got right in the car, so I know he didn't drink at all. When we got there he was a little awkward with the other parents and his face looked...just like he wasn't feeling well. I got him some coffee and sat by hi...

serenity62 · serenity62

Hi Friends, I am a grateful member of alanon for 8 months now, I live in a small town in quebec where there is only aa, no alanon or naranon so i've been coming here online for support.It has helped me so much, i don't feel so alone anymore, I feel a burden has lifted somewhat that I can talk about my situation...

debilyn · debilyn

When people use red type on here it drives me crazy. Red is known to make people think of anger, pain, etc. guess I am over sensitive but I find it hard to read things in red. so slap me around, its ok. hugs,debilyn

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Every time I see the words "Board Start" at the upper left of this message board (the tab you click if you want to quickly return to the list of messages), I think, "Hmmm .... when bored, start here." Warned you in the Topic Title this was more of my silliness. 8-) Sunny

for our member named "pls" ... i goofed · Sunny2007

pls, sorry that when we exchanged email addresses privately in meeting 24 hours ago, i goofed and deleted the file where i'd written the address. Didn't get it into the address book of my email. Don't see any posts by you here to leave you a private message and don't want to post my email in public post. S...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Many many many times from newcomers I hear "If you had my life, you wouldn't think it was simple, either." "I don't understand why it is that you keep harping at me to eat and sleep. Don't you understand how much I have to do?" "You don't have kids. You don't get it." &quo...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I know many people ask when to quit their respective relationships. In al anon it is our policy never to give advice, to do our best to mind our own business, and progress not perfection. But when I read today's Hazelden meditation, I couldn't help but think of my MIP AFG. It seems the most common questi...

Diva · Diva

I wish all of the "family" of the Christian faith a blessed Easter. May all of you find the peace and happiness you are striving for. Be good to one another, and remember we are all in this struggle together. With best regards to all, Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! May the Easter Bunny and the Easter Beagle (remember Snoopy dressed up as an Easter Bunny?) be extra good to you. The poor kids up here may have to look for Easter Eggs in the snow! lol Hubby and I are spending the day (hopefu...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. Stark and sobering words. I have witnessed the horror of just how fast the disease progressed in my husband's case: After over 20 years of drinking "only" a 6-pack of beer "only" once a week, the disease caught up with him (and with m...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I have been depressed and anxious at the same time. I saw my A tonight--it was good. But it's me. I feel these feelings. After having this surgery, and now without the use of my left arm, my A is gone. I am trying to make friends. Got barely any sleep last night. Please pray I get some rest. 2 ladies from a smal...

debilyn · debilyn

I have removed the post from, "Fear." It was requesting info for a book. See AA tradition number six. loves you people. debilyn

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

The daily entry for October 21 in "Courage to Change" (Conference Approved Literature) has been a great help to me in working my Al-Anon program and healing/recovering since 1995. One of the things I cling to when storms move into my space: "Powerless does not mean helpless."...

chris52 · chris52

(((((((Alanuts)))))) I got a call last week...from AA. Haven't seen or heard from any of them since A and I split 14 months ago."Where have you been Chris,we have missed you. We would all love to see you again and catch up. How about coming to a meeting?" It's funny because although I did have...

ally · ally

(((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...

MeMyselfandI · MeMyselfandI

Happy Happy Birthday sweet kerry ! Hope your day is as wonderful as you are and that all your wishes come true this year! You deserve the very best ! Your a wonderful friend and a great mom ! Enjoy your day my friend Love Debs

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I said the serenity prayer and begged god to give me a sign and show me what direction I need to be heading in and the phone rang and it was him. My AH just got out of jail. I didn't answer. Finally I called him at the payphone. He was stranded no money no place to stay etc. etc. He has been in this position b...

jaja · jaja

I have been doing a lot of intensive reading and thinking lately about how I came to be the way I am (co-dependent). And then how I am learning not to be that, learning to be less and less of that. I known for years that I am co-dependent, not only by being married to my A but also from being raised in...

carosie · carosie

(((family))) It works if you work it. Had that experience at work yesterday. I manage a small business(store). The owner is my best friend and was having quite the bad day. Lots of negative energy in the store. Lots of negative comments...lots of what else can go wrong.. I just kept saying to my...

gardengal · gardengal

For me it took a very long time and meetings meetings meetings to realize that no matter how I tried, I could not control or make someone do things they adamantly did no what to do. I was literally banging my head against a brick wall, but I tried over and over again. Twisting things, manipulating things s...

maresie2 · maresie2

I still have no job. I may have to go work in a gas station if needbe. I know its dangerous but living with the A for 7 years has been dangerous what with his driving (erratically and dangerously) and tantrums and more for all that time. The gas station is one place 100's of people are not applying. I've be...

Angel1 · Angel1

I read here all the time but havent posted much. I find all of the posts very helpful. I have been on this rollercoaster with my AH for about 9 months now. He has been living out of the house since August. We have 3 kids. S16, S12, D4 When my h is drinking I am not as anxious as when he is sober. When he is drinking...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

One of my most-often-read pages in "Courage to Change" is the entry for May 13. Here's part of that entry: "I find it much easier to risk making decisions when I stop thinking about suffering the consequences and remember that I have the option to enjoy the consequences." &quo...

Rita G · Rita G

This is a copy of an email that a recovery friend sent me yesterday. It is part of a daily devotional for Recovering Co-Dependants that she emails to a group of recovery friends. Thought it was an interesting look at relationships and conflicts. Prior to recovery, I thought that anytime there was a...

QOD · QOD

My AH text me in the middle of the night last night. I didn't get it unti this morning. "I'm glad you are over me but I am sad you are over me" "Can't say I am sorry enough. Wish I could turn back time

" "Glad u can sleep, I can't under the circumstances-love u 4ever" &quo...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) I am only half joking. We in this program often say if we could just take the sickness away we would. I believe my HP "could" do that, but my HP has a reason for allowing people to learn from their actions. To choose that which is healthy for them. Work at it and feel pr...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Thank everyone for your prayers. I did sleep all night--woke up once. Tired, body sore, just trying to get myself together. To HP: thank you for this day, bless my friends and family, and help relieve me of the bondage of self. You guys are great. I belong to several other support groups online that deal...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Tell me why drugs are illegal like pot ect and drinking is still legal? I mean drinking is not valuable to anyone's life and in fact, it kills probably more then any street drug. So why is it that it's still legal? I was just wondering if you know the answer. If the advertising of alcohol were to stop on bill...

sash · sash

Vivatrol is a once a month shot the alcoholic takes that greatly reduces or eliminates the craving for alcohol. This as well as participation in AA and out-patient therapy really seems to be doing the trick for my husband. At first I was skeptical, and I am not trying to be naive, but my husband has bee...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) I have made it a habit lately of starting my day by reading this prayer. Today I am concentrating on the passage "... Help me find compassion without empathy overwhelming me...." It is an old Cherokee prayer I have had stashed away for a while now. I have posted it be...

TLC2 · TLC2

Took son to see the specialist today. His vision is improving!!!!! He's still umcompfortable a bit, but is healing quite well. The doc said it will just take time. He couldn't tell us if his vision will come back to the way it was, but he is now seeing 20/30. He may have to wear glasses or a contact lens, but...

afglin · afglin

Some of you may have heard me share at a meeting on Sunday that I had a dog that was very sick. He died today. We are pretty sure he had pancreatic cancer. He was sick less than a week. Most of that time he was at the vet on IV and pain meds. I'm glad he is not in pain and was not in pain when he died. I am glad he was no...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex sent me a text today. he's never done that before. he hasn't even called since sunday which i was grateful for. the thing is i was looking at houses to buy. looked at like 6. fell in love with 2 that are out of my price range. that's me champagne taste and boone's farm buget! and so before i could even sav...

barisax · barisax

Hi all remember me.... Barisax... sober AA, fully qualified member of Alanon, long term single with a good start on a relationship for the first time in <mumble> years. She is not an alcoholic! She has been to a couple of open AA meetings with me, which she enjoyed, but I think I convinced her, s...

lilms · lilms

Alright Diva, I ordered the book!!!!!

lilms

lilms · lilms

((((((Friends))))))) I saw a book online that I would really like to own. In the store it would be $42 dollars and change. Online with shipping it is less than $30. So off I go to the store and buy an online gift card for this particular site so I can order the book. And now here is the problem. I feel TERR...

angel123 · angel123

1992 from our Forum

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

To Everyone in the meeting shown in the title of this post ... Thank you for being present so that I could have a meeting right before going to see what the CAT scan of my brain would show. Thank you for your prayers and support in the meeting. I took with me to my appointment something to remind me that all...

DanieH · DanieH

Last night, I attended my first Naranon meeting. It went very well. There was a group of about 20 of us and anyone w/ 6 meetings or under went to another room w/ a leader. There was a total of 5 of us...and everyone had a different situation. After the leader told us her story, I was the first to go. I didnt eve...

ally · ally

((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))) IF YOU NOTICE, THIS NOTICE, YOU WILL NOTICE, THAT THIS NOTICE, IS NOT WORTH NOTICING..... Im sorry.......childhood memory just came back to me.....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, Sorry I have been so absent of late, life has been a roller coaster ride as of late... In a great way most of the time... I found a new job, love it secretarial again...my thing...crazy hours...but much fun.. Have a new wonderful man in my life...he is just awesome..self employed,...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just read a story in the education section of the NY Times, about young ladies today graduating high school and the pressures they face to get into college. I didn't realize how hard the story hit me till I finished it. All of the sudden, waves of feeling "less than," "not enough,&quo...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Oh boy, where do I start.....I have been taking pain meds for over a year. Vicodin ES to be exact. Ever since I had my son and thirteen months later gave birth to my twins, my back has hurt really bad to the point that it can make me sick to my stomach. So I do have legitimate pain. Here's my concern......One v...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

"I think little Sarah is still waiting for Daddy to come home. It would be wise for you to realize the fact that he's never coming home. He's already home. This is him." The immortal words of my councelor in session yesterday, which hit hard on my morning 10th step. And oh, how the words pour...

serendipity · serendipity

I am getting better. My mother came over yesterday to watch the kids while I work. She's great about stepping in when my ex decides to step out. Well, not great but she does it, complaining all the while and not putting them to bed at any reasonable hour and feeding them only turkey bacon and noodles and bu...

gknee · gknee

I haven't been on this board for a while-- but as I sat here this AM telling my H that I don't think I want to do this marriage thing anymore if he can't see that he is an addict---- I realized this is exactly where I need to be. The problem for me is that my A is really a marijuana addict (daily) who sup...

carolena · carolena

Hi everyone, I've been trying and trying to put a message on here and can't seem to do it. I'm in a lot of pain with letting go of my daughters and granddaughter. When I try to post, I find myself not able to express what I'm going through without writing a book, so I'm writing about breaking the cyc...

bev · bev

hi everyone,sorry i havent posted in awhile but as you all know i left my AH AND MOVED FROM FLORIDA BACK TO NY..but im doing good..AH is in rehab in florida and doing very well..he is going to church and doing meetings,and doing what he has to do.where he is they have a 3 step program..the first step is like...

Leetle · Leetle

Well, I have told my A that when he is released from jail he cannot come home. Leading up to that conversation I had a lot of anxiety. Working out my plans with those I trust. Initially I worried horribly about my ability to keep the boundaries I was setting and even moreso about the consequences (he ca...

angel123 · angel123

These are from our Forum,Refreshing to me to read each day hope you enjoy as well Love Sharon/angel

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	~New to Alanon~ (Preview) Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...	netty34ny	4	475	Apr 8, 2007 by lin0606
	feeling the effects of this disease (Preview) I am having a bad day. We used to have a big easter egg hunt with all the family (about 30) at our house with a big ham dinner. We all had so much fun. This disease has taken all of those people from me. I tried so hard to put on my happy face for the kids sake. But I am not in a good spot. My ex ah texed me again with his...	serendipity	5	423	Apr 8, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Proof of Peeps (Preview) Here ya go all you peeps :) Saturday's accomplishment........mswp aka pw	wp	9	554	Apr 8, 2007 by wp
	Letting Go (Preview) I found this on an alzheimer's site I frequent because of my husband's illness. Sounds al-anon to me. Maybe you have read it before, maybe not! Anyway I thought it was worth posting. Letting Go To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself...	danz123	6	443	Apr 8, 2007 by bob6502
	~making amends~ (Preview) Happy Easter to all!--I am quite "preplexed" over the topic of making amends. we just got back from a Great Easter Sunday service. The minister talked on forgiving, making amends, clean slate--(New beginning-Easter) etc. My Hubby's brother and wife are "mad" at us---ve...	meagain	3	491	Apr 8, 2007 by CJ
	I "lost" it and it hurts like hell (Preview) It helps nothing to 'lose it'. It only gives the A more to resist, and somehow, more of their own ammunition. Losing it makes me physically ill, drains my emotional reservoir so I do not meet my own needs. So what is it that I need the most? I need serenity like I need air, I need peace and comfort. These...	Kim65	8	1955	Apr 8, 2007 by maresie2
	What the heck is a peep? (Preview) Okay, so the peeps have arrived (short form for people here) and you can buy them at walgreens. I am pretty sure they are not selling people so.....What the hell is a peep????? lilms	lilms	5	423	Apr 8, 2007 by Diva
	HAPPY EASTER (Preview) ((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))) HERE'S TO A BRILLIANT EASTER FOR YOU ALL..... MAKE SURE YOU ALL EAT LOADS OF CHOCOLATE.....(p.s NOT the childrens.)lol Love you all in an special way Allyoops	ally	7	455	Apr 8, 2007 by carosie
	Happy Easter (Preview) Just wanted to say Happy Easter to my alanon family. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding you have given to me. Andi	AndiLynn	2	476	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	and the rollercoaster continues..... (Preview) I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night.. My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings (...	Tammy	2	381	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	A is getting more dependant (Preview) We took our daughter to a B-day party that was a long drive. My AH woke up shortly before we left and got right in the car, so I know he didn't drink at all. When we got there he was a little awkward with the other parents and his face looked...just like he wasn't feeling well. I got him some coffee and sat by hi...	RainyJamie	5	706	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	SPONSOR (Preview) Hi Friends, I am a grateful member of alanon for 8 months now, I live in a small town in quebec where there is only aa, no alanon or naranon so i've been coming here online for support.It has helped me so much, i don't feel so alone anymore, I feel a burden has lifted somewhat that I can talk about my situation...	serenity62	5	642	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	go ahead and hate me...(c: (Preview) When people use red type on here it drives me crazy. Red is known to make people think of anger, pain, etc. guess I am over sensitive but I find it hard to read things in red. so slap me around, its ok. hugs,debilyn	debilyn	8	512	Apr 7, 2007 by Maria123
	"board" and "bored"??? (silliness) (Preview) Every time I see the words "Board Start" at the upper left of this message board (the tab you click if you want to quickly return to the list of messages), I think, "Hmmm .... when bored, start here." Warned you in the Topic Title this was more of my silliness. 8-) Sunny	Sunny2007	4	439	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	for our member named "pls" ... i goofed (Preview) pls, sorry that when we exchanged email addresses privately in meeting 24 hours ago, i goofed and deleted the file where i'd written the address. Didn't get it into the address book of my email. Don't see any posts by you here to leave you a private message and don't want to post my email in public post. S...	Sunny2007	5	593	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Physical, Emotional, Spiritual, Mental (Preview) Many many many times from newcomers I hear "If you had my life, you wouldn't think it was simple, either." "I don't understand why it is that you keep harping at me to eat and sleep. Don't you understand how much I have to do?" "You don't have kids. You don't get it." &quo...	Tiger2006	3	535	Apr 7, 2007 by Lunamoth
	cue background tune Should I stay or should I go? (Preview) I know many people ask when to quit their respective relationships. In al anon it is our policy never to give advice, to do our best to mind our own business, and progress not perfection. But when I read today's Hazelden meditation, I couldn't help but think of my MIP AFG. It seems the most common questi...	Tiger2006	4	762	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	On this Good Friday... (Preview) I wish all of the "family" of the Christian faith a blessed Easter. May all of you find the peace and happiness you are striving for. Be good to one another, and remember we are all in this struggle together. With best regards to all, Diva	Diva	5	523	Apr 7, 2007 by doxie
	HAPPY EASTER! (Preview) (((((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! May the Easter Bunny and the Easter Beagle (remember Snoopy dressed up as an Easter Bunny?) be extra good to you. The poor kids up here may have to look for Easter Eggs in the snow! lol Hubby and I are spending the day (hopefu...	Karilynn	1	380	Apr 7, 2007 by ally
	Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. (Preview) Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. Stark and sobering words. I have witnessed the horror of just how fast the disease progressed in my husband's case: After over 20 years of drinking "only" a 6-pack of beer "only" once a week, the disease caught up with him (and with m...	Sunny2007	5	806	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Please pray for me (Preview) I have been depressed and anxious at the same time. I saw my A tonight--it was good. But it's me. I feel these feelings. After having this surgery, and now without the use of my left arm, my A is gone. I am trying to make friends. Got barely any sleep last night. Please pray I get some rest. 2 ladies from a smal...	hippietrippiechick	7	692	Apr 7, 2007 by TLC2
	Re: Fear post (Preview) I have removed the post from, "Fear." It was requesting info for a book. See AA tradition number six. loves you people. debilyn	debilyn	2	401	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	being "powerless" doesn't mean being "helpless" (Preview) The daily entry for October 21 in "Courage to Change" (Conference Approved Literature) has been a great help to me in working my Al-Anon program and healing/recovering since 1995. One of the things I cling to when storms move into my space: "Powerless does not mean helpless."...	Sunny2007	2	1600	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	Who would have thought it? (Preview) (((((((Alanuts)))))) I got a call last week...from AA. Haven't seen or heard from any of them since A and I split 14 months ago."Where have you been Chris,we have missed you. We would all love to see you again and catch up. How about coming to a meeting?" It's funny because although I did have...	chris52	6	426	Apr 7, 2007 by leo
	WHO'S WORSE THE ALCOHOLIC OR US.. (Preview) (((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...	ally	8	688	Apr 7, 2007 by gardengal
	Happy Birthday Kerryyyyyyyyy !!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Happy Happy Birthday sweet kerry ! Hope your day is as wonderful as you are and that all your wishes come true this year! You deserve the very best ! Your a wonderful friend and a great mom ! Enjoy your day my friend Love Debs	MeMyselfandI	15	526	Apr 7, 2007 by Maria123
	I asked HP for a sign and the phone rang... (Preview) I said the serenity prayer and begged god to give me a sign and show me what direction I need to be heading in and the phone rang and it was him. My AH just got out of jail. I didn't answer. Finally I called him at the payphone. He was stranded no money no place to stay etc. etc. He has been in this position b...	carolinagirl	8	724	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	There's acceptance and then there's acceptance (kinda long) (Preview) I have been doing a lot of intensive reading and thinking lately about how I came to be the way I am (co-dependent). And then how I am learning not to be that, learning to be less and less of that. I known for years that I am co-dependent, not only by being married to my A but also from being raised in...	jaja	1	447	Apr 7, 2007 by abbyal
	let it begin with me (Preview) (((family))) It works if you work it. Had that experience at work yesterday. I manage a small business(store). The owner is my best friend and was having quite the bad day. Lots of negative energy in the store. Lots of negative comments...lots of what else can go wrong.. I just kept saying to my...	carosie	1	388	Apr 7, 2007 by Leetle
	HOW DO YOU LET GO OF YOUR NEED TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS??? (Preview) For me it took a very long time and meetings meetings meetings to realize that no matter how I tried, I could not control or make someone do things they adamantly did no what to do. I was literally banging my head against a brick wall, but I tried over and over again. Twisting things, manipulating things s...	gardengal	6	563	Apr 6, 2007 by nmike
	Panic subsides (Preview) I still have no job. I may have to go work in a gas station if needbe. I know its dangerous but living with the A for 7 years has been dangerous what with his driving (erratically and dangerously) and tantrums and more for all that time. The gas station is one place 100's of people are not applying. I've be...	maresie2	4	368	Apr 6, 2007 by nmike
	expectations? (sorry long) (Preview) I read here all the time but havent posted much. I find all of the posts very helpful. I have been on this rollercoaster with my AH for about 9 months now. He has been living out of the house since August. We have 3 kids. S16, S12, D4 When my h is drinking I am not as anxious as when he is sober. When he is drinking...	Angel1	8	750	Apr 6, 2007 by LaDawn
	Choosing to enjoy the consequences (Preview) One of my most-often-read pages in "Courage to Change" is the entry for May 13. Here's part of that entry: "I find it much easier to risk making decisions when I stop thinking about suffering the consequences and remember that I have the option to enjoy the consequences." &quo...	Sunny2007	7	663	Apr 6, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Negotiating Conflicts (Preview) This is a copy of an email that a recovery friend sent me yesterday. It is part of a daily devotional for Recovering Co-Dependants that she emails to a group of recovery friends. Thought it was an interesting look at relationships and conflicts. Prior to recovery, I thought that anytime there was a...	Rita G	3	544	Apr 6, 2007 by canadianguy
	I am not going to respond to his text (Preview) My AH text me in the middle of the night last night. I didn't get it unti this morning. "I'm glad you are over me but I am sad you are over me" "Can't say I am sorry enough. Wish I could turn back time " "Glad u can sleep, I can't under the circumstances-love u 4ever" &quo...	QOD	7	648	Apr 6, 2007 by maresie2
	If I was her HP, would I do anything different? (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I am only half joking. We in this program often say if we could just take the sickness away we would. I believe my HP "could" do that, but my HP has a reason for allowing people to learn from their actions. To choose that which is healthy for them. Work at it and feel pr...	rtexas	7	1304	Apr 6, 2007 by chris52
	feel a little better--now prayer works (Preview) Thank everyone for your prayers. I did sleep all night--woke up once. Tired, body sore, just trying to get myself together. To HP: thank you for this day, bless my friends and family, and help relieve me of the bondage of self. You guys are great. I belong to several other support groups online that deal...	hippietrippiechick	0	362	Apr 6, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Can you answer this? (Preview) Tell me why drugs are illegal like pot ect and drinking is still legal? I mean drinking is not valuable to anyone's life and in fact, it kills probably more then any street drug. So why is it that it's still legal? I was just wondering if you know the answer. If the advertising of alcohol were to stop on bill...	Friendofyours	11	631	Apr 6, 2007 by Alanoner
	Vivatrol (Preview) Vivatrol is a once a month shot the alcoholic takes that greatly reduces or eliminates the craving for alcohol. This as well as participation in AA and out-patient therapy really seems to be doing the trick for my husband. At first I was skeptical, and I am not trying to be naive, but my husband has bee...	sash	11	2823	Apr 5, 2007 by sash
	Sharing my prayer today.... (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I have made it a habit lately of starting my day by reading this prayer. Today I am concentrating on the passage "... Help me find compassion without empathy overwhelming me...." It is an old Cherokee prayer I have had stashed away for a while now. I have posted it be...	rtexas	8	402	Apr 5, 2007 by wp
	Thank-you for your prayers! (Preview) Took son to see the specialist today. His vision is improving!!!!! He's still umcompfortable a bit, but is healing quite well. The doc said it will just take time. He couldn't tell us if his vision will come back to the way it was, but he is now seeing 20/30. He may have to wear glasses or a contact lens, but...	TLC2	6	380	Apr 5, 2007 by wp
	Smokey (Preview) Some of you may have heard me share at a meeting on Sunday that I had a dog that was very sick. He died today. We are pretty sure he had pancreatic cancer. He was sick less than a week. Most of that time he was at the vet on IV and pain meds. I'm glad he is not in pain and was not in pain when he died. I am glad he was no...	afglin	12	488	Apr 5, 2007 by afglin
	text message (Preview) my ex sent me a text today. he's never done that before. he hasn't even called since sunday which i was grateful for. the thing is i was looking at houses to buy. looked at like 6. fell in love with 2 that are out of my price range. that's me champagne taste and boone's farm buget! and so before i could even sav...	serendipity	5	756	Apr 5, 2007 by lin0606
	I Introduced Her to Alanon (Preview) Hi all remember me.... Barisax... sober AA, fully qualified member of Alanon, long term single with a good start on a relationship for the first time in <mumble> years. She is not an alcoholic! She has been to a couple of open AA meetings with me, which she enjoyed, but I think I convinced her, s...	barisax	6	611	Apr 5, 2007 by barisax
	I Don't Want to be Beat Up (Preview) Alright Diva, I ordered the book!!!!! lilms	lilms	5	571	Apr 5, 2007 by Rita G
	FINDING IT HARD DOING FOR ME (Preview) ((((((Friends))))))) I saw a book online that I would really like to own. In the store it would be $42 dollars and change. Online with shipping it is less than $30. So off I go to the store and buy an online gift card for this particular site so I can order the book. And now here is the problem. I feel TERR...	lilms	5	605	Apr 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Live and Let live (slogan) (Preview) 1992 from our Forum	angel123	1	1482	Apr 5, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Thanks & Update for Everyone in TUESDAY,3April07,9AM EASTERN Time meeting (Preview) To Everyone in the meeting shown in the title of this post ... Thank you for being present so that I could have a meeting right before going to see what the CAT scan of my brain would show. Thank you for your prayers and support in the meeting. I took with me to my appointment something to remind me that all...	Sunny2007	7	974	Apr 5, 2007 by aunitedway
	Attend my first meeting (Preview) Last night, I attended my first Naranon meeting. It went very well. There was a group of about 20 of us and anyone w/ 6 meetings or under went to another room w/ a leader. There was a total of 5 of us...and everyone had a different situation. After the leader told us her story, I was the first to go. I didnt eve...	DanieH	4	683	Apr 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	NOTICE (Preview) ((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))) IF YOU NOTICE, THIS NOTICE, YOU WILL NOTICE, THAT THIS NOTICE, IS NOT WORTH NOTICING..... Im sorry.......childhood memory just came back to me.....	ally	3	481	Apr 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Miss you all (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, Sorry I have been so absent of late, life has been a roller coaster ride as of late... In a great way most of the time... I found a new job, love it secretarial again...my thing...crazy hours...but much fun.. Have a new wonderful man in my life...he is just awesome..self employed,...	Andrea12	13	685	Apr 5, 2007 by Diva
	anyone else here face insecurity? daily? momentarily? anyone? (Preview) Just read a story in the education section of the NY Times, about young ladies today graduating high school and the pressures they face to get into college. I didn't realize how hard the story hit me till I finished it. All of the sudden, waves of feeling "less than," "not enough,&quo...	Tiger2006	8	1001	Apr 5, 2007 by Sunny2007
	I'm adding fuel to my own fire. (Preview) Oh boy, where do I start.....I have been taking pain meds for over a year. Vicodin ES to be exact. Ever since I had my son and thirteen months later gave birth to my twins, my back has hurt really bad to the point that it can make me sick to my stomach. So I do have legitimate pain. Here's my concern......One v...	Friendofyours	4	522	Apr 5, 2007 by abbyal
	The denial fog lifts. Again. (Preview) "I think little Sarah is still waiting for Daddy to come home. It would be wise for you to realize the fact that he's never coming home. He's already home. This is him." The immortal words of my councelor in session yesterday, which hit hard on my morning 10th step. And oh, how the words pour...	Tiger2006	4	600	Apr 4, 2007 by nmike
	my mother (Preview) I am getting better. My mother came over yesterday to watch the kids while I work. She's great about stepping in when my ex decides to step out. Well, not great but she does it, complaining all the while and not putting them to bed at any reasonable hour and feeding them only turkey bacon and noodles and bu...	serendipity	5	581	Apr 4, 2007 by Lunamoth
	why alanon is hard for me (Preview) I haven't been on this board for a while-- but as I sat here this AM telling my H that I don't think I want to do this marriage thing anymore if he can't see that he is an addict---- I realized this is exactly where I need to be. The problem for me is that my A is really a marijuana addict (daily) who sup...	gknee	6	1266	Apr 4, 2007 by gknee
	Breaking the Cycle, letting go, painful (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been trying and trying to put a message on here and can't seem to do it. I'm in a lot of pain with letting go of my daughters and granddaughter. When I try to post, I find myself not able to express what I'm going through without writing a book, so I'm writing about breaking the cyc...	carolena	4	608	Apr 4, 2007 by carolena
	life goes on (Preview) hi everyone,sorry i havent posted in awhile but as you all know i left my AH AND MOVED FROM FLORIDA BACK TO NY..but im doing good..AH is in rehab in florida and doing very well..he is going to church and doing meetings,and doing what he has to do.where he is they have a 3 step program..the first step is like...	bev	4	510	Apr 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Painful Progress (Preview) Well, I have told my A that when he is released from jail he cannot come home. Leading up to that conversation I had a lot of anxiety. Working out my plans with those I trust. Initially I worried horribly about my ability to keep the boundaries I was setting and even moreso about the consequences (he ca...	Leetle	7	635	Apr 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Step 2 and Each new Day (Preview) These are from our Forum,Refreshing to me to read each day hope you enjoy as well Love Sharon/angel	angel123	1	359	Apr 4, 2007 by Sunny2007
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