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debilyn · debilyn

Where did ya go??? love,debilyn

maresie2 · maresie2

The A has not packed one single thing. He is sitting there living in la la land again. I think he always lived in la la land really. All his grandiose plans, all his friends, all his tantrums don't amount to accepting reality. I went today and filed all my papers. He did nothing last night but party wi...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, My father has progressed to this stage of the disease and is exhibiting insane symptoms while on benders now. I am wondering how long this takes to really take over, or is it just periodic. My sister is home for the weekend and really noticed the deterioration in him while drinking. He sat in th...

cloud123 · cloud123

Happy Easter family we Love you I did not take my Pic been up since 3 am baby has been sick ,we were at ER last night is a little better today Hope all is well Love cloud AKA Clud xoxoxoxo * wink Says i am a newbie LOL 2 yrs here it is cause I had to fix my name lol Senora bob got me with a trout that's why no rest for cl...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew t...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, Tonight, as I did those little things to take care of myself--made a plan for tomorrow, made lunch, relaxed soaking my feet in bath oil and read a magazine, I was reminded of how important it is to do these little things for myself. I feel better tonight, these types of things give me a lift!...

letitb · letitb

OK, I know this is not the best way to make a pretty important decision, but... My alcoholic husband has owned a small business for 10 years. During five years of that time he was not drinking. Two and half years ago he returned to drinking, and his business started sliding slowly. At this point, he ne...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

The day before yesterday, was a disaster visit. I was so wiped out. I actually let him borrow a total of $29 which he WILL give back. He is having a harder andharder time to get to work and the other day admitted he was an alcoholic and needed professional help, but added ME to the list of both if us that need p...

maresie2 · maresie2

At Easter every year my parents used to have some of my Uncles over from another country. No expense was spared for them. They had the best food, the best service. My mother awoke from her depression, she cooked, cleaned and played nice. Normally she was incredibly depressed, resentful angry and pl...

Diva · Diva

in the continuing saga of Bad, Bad, Bill. He took the job!!! He is relocating to San Antonio next month. The plot thickens...... In breathless anticipation of who knows what, Diva

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

I am a woman in my late 30's who is currently going through a very drawn out divorce with a verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive man. My husband was not an alcoholic or a drug user. Divorce papers were filed over this past summer after we were seperated for 8 months. i had been involved with...

lilms · lilms

Alright, This will be the last you all here from me on this subject

I did indeed find peeps (walmart) and bought a package of pink ones. OMG they are way to sweet for me but now I can say I have demolished a peep.

lilms

lilms · lilms

I have started working over the past couple of days on a plan B. I hate it. Will try this again later, too hard to write. love ya all bunches lilms

Diva · Diva

the phrase, "dry drunk." Does this mean that the person no longer drinks, but is still a maybe controlling, maybe combative, maybe unfaithful, maybe violent jerk? The world is loaded with jerks, both alcoholic and not. Explain to me...I am open to listening to the definition. I am no...

serendipity · serendipity

My 4 year old LOVES getting doggie kisses....from the dog. Besides the grossness factor is there any reason that she should not get sloppy doggie kisses all over her face? Any diseases? She just cracks up which ofcourse makes us all giggle......

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((MIP Friends)) Hope everyone had a blessed Easter weekend. My weekend started off great. The kids and I had off on Good Friday. We got a lot done. Friday night my brother kept the kids for the night so my AH and I could go out and do something and be able to sleep in a little Saturday morning. I envited...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex's roommate just stopped by my house looking for him. He just assumed that he was here with me and the girls. He was very suprised when I said I hadn't seen him for about 3 weeks. I told him to call my ex's cell and his new number is on the voicemail. The roommate said it's too bad that we are no longer speak...

TLM · TLM

I have been doing a bit of lurking around - have attended some online meetings and have been reading these boards daily. I just want to say thank you to everyone who posts here on a regular basis. I can only get to a f2f meeting about 2x a month, so this and daily reading of alanon literature is the lions po...

lilms · lilms

Ally, Re the peep saga. Look for posts in this order. arrival of peeps by wp what the heck is a peep by lilms (that would be me)

proof of peeps by wp proof of peeps two by wp and last but not least...omg I cannot stand the suspense i found a peep by lilms (again, that would be me)

hope thi...

artygirl · artygirl

Hi everyone. It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time. My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night dri...

carolena · carolena

Yahoo!! I just received word that I have a ggrandson - born at 12:05pm today. All is well. Wish I could be there - my granddaughter in in MD and I'm in FL.

Leetle · Leetle

Moving on to plan b. My A b/f is getting released from jail on Friday. I just finished moving all of his things from inside the house into my detached garage (my poor back). I plan on doing a lot of praying this week. I also plan on reaching out, which I don't find easy. Thanks for listening.

Angel1 · Angel1

As a newbie in Alanon and on this board I was wondering how you all went about re-building your self esteem. I always thought I was a pretty strong independent woman but since my AH's affair and quick decent into alcoholic hell, I have discovered just how co-dependent I really am. My self-esteem is shat...

maresie2 · maresie2

I ended up with my name on the unlawful detainer (eviction notice) so I have to go take care of that tomorrow. Another typical interaction with the A. He tells the landlord we will move out, doesn't tell me, then gets us evicted. I have to move out leave most of my stuff, leave my pets and he feels sorry...

wp · wp

Sorry this is first time i tried to post pix to board! Pls click on pic to enlarge. -- Edited by wp at 23:06, 2007-04-07

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

Hi. I am new to this forum and just wanted to introduce myself. Actually, I am feeling alone and frustrated and am very much feeling like I need to vent. I have been married to my AH for almost 15 years and he has tried to quit drinking many times over the the years. In October ('06) he decided to quit aga...

Maria123 · Maria123

ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM THE EASTER BUNNY Don't put all of your eggs in one basket Walk softly and carry a big carrot Everyone needs a friend who is all ears There's no such thing as too much candy All work and no play can make you a basket case A cute little tail attracts a lot of attention Ev...

debilyn · debilyn

my thought is, that a dry drunk cont. that way, having all the crummy other symptoms of being A. Progressively staying a dry drunk and getting more sick from all the stress of the other parts of the disease. I would think constantly fighting doing what you really want to do, driven to do would drive ya loc...

netty34ny · netty34ny

Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...

serendipity · serendipity

I am having a bad day. We used to have a big easter egg hunt with all the family (about 30) at our house with a big ham dinner. We all had so much fun. This disease has taken all of those people from me. I tried so hard to put on my happy face for the kids sake. But I am not in a good spot. My ex ah texed me again with his...

wp · wp

Here ya go all you peeps :) Saturday's accomplishment........mswp aka pw

danz123 · danz123

I found this on an alzheimer's site I frequent because of my husband's illness. Sounds al-anon to me. Maybe you have read it before, maybe not! Anyway I thought it was worth posting. Letting Go To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself...

meagain · meagain

Happy Easter to all!--I am quite "preplexed" over the topic of making amends. we just got back from a Great Easter Sunday service. The minister talked on forgiving, making amends, clean slate--(New beginning-Easter) etc. My Hubby's brother and wife are "mad" at us---ve...

Kim65 · Kim65

It helps nothing to 'lose it'. It only gives the A more to resist, and somehow, more of their own ammunition. Losing it makes me physically ill, drains my emotional reservoir so I do not meet my own needs. So what is it that I need the most? I need serenity like I need air, I need peace and comfort. These...

lilms · lilms

Okay, so the peeps have arrived (short form for people here) and you can buy them at walgreens. I am pretty sure they are not selling people so.....What the hell is a peep?????

lilms

ally · ally

((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))) HERE'S TO A BRILLIANT EASTER FOR YOU ALL..... MAKE SURE YOU ALL EAT LOADS OF CHOCOLATE.....(p.s NOT the childrens.)lol Love you all in an special way Allyoops

AndiLynn · AndiLynn

Just wanted to say Happy Easter to my alanon family. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding you have given to me. Andi

Tammy · Tammy

I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night.. My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings (...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

We took our daughter to a B-day party that was a long drive. My AH woke up shortly before we left and got right in the car, so I know he didn't drink at all. When we got there he was a little awkward with the other parents and his face looked...just like he wasn't feeling well. I got him some coffee and sat by hi...

serenity62 · serenity62

Hi Friends, I am a grateful member of alanon for 8 months now, I live in a small town in quebec where there is only aa, no alanon or naranon so i've been coming here online for support.It has helped me so much, i don't feel so alone anymore, I feel a burden has lifted somewhat that I can talk about my situation...

debilyn · debilyn

When people use red type on here it drives me crazy. Red is known to make people think of anger, pain, etc. guess I am over sensitive but I find it hard to read things in red. so slap me around, its ok. hugs,debilyn

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Every time I see the words "Board Start" at the upper left of this message board (the tab you click if you want to quickly return to the list of messages), I think, "Hmmm .... when bored, start here." Warned you in the Topic Title this was more of my silliness. 8-) Sunny

for our member named "pls" ... i goofed · Sunny2007

pls, sorry that when we exchanged email addresses privately in meeting 24 hours ago, i goofed and deleted the file where i'd written the address. Didn't get it into the address book of my email. Don't see any posts by you here to leave you a private message and don't want to post my email in public post. S...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Many many many times from newcomers I hear "If you had my life, you wouldn't think it was simple, either." "I don't understand why it is that you keep harping at me to eat and sleep. Don't you understand how much I have to do?" "You don't have kids. You don't get it." &quo...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I know many people ask when to quit their respective relationships. In al anon it is our policy never to give advice, to do our best to mind our own business, and progress not perfection. But when I read today's Hazelden meditation, I couldn't help but think of my MIP AFG. It seems the most common questi...

Diva · Diva

I wish all of the "family" of the Christian faith a blessed Easter. May all of you find the peace and happiness you are striving for. Be good to one another, and remember we are all in this struggle together. With best regards to all, Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! May the Easter Bunny and the Easter Beagle (remember Snoopy dressed up as an Easter Bunny?) be extra good to you. The poor kids up here may have to look for Easter Eggs in the snow! lol Hubby and I are spending the day (hopefu...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. Stark and sobering words. I have witnessed the horror of just how fast the disease progressed in my husband's case: After over 20 years of drinking "only" a 6-pack of beer "only" once a week, the disease caught up with him (and with m...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I have been depressed and anxious at the same time. I saw my A tonight--it was good. But it's me. I feel these feelings. After having this surgery, and now without the use of my left arm, my A is gone. I am trying to make friends. Got barely any sleep last night. Please pray I get some rest. 2 ladies from a smal...

debilyn · debilyn

I have removed the post from, "Fear." It was requesting info for a book. See AA tradition number six. loves you people. debilyn

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

The daily entry for October 21 in "Courage to Change" (Conference Approved Literature) has been a great help to me in working my Al-Anon program and healing/recovering since 1995. One of the things I cling to when storms move into my space: "Powerless does not mean helpless."...

chris52 · chris52

(((((((Alanuts)))))) I got a call last week...from AA. Haven't seen or heard from any of them since A and I split 14 months ago."Where have you been Chris,we have missed you. We would all love to see you again and catch up. How about coming to a meeting?" It's funny because although I did have...

ally · ally

(((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...

MeMyselfandI · MeMyselfandI

Happy Happy Birthday sweet kerry ! Hope your day is as wonderful as you are and that all your wishes come true this year! You deserve the very best ! Your a wonderful friend and a great mom ! Enjoy your day my friend Love Debs

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I said the serenity prayer and begged god to give me a sign and show me what direction I need to be heading in and the phone rang and it was him. My AH just got out of jail. I didn't answer. Finally I called him at the payphone. He was stranded no money no place to stay etc. etc. He has been in this position b...

jaja · jaja

I have been doing a lot of intensive reading and thinking lately about how I came to be the way I am (co-dependent). And then how I am learning not to be that, learning to be less and less of that. I known for years that I am co-dependent, not only by being married to my A but also from being raised in...

carosie · carosie

(((family))) It works if you work it. Had that experience at work yesterday. I manage a small business(store). The owner is my best friend and was having quite the bad day. Lots of negative energy in the store. Lots of negative comments...lots of what else can go wrong.. I just kept saying to my...

gardengal · gardengal

For me it took a very long time and meetings meetings meetings to realize that no matter how I tried, I could not control or make someone do things they adamantly did no what to do. I was literally banging my head against a brick wall, but I tried over and over again. Twisting things, manipulating things s...

maresie2 · maresie2

I still have no job. I may have to go work in a gas station if needbe. I know its dangerous but living with the A for 7 years has been dangerous what with his driving (erratically and dangerously) and tantrums and more for all that time. The gas station is one place 100's of people are not applying. I've be...

Angel1 · Angel1

I read here all the time but havent posted much. I find all of the posts very helpful. I have been on this rollercoaster with my AH for about 9 months now. He has been living out of the house since August. We have 3 kids. S16, S12, D4 When my h is drinking I am not as anxious as when he is sober. When he is drinking...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	sunny (Preview) Where did ya go??? love,debilyn	debilyn	3	814	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	denial denial denial (Preview) The A has not packed one single thing. He is sitting there living in la la land again. I think he always lived in la la land really. All his grandiose plans, all his friends, all his tantrums don't amount to accepting reality. I went today and filed all my papers. He did nothing last night but party wi...	maresie2	4	583	Apr 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Insanity and alcoholism (Preview) Dear all, My father has progressed to this stage of the disease and is exhibiting insane symptoms while on benders now. I am wondering how long this takes to really take over, or is it just periodic. My sister is home for the weekend and really noticed the deterioration in him while drinking. He sat in th...	maire rua	4	465	Apr 10, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Happy Easter Love clouds family..New pics of the baby (TYLER) & Brianna (Preview) Happy Easter family we Love you I did not take my Pic been up since 3 am baby has been sick ,we were at ER last night is a little better today Hope all is well Love cloud AKA Clud xoxoxoxo * wink Says i am a newbie LOL 2 yrs here it is cause I had to fix my name lol Senora bob got me with a trout that's why no rest for cl...	cloud123	7	462	Apr 10, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Having a bad day (Preview) At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew t...	RainyJamie	7	587	Apr 10, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Finding Peace and Serenity (Preview) Dear Roomies, Tonight, as I did those little things to take care of myself--made a plan for tomorrow, made lunch, relaxed soaking my feet in bath oil and read a magazine, I was reminded of how important it is to do these little things for myself. I feel better tonight, these types of things give me a lift!...	BlueCloud	3	505	Apr 10, 2007 by Kim65
	quick insight needed on "investing" in my SO (Preview) OK, I know this is not the best way to make a pretty important decision, but... My alcoholic husband has owned a small business for 10 years. During five years of that time he was not drinking. Two and half years ago he returned to drinking, and his business started sliding slowly. At this point, he ne...	letitb	9	923	Apr 10, 2007 by Mobirdie
	doing ok today, after two days of visits w/ my A (Preview) The day before yesterday, was a disaster visit. I was so wiped out. I actually let him borrow a total of $29 which he WILL give back. He is having a harder andharder time to get to work and the other day admitted he was an alcoholic and needed professional help, but added ME to the list of both if us that need p...	hippietrippiechick	1	356	Apr 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	repeating patterns (Preview) At Easter every year my parents used to have some of my Uncles over from another country. No expense was spared for them. They had the best food, the best service. My mother awoke from her depression, she cooked, cleaned and played nice. Normally she was incredibly depressed, resentful angry and pl...	maresie2	4	346	Apr 10, 2007 by emma
	for those of you who are interested.... (Preview) in the continuing saga of Bad, Bad, Bill. He took the job!!! He is relocating to San Antonio next month. The plot thickens...... In breathless anticipation of who knows what, Diva	Diva	6	650	Apr 10, 2007 by Diva
	The end of a relationship with an alcoholic (Preview) I am a woman in my late 30's who is currently going through a very drawn out divorce with a verbally abusive and sometimes physically abusive man. My husband was not an alcoholic or a drug user. Divorce papers were filed over this past summer after we were seperated for 8 months. i had been involved with...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	13	3065	Apr 10, 2007 by Cucamonga
	I FOUND A PEEP!!! (Preview) Alright, This will be the last you all here from me on this subject I did indeed find peeps (walmart) and bought a package of pink ones. OMG they are way to sweet for me but now I can say I have demolished a peep. lilms	lilms	3	463	Apr 10, 2007 by Karilynn
	Plan B in progress and it sucks (Preview) I have started working over the past couple of days on a plan B. I hate it. Will try this again later, too hard to write. love ya all bunches lilms	lilms	8	500	Apr 9, 2007 by debilyn
	Someone please explain to me... (Preview) the phrase, "dry drunk." Does this mean that the person no longer drinks, but is still a maybe controlling, maybe combative, maybe unfaithful, maybe violent jerk? The world is loaded with jerks, both alcoholic and not. Explain to me...I am open to listening to the definition. I am no...	Diva	10	594	Apr 9, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	quick ? for my animal lover friends (Preview) My 4 year old LOVES getting doggie kisses....from the dog. Besides the grossness factor is there any reason that she should not get sloppy doggie kisses all over her face? Any diseases? She just cracks up which ofcourse makes us all giggle......	serendipity	3	418	Apr 9, 2007 by debilyn
	Need ESH...what to do when the A gets drunk in front of friends (Preview) ((MIP Friends)) Hope everyone had a blessed Easter weekend. My weekend started off great. The kids and I had off on Good Friday. We got a lot done. Friday night my brother kept the kids for the night so my AH and I could go out and do something and be able to sleep in a little Saturday morning. I envited...	twinmom2	13	673	Apr 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
	sometimes it stinks to be right (Preview) my ex's roommate just stopped by my house looking for him. He just assumed that he was here with me and the girls. He was very suprised when I said I hadn't seen him for about 3 weeks. I told him to call my ex's cell and his new number is on the voicemail. The roommate said it's too bad that we are no longer speak...	serendipity	1	436	Apr 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Thank You all for your wisdom (Preview) I have been doing a bit of lurking around - have attended some online meetings and have been reading these boards daily. I just want to say thank you to everyone who posts here on a regular basis. I can only get to a f2f meeting about 2x a month, so this and daily reading of alanon literature is the lions po...	TLM	0	394	Apr 9, 2007 by TLM
	Ally (Preview) Ally, Re the peep saga. Look for posts in this order. arrival of peeps by wp what the heck is a peep by lilms (that would be me) proof of peeps by wp proof of peeps two by wp and last but not least...omg I cannot stand the suspense i found a peep by lilms (again, that would be me) hope thi...	lilms	0	401	Apr 9, 2007 by lilms
	alcoholic "flashback" (Preview) Hi everyone. It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time. My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night dri...	artygirl	4	628	Apr 9, 2007 by Leetle
	new ggrandson (Preview) Yahoo!! I just received word that I have a ggrandson - born at 12:05pm today. All is well. Wish I could be there - my granddaughter in in MD and I'm in FL.	carolena	6	400	Apr 9, 2007 by Rita G
	Plan B (Preview) Moving on to plan b. My A b/f is getting released from jail on Friday. I just finished moving all of his things from inside the house into my detached garage (*my poor back*). I plan on doing a lot of praying this week. I also plan on reaching out, which I don't find easy. Thanks for listening.	Leetle	2	350	Apr 9, 2007 by Maria123
	Rebuilding self-esteem (Preview) As a newbie in Alanon and on this board I was wondering how you all went about re-building your self esteem. I always thought I was a pretty strong independent woman but since my AH's affair and quick decent into alcoholic hell, I have discovered just how co-dependent I really am. My self-esteem is shat...	Angel1	6	660	Apr 9, 2007 by barisax
	still in pain (Preview) I ended up with my name on the unlawful detainer (eviction notice) so I have to go take care of that tomorrow. Another typical interaction with the A. He tells the landlord we will move out, doesn't tell me, then gets us evicted. I have to move out leave most of my stuff, leave my pets and he feels sorry...	maresie2	3	437	Apr 9, 2007 by QOD
	Proof of Peeps 2 both posts have pics (Preview) Sorry this is first time i tried to post pix to board! Pls click on pic to enlarge. -- Edited by wp at 23:06, 2007-04-07	wp	2	589	Apr 9, 2007 by barisax
	New and needing to vent. (Preview) Hi. I am new to this forum and just wanted to introduce myself. Actually, I am feeling alone and frustrated and am very much feeling like I need to vent. I have been married to my AH for almost 15 years and he has tried to quit drinking many times over the the years. In October ('06) he decided to quit aga...	Denoraphy	6	560	Apr 9, 2007 by cloud123
	All I Need to Know I Learned from the Easter Bunny (Preview) ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM THE EASTER BUNNY Don't put all of your eggs in one basket Walk softly and carry a big carrot Everyone needs a friend who is all ears There's no such thing as too much candy All work and no play can make you a basket case A cute little tail attracts a lot of attention Ev...	Maria123	8	1332	Apr 9, 2007 by frantic
	doxie, dry drunk progressive (Preview) my thought is, that a dry drunk cont. that way, having all the crummy other symptoms of being A. Progressively staying a dry drunk and getting more sick from all the stress of the other parts of the disease. I would think constantly fighting doing what you really want to do, driven to do would drive ya loc...	debilyn	2	424	Apr 9, 2007 by mel123
	~New to Alanon~ (Preview) Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...	netty34ny	4	505	Apr 8, 2007 by lin0606
	feeling the effects of this disease (Preview) I am having a bad day. We used to have a big easter egg hunt with all the family (about 30) at our house with a big ham dinner. We all had so much fun. This disease has taken all of those people from me. I tried so hard to put on my happy face for the kids sake. But I am not in a good spot. My ex ah texed me again with his...	serendipity	5	446	Apr 8, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Proof of Peeps (Preview) Here ya go all you peeps :) Saturday's accomplishment........mswp aka pw	wp	9	574	Apr 8, 2007 by wp
	Letting Go (Preview) I found this on an alzheimer's site I frequent because of my husband's illness. Sounds al-anon to me. Maybe you have read it before, maybe not! Anyway I thought it was worth posting. Letting Go To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself...	danz123	6	463	Apr 8, 2007 by bob6502
	~making amends~ (Preview) Happy Easter to all!--I am quite "preplexed" over the topic of making amends. we just got back from a Great Easter Sunday service. The minister talked on forgiving, making amends, clean slate--(New beginning-Easter) etc. My Hubby's brother and wife are "mad" at us---ve...	meagain	3	509	Apr 8, 2007 by CJ
	I "lost" it and it hurts like hell (Preview) It helps nothing to 'lose it'. It only gives the A more to resist, and somehow, more of their own ammunition. Losing it makes me physically ill, drains my emotional reservoir so I do not meet my own needs. So what is it that I need the most? I need serenity like I need air, I need peace and comfort. These...	Kim65	8	1998	Apr 8, 2007 by maresie2
	What the heck is a peep? (Preview) Okay, so the peeps have arrived (short form for people here) and you can buy them at walgreens. I am pretty sure they are not selling people so.....What the hell is a peep????? lilms	lilms	5	440	Apr 8, 2007 by Diva
	HAPPY EASTER (Preview) ((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))) HERE'S TO A BRILLIANT EASTER FOR YOU ALL..... MAKE SURE YOU ALL EAT LOADS OF CHOCOLATE.....(p.s NOT the childrens.)lol Love you all in an special way Allyoops	ally	7	481	Apr 8, 2007 by carosie
	Happy Easter (Preview) Just wanted to say Happy Easter to my alanon family. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding you have given to me. Andi	AndiLynn	2	492	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	and the rollercoaster continues..... (Preview) I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night.. My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings (...	Tammy	2	397	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	A is getting more dependant (Preview) We took our daughter to a B-day party that was a long drive. My AH woke up shortly before we left and got right in the car, so I know he didn't drink at all. When we got there he was a little awkward with the other parents and his face looked...just like he wasn't feeling well. I got him some coffee and sat by hi...	RainyJamie	5	731	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	SPONSOR (Preview) Hi Friends, I am a grateful member of alanon for 8 months now, I live in a small town in quebec where there is only aa, no alanon or naranon so i've been coming here online for support.It has helped me so much, i don't feel so alone anymore, I feel a burden has lifted somewhat that I can talk about my situation...	serenity62	5	655	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	go ahead and hate me...(c: (Preview) When people use red type on here it drives me crazy. Red is known to make people think of anger, pain, etc. guess I am over sensitive but I find it hard to read things in red. so slap me around, its ok. hugs,debilyn	debilyn	8	527	Apr 7, 2007 by Maria123
	"board" and "bored"??? (silliness) (Preview) Every time I see the words "Board Start" at the upper left of this message board (the tab you click if you want to quickly return to the list of messages), I think, "Hmmm .... when bored, start here." Warned you in the Topic Title this was more of my silliness. 8-) Sunny	Sunny2007	4	462	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	for our member named "pls" ... i goofed (Preview) pls, sorry that when we exchanged email addresses privately in meeting 24 hours ago, i goofed and deleted the file where i'd written the address. Didn't get it into the address book of my email. Don't see any posts by you here to leave you a private message and don't want to post my email in public post. S...	Sunny2007	5	641	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Physical, Emotional, Spiritual, Mental (Preview) Many many many times from newcomers I hear "If you had my life, you wouldn't think it was simple, either." "I don't understand why it is that you keep harping at me to eat and sleep. Don't you understand how much I have to do?" "You don't have kids. You don't get it." &quo...	Tiger2006	3	550	Apr 7, 2007 by Lunamoth
	cue background tune Should I stay or should I go? (Preview) I know many people ask when to quit their respective relationships. In al anon it is our policy never to give advice, to do our best to mind our own business, and progress not perfection. But when I read today's Hazelden meditation, I couldn't help but think of my MIP AFG. It seems the most common questi...	Tiger2006	4	800	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	On this Good Friday... (Preview) I wish all of the "family" of the Christian faith a blessed Easter. May all of you find the peace and happiness you are striving for. Be good to one another, and remember we are all in this struggle together. With best regards to all, Diva	Diva	5	543	Apr 7, 2007 by doxie
	HAPPY EASTER! (Preview) (((((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! May the Easter Bunny and the Easter Beagle (remember Snoopy dressed up as an Easter Bunny?) be extra good to you. The poor kids up here may have to look for Easter Eggs in the snow! lol Hubby and I are spending the day (hopefu...	Karilynn	1	402	Apr 7, 2007 by ally
	Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. (Preview) Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. Stark and sobering words. I have witnessed the horror of just how fast the disease progressed in my husband's case: After over 20 years of drinking "only" a 6-pack of beer "only" once a week, the disease caught up with him (and with m...	Sunny2007	5	871	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Please pray for me (Preview) I have been depressed and anxious at the same time. I saw my A tonight--it was good. But it's me. I feel these feelings. After having this surgery, and now without the use of my left arm, my A is gone. I am trying to make friends. Got barely any sleep last night. Please pray I get some rest. 2 ladies from a smal...	hippietrippiechick	7	709	Apr 7, 2007 by TLC2
	Re: Fear post (Preview) I have removed the post from, "Fear." It was requesting info for a book. See AA tradition number six. loves you people. debilyn	debilyn	2	429	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	being "powerless" doesn't mean being "helpless" (Preview) The daily entry for October 21 in "Courage to Change" (Conference Approved Literature) has been a great help to me in working my Al-Anon program and healing/recovering since 1995. One of the things I cling to when storms move into my space: "Powerless does not mean helpless."...	Sunny2007	2	1634	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	Who would have thought it? (Preview) (((((((Alanuts)))))) I got a call last week...from AA. Haven't seen or heard from any of them since A and I split 14 months ago."Where have you been Chris,we have missed you. We would all love to see you again and catch up. How about coming to a meeting?" It's funny because although I did have...	chris52	6	447	Apr 7, 2007 by leo
	WHO'S WORSE THE ALCOHOLIC OR US.. (Preview) (((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...	ally	8	710	Apr 7, 2007 by gardengal
	Happy Birthday Kerryyyyyyyyy !!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Happy Happy Birthday sweet kerry ! Hope your day is as wonderful as you are and that all your wishes come true this year! You deserve the very best ! Your a wonderful friend and a great mom ! Enjoy your day my friend Love Debs	MeMyselfandI	15	542	Apr 7, 2007 by Maria123
	I asked HP for a sign and the phone rang... (Preview) I said the serenity prayer and begged god to give me a sign and show me what direction I need to be heading in and the phone rang and it was him. My AH just got out of jail. I didn't answer. Finally I called him at the payphone. He was stranded no money no place to stay etc. etc. He has been in this position b...	carolinagirl	8	740	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	There's acceptance and then there's acceptance (kinda long) (Preview) I have been doing a lot of intensive reading and thinking lately about how I came to be the way I am (co-dependent). And then how I am learning not to be that, learning to be less and less of that. I known for years that I am co-dependent, not only by being married to my A but also from being raised in...	jaja	1	466	Apr 7, 2007 by abbyal
	let it begin with me (Preview) (((family))) It works if you work it. Had that experience at work yesterday. I manage a small business(store). The owner is my best friend and was having quite the bad day. Lots of negative energy in the store. Lots of negative comments...lots of what else can go wrong.. I just kept saying to my...	carosie	1	407	Apr 7, 2007 by Leetle
	HOW DO YOU LET GO OF YOUR NEED TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS??? (Preview) For me it took a very long time and meetings meetings meetings to realize that no matter how I tried, I could not control or make someone do things they adamantly did no what to do. I was literally banging my head against a brick wall, but I tried over and over again. Twisting things, manipulating things s...	gardengal	6	582	Apr 6, 2007 by nmike
	Panic subsides (Preview) I still have no job. I may have to go work in a gas station if needbe. I know its dangerous but living with the A for 7 years has been dangerous what with his driving (erratically and dangerously) and tantrums and more for all that time. The gas station is one place 100's of people are not applying. I've be...	maresie2	4	387	Apr 6, 2007 by nmike
	expectations? (sorry long) (Preview) I read here all the time but havent posted much. I find all of the posts very helpful. I have been on this rollercoaster with my AH for about 9 months now. He has been living out of the house since August. We have 3 kids. S16, S12, D4 When my h is drinking I am not as anxious as when he is sober. When he is drinking...	Angel1	8	776	Apr 6, 2007 by LaDawn
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