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serendipity · serendipity

my ex's roommate just stopped by my house looking for him. He just assumed that he was here with me and the girls. He was very suprised when I said I hadn't seen him for about 3 weeks. I told him to call my ex's cell and his new number is on the voicemail. The roommate said it's too bad that we are no longer speak...

TLM · TLM

I have been doing a bit of lurking around - have attended some online meetings and have been reading these boards daily. I just want to say thank you to everyone who posts here on a regular basis. I can only get to a f2f meeting about 2x a month, so this and daily reading of alanon literature is the lions po...

lilms · lilms

Ally, Re the peep saga. Look for posts in this order. arrival of peeps by wp what the heck is a peep by lilms (that would be me)

proof of peeps by wp proof of peeps two by wp and last but not least...omg I cannot stand the suspense i found a peep by lilms (again, that would be me)

hope thi...

artygirl · artygirl

Hi everyone. It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time. My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night dri...

carolena · carolena

Yahoo!! I just received word that I have a ggrandson - born at 12:05pm today. All is well. Wish I could be there - my granddaughter in in MD and I'm in FL.

Leetle · Leetle

Moving on to plan b. My A b/f is getting released from jail on Friday. I just finished moving all of his things from inside the house into my detached garage (my poor back). I plan on doing a lot of praying this week. I also plan on reaching out, which I don't find easy. Thanks for listening.

Angel1 · Angel1

As a newbie in Alanon and on this board I was wondering how you all went about re-building your self esteem. I always thought I was a pretty strong independent woman but since my AH's affair and quick decent into alcoholic hell, I have discovered just how co-dependent I really am. My self-esteem is shat...

maresie2 · maresie2

I ended up with my name on the unlawful detainer (eviction notice) so I have to go take care of that tomorrow. Another typical interaction with the A. He tells the landlord we will move out, doesn't tell me, then gets us evicted. I have to move out leave most of my stuff, leave my pets and he feels sorry...

wp · wp

Sorry this is first time i tried to post pix to board! Pls click on pic to enlarge. -- Edited by wp at 23:06, 2007-04-07

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

Hi. I am new to this forum and just wanted to introduce myself. Actually, I am feeling alone and frustrated and am very much feeling like I need to vent. I have been married to my AH for almost 15 years and he has tried to quit drinking many times over the the years. In October ('06) he decided to quit aga...

Maria123 · Maria123

ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM THE EASTER BUNNY Don't put all of your eggs in one basket Walk softly and carry a big carrot Everyone needs a friend who is all ears There's no such thing as too much candy All work and no play can make you a basket case A cute little tail attracts a lot of attention Ev...

debilyn · debilyn

my thought is, that a dry drunk cont. that way, having all the crummy other symptoms of being A. Progressively staying a dry drunk and getting more sick from all the stress of the other parts of the disease. I would think constantly fighting doing what you really want to do, driven to do would drive ya loc...

netty34ny · netty34ny

Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...

serendipity · serendipity

I am having a bad day. We used to have a big easter egg hunt with all the family (about 30) at our house with a big ham dinner. We all had so much fun. This disease has taken all of those people from me. I tried so hard to put on my happy face for the kids sake. But I am not in a good spot. My ex ah texed me again with his...

wp · wp

Here ya go all you peeps :) Saturday's accomplishment........mswp aka pw

danz123 · danz123

I found this on an alzheimer's site I frequent because of my husband's illness. Sounds al-anon to me. Maybe you have read it before, maybe not! Anyway I thought it was worth posting. Letting Go To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself...

meagain · meagain

Happy Easter to all!--I am quite "preplexed" over the topic of making amends. we just got back from a Great Easter Sunday service. The minister talked on forgiving, making amends, clean slate--(New beginning-Easter) etc. My Hubby's brother and wife are "mad" at us---ve...

Kim65 · Kim65

It helps nothing to 'lose it'. It only gives the A more to resist, and somehow, more of their own ammunition. Losing it makes me physically ill, drains my emotional reservoir so I do not meet my own needs. So what is it that I need the most? I need serenity like I need air, I need peace and comfort. These...

lilms · lilms

Okay, so the peeps have arrived (short form for people here) and you can buy them at walgreens. I am pretty sure they are not selling people so.....What the hell is a peep?????

lilms

ally · ally

((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))) HERE'S TO A BRILLIANT EASTER FOR YOU ALL..... MAKE SURE YOU ALL EAT LOADS OF CHOCOLATE.....(p.s NOT the childrens.)lol Love you all in an special way Allyoops

AndiLynn · AndiLynn

Just wanted to say Happy Easter to my alanon family. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding you have given to me. Andi

Tammy · Tammy

I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night.. My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings (...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

We took our daughter to a B-day party that was a long drive. My AH woke up shortly before we left and got right in the car, so I know he didn't drink at all. When we got there he was a little awkward with the other parents and his face looked...just like he wasn't feeling well. I got him some coffee and sat by hi...

serenity62 · serenity62

Hi Friends, I am a grateful member of alanon for 8 months now, I live in a small town in quebec where there is only aa, no alanon or naranon so i've been coming here online for support.It has helped me so much, i don't feel so alone anymore, I feel a burden has lifted somewhat that I can talk about my situation...

debilyn · debilyn

When people use red type on here it drives me crazy. Red is known to make people think of anger, pain, etc. guess I am over sensitive but I find it hard to read things in red. so slap me around, its ok. hugs,debilyn

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Every time I see the words "Board Start" at the upper left of this message board (the tab you click if you want to quickly return to the list of messages), I think, "Hmmm .... when bored, start here." Warned you in the Topic Title this was more of my silliness. 8-) Sunny

for our member named "pls" ... i goofed · Sunny2007

pls, sorry that when we exchanged email addresses privately in meeting 24 hours ago, i goofed and deleted the file where i'd written the address. Didn't get it into the address book of my email. Don't see any posts by you here to leave you a private message and don't want to post my email in public post. S...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Many many many times from newcomers I hear "If you had my life, you wouldn't think it was simple, either." "I don't understand why it is that you keep harping at me to eat and sleep. Don't you understand how much I have to do?" "You don't have kids. You don't get it." &quo...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I know many people ask when to quit their respective relationships. In al anon it is our policy never to give advice, to do our best to mind our own business, and progress not perfection. But when I read today's Hazelden meditation, I couldn't help but think of my MIP AFG. It seems the most common questi...

Diva · Diva

I wish all of the "family" of the Christian faith a blessed Easter. May all of you find the peace and happiness you are striving for. Be good to one another, and remember we are all in this struggle together. With best regards to all, Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! May the Easter Bunny and the Easter Beagle (remember Snoopy dressed up as an Easter Bunny?) be extra good to you. The poor kids up here may have to look for Easter Eggs in the snow! lol Hubby and I are spending the day (hopefu...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. Stark and sobering words. I have witnessed the horror of just how fast the disease progressed in my husband's case: After over 20 years of drinking "only" a 6-pack of beer "only" once a week, the disease caught up with him (and with m...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I have been depressed and anxious at the same time. I saw my A tonight--it was good. But it's me. I feel these feelings. After having this surgery, and now without the use of my left arm, my A is gone. I am trying to make friends. Got barely any sleep last night. Please pray I get some rest. 2 ladies from a smal...

debilyn · debilyn

I have removed the post from, "Fear." It was requesting info for a book. See AA tradition number six. loves you people. debilyn

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

The daily entry for October 21 in "Courage to Change" (Conference Approved Literature) has been a great help to me in working my Al-Anon program and healing/recovering since 1995. One of the things I cling to when storms move into my space: "Powerless does not mean helpless."...

chris52 · chris52

(((((((Alanuts)))))) I got a call last week...from AA. Haven't seen or heard from any of them since A and I split 14 months ago."Where have you been Chris,we have missed you. We would all love to see you again and catch up. How about coming to a meeting?" It's funny because although I did have...

ally · ally

(((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...

MeMyselfandI · MeMyselfandI

Happy Happy Birthday sweet kerry ! Hope your day is as wonderful as you are and that all your wishes come true this year! You deserve the very best ! Your a wonderful friend and a great mom ! Enjoy your day my friend Love Debs

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I said the serenity prayer and begged god to give me a sign and show me what direction I need to be heading in and the phone rang and it was him. My AH just got out of jail. I didn't answer. Finally I called him at the payphone. He was stranded no money no place to stay etc. etc. He has been in this position b...

jaja · jaja

I have been doing a lot of intensive reading and thinking lately about how I came to be the way I am (co-dependent). And then how I am learning not to be that, learning to be less and less of that. I known for years that I am co-dependent, not only by being married to my A but also from being raised in...

carosie · carosie

(((family))) It works if you work it. Had that experience at work yesterday. I manage a small business(store). The owner is my best friend and was having quite the bad day. Lots of negative energy in the store. Lots of negative comments...lots of what else can go wrong.. I just kept saying to my...

gardengal · gardengal

For me it took a very long time and meetings meetings meetings to realize that no matter how I tried, I could not control or make someone do things they adamantly did no what to do. I was literally banging my head against a brick wall, but I tried over and over again. Twisting things, manipulating things s...

maresie2 · maresie2

I still have no job. I may have to go work in a gas station if needbe. I know its dangerous but living with the A for 7 years has been dangerous what with his driving (erratically and dangerously) and tantrums and more for all that time. The gas station is one place 100's of people are not applying. I've be...

Angel1 · Angel1

I read here all the time but havent posted much. I find all of the posts very helpful. I have been on this rollercoaster with my AH for about 9 months now. He has been living out of the house since August. We have 3 kids. S16, S12, D4 When my h is drinking I am not as anxious as when he is sober. When he is drinking...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

One of my most-often-read pages in "Courage to Change" is the entry for May 13. Here's part of that entry: "I find it much easier to risk making decisions when I stop thinking about suffering the consequences and remember that I have the option to enjoy the consequences." &quo...

Rita G · Rita G

This is a copy of an email that a recovery friend sent me yesterday. It is part of a daily devotional for Recovering Co-Dependants that she emails to a group of recovery friends. Thought it was an interesting look at relationships and conflicts. Prior to recovery, I thought that anytime there was a...

QOD · QOD

My AH text me in the middle of the night last night. I didn't get it unti this morning. "I'm glad you are over me but I am sad you are over me" "Can't say I am sorry enough. Wish I could turn back time

" "Glad u can sleep, I can't under the circumstances-love u 4ever" &quo...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) I am only half joking. We in this program often say if we could just take the sickness away we would. I believe my HP "could" do that, but my HP has a reason for allowing people to learn from their actions. To choose that which is healthy for them. Work at it and feel pr...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Thank everyone for your prayers. I did sleep all night--woke up once. Tired, body sore, just trying to get myself together. To HP: thank you for this day, bless my friends and family, and help relieve me of the bondage of self. You guys are great. I belong to several other support groups online that deal...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Tell me why drugs are illegal like pot ect and drinking is still legal? I mean drinking is not valuable to anyone's life and in fact, it kills probably more then any street drug. So why is it that it's still legal? I was just wondering if you know the answer. If the advertising of alcohol were to stop on bill...

sash · sash

Vivatrol is a once a month shot the alcoholic takes that greatly reduces or eliminates the craving for alcohol. This as well as participation in AA and out-patient therapy really seems to be doing the trick for my husband. At first I was skeptical, and I am not trying to be naive, but my husband has bee...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) I have made it a habit lately of starting my day by reading this prayer. Today I am concentrating on the passage "... Help me find compassion without empathy overwhelming me...." It is an old Cherokee prayer I have had stashed away for a while now. I have posted it be...

TLC2 · TLC2

Took son to see the specialist today. His vision is improving!!!!! He's still umcompfortable a bit, but is healing quite well. The doc said it will just take time. He couldn't tell us if his vision will come back to the way it was, but he is now seeing 20/30. He may have to wear glasses or a contact lens, but...

afglin · afglin

Some of you may have heard me share at a meeting on Sunday that I had a dog that was very sick. He died today. We are pretty sure he had pancreatic cancer. He was sick less than a week. Most of that time he was at the vet on IV and pain meds. I'm glad he is not in pain and was not in pain when he died. I am glad he was no...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex sent me a text today. he's never done that before. he hasn't even called since sunday which i was grateful for. the thing is i was looking at houses to buy. looked at like 6. fell in love with 2 that are out of my price range. that's me champagne taste and boone's farm buget! and so before i could even sav...

barisax · barisax

Hi all remember me.... Barisax... sober AA, fully qualified member of Alanon, long term single with a good start on a relationship for the first time in <mumble> years. She is not an alcoholic! She has been to a couple of open AA meetings with me, which she enjoyed, but I think I convinced her, s...

lilms · lilms

Alright Diva, I ordered the book!!!!!

lilms

lilms · lilms

((((((Friends))))))) I saw a book online that I would really like to own. In the store it would be $42 dollars and change. Online with shipping it is less than $30. So off I go to the store and buy an online gift card for this particular site so I can order the book. And now here is the problem. I feel TERR...

angel123 · angel123

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Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

To Everyone in the meeting shown in the title of this post ... Thank you for being present so that I could have a meeting right before going to see what the CAT scan of my brain would show. Thank you for your prayers and support in the meeting. I took with me to my appointment something to remind me that all...

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	sometimes it stinks to be right (Preview) my ex's roommate just stopped by my house looking for him. He just assumed that he was here with me and the girls. He was very suprised when I said I hadn't seen him for about 3 weeks. I told him to call my ex's cell and his new number is on the voicemail. The roommate said it's too bad that we are no longer speak...	serendipity	1	422	Apr 9, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Thank You all for your wisdom (Preview) I have been doing a bit of lurking around - have attended some online meetings and have been reading these boards daily. I just want to say thank you to everyone who posts here on a regular basis. I can only get to a f2f meeting about 2x a month, so this and daily reading of alanon literature is the lions po...	TLM	0	379	Apr 9, 2007 by TLM
	Ally (Preview) Ally, Re the peep saga. Look for posts in this order. arrival of peeps by wp what the heck is a peep by lilms (that would be me) proof of peeps by wp proof of peeps two by wp and last but not least...omg I cannot stand the suspense i found a peep by lilms (again, that would be me) hope thi...	lilms	0	389	Apr 9, 2007 by lilms
	alcoholic "flashback" (Preview) Hi everyone. It's Easter sunday and I was just thinking about where I was and what I was doing last year at this time. My A husband and I were invited to brunch at my sister's house. I had told my sister we'd be there early to help out. My A was strung out that morning from staying up most of the night dri...	artygirl	4	608	Apr 9, 2007 by Leetle
	new ggrandson (Preview) Yahoo!! I just received word that I have a ggrandson - born at 12:05pm today. All is well. Wish I could be there - my granddaughter in in MD and I'm in FL.	carolena	6	388	Apr 9, 2007 by Rita G
	Plan B (Preview) Moving on to plan b. My A b/f is getting released from jail on Friday. I just finished moving all of his things from inside the house into my detached garage (*my poor back*). I plan on doing a lot of praying this week. I also plan on reaching out, which I don't find easy. Thanks for listening.	Leetle	2	338	Apr 9, 2007 by Maria123
	Rebuilding self-esteem (Preview) As a newbie in Alanon and on this board I was wondering how you all went about re-building your self esteem. I always thought I was a pretty strong independent woman but since my AH's affair and quick decent into alcoholic hell, I have discovered just how co-dependent I really am. My self-esteem is shat...	Angel1	6	642	Apr 9, 2007 by barisax
	still in pain (Preview) I ended up with my name on the unlawful detainer (eviction notice) so I have to go take care of that tomorrow. Another typical interaction with the A. He tells the landlord we will move out, doesn't tell me, then gets us evicted. I have to move out leave most of my stuff, leave my pets and he feels sorry...	maresie2	3	423	Apr 9, 2007 by QOD
	Proof of Peeps 2 both posts have pics (Preview) Sorry this is first time i tried to post pix to board! Pls click on pic to enlarge. -- Edited by wp at 23:06, 2007-04-07	wp	2	575	Apr 9, 2007 by barisax
	New and needing to vent. (Preview) Hi. I am new to this forum and just wanted to introduce myself. Actually, I am feeling alone and frustrated and am very much feeling like I need to vent. I have been married to my AH for almost 15 years and he has tried to quit drinking many times over the the years. In October ('06) he decided to quit aga...	Denoraphy	6	540	Apr 9, 2007 by cloud123
	All I Need to Know I Learned from the Easter Bunny (Preview) ALL I NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE I LEARNED FROM THE EASTER BUNNY Don't put all of your eggs in one basket Walk softly and carry a big carrot Everyone needs a friend who is all ears There's no such thing as too much candy All work and no play can make you a basket case A cute little tail attracts a lot of attention Ev...	Maria123	8	1301	Apr 9, 2007 by frantic
	doxie, dry drunk progressive (Preview) my thought is, that a dry drunk cont. that way, having all the crummy other symptoms of being A. Progressively staying a dry drunk and getting more sick from all the stress of the other parts of the disease. I would think constantly fighting doing what you really want to do, driven to do would drive ya loc...	debilyn	2	412	Apr 9, 2007 by mel123
	~New to Alanon~ (Preview) Hi all, Well, I am new to Alanon. I was married to my ex for 16 years , he is a functioning alcoholic but he doesn't think he has a problem. Anyway, he left us (we have 4 daughters) 15 months ago. I still have to talk with him due to having children together. Although we are not living together, I still have t...	netty34ny	4	479	Apr 8, 2007 by lin0606
	feeling the effects of this disease (Preview) I am having a bad day. We used to have a big easter egg hunt with all the family (about 30) at our house with a big ham dinner. We all had so much fun. This disease has taken all of those people from me. I tried so hard to put on my happy face for the kids sake. But I am not in a good spot. My ex ah texed me again with his...	serendipity	5	430	Apr 8, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Proof of Peeps (Preview) Here ya go all you peeps :) Saturday's accomplishment........mswp aka pw	wp	9	558	Apr 8, 2007 by wp
	Letting Go (Preview) I found this on an alzheimer's site I frequent because of my husband's illness. Sounds al-anon to me. Maybe you have read it before, maybe not! Anyway I thought it was worth posting. Letting Go To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I cannot do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself...	danz123	6	448	Apr 8, 2007 by bob6502
	~making amends~ (Preview) Happy Easter to all!--I am quite "preplexed" over the topic of making amends. we just got back from a Great Easter Sunday service. The minister talked on forgiving, making amends, clean slate--(New beginning-Easter) etc. My Hubby's brother and wife are "mad" at us---ve...	meagain	3	491	Apr 8, 2007 by CJ
	I "lost" it and it hurts like hell (Preview) It helps nothing to 'lose it'. It only gives the A more to resist, and somehow, more of their own ammunition. Losing it makes me physically ill, drains my emotional reservoir so I do not meet my own needs. So what is it that I need the most? I need serenity like I need air, I need peace and comfort. These...	Kim65	8	1964	Apr 8, 2007 by maresie2
	What the heck is a peep? (Preview) Okay, so the peeps have arrived (short form for people here) and you can buy them at walgreens. I am pretty sure they are not selling people so.....What the hell is a peep????? lilms	lilms	5	428	Apr 8, 2007 by Diva
	HAPPY EASTER (Preview) ((((((((((((YO ROOMIES))))))))))))) HERE'S TO A BRILLIANT EASTER FOR YOU ALL..... MAKE SURE YOU ALL EAT LOADS OF CHOCOLATE.....(p.s NOT the childrens.)lol Love you all in an special way Allyoops	ally	7	459	Apr 8, 2007 by carosie
	Happy Easter (Preview) Just wanted to say Happy Easter to my alanon family. Thank you for all the love, support and understanding you have given to me. Andi	AndiLynn	2	480	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	and the rollercoaster continues..... (Preview) I havent posted in awhile, why I am not sure. I have read a lot of posts just havent had the strength to post. Tonight, I am really having a bad night.. My husband and I are back together and have been since January after a 5 month seperation. He is still working thru his DUI punishments going to meetings (...	Tammy	2	385	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	A is getting more dependant (Preview) We took our daughter to a B-day party that was a long drive. My AH woke up shortly before we left and got right in the car, so I know he didn't drink at all. When we got there he was a little awkward with the other parents and his face looked...just like he wasn't feeling well. I got him some coffee and sat by hi...	RainyJamie	5	710	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	SPONSOR (Preview) Hi Friends, I am a grateful member of alanon for 8 months now, I live in a small town in quebec where there is only aa, no alanon or naranon so i've been coming here online for support.It has helped me so much, i don't feel so alone anymore, I feel a burden has lifted somewhat that I can talk about my situation...	serenity62	5	646	Apr 8, 2007 by Becky1
	go ahead and hate me...(c: (Preview) When people use red type on here it drives me crazy. Red is known to make people think of anger, pain, etc. guess I am over sensitive but I find it hard to read things in red. so slap me around, its ok. hugs,debilyn	debilyn	8	515	Apr 7, 2007 by Maria123
	"board" and "bored"??? (silliness) (Preview) Every time I see the words "Board Start" at the upper left of this message board (the tab you click if you want to quickly return to the list of messages), I think, "Hmmm .... when bored, start here." Warned you in the Topic Title this was more of my silliness. 8-) Sunny	Sunny2007	4	443	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	for our member named "pls" ... i goofed (Preview) pls, sorry that when we exchanged email addresses privately in meeting 24 hours ago, i goofed and deleted the file where i'd written the address. Didn't get it into the address book of my email. Don't see any posts by you here to leave you a private message and don't want to post my email in public post. S...	Sunny2007	5	605	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Physical, Emotional, Spiritual, Mental (Preview) Many many many times from newcomers I hear "If you had my life, you wouldn't think it was simple, either." "I don't understand why it is that you keep harping at me to eat and sleep. Don't you understand how much I have to do?" "You don't have kids. You don't get it." &quo...	Tiger2006	3	539	Apr 7, 2007 by Lunamoth
	cue background tune Should I stay or should I go? (Preview) I know many people ask when to quit their respective relationships. In al anon it is our policy never to give advice, to do our best to mind our own business, and progress not perfection. But when I read today's Hazelden meditation, I couldn't help but think of my MIP AFG. It seems the most common questi...	Tiger2006	4	774	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	On this Good Friday... (Preview) I wish all of the "family" of the Christian faith a blessed Easter. May all of you find the peace and happiness you are striving for. Be good to one another, and remember we are all in this struggle together. With best regards to all, Diva	Diva	5	527	Apr 7, 2007 by doxie
	HAPPY EASTER! (Preview) (((((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! May the Easter Bunny and the Easter Beagle (remember Snoopy dressed up as an Easter Bunny?) be extra good to you. The poor kids up here may have to look for Easter Eggs in the snow! lol Hubby and I are spending the day (hopefu...	Karilynn	1	384	Apr 7, 2007 by ally
	Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. (Preview) Alcoholism is a progressive, fatal disease. Stark and sobering words. I have witnessed the horror of just how fast the disease progressed in my husband's case: After over 20 years of drinking "only" a 6-pack of beer "only" once a week, the disease caught up with him (and with m...	Sunny2007	5	831	Apr 7, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Please pray for me (Preview) I have been depressed and anxious at the same time. I saw my A tonight--it was good. But it's me. I feel these feelings. After having this surgery, and now without the use of my left arm, my A is gone. I am trying to make friends. Got barely any sleep last night. Please pray I get some rest. 2 ladies from a smal...	hippietrippiechick	7	696	Apr 7, 2007 by TLC2
	Re: Fear post (Preview) I have removed the post from, "Fear." It was requesting info for a book. See AA tradition number six. loves you people. debilyn	debilyn	2	407	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	being "powerless" doesn't mean being "helpless" (Preview) The daily entry for October 21 in "Courage to Change" (Conference Approved Literature) has been a great help to me in working my Al-Anon program and healing/recovering since 1995. One of the things I cling to when storms move into my space: "Powerless does not mean helpless."...	Sunny2007	2	1607	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	Who would have thought it? (Preview) (((((((Alanuts)))))) I got a call last week...from AA. Haven't seen or heard from any of them since A and I split 14 months ago."Where have you been Chris,we have missed you. We would all love to see you again and catch up. How about coming to a meeting?" It's funny because although I did have...	chris52	6	435	Apr 7, 2007 by leo
	WHO'S WORSE THE ALCOHOLIC OR US.. (Preview) (((((((((Roomies)))))))))))) My life has been really good the last few weeks...Because it's mostly been about me.. I have been putting myself first, for a change. I have been setting up my new group, and feeling really pleased with myself. Chairing meetings, and doing good with them.. I have a thy...	ally	8	693	Apr 7, 2007 by gardengal
	Happy Birthday Kerryyyyyyyyy !!!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Happy Happy Birthday sweet kerry ! Hope your day is as wonderful as you are and that all your wishes come true this year! You deserve the very best ! Your a wonderful friend and a great mom ! Enjoy your day my friend Love Debs	MeMyselfandI	15	530	Apr 7, 2007 by Maria123
	I asked HP for a sign and the phone rang... (Preview) I said the serenity prayer and begged god to give me a sign and show me what direction I need to be heading in and the phone rang and it was him. My AH just got out of jail. I didn't answer. Finally I called him at the payphone. He was stranded no money no place to stay etc. etc. He has been in this position b...	carolinagirl	8	728	Apr 7, 2007 by debilyn
	There's acceptance and then there's acceptance (kinda long) (Preview) I have been doing a lot of intensive reading and thinking lately about how I came to be the way I am (co-dependent). And then how I am learning not to be that, learning to be less and less of that. I known for years that I am co-dependent, not only by being married to my A but also from being raised in...	jaja	1	451	Apr 7, 2007 by abbyal
	let it begin with me (Preview) (((family))) It works if you work it. Had that experience at work yesterday. I manage a small business(store). The owner is my best friend and was having quite the bad day. Lots of negative energy in the store. Lots of negative comments...lots of what else can go wrong.. I just kept saying to my...	carosie	1	392	Apr 7, 2007 by Leetle
	HOW DO YOU LET GO OF YOUR NEED TO CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE AND SITUATIONS??? (Preview) For me it took a very long time and meetings meetings meetings to realize that no matter how I tried, I could not control or make someone do things they adamantly did no what to do. I was literally banging my head against a brick wall, but I tried over and over again. Twisting things, manipulating things s...	gardengal	6	567	Apr 6, 2007 by nmike
	Panic subsides (Preview) I still have no job. I may have to go work in a gas station if needbe. I know its dangerous but living with the A for 7 years has been dangerous what with his driving (erratically and dangerously) and tantrums and more for all that time. The gas station is one place 100's of people are not applying. I've be...	maresie2	4	372	Apr 6, 2007 by nmike
	expectations? (sorry long) (Preview) I read here all the time but havent posted much. I find all of the posts very helpful. I have been on this rollercoaster with my AH for about 9 months now. He has been living out of the house since August. We have 3 kids. S16, S12, D4 When my h is drinking I am not as anxious as when he is sober. When he is drinking...	Angel1	8	753	Apr 6, 2007 by LaDawn
	Choosing to enjoy the consequences (Preview) One of my most-often-read pages in "Courage to Change" is the entry for May 13. Here's part of that entry: "I find it much easier to risk making decisions when I stop thinking about suffering the consequences and remember that I have the option to enjoy the consequences." &quo...	Sunny2007	7	669	Apr 6, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Negotiating Conflicts (Preview) This is a copy of an email that a recovery friend sent me yesterday. It is part of a daily devotional for Recovering Co-Dependants that she emails to a group of recovery friends. Thought it was an interesting look at relationships and conflicts. Prior to recovery, I thought that anytime there was a...	Rita G	3	547	Apr 6, 2007 by canadianguy
	I am not going to respond to his text (Preview) My AH text me in the middle of the night last night. I didn't get it unti this morning. "I'm glad you are over me but I am sad you are over me" "Can't say I am sorry enough. Wish I could turn back time " "Glad u can sleep, I can't under the circumstances-love u 4ever" &quo...	QOD	7	653	Apr 6, 2007 by maresie2
	If I was her HP, would I do anything different? (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) I am only half joking. We in this program often say if we could just take the sickness away we would. I believe my HP "could" do that, but my HP has a reason for allowing people to learn from their actions. To choose that which is healthy for them. Work at it and feel pr...	rtexas	7	1308	Apr 6, 2007 by chris52
	feel a little better--now prayer works (Preview) Thank everyone for your prayers. I did sleep all night--woke up once. Tired, body sore, just trying to get myself together. To HP: thank you for this day, bless my friends and family, and help relieve me of the bondage of self. You guys are great. I belong to several other support groups online that deal...	hippietrippiechick	0	366	Apr 6, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	Can you answer this? (Preview) Tell me why drugs are illegal like pot ect and drinking is still legal? I mean drinking is not valuable to anyone's life and in fact, it kills probably more then any street drug. So why is it that it's still legal? I was just wondering if you know the answer. If the advertising of alcohol were to stop on bill...	Friendofyours	11	632	Apr 6, 2007 by Alanoner
	Vivatrol (Preview) Vivatrol is a once a month shot the alcoholic takes that greatly reduces or eliminates the craving for alcohol. This as well as participation in AA and out-patient therapy really seems to be doing the trick for my husband. At first I was skeptical, and I am not trying to be naive, but my husband has bee...	sash	11	2825	Apr 5, 2007 by sash
	Sharing my prayer today.... (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I have made it a habit lately of starting my day by reading this prayer. Today I am concentrating on the passage "... Help me find compassion without empathy overwhelming me...." It is an old Cherokee prayer I have had stashed away for a while now. I have posted it be...	rtexas	8	406	Apr 5, 2007 by wp
	Thank-you for your prayers! (Preview) Took son to see the specialist today. His vision is improving!!!!! He's still umcompfortable a bit, but is healing quite well. The doc said it will just take time. He couldn't tell us if his vision will come back to the way it was, but he is now seeing 20/30. He may have to wear glasses or a contact lens, but...	TLC2	6	383	Apr 5, 2007 by wp
	Smokey (Preview) Some of you may have heard me share at a meeting on Sunday that I had a dog that was very sick. He died today. We are pretty sure he had pancreatic cancer. He was sick less than a week. Most of that time he was at the vet on IV and pain meds. I'm glad he is not in pain and was not in pain when he died. I am glad he was no...	afglin	12	490	Apr 5, 2007 by afglin
	text message (Preview) my ex sent me a text today. he's never done that before. he hasn't even called since sunday which i was grateful for. the thing is i was looking at houses to buy. looked at like 6. fell in love with 2 that are out of my price range. that's me champagne taste and boone's farm buget! and so before i could even sav...	serendipity	5	761	Apr 5, 2007 by lin0606
	I Introduced Her to Alanon (Preview) Hi all remember me.... Barisax... sober AA, fully qualified member of Alanon, long term single with a good start on a relationship for the first time in <mumble> years. She is not an alcoholic! She has been to a couple of open AA meetings with me, which she enjoyed, but I think I convinced her, s...	barisax	6	616	Apr 5, 2007 by barisax
	I Don't Want to be Beat Up (Preview) Alright Diva, I ordered the book!!!!! lilms	lilms	5	574	Apr 5, 2007 by Rita G
	FINDING IT HARD DOING FOR ME (Preview) ((((((Friends))))))) I saw a book online that I would really like to own. In the store it would be $42 dollars and change. Online with shipping it is less than $30. So off I go to the store and buy an online gift card for this particular site so I can order the book. And now here is the problem. I feel TERR...	lilms	5	609	Apr 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Live and Let live (slogan) (Preview) 1992 from our Forum	angel123	1	1486	Apr 5, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Thanks & Update for Everyone in TUESDAY,3April07,9AM EASTERN Time meeting (Preview) To Everyone in the meeting shown in the title of this post ... Thank you for being present so that I could have a meeting right before going to see what the CAT scan of my brain would show. Thank you for your prayers and support in the meeting. I took with me to my appointment something to remind me that all...	Sunny2007	7	989	Apr 5, 2007 by aunitedway
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