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QOD · QOD

My AH and I have been separated for 3 months. It has been a little over a month since he was arrested for possession. It has been a month full of ups and downs. He has been mad, sad and glad over that time. I have an easier time coping when he is mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me or see me. I can go on with l...

Leetle · Leetle

He is out of jail. He called me at work. He hadn't been to my house, where he will find the locks changed, his things in the garage, a note from me listing my boundaries and a change of address form from the post office. If he listened to me or cared about what I was trying to say the last two weeks, he would k...

QOD · QOD

I am having a hard time of it today. My AH continues to push for reconciliation. Everything I say to him bounces right off of him. He refuses to accept an end to our relationship. He loves me, he'll wait for ever for me, give him another chance to make me happy, let him prove he can be the man he once was. ...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

ON A SHOPPING TRIP with my daughter, a Navy flight surgeon, I noticed that one item on her list was Snoopy bandages. She said they were for some of her patients who were unnecessarily upset by their minor scratches and routine shots. Beaming with maternal pride, I told her how thoughtful she was to make...

serendipity · serendipity

Lately I feel like I have been wallowing in my insanity. At the same time I feel like I couldn't get out of it no matter what I did. I have choices but I have been making the wrong ones for the most part. Tonight, in my f2f it occured to me that the tools are right here at my fingertips and I just keep ignoring th...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Here it is Friday afternoon and its another tough day. Friday nights we went to dinner and a movie, this was our routine for months and months. My weekends were always spent with my ex A b/f living our lives doing fun things and keeping busy. Now I sit here thinking, ok, what am I going to do this weekend....

Tammy · Tammy

I told my husband yesterday about my doctors apt. and he actually got mad that I hadnt told him sooner. I told him that he had enough to do and didnt want him worrying about me. He keeps asking me how I feel, if I am having chest pains ? I havent (thank God) I also told him that I didnt want his decision about...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I can't tell if I've gone numb, or if I've found serenity. See, nothing's changed. I suppose that, when you get right down to it, the only thing that's really changed is me. I know my father's waiting--for me to "screw up, bomb out, or blow up," and he'll milk it for all it's worth. I know my mo...

gimmpy · gimmpy

Now I found morphine in my daughters room, she's 19. When I confronted her, she actually asked for it back.. She dropped out of college, has called in sick to work the last few days, but insists she has no problem. when I inform her of her needing to pay her bills, car insurance, cell phone, etc., her boy f...

SingingLeaves · SingingLeaves

My son just turned 19 this past weekend. He's been a struggling A for many years already. He's out in the world on his own. There is nothing I can do for him. I wrote this little poem a few days after his birthday and I'd like to share it. A Mother's Broken Heart A scrap book full of sadness, brings...

kerry5 · kerry5

Chat room is up and running kerry

kissers · kissers

Some of the people I work with work over-time. At a meeting recently, one of the owners was hinting about us working over-time. One of the employees offered to bring in her son to work. The guilt feelings started bubbling within me, then I think about what is best for me and for my children. I felt very ang...

meagain · meagain

I am sorry-perhaps this is not where I should post for feedback on this subject--but we can use alanon anywhere in our lives right? Oh I so wish I could. I have had asked for help before with my DIL-regarding soooo many issues of her "using"me--(and I guess I let her). I am the grandmother...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, Thank you for your continued support and insight here at MIP! It helps so much. I still struggle with my AHsober's and my separation. He acts like an alcoholic - self centered. Why am I surprised? It makes me sad. I wonder how to keep my three grown together as a family. They each are in differe...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) It is so easy today for me to look at the dark side of life. Not just look, but stare at it. Started my day by having a civil conversation with my AW whom I have been seperated from for 6 months (for those who I haven't bored with the story yet), and she wants to start divorce proceeding...

TLM · TLM

In my former marriage, I practiced detachment - to the point where I no longer cared at all. I never even shed a tear at the end of that relationship. I know I am co-dependent, and I want to learn to detach, and still feel the feelings. Is it just me that is challenged with this? How do you all do it?

lmt123 · lmt123

I hate my A (sober) husband.

debilyn · debilyn

lol hey you or anyone can blame anything on me. lol I just really do not mind. I have said it before, when that guy was being blamed for the catastrophy in New Orleans, I was saying, for petes sake just blame me. quit wasting money and time on your buttsm over things that don't matter. Quit blaming and get b...

Lindy · Lindy

I've discovered more lies that my AH has told me and I'm even more desparate to get rid of him and on with my life. I finally emailed his sister. I was afraid to do this because who knew what he was telling her about me. She knows him well enough to not believe anything he says, but I was amazed that even after I...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Why are somedays without my A so much easier than other days? Yesterday was an OK day, but last night I just couldnt sleep because all I could do is think about my ex A B/F. I wondered if he's hurting as much as I am. I wonder if he has tears too. I went to an Alanon mtg last night and it really helped. The...

carolena · carolena

Hi, I feel sad every time I talk to my oldest daughter or my grandaughter. My daughter has two children; my granddaughter has two and one on the way. They're both so depressed because they don't have the discipline to handle their finances. Every time I call them (we live 1,000 miles from eac...

serendipity · serendipity

I went to family councling today with my 3 kids. My 12 yr old and her cutting herself is what motivated me. I went once last week alone to kind of explain what I/we need help with. It was good. My 12 yr old cried which is hard for her to do. For me to do also. I finally explained to her why her dad is again out of the...

wp · wp

Just wanted to update the room on having peeps on hand at the very last minute! lol There is no shortage at walgreens. Happy Easter weekend, wp aka mspw

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

See previous post on 9April07 entitled "NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13" posted by shadow1 Chatroom scheduled to reopen about 4AM EASTERN *DAYLIGHT* time, about 3AM EASTERN *STANDARD* time as I recall the times. But hey! I could be wrong. :) Also, when has a scheduled move of a server ever been o...

serendipity · serendipity

is there a trick i don't know?

albertarose · albertarose

When I went to an open AA meeting last Friday I shared a little bit of my story on the topic that was chosen for the night. There was only 3 of us Alanons there. At the end of the meeting an A came up to me and asked if I could be the Alanon speaker for his group function that is being held on April 26th. I was so hono...

Maria123 · Maria123

Tomorrow (April 12th) is Imfree's (Rose) Birthday Happy, happy Birthday Rose

. I hope you have a beautiful day whatever you choose to do. love Maria

serendipity · serendipity

My dad's house sold. I am planning to buy my own home with the proceeds. I have to buy it outright as the foreclosure is still so recent. I found 2 houses that I love. Having just sold my dad's for far less than it was listed for the past 11 months, I know that it is a buyers market. At least here it is. If I wait to...

lilms · lilms

I can see there have been a few changes made to the board. Can someone please tell me what the five stars are in the upper right hand corner of peoples posts? Please, please, please tell me we are not rating people posts. If so, then everyone deserves 5 stars just for having the courage to go through thi...

serenity62 · serenity62

HI alanoner friends, I have some good news to tell you all, I have been looking for a sponsor to guide me on my journey and thankfully i have finally found one online.So im hoping with the help of the sponsor my journey will be easier, im sure it will be cuz i need guidance badly, since there is no f2f in my are...

Tammy · Tammy

Well, my husband and I talked today. We got nowhere but we talked. He is so angry at me and all the things that I did to him. Says, that he just doesnt think that he can forgive me. I said that is funny because, i have already forgiven you for all the terrible things that you have done to me. He has been sta...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends)))))) The book I lamented about purchasing has arrived and I have read it from front cover to back cover. I cannot say how huge this was for me to spend money on something I didn't need but only wanted. Diva, Thanks for threatening to come beat me up. lilms -- Edited by lilms at 16:44, 2007-...

Tammy · Tammy

As you know my alcoholic husband walked out on me and the kids on Easter. Just said he cant do it anymore and left crying ( so was I ) .. I cried all day Sunday and Sunday night then managed to get up and get myself off to work. Well, he called me to "check in" and see how I was doing. I said FINE, wel...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH has been taking huge risks with the drinking and driving lately and he finally got caught on Friday night. His last DWI was about 4 years ago. The second DWI in ten year's time is serious in this state. He tested at .25. I guess when he left the bar on Friday night he could hardly even walk. He now is tell...

andrea · andrea

Please is anybody out there that can help me, I really need to know what to do, I tried talking to my husband about it, but it turns out to be all about himself, should I send my son away so maybe he can start fresh in another country... I know that might not be the best solution but he does not want to go to rehab...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone)))) I think my HP must be trying to help me gain a new skill. Seems every where I look, there are people, not just my A, picking and choosing responsabilities and trying to offload them to me. I have come to handle many situations better these days, hostility, rage, self-pity (well, may...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends))))) Am still not ready to write about plan B, having a hard enough time just figuring it out. I do have a bright spot to look forward to. I have been invited to a chocolate tasting. How yummy is that????

Have a great day all lilms

shadow1 · shadow1

((((((((((Roomies)))))))) I have received notice that the server is being moved and the chat room will be down. "Due to a move to a new DataCentre, Chat4all will be down between 22:30 CET, 12/04/2007 and 8:00 CET, 13/04/2007." This converts to 4:30 pm est to 2:00 am est I think lol. Hope th...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

Administrative Professional's Day is April 25th. I want to send good wishes in advance to all Alanoners who serve in Al-Anon as leaders of meetings, as sponsors, as greeters, as members who give financial support when the basket is passed or through giving online, as someone who reaches out to newco...

andrea · andrea

Hi, I'm new at this, I hope I can get some insight on how to understand my son, I do now that he is using drugs and now has started drinking by himself at night so he can fall asleep, and then in the morning can't get up to go to work, he is 22 years old has not finished high school and has no futur in front of him. I h...

TLM · TLM

I am so being tested right now! Okay, sometimes my A is sober and works his program, and sometimes not. And that is testing me, but I am praying and trying really hard to have serenity around it, and take care of myself. NOW the receptionist in my office, who sits closest to me, has taken to drinking on h...

maresie2 · maresie2

I managed to find something temporary for a few weeks. It is not the answer I need but it is something and will mean I am not homeless for at least a few weeks. I am going to have to take on another job on top of that. I simply cannot bear to be around the A anymore. I have to go get my cats and a few things and then I...

Kim65 · Kim65

A few days ago I posted about 'losing it' with my A. He'd just come home after another week long binge. I told him to leave, and he refused. I remember feeling that rage shoot up through my body . . . I felt violence, hatred and despair. Then I posted here, which centered me. So after sleeping it off for a...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Just when I'm doing ok he calls. We talk like we always have. He listens to me and I listen to him. We talk and talk and talk. We hang up the phone and the tears fill my eyes. I miss him so much. I wish these calls were coming 5 years from now and he were to tell me that he's been straight. He may have his rea...

LaDawn · LaDawn

So I was watching Oprah today and it was about addictions this man on there was an alcoholic for over 50 years and he went through a research trial on a medication (a pill) that would reduce cravings for alcohol, he said after taking the first pill he never craved alcohol again and had been sober for 2 year...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

-- Edited by JulieLynn at 19:33, 2007-04-11

maresie2 · maresie2

I've been with the A at this address for 7 years. One of my principal hobbies has been the garden. I've hauled in soil, fertlizer, planed bushes, got pots, the place looked great. When the whole issue of moving came up I told the A over and over again that I wanted to make sure that all the plants went to peop...

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

I will try to pray, even when I am afraid to face You and myself, even when I keep falling asleep, or feel as though I am going around in circles, even when it seems that nothing is happening. . . . Let me see myself in the light of Your mercy and choose You. --HENRI NOUWEN ======================== This is th...

serendipity · serendipity

I came to the awareness that when my ex was "in love" with me, willing to do whatever I wanted, here at my beck and call, I couldn't stand him. I hated him. As soon as he pulled away I was heartbroken "oh how could he when I loved him so much." Or I would be stumped by the timing of me feel...

CJ · CJ

(((Family))) Thanks so much for the kind words and well wishes from my last post. I'm home safe along with the rest of the crew I work with. It was very nice to know and feel cared about, so thanks. Side note: A sibling of mine, whose marriage I though was very strong, is going through a tough time. I ca...

debilyn · debilyn

Where did ya go??? love,debilyn

maresie2 · maresie2

The A has not packed one single thing. He is sitting there living in la la land again. I think he always lived in la la land really. All his grandiose plans, all his friends, all his tantrums don't amount to accepting reality. I went today and filed all my papers. He did nothing last night but party wi...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, My father has progressed to this stage of the disease and is exhibiting insane symptoms while on benders now. I am wondering how long this takes to really take over, or is it just periodic. My sister is home for the weekend and really noticed the deterioration in him while drinking. He sat in th...

cloud123 · cloud123

Happy Easter family we Love you I did not take my Pic been up since 3 am baby has been sick ,we were at ER last night is a little better today Hope all is well Love cloud AKA Clud xoxoxoxo * wink Says i am a newbie LOL 2 yrs here it is cause I had to fix my name lol Senora bob got me with a trout that's why no rest for cl...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew t...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, Tonight, as I did those little things to take care of myself--made a plan for tomorrow, made lunch, relaxed soaking my feet in bath oil and read a magazine, I was reminded of how important it is to do these little things for myself. I feel better tonight, these types of things give me a lift!...

letitb · letitb

OK, I know this is not the best way to make a pretty important decision, but... My alcoholic husband has owned a small business for 10 years. During five years of that time he was not drinking. Two and half years ago he returned to drinking, and his business started sliding slowly. At this point, he ne...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

The day before yesterday, was a disaster visit. I was so wiped out. I actually let him borrow a total of $29 which he WILL give back. He is having a harder andharder time to get to work and the other day admitted he was an alcoholic and needed professional help, but added ME to the list of both if us that need p...

maresie2 · maresie2

At Easter every year my parents used to have some of my Uncles over from another country. No expense was spared for them. They had the best food, the best service. My mother awoke from her depression, she cooked, cleaned and played nice. Normally she was incredibly depressed, resentful angry and pl...

Diva · Diva

in the continuing saga of Bad, Bad, Bill. He took the job!!! He is relocating to San Antonio next month. The plot thickens...... In breathless anticipation of who knows what, Diva

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	I gave in last night. (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for 3 months. It has been a little over a month since he was arrested for possession. It has been a month full of ups and downs. He has been mad, sad and glad over that time. I have an easier time coping when he is mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me or see me. I can go on with l...	QOD	5	510	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	He's out... (Preview) He is out of jail. He called me at work. He hadn't been to my house, where he will find the locks changed, his things in the garage, a note from me listing my boundaries and a change of address form from the post office. If he listened to me or cared about what I was trying to say the last two weeks, he would k...	Leetle	5	583	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	I am Shattered. AH doesn't get it! (Preview) I am having a hard time of it today. My AH continues to push for reconciliation. Everything I say to him bounces right off of him. He refuses to accept an end to our relationship. He loves me, he'll wait for ever for me, give him another chance to make me happy, let him prove he can be the man he once was. ...	QOD	8	692	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	some prospective for your day.... (Preview) ON A SHOPPING TRIP with my daughter, a Navy flight surgeon, I noticed that one item on her list was Snoopy bandages. She said they were for some of her patients who were unnecessarily upset by their minor scratches and routine shots. Beaming with maternal pride, I told her how thoughtful she was to make...	Tiger2006	2	463	Apr 14, 2007 by Sunny2007
	How badly do I want to be healthy (Preview) Lately I feel like I have been wallowing in my insanity. At the same time I feel like I couldn't get out of it no matter what I did. I have choices but I have been making the wrong ones for the most part. Tonight, in my f2f it occured to me that the tools are right here at my fingertips and I just keep ignoring th...	serendipity	3	632	Apr 14, 2007 by BlueCloud
	Weekends without him are the worst!! (Preview) Here it is Friday afternoon and its another tough day. Friday nights we went to dinner and a movie, this was our routine for months and months. My weekends were always spent with my ex A b/f living our lives doing fun things and keeping busy. Now I sit here thinking, ok, what am I going to do this weekend....	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	9	518	Apr 14, 2007 by lin0606
	Still struggling :( (Preview) I told my husband yesterday about my doctors apt. and he actually got mad that I hadnt told him sooner. I told him that he had enough to do and didnt want him worrying about me. He keeps asking me how I feel, if I am having chest pains ? I havent (thank God) I also told him that I didnt want his decision about...	Tammy	9	900	Apr 14, 2007 by sandie123
	serenity, insanity, or surrender? (Preview) I can't tell if I've gone numb, or if I've found serenity. See, nothing's changed. I suppose that, when you get right down to it, the only thing that's really changed is me. I know my father's waiting--for me to "screw up, bomb out, or blow up," and he'll milk it for all it's worth. I know my mo...	Tiger2006	8	670	Apr 14, 2007 by CJ
	I'm sooooo tired..I feel like I'm getting old... (Preview) Now I found morphine in my daughters room, she's 19. When I confronted her, she actually asked for it back.. She dropped out of college, has called in sick to work the last few days, but insists she has no problem. when I inform her of her needing to pay her bills, car insurance, cell phone, etc., her boy f...	gimmpy	5	706	Apr 13, 2007 by lin0606
	A Mother's Broken Heart (Preview) My son just turned 19 this past weekend. He's been a struggling A for many years already. He's out in the world on his own. There is nothing I can do for him. I wrote this little poem a few days after his birthday and I'd like to share it. A Mother's Broken Heart A scrap book full of sadness, brings...	SingingLeaves	5	729	Apr 13, 2007 by Sallen
	Chat is Open again (Preview) Chat room is up and running kerry	kerry5	2	413	Apr 13, 2007 by Denoraphy
	Overtime Pressure At work (Preview) Some of the people I work with work over-time. At a meeting recently, one of the owners was hinting about us working over-time. One of the employees offered to bring in her son to work. The guilt feelings started bubbling within me, then I think about what is best for me and for my children. I felt very ang...	kissers	3	596	Apr 13, 2007 by Tiger2006
	needing HELP (Preview) I am sorry-perhaps this is not where I should post for feedback on this subject--but we can use alanon anywhere in our lives right? Oh I so wish I could. I have had asked for help before with my DIL-regarding soooo many issues of her "using"me--(and I guess I let her). I am the grandmother...	meagain	5	674	Apr 13, 2007 by Mobirdie
	Changing my focus (Preview) Hi friends, Thank you for your continued support and insight here at MIP! It helps so much. I still struggle with my AHsober's and my separation. He acts like an alcoholic - self centered. Why am I surprised? It makes me sad. I wonder how to keep my three grown together as a family. They each are in differe...	nmike	3	431	Apr 13, 2007 by Leetle
	Look for the beauty in today... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) It is so easy today for me to look at the dark side of life. Not just look, but stare at it. Started my day by having a civil conversation with my AW whom I have been seperated from for 6 months (for those who I haven't bored with the story yet), and she wants to start divorce proceeding...	rtexas	9	499	Apr 13, 2007 by Diva
	HOW do you "detach with love?" (Preview) In my former marriage, I practiced detachment - to the point where I no longer cared at all. I never even shed a tear at the end of that relationship. I know I am co-dependent, and I want to learn to detach, and still feel the feelings. Is it just me that is challenged with this? How do you all do it?	TLM	12	28163	Apr 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	hate (Preview) I hate my A (sober) husband.	lmt123	12	773	Apr 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	sunny 2007 (Preview) lol hey you or anyone can blame anything on me. lol I just really do not mind. I have said it before, when that guy was being blamed for the catastrophy in New Orleans, I was saying, for petes sake just blame me. quit wasting money and time on your buttsm over things that don't matter. Quit blaming and get b...	debilyn	2	577	Apr 13, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Lie after lie (Preview) I've discovered more lies that my AH has told me and I'm even more desparate to get rid of him and on with my life. I finally emailed his sister. I was afraid to do this because who knew what he was telling her about me. She knows him well enough to not believe anything he says, but I was amazed that even after I...	Lindy	5	723	Apr 13, 2007 by annmarie
	Why are some days harder than others? (Preview) Why are somedays without my A so much easier than other days? Yesterday was an OK day, but last night I just couldnt sleep because all I could do is think about my ex A B/F. I wondered if he's hurting as much as I am. I wonder if he has tears too. I went to an Alanon mtg last night and it really helped. The...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	4	563	Apr 12, 2007 by nmike
	sad, trying to detach, venting (Preview) Hi, I feel sad every time I talk to my oldest daughter or my grandaughter. My daughter has two children; my granddaughter has two and one on the way. They're both so depressed because they don't have the discipline to handle their finances. Every time I call them (we live 1,000 miles from eac...	carolena	7	546	Apr 12, 2007 by carolena
	I have to leave it alone (Preview) I went to family councling today with my 3 kids. My 12 yr old and her cutting herself is what motivated me. I went once last week alone to kind of explain what I/we need help with. It was good. My 12 yr old cried which is hard for her to do. For me to do also. I finally explained to her why her dad is again out of the...	serendipity	2	678	Apr 12, 2007 by carolena
	arrival of peeps! (Preview) Just wanted to update the room on having peeps on hand at the very last minute! lol There is no shortage at walgreens. Happy Easter weekend, wp aka mspw	wp	7	500	Apr 12, 2007 by ErinB
	CHAT ROOM CLOSED AS ANNOUNCED ... (Preview) See previous post on 9April07 entitled "NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13" posted by shadow1 Chatroom scheduled to reopen about 4AM EASTERN DAYLIGHT time, about 3AM EASTERN STANDARD time as I recall the times. But hey! I could be wrong. :) Also, when has a scheduled move of a server ever been o...	Sunny2007	1	463	Apr 12, 2007 by shadow1
	can't get into chat (Preview) is there a trick i don't know?	serendipity	3	477	Apr 12, 2007 by serendipity
	Was asked to be Alanon speaker for a function in my area. (Preview) When I went to an open AA meeting last Friday I shared a little bit of my story on the topic that was chosen for the night. There was only 3 of us Alanons there. At the end of the meeting an A came up to me and asked if I could be the Alanon speaker for his group function that is being held on April 26th. I was so hono...	albertarose	10	2915	Apr 12, 2007 by albertarose
	Birthday (Preview) Tomorrow (April 12th) is Imfree's (Rose) Birthday Happy, happy Birthday Rose . I hope you have a beautiful day whatever you choose to do. love Maria	Maria123	9	631	Apr 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	There is STILL no bread at the hardware store (Preview) My dad's house sold. I am planning to buy my own home with the proceeds. I have to buy it outright as the foreclosure is still so recent. I found 2 houses that I love. Having just sold my dad's for far less than it was listed for the past 11 months, I know that it is a buyers market. At least here it is. If I wait to...	serendipity	8	661	Apr 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Confused, are we rating posts now? (Preview) I can see there have been a few changes made to the board. Can someone please tell me what the five stars are in the upper right hand corner of peoples posts? Please, please, please tell me we are not rating people posts. If so, then everyone deserves 5 stars just for having the courage to go through thi...	lilms	10	965	Apr 12, 2007 by Rita G
	I got a SPONSOR :) (Preview) HI alanoner friends, I have some good news to tell you all, I have been looking for a sponsor to guide me on my journey and thankfully i have finally found one online.So im hoping with the help of the sponsor my journey will be easier, im sure it will be cuz i need guidance badly, since there is no f2f in my are...	serenity62	4	448	Apr 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	just another day in paradise :( (Preview) Well, my husband and I talked today. We got nowhere but we talked. He is so angry at me and all the things that I did to him. Says, that he just doesnt think that he can forgive me. I said that is funny because, i have already forgiven you for all the terrible things that you have done to me. He has been sta...	Tammy	4	558	Apr 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	DIVA, I HAVE THE BOOK!!!! (Preview) ((((Friends)))))) The book I lamented about purchasing has arrived and I have read it from front cover to back cover. I cannot say how huge this was for me to spend money on something I didn't need but only wanted. Diva, Thanks for threatening to come beat me up. lilms -- Edited by lilms at 16:44, 2007-...	lilms	5	516	Apr 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	okay, NOW what ????? (Preview) As you know my alcoholic husband walked out on me and the kids on Easter. Just said he cant do it anymore and left crying ( so was I ) .. I cried all day Sunday and Sunday night then managed to get up and get myself off to work. Well, he called me to "check in" and see how I was doing. I said FINE, wel...	Tammy	6	632	Apr 12, 2007 by roygbiv
	Another DWI for AH, financially ruined (Preview) My AH has been taking huge risks with the drinking and driving lately and he finally got caught on Friday night. His last DWI was about 4 years ago. The second DWI in ten year's time is serious in this state. He tested at .25. I guess when he left the bar on Friday night he could hardly even walk. He now is tell...	Lindy	10	636	Apr 12, 2007 by roygbiv
	need help understanding my son (Preview) Please is anybody out there that can help me, I really need to know what to do, I tried talking to my husband about it, but it turns out to be all about himself, should I send my son away so maybe he can start fresh in another country... I know that might not be the best solution but he does not want to go to rehab...	andrea	8	708	Apr 12, 2007 by mel123
	How do you handle irresponsability? (Preview) (((((Everyone)))) I think my HP must be trying to help me gain a new skill. Seems every where I look, there are people, not just my A, picking and choosing responsabilities and trying to offload them to me. I have come to handle many situations better these days, hostility, rage, self-pity (well, may...	rtexas	7	688	Apr 11, 2007 by wp
	A bright spot amidst plan B (Preview) ((((Friends))))) Am still not ready to write about plan B, having a hard enough time just figuring it out. I do have a bright spot to look forward to. I have been invited to a chocolate tasting. How yummy is that???? Have a great day all lilms	lilms	9	690	Apr 11, 2007 by wp
	NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13 (Preview) ((((((((((Roomies)))))))) I have received notice that the server is being moved and the chat room will be down. "Due to a move to a new DataCentre, Chat4all will be down between 22:30 CET, 12/04/2007 and 8:00 CET, 13/04/2007." This converts to 4:30 pm est to 2:00 am est I think lol. Hope th...	shadow1	2	542	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	good wishes in advance (Preview) Administrative Professional's Day is April 25th. I want to send good wishes in advance to all Alanoners who serve in Al-Anon as leaders of meetings, as sponsors, as greeters, as members who give financial support when the basket is passed or through giving online, as someone who reaches out to newco...	Sunny2007	3	589	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	need help understanding my son (Preview) Hi, I'm new at this, I hope I can get some insight on how to understand my son, I do now that he is using drugs and now has started drinking by himself at night so he can fall asleep, and then in the morning can't get up to go to work, he is 22 years old has not finished high school and has no futur in front of him. I h...	andrea	8	750	Apr 11, 2007 by andrea
	What is the lesson here???? (Preview) I am so being tested right now! Okay, sometimes my A is sober and works his program, and sometimes not. And that is testing me, but I am praying and trying really hard to have serenity around it, and take care of myself. NOW the receptionist in my office, who sits closest to me, has taken to drinking on h...	TLM	7	657	Apr 11, 2007 by QOD
	starting over (Preview) I managed to find something temporary for a few weeks. It is not the answer I need but it is something and will mean I am not homeless for at least a few weeks. I am going to have to take on another job on top of that. I simply cannot bear to be around the A anymore. I have to go get my cats and a few things and then I...	maresie2	9	485	Apr 11, 2007 by QOD
	Speaking of expectations . . . (Preview) A few days ago I posted about 'losing it' with my A. He'd just come home after another week long binge. I told him to leave, and he refused. I remember feeling that rage shoot up through my body . . . I felt violence, hatred and despair. Then I posted here, which centered me. So after sleeping it off for a...	Kim65	2	651	Apr 11, 2007 by TLM
	Another day missing him bad!! Trying to stay strong (Preview) Just when I'm doing ok he calls. We talk like we always have. He listens to me and I listen to him. We talk and talk and talk. We hang up the phone and the tears fill my eyes. I miss him so much. I wish these calls were coming 5 years from now and he were to tell me that he's been straight. He may have his rea...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	17	771	Apr 11, 2007 by HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
	Any luck with prescription meds to reduce alcohol cravings???? (Preview) So I was watching Oprah today and it was about addictions this man on there was an alcoholic for over 50 years and he went through a research trial on a medication (a pill) that would reduce cravings for alcohol, he said after taking the first pill he never craved alcohol again and had been sober for 2 year...	LaDawn	12	1227	Apr 11, 2007 by sash
	A perfect example of expectations leading to disappointment (Preview) -- Edited by JulieLynn at 19:33, 2007-04-11	JulieLynn	4	823	Apr 11, 2007 by twinmom2
	the garden (Preview) I've been with the A at this address for 7 years. One of my principal hobbies has been the garden. I've hauled in soil, fertlizer, planed bushes, got pots, the place looked great. When the whole issue of moving came up I told the A over and over again that I wanted to make sure that all the plants went to peop...	maresie2	4	577	Apr 11, 2007 by TLC2
	spiritual food (Preview) I will try to pray, even when I am afraid to face You and myself, even when I keep falling asleep, or feel as though I am going around in circles, even when it seems that nothing is happening. . . . Let me see myself in the light of Your mercy and choose You. --HENRI NOUWEN ======================== This is th...	Sunny2007	3	418	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	acceptance and action (Preview) I came to the awareness that when my ex was "in love" with me, willing to do whatever I wanted, here at my beck and call, I couldn't stand him. I hated him. As soon as he pulled away I was heartbroken "oh how could he when I loved him so much." Or I would be stumped by the timing of me feel...	serendipity	6	526	Apr 11, 2007 by serendipity
	Love you guys n dolls (Preview) (((Family))) Thanks so much for the kind words and well wishes from my last post. I'm home safe along with the rest of the crew I work with. It was very nice to know and feel cared about, so thanks. Side note: A sibling of mine, whose marriage I though was very strong, is going through a tough time. I ca...	CJ	10	1043	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	sunny (Preview) Where did ya go??? love,debilyn	debilyn	3	999	Apr 11, 2007 by Sunny2007
	denial denial denial (Preview) The A has not packed one single thing. He is sitting there living in la la land again. I think he always lived in la la land really. All his grandiose plans, all his friends, all his tantrums don't amount to accepting reality. I went today and filed all my papers. He did nothing last night but party wi...	maresie2	4	671	Apr 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Insanity and alcoholism (Preview) Dear all, My father has progressed to this stage of the disease and is exhibiting insane symptoms while on benders now. I am wondering how long this takes to really take over, or is it just periodic. My sister is home for the weekend and really noticed the deterioration in him while drinking. He sat in th...	maire rua	4	606	Apr 10, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Happy Easter Love clouds family..New pics of the baby (TYLER) & Brianna (Preview) Happy Easter family we Love you I did not take my Pic been up since 3 am baby has been sick ,we were at ER last night is a little better today Hope all is well Love cloud AKA Clud xoxoxoxo * wink Says i am a newbie LOL 2 yrs here it is cause I had to fix my name lol Senora bob got me with a trout that's why no rest for cl...	cloud123	7	549	Apr 10, 2007 by jrtjosey
	Having a bad day (Preview) At my new job. I switched to day shift because I had a hard time leaving A with the kids in the evenings. I had reservations, but I did it anyway. Some things are done different in day shift, but no one wants to tell me that. They just want to complain in whispers behind my back and make snide comments. I knew t...	RainyJamie	7	696	Apr 10, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Finding Peace and Serenity (Preview) Dear Roomies, Tonight, as I did those little things to take care of myself--made a plan for tomorrow, made lunch, relaxed soaking my feet in bath oil and read a magazine, I was reminded of how important it is to do these little things for myself. I feel better tonight, these types of things give me a lift!...	BlueCloud	3	616	Apr 10, 2007 by Kim65
	quick insight needed on "investing" in my SO (Preview) OK, I know this is not the best way to make a pretty important decision, but... My alcoholic husband has owned a small business for 10 years. During five years of that time he was not drinking. Two and half years ago he returned to drinking, and his business started sliding slowly. At this point, he ne...	letitb	9	1102	Apr 10, 2007 by Mobirdie
	doing ok today, after two days of visits w/ my A (Preview) The day before yesterday, was a disaster visit. I was so wiped out. I actually let him borrow a total of $29 which he WILL give back. He is having a harder andharder time to get to work and the other day admitted he was an alcoholic and needed professional help, but added ME to the list of both if us that need p...	hippietrippiechick	1	442	Apr 10, 2007 by Friendofyours
	repeating patterns (Preview) At Easter every year my parents used to have some of my Uncles over from another country. No expense was spared for them. They had the best food, the best service. My mother awoke from her depression, she cooked, cleaned and played nice. Normally she was incredibly depressed, resentful angry and pl...	maresie2	4	432	Apr 10, 2007 by emma
	for those of you who are interested.... (Preview) in the continuing saga of Bad, Bad, Bill. He took the job!!! He is relocating to San Antonio next month. The plot thickens...... In breathless anticipation of who knows what, Diva	Diva	6	736	Apr 10, 2007 by Diva
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