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ally · ally

Guys I am having a really challenging day...This morning I went to the GP's. (Docs)..Signed myself off the sick after 4 months..I will return to my job next week. Then I went into town to see my manager...I went in feeling great, confident with no aprehension at all....BUT, It didn't go as planned...

debilyn · debilyn

Found implies...... you were looking??? I do relate, from way back when. In my experience, detachment is the A's disease and him are two differnent things. His disease, if he uses or not, is commited or not to AA, going to his sponsor whatever, is none of my business. I don't have any desire to hear about...

pls · pls

I started the Alanon steps in February, got a temporary sponser in April. Now I am ready for a permanent sponser if anyone is willing. I am gradually working my way through the steps, but I realize I need some help with them sometimes. If you are willing let me know. Thanks!!!

Maria123 · Maria123

This is a very old letter that I received from someone in AA uses. I don't know the source; however, this truly helped me to understand that Alcoholism is a Disease not a choice. ================================================== Hello: Have we met before? If not let me tell you a little about myse...

kissers · kissers

I don't know why he is doing this. I work with an A. He is in sales and I am doing light sales. My boss asked me to contact a client to schedule an appointment with one of his clients. I called and scheduled the appointment. I walked over to the A and told him the date and time. He looked at his calendar and said o...

wp · wp

Congratulations to Stillkickin for tremendous achievements as mip student of the year !!!!!!!!

John · John

I just took a look at the activeboard.com's (who we purchase our message board from each month) stats information on their own site and what I found out is that they have 149,285 forums or message boards that are used for a variety of endeavors. And out of that hugh figure, this Al-Anon board is their si...

Morning Glory · Morning Glory

I just found this website and have not been to a meeting YET. My husband is halfway through a month-long rehab program. He drank heavily for 7 years before I met him, but hasn't touched alcohol for 20 years. But he has had an issue with prescription painkillers for about 15 years and displays what I'm t...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

For FriendOfYours, and all my other MIP AFG/Alateen.... Sometimes, even when you DO your job, you still can't win. FOR MANY YEARS I worked as a receptionist and switchboard operator at a busy company. After a good annual review, my supervisor told me I was up for a raise, pending approval of the...

Gailey · Gailey

Today is not a good day. I keep trying to turn my thoughts over to my HP. It works for a little while and then I am back wallowing in them. I see my A son getting worse. He cannot deal with problems he has and believe me they are mountains for him to get over. We make plans to help him get some things cleared up and...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi Everyone, I was thinking about all thats going on with another allegation on John. I also saw the last ones. It got me to thinking alot since it has happened. I am a little disturbed because things like this happen in our personal lives also, in work or, at home. It also made me remember how very much t...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

hi,i recently posted that i found a small whiskey bottle in my hubbys chester drawer empty so i jumped the guns and thought he had drank it and stuck the empty bottle there but i was wrong" thank gosh",i did question him on it and he said that one of the guys at his gaurd unit gave i...

marmare · marmare

I wanted all of you to know that I haven't forgotten you. I read the postings when time allows. I am busy with work, then taking a class two times a week, and then visiting with friends and family on my days off. My A is finding some sort of balance, he is still drinking but not using. We try and do things t...

hopefully · hopefully

I did it. I went this a.m. and everyone was sooo nice. I had a very surprising reaction tho--I was very emotional the whole time & felt like I was going to start crying at any minute. I've never been this way before-so emotional--esp. in public, with people I didn't know. Very strange. But I am going t...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), First full day w/hubby home from the hospital. The inhome nurse is here and cleaning his surgical site and giving him an anti-blood clotting shot. I'm a bit tired as I am not use to getting up every couple of hours. But I am starting to get back to semi-normal. (I was never normal...

hopefully · hopefully

I'm new to alanon & don't know much. My A is functional (never misses work) & in denial. However, he keeps a bottle in his car so he can manage the 20 min. ride home before he does some serious drinking. (he gets off at 3:00) He works 4 days a week so he has 3 days he can start drinking at 9 a.m. (It's 5 o'...

MaggiG · MaggiG

I just felt compelled to write. Alot of you know that I have had a series of losses in teh last year. To include the love of my life and my best friend just last night. No experience is ever not worth sharing especially what the experience touches you down deep to teh very fiber of your being. I had to lear...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Wow I can't beleive I have been in Al-anon for 3 years already this month.... It has been a journey let me tell ya it hasn't been rosey either but each year I see growth and each year I look back and say wow I made it through that tight spot..... When I came here in May 2004 my life was a living HELL and I didn't kn...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

So yesterday evening I'm dancing around the kitchen singing this song by Diana Ross...having a "I'm feeling really good" moment and celebrating overcoming a few challenges in my life. When my A calls. (if this board had sound effects you'd hear the sound of doom lol) Have you ever just w...

horselover58 · horselover58

I would like to share an analogy that I thought of the other day. I got the idea when I read an email from a friend of mine, her hubby is a drinking buddy with my hubby. It all started out when one man in their group got into a very serious motorcycle accident Sunday night after a weekend of drinking & ridi...

Rita G · Rita G

It seems like quite a few of us have been struggling lately with the consuming thoughts about what the A's in our lives our doing? Are they drinking/using? Are they really going to meetings? Are they really working a program? Is the AA thing for real? I say "us" because this is one of my to...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH got a DWI about a month ago and he told me he was going to treatment. He was going to be court ordered anyway, so he decided to do this to make him look better. Of course I didn't believe he was in treatment for one second, but after talking to him for a long time last night, he either is really in treatment...

meglet · meglet

AB/F has a new career...this career wouldn't be possible without his new-found sobriety. I am grateful for that. However, with this new career, he seems to have taken up being 'friendly' with other women. Some of these women have taken it upon themselves to contact him outside of business h...

serendipity · serendipity

I don't know how my ex surrounds himself with AA people that will tell him abandoning his kids and treating his ex wife like a total piec of dog doo is ok in the program. I DON'T GET IT!!!! How can any sober person in AA look at what he is/has done and say that it's ok? or right? How can they stick by him? When he...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I picked up the other two kids and told them that I was going to line them all up and ask the culprit to come forward. They already knew that I knew it was'nt them and I told them not to mention that I had been to their school and checked to see if they had it. I offered the opportunity to step forward and made i...

Jen · Jen

Took my ds to the dentist this morning. My A was going to haul water while we were gone. He did not do that. He decided to take a nap instead. It is raining now. The water should have been done before the road got wet again. Now it will make a mess of the road when he tries to drive on it. In the past I would have ba...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Situation: My oldest daughter (12) told me a few days back that my middle child has been stealing money out of my purse. Soooooo as a result I have been paying extra close attention to my cash. This morning I get up and all my cash is gone - six dollars! I have 3 children and witout fail every one of them will...

Jill · Jill

Dear Lord,So far today, I'm doing all right.I haven't gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self indulgent. I have not whined, complained, cursed, or eaten any chocolate. I have charged nothing on my credit card! However, I'll be getting out of bed in a minute, and I think I...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I am going thru a horrible time. My Alcoholic boyfriend not only cheated, but he left me for another woman. She is an alcoholic as well. I pray for them, but it might be better for Charlie to hit a major bottom to help see what he is doing to himself, and others. I had him show up yesterday, with one of his guy...

ally · ally

Guys, Men are out of bounds for me for a while.. Gees us it's tough work being in love...So I have went back to my first love...And hes the only man for me now.... Here he is...lol Most of you might know him.. And most of you know how much I Love him... Love Mee Am in recovery...gimme peace NOW you know im Craz...

nmike · nmike

(((((drucilla))))) Haven't heard from you in awhile. Hope everything is going well. Nancy

Maria123 · Maria123

Well most especially today is because you see, it's our younguns birfday. H-A-P-P-Y B-I-R-T-H-D-A-Y STILLKICKIN

Love ya, Maria P.S. I...

MaggiG · MaggiG

Hello family Maggi again is writing to convey another loss. Maggi lost her best friend from work this evening . Denise passed away tonight at 6 o clock for what we are not sure. She was instrumental in my acceptance of Ed's death. She had been getting over her fathers death. Denise was one of those folk...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

This morning I received a call from my ex A b/f. He blocked his # so I picked up the phone. I should know by now to never answer calls that come up restricted or private caller!! He was just calling to see how I am doing. I told him that I'm keeping busy, going out, meeting people, etc etc. He freaked! Hi...

Maria123 · Maria123

May 6, 2007 AL-ANON AGENDA I. Minutes Approval II. Ops Schedule III. Old Business a. None IV. Treasurer's Report V. New Business a. Al-Anon registration of this group has expired due to its no...

jaja · jaja

I just read Serendipity's post and, at one point wondered the same thing. My A was and still goes to AA but when I've brought up issues about our marriage and that it is stagnant - neither here nor there - he comes up with comments I couldn't believe his sponsor said (his sponsor has about 34 yrs. of s...

chris52 · chris52

((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))) Living in Turkey,I don't get the chance to keep very up to date with current music. Although it's getting better. (LOL!) There's this song that I have been hearing a lot recently,though I understand it's been around since 2005. Drives me nuts because I just love it and...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

It's my job to keep people (sick people mostly) safe, healthy, comfortable, and if I can, happy. Everyone remarks about this natural talent I have with the clients. A few of them are hard to please and very needy. Today I was scrambling around to get this and do that to satisfy someone who will never be s...

serendipity · serendipity

i just feel like i can't do it. i can't get out of bed, or get dressed, do the house stuff. i'm wrecked. where is my choice here? i don't want to be like this. i don't want to keep calling him. i want to stop crying. but as hard as i try to stop and go in a better direction i'm not. i feel like i've lost control. of my...

DelilahJones · DelilahJones

I found this a few years ago and copied it and hung it on the kitchen cupboard. You know how you do that and then it becomes part of the scenery and you really don't pay attention to it anymore. I was standing there finishing a cup of coffee yesterday morning and it grabbed my attention and after re-readi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), Hubby came out his surgery just fine yesterday. It was shorter than usual and he woke up rather quickly. All went really well! He was able to sit up and eat dinner (alas not pizza as he's been craving ) but he ate it anyway. He's obviously in pain, but they've got him fairly well...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

hi everyone,i finnally made it back here after a long time away sorry its taken me this long to get back,my life seems to be going to shambles,my mom recently went to the nursing home for multiple illness and my dad is now having heart problems and may have to have open heart surgery between mom and dad bot...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well husband is scheduled to go to court on Monday and I'm pondering going to see him since this is also visiting day. I know I know tiger...quit rubbernecking...but I just can't seem to help myself. I'm curious I want to know I want to hear all the sordid details. I'm half way moved on but the other hal...

maresie2 · maresie2

I have to go to court tomorrow to get the eviction taken off my record. I dont' see how I can't win and have it dismissed but I am not in control I would so appreciate it if you could all pray for me then. I need moral support and understanding. This is another mess the A set up and landed me with. He has made m...

DelilahJones · DelilahJones

2 weeks ago I told him I'm leaving at the end of the school year because of his drinking, smoking and unemployment and constant borrowing money from his parents (almost monthly for 7 years - they need to stop - but they won't). Things I've said before but never followed through on. This time I mean it....

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

AH was sober for 20 years and started drinking 2 years ago. In Feb I went to a lawyer to start divorce proceedings because I had to let go. AH then went into treatment and seemed to be doing well so I let him come back. Soon red flags started showing up all over. I kept asking him if I could help and he continued...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Welp.... this is a first for me. Went to my meeting today and the score was Guys 4 Girls 2.... I was blown away. I have been going there for over a year now and that is a first. Acturally the first time we had more than 3 guys at all. I am so easily entertained. LOL I have been brooding...

serendipity · serendipity

I can't even see straight. I don't even know if I can type. I can't stop sobbing. My mother (the bitch) just toloe me she saw my ex at the store with his new love. He was driving. They were grocery shopping. I hate him. how could he possibly move on?? I can't. i want to but i just can't. Heart is broken again. W...

tlallen · tlallen

Hello. I'm a college freshman at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and I'm writing a paper on the effects of alcoholic parents on children. After growing up with an alcoholic mother myself, this is a topic of special interest for me. I've prepared a survey to help with my paper, and if any of you...

serendipity · serendipity

I am so lonley. This saddness is just not letting up. I guess I'm grieving the loss of my marriage. I made my ah my best friend. I had other friends, I do have other friends, I have the love and support of this program. But (heard that one comming didn't ya?) I miss him. I think that is crazy. But (there it is a...

hopefully · hopefully

My A does not admit he has a problem b/c he never misses a day of work. We've been together for 14 yrs & slowly I've become more & more isolated. That's why I'm scared & anxious to go to an Alanon meeting this week. I have no family or friends for thousands of miles. I often do not leave the house f...

Gailey · Gailey

Sometimes I wonder what would be worse: my A son never getting recovery or getting it and relapsing, like so many do, further down the road. I know it sounds rather crazy but at least I know what he is doing now....that would be drinking...so I don't have to wonder about it. I know, I know....I need to deta...

ally · ally

((((((John)))))))) Whoever said Life was easy was lying....lol So your at the centre of attention again...You must be getting pretty fed up by now right...? I just would like to say.. I have been a member of your site for a year, I have been glad of the site for many reasons...... My Life was a complete ma...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) Whether you think you are or not.... if you are here - you are a risk taker. You took a risk at a better life by reaching out for help in this program. There are so many trials we go through together, and getting through to the other side is taking a risk. Could things acturally get w...

barisax · barisax

It says a lot about us. When we become adults, most of us have a choice when it comes to our friends. We don't chose our family, but as adults we DO have the option as to which members of the family we spend time with... and which ones we avoid. I *do* believe in playing favorites when it comes to how people...

kitty · kitty

Two weeks ago my friend called me from the airport talking for an hour... so clear & happy to come home; telling me about all the transformations he wanted to undergo; talking about implementing changes to make the world a better place; excited about exploring meditation & meta-physic...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello (((Friends))) I feel like I'm settling into a routine in the house without my AH. The kids and I worked in the yard this weekend, we kept busy and it felt really good. There is still some struggle with the kids missing him and of course I miss him too. The boys and I have a counseling session sch...

debilyn · debilyn

I know you are having a tough time, yet learning and progressing. how are you and the kiddos??? love,debilyn

maresie2 · maresie2

When I was contemplating leaving the A more than two years ago just before I came into Al anon my worst fear was what I am doing now. I felt that I would be going backwards living on my own, trying to squeeze my belongings into a small space, sharing and thought it would be hell. The issue for me of course it i...

annmarie · annmarie

Since I read all this rubbish about allegations against John, I have been very upset. Since I came her a year ago I have gotton so much help and much needed understanding from this board. If it wasn't for this help I would be in a bad state by now. It has helped me through so much, and aided me in my recovery....

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	STRUGGLING TODAY (Preview) Guys I am having a really challenging day...This morning I went to the GP's. (Docs)..Signed myself off the sick after 4 months..I will return to my job next week. Then I went into town to see my manager...I went in feeling great, confident with no aprehension at all....BUT, It didn't go as planned...	ally	7	599	May 5, 2007 by ally
	finding evidence, commitment gauging (Preview) Found implies...... you were looking??? I do relate, from way back when. In my experience, detachment is the A's disease and him are two differnent things. His disease, if he uses or not, is commited or not to AA, going to his sponsor whatever, is none of my business. I don't have any desire to hear about...	debilyn	6	748	May 5, 2007 by pls
	NEED A PERMANENT SPONSER PLEASE!!!! (Preview) I started the Alanon steps in February, got a temporary sponser in April. Now I am ready for a permanent sponser if anyone is willing. I am gradually working my way through the steps, but I realize I need some help with them sometimes. If you are willing let me know. Thanks!!!	pls	2	531	May 5, 2007 by pls
	Alcoholism is a Disease, Not a Choice (Preview) This is a very old letter that I received from someone in AA uses. I don't know the source; however, this truly helped me to understand that Alcoholism is a Disease not a choice. ================================================== Hello: Have we met before? If not let me tell you a little about myse...	Maria123	7	833	May 5, 2007 by pls
	The A at work is out to destroy me (Preview) I don't know why he is doing this. I work with an A. He is in sales and I am doing light sales. My boss asked me to contact a client to schedule an appointment with one of his clients. I called and scheduled the appointment. I walked over to the A and told him the date and time. He looked at his calendar and said o...	kissers	4	619	May 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Still award (Preview) Congratulations to Stillkickin for tremendous achievements as mip student of the year !!!!!!!!	wp	2	464	May 5, 2007 by Karilynn
	Wow.. Amazed... Mind Boggling... (Preview) I just took a look at the activeboard.com's (who we purchase our message board from each month) stats information on their own site and what I found out is that they have *149,285* forums or message boards that are used for a variety of endeavors. And out of that hugh figure, this Al-Anon board is their *si...*	John	5	962	May 4, 2007 by CJ
	Boundaries and detachment--Help! (Preview) I just found this website and have not been to a meeting YET. My husband is halfway through a month-long rehab program. He drank heavily for 7 years before I met him, but hasn't touched alcohol for 20 years. But he has had an issue with prescription painkillers for about 15 years and displays what I'm t...	Morning Glory	5	800	May 4, 2007 by lin0606
	For FriendOfYours... (Preview) For FriendOfYours, and all my other MIP AFG/Alateen.... Sometimes, even when you DO your job, you still can't win. FOR MANY YEARS I worked as a receptionist and switchboard operator at a busy company. After a good annual review, my supervisor told me I was up for a raise, pending approval of the...	Tiger2006	1	412	May 4, 2007 by Friendofyours
	rambling....long!!!!! (Preview) Today is not a good day. I keep trying to turn my thoughts over to my HP. It works for a little while and then I am back wallowing in them. I see my A son getting worse. He cannot deal with problems he has and believe me they are mountains for him to get over. We make plans to help him get some things cleared up and...	Gailey	5	507	May 4, 2007 by irish54
	Lets Show John What he does for us. (Preview) Hi Everyone, I was thinking about all thats going on with another allegation on John. I also saw the last ones. It got me to thinking alot since it has happened. I am a little disturbed because things like this happen in our personal lives also, in work or, at home. It also made me remember how very much t...	kerry5	9	713	May 4, 2007 by Jeannie
	catastrophizing agin as usual (Preview) hi,i recently posted that i found a small whiskey bottle in my hubbys chester drawer empty so i jumped the guns and thought he had drank it and stuck the empty bottle there but i was wrong" thank gosh",i did question him on it and he said that one of the guys at his gaurd unit gave i...	pattyann1963	4	788	May 4, 2007 by barisax
	Short Update (Preview) I wanted all of you to know that I haven't forgotten you. I read the postings when time allows. I am busy with work, then taking a class two times a week, and then visiting with friends and family on my days off. My A is finding some sort of balance, he is still drinking but not using. We try and do things t...	marmare	3	357	May 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	My first f2f!! (Preview) I did it. I went this a.m. and everyone was sooo nice. I had a very surprising reaction tho--I was very emotional the whole time & felt like I was going to start crying at any minute. I've never been this way before-so emotional--esp. in public, with people I didn't know. Very strange. But I am going t...	hopefully	9	997	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Now I can regroup! (Preview) (((((((Family))))), First full day w/hubby home from the hospital. The inhome nurse is here and cleaning his surgical site and giving him an anti-blood clotting shot. I'm a bit tired as I am not use to getting up every couple of hours. But I am starting to get back to semi-normal. (I was never normal...	Karilynn	6	585	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	How do I set boundaries? (Preview) I'm new to alanon & don't know much. My A is functional (never misses work) & in denial. However, he keeps a bottle in his car so he can manage the 20 min. ride home before he does some serious drinking. (he gets off at 3:00) He works 4 days a week so he has 3 days he can start drinking at 9 a.m. (It's 5 o'...	hopefully	3	1095	May 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	Family! (Preview) I just felt compelled to write. Alot of you know that I have had a series of losses in teh last year. To include the love of my life and my best friend just last night. No experience is ever not worth sharing especially what the experience touches you down deep to teh very fiber of your being. I had to lear...	MaggiG	6	655	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	MAY is 3 years in this Program........... (Preview) Wow I can't beleive I have been in Al-anon for 3 years already this month.... It has been a journey let me tell ya it hasn't been rosey either but each year I see growth and each year I look back and say wow I made it through that tight spot..... When I came here in May 2004 my life was a living HELL and I didn't kn...	bubbles1990	6	511	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	I'm coming out.... :-) (Preview) So yesterday evening I'm dancing around the kitchen singing this song by Diana Ross...having a "I'm feeling really good" moment and celebrating overcoming a few challenges in my life. When my A calls. (if this board had sound effects you'd hear the sound of doom lol) Have you ever just w...	Lunamoth	6	613	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Old job vs. New job (Preview) I would like to share an analogy that I thought of the other day. I got the idea when I read an email from a friend of mine, her hubby is a drinking buddy with my hubby. It all started out when one man in their group got into a very serious motorcycle accident Sunday night after a weekend of drinking & ridi...	horselover58	3	568	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	What are THEY doing? (Preview) It seems like quite a few of us have been struggling lately with the consuming thoughts about what the A's in our lives our doing? Are they drinking/using? Are they really going to meetings? Are they really working a program? Is the AA thing for real? I say "us" because this is one of my to...	Rita G	3	739	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	"Treatment talk" or really in treatment?? (Preview) My AH got a DWI about a month ago and he told me he was going to treatment. He was going to be court ordered anyway, so he decided to do this to make him look better. Of course I didn't believe he was in treatment for one second, but after talking to him for a long time last night, he either is really in treatment...	Lindy	5	798	May 4, 2007 by Maria123
	Mostly a lurker, but I'm really hurting.... (Preview) AB/F has a new career...this career wouldn't be possible without his new-found sobriety. I am grateful for that. However, with this new career, he seems to have taken up being 'friendly' with other women. Some of these women have taken it upon themselves to contact him outside of business h...	meglet	3	744	May 4, 2007 by Jerry F
	I hate AA (Preview) I don't know how my ex surrounds himself with AA people that will tell him abandoning his kids and treating his ex wife like a total piec of dog doo is ok in the program. I DON'T GET IT!!!! How can any sober person in AA look at what he is/has done and say that it's ok? or right? How can they stick by him? When he...	serendipity	10	3291	May 3, 2007 by kissers
	What I did about the money stealing... (Preview) I picked up the other two kids and told them that I was going to line them all up and ask the culprit to come forward. They already knew that I knew it was'nt them and I told them not to mention that I had been to their school and checked to see if they had it. I offered the opportunity to step forward and made i...	carolinagirl	5	659	May 3, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Feeling pretty good about myself today (Preview) Took my ds to the dentist this morning. My A was going to haul water while we were gone. He did not do that. He decided to take a nap instead. It is raining now. The water should have been done before the road got wet again. Now it will make a mess of the road when he tries to drive on it. In the past I would have ba...	Jen	3	466	May 3, 2007 by Jen
	A little off the subject and seeking advice or ESH (Preview) Situation: My oldest daughter (12) told me a few days back that my middle child has been stealing money out of my purse. Soooooo as a result I have been paying extra close attention to my cash. This morning I get up and all my cash is gone - six dollars! I have 3 children and witout fail every one of them will...	carolinagirl	11	745	May 3, 2007 by Diva
	Prayer (Preview) Dear Lord,So far today, I'm doing all right.I haven't gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self indulgent. I have not whined, complained, cursed, or eaten any chocolate. I have charged nothing on my credit card! However, I'll be getting out of bed in a minute, and I think I...	Jill	3	412	May 3, 2007 by Jen
	WANT TO LEARN ACCEPTANCE AND LET THIS MADDNESS GO. (Preview) I am going thru a horrible time. My Alcoholic boyfriend not only cheated, but he left me for another woman. She is an alcoholic as well. I pray for them, but it might be better for Charlie to hit a major bottom to help see what he is doing to himself, and others. I had him show up yesterday, with one of his guy...	hippietrippiechick	9	832	May 3, 2007 by gardengal
	ALLY'S ONLY MAN (Preview) Guys, Men are out of bounds for me for a while.. Gees us it's tough work being in love...So I have went back to my first love...And hes the only man for me now.... Here he is...lol Most of you might know him.. And most of you know how much I Love him... Love Mee Am in recovery...gimme peace NOW you know im Craz...	ally	7	551	May 3, 2007 by ally
	drucilla are you there? (Preview) (((((drucilla))))) Haven't heard from you in awhile. Hope everything is going well. Nancy	nmike	2	397	May 3, 2007 by annmarie
	It's All About Stillkickin AKA Buzzfree (Preview) Well most especially today is because you see, it's our younguns birfday. H-A-P-P-Y B-I-R-T-H-D-A-Y STILLKICKIN Love ya, Maria P.S. I...	Maria123	11	593	May 3, 2007 by java
	death (Preview) Hello family Maggi again is writing to convey another loss. Maggi lost her best friend from work this evening . Denise passed away tonight at 6 o clock for what we are not sure. She was instrumental in my acceptance of Ed's death. She had been getting over her fathers death. Denise was one of those folk...	MaggiG	10	744	May 2, 2007 by bubbles1990
	Jealousy rears its ugly head (Preview) This morning I received a call from my ex A b/f. He blocked his # so I picked up the phone. I should know by now to never answer calls that come up restricted or private caller!! He was just calling to see how I am doing. I told him that I'm keeping busy, going out, meeting people, etc etc. He freaked! Hi...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	7	670	May 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Sunday, May 6th Business Meeting Agenda, 9 PM Eastern Standard Time (Preview) May 6, 2007 AL-ANON AGENDA I. Minutes Approval II. Ops Schedule III. Old Business a. None IV. Treasurer's Report V. New Business a. Al-Anon registration of this group has expired due to its no...	Maria123	0	334	May 2, 2007 by Maria123
	Just what is being commited to AA? (Preview) I just read Serendipity's post and, at one point wondered the same thing. My A was and still goes to AA but when I've brought up issues about our marriage and that it is stagnant - neither here nor there - he comes up with comments I couldn't believe his sponsor said (his sponsor has about 34 yrs. of s...	jaja	5	794	May 2, 2007 by lin0606
	If only I had known how to save a life (Preview) ((((((((((Alanuts))))))))))) Living in Turkey,I don't get the chance to keep very up to date with current music. Although it's getting better. (LOL!) There's this song that I have been hearing a lot recently,though I understand it's been around since 2005. Drives me nuts because I just love it and...	chris52	2	603	May 2, 2007 by RainyJamie
	people pleasing person (Preview) It's my job to keep people (sick people mostly) safe, healthy, comfortable, and if I can, happy. Everyone remarks about this natural talent I have with the clients. A few of them are hard to please and very needy. Today I was scrambling around to get this and do that to satisfy someone who will never be s...	RainyJamie	6	619	May 2, 2007 by RainyJamie
	not one more step (Preview) i just feel like i can't do it. i can't get out of bed, or get dressed, do the house stuff. i'm wrecked. where is my choice here? i don't want to be like this. i don't want to keep calling him. i want to stop crying. but as hard as i try to stop and go in a better direction i'm not. i feel like i've lost control. of my...	serendipity	8	647	May 2, 2007 by serendipity
	Row, row, row your boat... (Preview) I found this a few years ago and copied it and hung it on the kitchen cupboard. You know how you do that and then it becomes part of the scenery and you really don't pay attention to it anymore. I was standing there finishing a cup of coffee yesterday morning and it grabbed my attention and after re-readi...	DelilahJones	2	464	May 2, 2007 by hudsond
	Quick update (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), Hubby came out his surgery just fine yesterday. It was shorter than usual and he woke up rather quickly. All went really well! He was able to sit up and eat dinner (alas not pizza as he's been craving ) but he ate it anyway. He's obviously in pain, but they've got him fairly well...	Karilynn	8	518	May 2, 2007 by hersh
	sad and depressed (Preview) hi everyone,i finnally made it back here after a long time away sorry its taken me this long to get back,my life seems to be going to shambles,my mom recently went to the nursing home for multiple illness and my dad is now having heart problems and may have to have open heart surgery between mom and dad bot...	pattyann1963	6	505	May 2, 2007 by nmike
	Moving on but not moving on... (Preview) Well husband is scheduled to go to court on Monday and I'm pondering going to see him since this is also visiting day. I know I know tiger...quit rubbernecking...but I just can't seem to help myself. I'm curious I want to know I want to hear all the sordid details. I'm half way moved on but the other hal...	carolinagirl	9	712	May 2, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	Please send prayers for me at 9:00 am. PST time (Preview) I have to go to court tomorrow to get the eviction taken off my record. I dont' see how I can't win and have it dismissed but I am not in control I would so appreciate it if you could all pray for me then. I need moral support and understanding. This is another mess the A set up and landed me with. He has made m...	maresie2	4	380	May 2, 2007 by Rita G
	AH just doesn't get it (Preview) 2 weeks ago I told him I'm leaving at the end of the school year because of his drinking, smoking and unemployment and constant borrowing money from his parents (almost monthly for 7 years - they need to stop - but they won't). Things I've said before but never followed through on. This time I mean it....	DelilahJones	5	523	May 2, 2007 by DelilahJones
	made one more attempt and failed (Preview) AH was sober for 20 years and started drinking 2 years ago. In Feb I went to a lawyer to start divorce proceedings because I had to let go. AH then went into treatment and seemed to be doing well so I let him come back. Soon red flags started showing up all over. I kept asking him if I could help and he continued...	tryingtoheal	3	462	May 2, 2007 by tryingtoheal
	Guys outnumbered the Girls (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Welp.... this is a first for me. Went to my meeting today and the score was Guys 4 Girls 2.... I was blown away. I have been going there for over a year now and that is a first. Acturally the first time we had more than 3 guys at all. I am so easily entertained. LOL I have been brooding...	rtexas	5	645	May 2, 2007 by cac
	Hurt help me (Preview) I can't even see straight. I don't even know if I can type. I can't stop sobbing. My mother (the bitch) just toloe me she saw my ex at the store with his new love. He was driving. They were grocery shopping. I hate him. how could he possibly move on?? I can't. i want to but i just can't. Heart is broken again. W...	serendipity	5	512	May 2, 2007 by annmarie
	Children of Alcoholics Survey (Preview) Hello. I'm a college freshman at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and I'm writing a paper on the effects of alcoholic parents on children. After growing up with an alcoholic mother myself, this is a topic of special interest for me. I've prepared a survey to help with my paper, and if any of you...	tlallen	7	1428	May 1, 2007 by tea2
	sad, confused, lonley (Preview) I am so lonley. This saddness is just not letting up. I guess I'm grieving the loss of my marriage. I made my ah my best friend. I had other friends, I do have other friends, I have the love and support of this program. But (heard that one comming didn't ya?) I miss him. I think that is crazy. But (there it is a...	serendipity	9	628	May 1, 2007 by pattyann1963
	Isolation & functioning A (Preview) My A does not admit he has a problem b/c he never misses a day of work. We've been together for 14 yrs & slowly I've become more & more isolated. That's why I'm scared & anxious to go to an Alanon meeting this week. I have no family or friends for thousands of miles. I often do not leave the house f...	hopefully	5	1044	May 1, 2007 by abbyal
	don't know which is worse (Preview) Sometimes I wonder what would be worse: my A son never getting recovery or getting it and relapsing, like so many do, further down the road. I know it sounds rather crazy but at least I know what he is doing now....that would be drinking...so I don't have to wonder about it. I know, I know....I need to deta...	Gailey	6	655	May 1, 2007 by rtexas
	FOR JOHN aka (OPSY) (Preview) ((((((John)))))))) Whoever said Life was easy was lying....lol So your at the centre of attention again...You must be getting pretty fed up by now right...? I just would like to say.. I have been a member of your site for a year, I have been glad of the site for many reasons...... My Life was a complete ma...	ally	1	523	May 1, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Risk taking (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Whether you think you are or not.... if you are here - you are a risk taker. You took a risk at a better life by reaching out for help in this program. There are so many trials we go through together, and getting through to the other side is taking a risk. Could things acturally get w...	rtexas	4	822	May 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	The Company We Keep (Preview) It says a lot about us. When we become adults, most of us have a choice when it comes to our friends. We don't chose our family, but as adults we DO have the option as to which members of the family we spend time with... and which ones we avoid. I do believe in playing favorites when it comes to how people...	barisax	5	662	May 1, 2007 by Rita G
	Disease Picks Up Where It Leaves Off (Preview) Two weeks ago my friend called me from the airport talking for an hour... so clear & happy to come home; telling me about all the transformations he wanted to undergo; talking about implementing changes to make the world a better place; excited about exploring meditation & meta-physic...	kitty	2	537	May 1, 2007 by Rita G
	Feeling a little healthier (Preview) Hello (((Friends))) I feel like I'm settling into a routine in the house without my AH. The kids and I worked in the yard this weekend, we kept busy and it felt really good. There is still some struggle with the kids missing him and of course I miss him too. The boys and I have a counseling session sch...	twinmom2	7	688	May 1, 2007 by sash
	a carolinagirl where are you only. (Preview) I know you are having a tough time, yet learning and progressing. how are you and the kiddos??? love,debilyn	debilyn	1	361	May 1, 2007 by carolinagirl
	My worst fears (Preview) When I was contemplating leaving the A more than two years ago just before I came into Al anon my worst fear was what I am doing now. I felt that I would be going backwards living on my own, trying to squeeze my belongings into a small space, sharing and thought it would be hell. The issue for me of course it i...	maresie2	5	586	May 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	to John (Preview) Since I read all this rubbish about allegations against John, I have been very upset. Since I came her a year ago I have gotton so much help and much needed understanding from this board. If it wasn't for this help I would be in a bad state by now. It has helped me through so much, and aided me in my recovery....	annmarie	0	476	May 1, 2007 by annmarie
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