Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

pabell · pabell

I know that my husbands recovery is his recovery and not mine. I know it's not my business and I can not control him or the alcohol, and I am not responisible for it. I know all this and I believe all this. But warning lights are screaming in my brain and in my house right now and I'm having a hard time ig...

Flutterby · Flutterby

Hey Guys, I'm new here, so please bear with me. I'm not sure if this is even the right place for me, so maybe you guys can guide me in the right direction? Hello to everyone and Thank You for reading this. A little bit of background before I start... This may be a little long. I recently divorce...

david62 · david62

Hello ((((Family)))) I want to tell you about a dream I had two nights ago. In this dream I am at work and we are having a going away party for someone who is leaving the company. There are many people there whom I work with, and some that I don't know at all. It seems like everyone is having a great time. At o...

kerry5 · kerry5

A Boy a Man and A Donkey An old man, a boy & a donkey were going to town. The boy rode on the donkey & the old man walked. As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame the old man was walking & the boy was riding. The man & boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they...

debilyn · debilyn

For some reason 1981 hit me today. 26 years, I am 54 now. My husband got drunk, he was twenty seven. Then got himself ran over. Lived a week. I was only twenty eight years old with a four and five year old. And had to make all the decisions. Had to tell them to turn the machines off, at twenty eight. Today it hit...

serendipity · serendipity

I have been sad again the past few days, missing my ex. Missing my best friend. It's not as bad as it has been but it still hurts. I do wonder if it is him I am missing or the idea of him. But when he was good he was very, very good. We talked every night on the phone, we shared all our thoughts and concerns about t...

debilyn · debilyn

Would really appreciate what you all think of this. My A husband has always had migraines. When he was in recovery he refused to even take an aspirin. After the brain surgery, the headaches were horribly worse. There was no question he had them as I saw him miserable in his sleep, plus he would change and...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) Wanted to share from the open AA meeting AH and I went to last night. The topic was Relapse. I guess the burning concern was whether or not relapse is a part of recovery or not. Some had shared recently that they had had dreams of their loved one's relapsing me, included. It was interes...

kissers · kissers

I was hired to help cover a couple large accounts. Included in this coverage was marketing responsibilities. I was approached by our two sales reps and told they did not want me to contact their clients anymore. One of the sales reps mentioned that I've been in sales before and no one other than the sale...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Anyone else ever have abandonment dreams? My ahsober relapsed this time the last time and I know this and for some reason I have been having dreams of him drinking again. I don't know if these are "pregnant" dreams or if I am genuinly scared he's going to relapse again. So I guess I wanted to kn...

chris52 · chris52

(((((((Alanuts)))))))) I just HAD to share these. My gorgeous baby Grandson and his very first holiday with his Grandma................ME!!!! We got to do lots of exiting things together and get to know each other. Feeding him lots of nutritious healthy organic foods all week.....then...........

ally · ally

-- Edited by ally at 09:59, 2007-05-27

kissers · kissers

Someone had a part of the ODAT posted online. It discussed broken promises and how our past childhood can affect our feelings on the present. For example, if a SO shows up late or doesn't show up at all, it is our reaction of being upset that is wrong not the other person for breaking a promise. I don't thin...

ally · ally

Let anger show, do not "clown feelings away" or argue inside your head without telling the offender. Trust your feelingsundeserved verbal or nonverbal abuse brings on feelings of rage and fear within us. Remember, sick people act in sick ways in spite of you, not because of you! Yo...

Loupiness · Loupiness

A few months ago I mentioned to a friend how I tend to be a pessimist and expect the worst, because I am afraid if I hope for the best, then if definately won't happen. She looked at me like I was nuts. So, then I started asking other friends and they all had a similar response; they always have hope. So, now...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I spent the day at the beach and then decided to take birthday girl and the rest of us out to the mexican restaurant in town. When it came time to get my check the waiter told me someone had already paid the bill. Mind you, I have one or two friends in this town and don't know many people even casually. He wa...

chris52 · chris52

((((((Alanuts))))))) My beloved A and I have been separated 16 months now.(He is Turkish,I am English living in Turkey). We live 18 hours driving time apart.....and I have been doing well(THANKS in no small part to the wonderful friendship and ESH I got from my wonderful friends here on MIP) I let him...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))) You will not believe this. I didn't, you all know I opened a f2f group. And tonight I didn't feel like going. I was tired after working all week. And the other woman who goes with me text me to apologise, she couldn't make it...argg. So I said "Ally Girl, YOU made a co...

serendipity · serendipity

I've been attending f2f meetings for 4 years. Step meetings, Tradition meetings and Wednesday was the first time I actually understood what people were talking about when they say they had a hard time with step 2 or 3. I have faith in my Hp whom I choose to call God. I always have. I trust God in my life but...

janey225 · janey225

How do you let the A do what they are going to do and not let it affect you or the children. My AH lies to me all the time. he says it is getting better he is seeing a difference in himself. He has been gone for a month. He is suposed to come home next week. I thought I was ready until last night. We talked the other d...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello ((((((friends)))))))), Just thought I would pop in with a little post on how life has been for me... so sorry I haven't been around just so darn busy.. life however is calming down finally... will have some time to drop in... I have missed all of you very much and have often wondered how everyo...

Permanent ban of MIP members. · Diva

First allow me to make clear the fact that I, like lilms, appreciate the job the moderators of this board do for all of us. Theirs is a thankless job for the most part, and one that is very necessary. So...thanks. I have a hard time accepting censorship of any kind. I will qualify that by saying that cur...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I just feel all beat up and like a loser. I just want to curl up and cry but whenever I do that I feel like I lost again. Ah took my wallet and went to the store last night after I was asleep. Shouldn't be so dissappointed, but we were supposed to do something today, and he can't get up, he has a headache and he sta...

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((((((((Leetle)))))))))))))), Happy Birthday to you I hope you have a wonderful day today and get to eat some I'm so glad you keep coming. You are a wonderful edition to our Miracles In Progress and are a miracle yourself. Love, Maria

maresie2 · maresie2

i spent hours and hours and hours preparing documents regarding the landlord stuff. I just heard from the attoney I sent it to they wn't be able to help me. Now I have to go back to another attorney and ask him. I am so sick of dealing with the a's messes. I am so sick of getting absolutely no help from any...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

That's all I have to say.

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

To all of you who helped me see my way through this, thank you. Last week I submitted a post about whether or not I should allow my 14 year old to attend a concert with my step daughter. With all the feedback I got, I decided that my gut instinct to not allow her to go was just. So, I simply told her "No,...

bob6502 · bob6502

Tradition Twelve goes as follows: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. When I first got into Al-Anon 15 years ago, I jumped into a Group Representative position early on in my recovery. That group was my home group f...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I got a call today (not collect) from my husband saying that he had been released. I told him that he has a charmed life and I guess he better go try again since they won't seem to keep him for anything. His crime had a minimum sentence of several years. He said that the PD was going into private practice a...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

He had a couple beers (so did I) on Sunday, when a friend wanted us to drink his home brew. Maybe if I refrained he would have also, but honestly I doubt it. To the best of my knowledge, that was the last time he drank untill today, when I found a bottle cap in the garbage. I went straight to my daughter's coin p...

lin0606 · lin0606

This was a bit of a digression in the other post, so I thought it might be useful and interesting to discuss it here. I brought up the point that this is an alanon board, and that we should keep the focus on the program. One response to this was: "So what if someone says something which directly contra...

lin0606 · lin0606

I'm posting this mostly to keep myself on track - if it is here in black and white, I can't pretend I don't need to do it..... As many of you know, my husband is very sick and is not expected to live much longer. I'm not very happy with his doctor - he doesn't really have that much experience, I don't think, wi...

harmony · harmony

Hi again. I am going to try to make it to some meetings, but not sure how that is going to fit in with my busy schedule. There are no meetings near my house at a time that would work very good. There is one about 15 mins from work, so i might try to hit a lunch meeting. Anyway, I thought maybe starting with a book...

lilms · lilms

(((((Roomies)))))))))))) Am back from a very short but much needed vacation. Didn't go far (Toronto). I had a marvelous time tramping from one end of the city to the other, eating all kinds of yummy stuff (caribbean, thai, vietnamese, east indian) and visiting with people I love and whom adore me. I...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), As we approach this Memorial Day here in the US, please let us take a moment to remember what it is really for. It is not the unofficial start to the summer season. It is not about the sales. It is not about the picnics, barbques and what not. It is about remembering those who have...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I hate regrets. I wish I had started educating myself on the disease of ahism, its effects on me, and the al-anon principles way before my AH entered rehab, however, I was in denial until the day he entered. When he came out, I shouldn't have let him move back in right away. I let him put me in the position...

java · java

This poem spoke to me: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters I walk, down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am Lost... I am hopeless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walk down the same street There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fal...

dajones1315 · dajones1315

I hope I came to the right place. It is long but I shortened it. I am sad and try to stay strong but inside I am weakening. Any advice please email me. Thanks in advance. Hi, I am a bit stressed and know I do need help. Yes I was the fighter in the family the one who helped mom. My father is a recovering alcoholic...

Rita G · Rita G

Picture me in front of a microphone - tapping "tap, tap . . can you hear me . . . is this thing on?" That is how I have felt all week. So I have come to the conclusion that either my volume should be turned up or someone should clean out their ears! Ok, I'm breathing and repeating I'm powerles...

java · java

I'm switching servers and that's always a pain. I 'm going back to my original one, so hopefully it won't take that long. I also am having some computer problems that I may have to take it in for, so If you miss me, that's why, but I'll be back soon. Java, (a.k.a. Overcome in chat)

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone)))))) Had a good weekend full of sports with our son. My wife came along and enjoyed herself, but was drinking when we left and drank each night we were gone. At least she was in a good mood for the trip. As has happened in the past, our good weekends are like a sugar high... it gets you all u...

lilms · lilms

((((((MIP FAMILY)))))) I have just realized that I have posted over 300 times in a year. Didn't realize I talked so much. Why didn't any of ya'll tell me to zip it?????????? Now I am off to dreamland and will behave myself. lilms

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

found that they purposely dated people they knew they wouldn't be interested in having a relationship with and avoided ones they potentially would?

lilms · lilms

((((((((mods))))))))) WOW!!!! Go on vacation for a couple of days and you miss all kinds of stuff. Seriously, I would like to extend my heartfelt gratitude and thanks for all of the work you all do for the benefit of this forum. I see that there are over 3000 registered users. Unfortunately, amongs...

bev · bev

hi all.havent posted in awhile,so i thought it was time to post.AH is doing very well,he is in treatment and has been for almost 4 months now.he just found out that he was and never was bi-polar{mistake of upstate ny}but he does have anger issue the same thing his dad had.and he is now on meds to control i...

Karaokejacky · Karaokejacky

At times I find myself over-reacting to the things that happen with my addict/ alcoholic husband. The things he says or doesn't say, the things he does, or doesn't do. When will I learn to "Let go and Let God" ? Last night at my home group Al-Anon meeting the topic was detatchment and I lear...

gardengal · gardengal

Living with an addict/alcoholic seriously affects our feelings of self worth. We constantly have guilt from thinking somehow, someway we are responsible for anothers addiction. This can lead us into thinking we dont have the ability to do anything right, and can develope into a real sense of sel...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello friends, I have not been on for awhile but have been reading a few post to try and figure out what my A's (hubby, and Stepdaughter) are doing. In May of 2006 my stepdaughter who has a drinking problem came to live with my hubby and myself with her little boy due to physical abuse she was getting from he...

maresie2 · maresie2

Last night I spoke to the Uncle that the A is supposed to be moving up to live near by. Apparently the A lies to everyone. He has pained this picture that he has everything under control and it is all a-ok. I told the Uncle the truth. He said that the A could of course stay up there but he hadn't asked and he...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, the first day of school went well, although a class I really needed was cancelled and I'm trying to pick it up online at any other community colege in the state at the moment so my timeline stays on track. Otherwise I feel confident I will do well in my other two classes and one of them opted to only me...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone))) Yesterday my f2f meeting was about courage, where do we get it and how do we "fill up" when we seem on empty. It was a great meeting. One person said it only cost them a dollar to fill up (our meeting contribution) which I thought was a really cool response. Alanon has given m...

Kim65 · Kim65

I've been rolling a post around in my mind for a few hours . . . I'm talking about the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. I am terrible at remembering entire plots but I remember the premise of the movie . . . the guy wakes up to the same day over and over and over again, at first fighting against it, trying...

phooey · phooey

My alcoholic husband goes through periods of the silent treatment. He does not touch me or talk to me. He spends most of his time when he is home in front of the TV. I try to give him a kiss when he leaves for work or when I get home for week and I always ask how his day went but it is really hard to be nice to him...

Demilas · Demilas

I let my A make me so mad that I threatened to move out, and now he is telling me to just get my stuff and leave now. Almost everything in the house is mine and would take a lot of people and a lot of work to move it all out. He says I have to get it all at once, because he won't let me back in the house. All was said w...

Tammy · Tammy

I feel like I am screaming inside... This past weekend was so emotional. My son graduated and I was so proud. I went nearly 2 weeks without seeing my husband and only speaking with him a couple of times only brief conversations. Then BAM- the graduation and he sat right next to me. I cried and cried mo...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I decided I'm going to go for this master's program to make more money for the kids, a total change in careers and I have to take about a year of prerequisites to even apply. I started classes today on the prereqs. I haven't been to college in about 8 years and it's weird but already I have met new peop...

harmony · harmony

Hi Everyone, I am new here and have only attended one al-anon meeting about 11 years ago. I have been doing some reading on the three C's and am going to try to attend a meeting sometime this week. Anyway, I have been married to an alcoholic for 9 and a half years and my mother is an alcoholic who just got out o...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((Everyone)))))) So this morning I am sitting on my back poarch drinking some juice... (I don't do coffee) and I hear a squirel on the roof running around. That is not unusual because I have oak trees and they love the accorns. They like to hide them everywhere.... in my car, in the bar-b-que pit,...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

((((Roomies))) I posted this initially in response to Java's post on Wasted Time, but wanted to repost it here for thoughts, reflections, and responses. I shared last night at my F2F about fear and I have since felt some healing in this area for me. Here's the jist of my spiritual learning... Recently...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have someone who has offered to be my sponsor. Her AH became sober 17 yrs ago and never looked back. Thus, she hasn't been to Al-anon in a long time and is not sure how to sponsor, and I'm not sure how to work the program. Are there any "directions" so we can figure this out together? Thanks, L...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Where is the line? (Preview) I know that my husbands recovery is his recovery and not mine. I know it's not my business and I can not control him or the alcohol, and I am not responisible for it. I know all this and I believe all this. But warning lights are screaming in my brain and in my house right now and I'm having a hard time ig...	pabell	7	764	May 29, 2007 by Karilynn
	New here...please help. (Preview) Hey Guys, I'm new here, so please bear with me. I'm not sure if this is even the right place for me, so maybe you guys can guide me in the right direction? Hello to everyone and Thank You for reading this. A little bit of background before I start... This may be a little long. I recently divorce...	Flutterby	10	648	May 29, 2007 by Flutterby
	All You need is Love (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) I want to tell you about a dream I had two nights ago. In this dream I am at work and we are having a going away party for someone who is leaving the company. There are many people there whom I work with, and some that I don't know at all. It seems like everyone is having a great time. At o...	david62	6	676	May 29, 2007 by Andrea12
	A Boy A Man and a Donkey (Preview) A Boy a Man and A Donkey An old man, a boy & a donkey were going to town. The boy rode on the donkey & the old man walked. As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame the old man was walking & the boy was riding. The man & boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they...	kerry5	7	758	May 29, 2007 by Dorothy
	When you ask, will it ever get better? (Preview) For some reason 1981 hit me today. 26 years, I am 54 now. My husband got drunk, he was twenty seven. Then got himself ran over. Lived a week. I was only twenty eight years old with a four and five year old. And had to make all the decisions. Had to tell them to turn the machines off, at twenty eight. Today it hit...	debilyn	7	670	May 28, 2007 by Lunamoth
	What Am I Missing? (Preview) I have been sad again the past few days, missing my ex. Missing my best friend. It's not as bad as it has been but it still hurts. I do wonder if it is him I am missing or the idea of him. But when he was good he was very, very good. We talked every night on the phone, we shared all our thoughts and concerns about t...	serendipity	5	693	May 28, 2007 by nmike
	A past experience with AH and pills (Preview) Would really appreciate what you all think of this. My A husband has always had migraines. When he was in recovery he refused to even take an aspirin. After the brain surgery, the headaches were horribly worse. There was no question he had them as I saw him miserable in his sleep, plus he would change and...	debilyn	5	603	May 28, 2007 by ET
	Relapse (Preview) (((Friends))) Wanted to share from the open AA meeting AH and I went to last night. The topic was Relapse. I guess the burning concern was whether or not relapse is a part of recovery or not. Some had shared recently that they had had dreams of their loved one's relapsing me, included. It was interes...	twinmom2	4	738	May 28, 2007 by TLC2
	What Am I Not Seeing? (Preview) I was hired to help cover a couple large accounts. Included in this coverage was marketing responsibilities. I was approached by our two sales reps and told they did not want me to contact their clients anymore. One of the sales reps mentioned that I've been in sales before and no one other than the sale...	kissers	2	616	May 28, 2007 by Diva
	Dreams? (Preview) Anyone else ever have abandonment dreams? My ahsober relapsed this time the last time and I know this and for some reason I have been having dreams of him drinking again. I don't know if these are "pregnant" dreams or if I am genuinly scared he's going to relapse again. So I guess I wanted to kn...	Friendofyours	13	741	May 28, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Can you guess I am besotted?? (Preview) (((((((Alanuts)))))))) I just HAD to share these. My gorgeous baby Grandson and his very first holiday with his Grandma................ME!!!! We got to do lots of exiting things together and get to know each other. Feeding him lots of nutritious healthy organic foods all week.....then...........	chris52	10	826	May 28, 2007 by Becky1
	YOU !!!!!! (Preview) -- Edited by ally at 09:59, 2007-05-27	ally	4	601	May 28, 2007 by ally
	Broken Promises (Preview) Someone had a part of the ODAT posted online. It discussed broken promises and how our past childhood can affect our feelings on the present. For example, if a SO shows up late or doesn't show up at all, it is our reaction of being upset that is wrong not the other person for breaking a promise. I don't thin...	kissers	1	427	May 27, 2007 by confused
	ANGER (Preview) Let anger show, do not "clown feelings away" or argue inside your head without telling the offender. Trust your feelingsundeserved verbal or nonverbal abuse brings on feelings of rage and fear within us. Remember, sick people act in sick ways in spite of you, not because of you! Yo...	ally	2	644	May 27, 2007 by Friendofyours
	A poll.... (Preview) A few months ago I mentioned to a friend how I tend to be a pessimist and expect the worst, because I am afraid if I hope for the best, then if definately won't happen. She looked at me like I was nuts. So, then I started asking other friends and they all had a similar response; they always have hope. So, now...	Loupiness	9	637	May 27, 2007 by Tiger2006
	A strange thing happened at the Mexican Restaurant... (Preview) I spent the day at the beach and then decided to take birthday girl and the rest of us out to the mexican restaurant in town. When it came time to get my check the waiter told me someone had already paid the bill. Mind you, I have one or two friends in this town and don't know many people even casually. He wa...	carolinagirl	3	497	May 27, 2007 by Tiger2006
	He finally did something nice...so why does it hurt so much? (Preview) ((((((Alanuts))))))) My beloved A and I have been separated 16 months now.(He is Turkish,I am English living in Turkey). We live 18 hours driving time apart.....and I have been doing well(THANKS in no small part to the wonderful friendship and ESH I got from my wonderful friends here on MIP) I let him...	chris52	6	666	May 27, 2007 by chris52
	WOW..GUESS WHO CAME TO A MEETING...LOL (Preview) (((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))) You will not believe this. I didn't, you all know I opened a f2f group. And tonight I didn't feel like going. I was tired after working all week. And the other woman who goes with me text me to apologise, she couldn't make it...argg. So I said "Ally Girl, YOU made a co...	ally	6	749	May 27, 2007 by Barbs45
	Step Two (Preview) I've been attending f2f meetings for 4 years. Step meetings, Tradition meetings and Wednesday was the first time I actually understood what people were talking about when they say they had a hard time with step 2 or 3. I have faith in my Hp whom I choose to call God. I always have. I trust God in my life but...	serendipity	5	895	May 27, 2007 by Jerry F
	How Do You???? (Preview) How do you let the A do what they are going to do and not let it affect you or the children. My AH lies to me all the time. he says it is getting better he is seeing a difference in himself. He has been gone for a month. He is suposed to come home next week. I thought I was ready until last night. We talked the other d...	janey225	7	861	May 27, 2007 by janey225
	Hello Freinds (Preview) Hello ((((((friends)))))))), Just thought I would pop in with a little post on how life has been for me... so sorry I haven't been around just so darn busy.. life however is calming down finally... will have some time to drop in... I have missed all of you very much and have often wondered how everyo...	Andrea12	8	666	May 26, 2007 by Andrea12
	Permanent ban of MIP members. (Preview) First allow me to make clear the fact that I, like lilms, appreciate the job the moderators of this board do for all of us. Theirs is a thankless job for the most part, and one that is very necessary. So...thanks. I have a hard time accepting censorship of any kind. I will qualify that by saying that cur...	Diva	18	1160	May 26, 2007 by debilyn
	Defeated again (Preview) I just feel all beat up and like a loser. I just want to curl up and cry but whenever I do that I feel like I lost again. Ah took my wallet and went to the store last night after I was asleep. Shouldn't be so dissappointed, but we were supposed to do something today, and he can't get up, he has a headache and he sta...	RainyJamie	4	527	May 26, 2007 by tiredtonite
	MIP Birthday Girl Today - Leetle (Preview) (((((((((((Leetle)))))))))))))), Happy Birthday to you I hope you have a wonderful day today and get to eat some I'm so glad you keep coming. You are a wonderful edition to our Miracles In Progress and are a miracle yourself. Love, Maria	Maria123	10	640	May 26, 2007 by aunitedway
	no help (Preview) i spent hours and hours and hours preparing documents regarding the landlord stuff. I just heard from the attoney I sent it to they wn't be able to help me. Now I have to go back to another attorney and ask him. I am so sick of dealing with the a's messes. I am so sick of getting absolutely no help from any...	maresie2	5	513	May 26, 2007 by Friendofyours
	God Bless Alcoholics and their self centeredness (Preview) That's all I have to say.	Cucamonga	2	693	May 26, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Do I let her go update.... (Preview) To all of you who helped me see my way through this, thank you. Last week I submitted a post about whether or not I should allow my 14 year old to attend a concert with my step daughter. With all the feedback I got, I decided that my gut instinct to not allow her to go was just. So, I simply told her "No,...	Denoraphy	3	525	May 26, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Tradition Twelve (Preview) Tradition Twelve goes as follows: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. When I first got into Al-Anon 15 years ago, I jumped into a Group Representative position early on in my recovery. That group was my home group f...	bob6502	5	622	May 26, 2007 by carolena
	You guys are not going to believe this!!!! (Preview) I got a call today (not collect) from my husband saying that he had been released. I told him that he has a charmed life and I guess he better go try again since they won't seem to keep him for anything. His crime had a minimum sentence of several years. He said that the PD was going into private practice a...	carolinagirl	3	542	May 26, 2007 by Friendofyours
	AH wants to stay active (Preview) He had a couple beers (so did I) on Sunday, when a friend wanted us to drink his home brew. Maybe if I refrained he would have also, but honestly I doubt it. To the best of my knowledge, that was the last time he drank untill today, when I found a bottle cap in the garbage. I went straight to my daughter's coin p...	RainyJamie	6	575	May 26, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Contradicting alanon (Preview) This was a bit of a digression in the other post, so I thought it might be useful and interesting to discuss it here. I brought up the point that this is an alanon board, and that we should keep the focus on the program. One response to this was: "So what if someone says something which directly contra...	lin0606	3	570	May 26, 2007 by tea2
	Help Keep Me Honest (Preview) I'm posting this mostly to keep myself on track - if it is here in black and white, I can't pretend I don't need to do it..... As many of you know, my husband is very sick and is not expected to live much longer. I'm not very happy with his doctor - he doesn't really have that much experience, I don't think, wi...	lin0606	15	1016	May 26, 2007 by lin0606
	Book Suggestions? (Preview) Hi again. I am going to try to make it to some meetings, but not sure how that is going to fit in with my busy schedule. There are no meetings near my house at a time that would work very good. There is one about 15 mins from work, so i might try to hit a lunch meeting. Anyway, I thought maybe starting with a book...	harmony	7	595	May 26, 2007 by harmony
	Vacation (Preview) (((((Roomies)))))))))))) Am back from a very short but much needed vacation. Didn't go far (Toronto). I had a marvelous time tramping from one end of the city to the other, eating all kinds of yummy stuff (caribbean, thai, vietnamese, east indian) and visiting with people I love and whom adore me. I...	lilms	4	461	May 26, 2007 by debilyn
	Memorial Day (Preview) (((((Family))))), As we approach this Memorial Day here in the US, please let us take a moment to remember what it is really for. It is not the unofficial start to the summer season. It is not about the sales. It is not about the picnics, barbques and what not. It is about remembering those who have...	Karilynn	2	572	May 25, 2007 by wp
	mind games (Preview) I hate regrets. I wish I had started educating myself on the disease of ahism, its effects on me, and the al-anon principles way before my AH entered rehab, however, I was in denial until the day he entered. When he came out, I shouldn't have let him move back in right away. I let him put me in the position...	Loupiness	2	678	May 25, 2007 by lin0606
	Autobiography in five short chapters (Preview) This poem spoke to me: Autobiography in Five Short Chapters I walk, down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am Lost... I am hopeless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. I walk down the same street There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fal...	java	2	943	May 25, 2007 by Maria123
	I am NEW 4 hours in searching for someone to talk to... (Preview) I hope I came to the right place. It is long but I shortened it. I am sad and try to stay strong but inside I am weakening. Any advice please email me. Thanks in advance. Hi, I am a bit stressed and know I do need help. Yes I was the fighter in the family the one who helped mom. My father is a recovering alcoholic...	dajones1315	15	671	May 25, 2007 by Maria123
	Either turn up the volume or clean out their ears!! (Preview) Picture me in front of a microphone - tapping "tap, tap . . can you hear me . . . is this thing on?" That is how I have felt all week. So I have come to the conclusion that either my volume should be turned up or someone should clean out their ears! Ok, I'm breathing and repeating I'm powerles...	Rita G	9	726	May 25, 2007 by Maria123
	Changing Servers may be gone for a while.... (Preview) I'm switching servers and that's always a pain. I 'm going back to my original one, so hopefully it won't take that long. I also am having some computer problems that I may have to take it in for, so If you miss me, that's why, but I'll be back soon. Java, (a.k.a. Overcome in chat)	java	3	441	May 25, 2007 by Maria123
	Do you miss anything about me? (Preview) (((((Everyone)))))) Had a good weekend full of sports with our son. My wife came along and enjoyed herself, but was drinking when we left and drank each night we were gone. At least she was in a good mood for the trip. As has happened in the past, our good weekends are like a sugar high... it gets you all u...	rtexas	7	893	May 25, 2007 by Karilynn
	WOW (Preview) ((((((MIP FAMILY)))))) I have just realized that I have posted over 300 times in a year. Didn't realize I talked so much. Why didn't any of ya'll tell me to zip it?????????? Now I am off to dreamland and will behave myself. lilms	lilms	3	479	May 25, 2007 by Rita G
	Has anyone ever.... (Preview) found that they purposely dated people they knew they wouldn't be interested in having a relationship with and avoided ones they potentially would?	carolinagirl	4	508	May 25, 2007 by Rita G
	cindy, debilyn, tea2 and John (Preview) ((((((((mods))))))))) WOW!!!! Go on vacation for a couple of days and you miss all kinds of stuff. Seriously, I would like to extend my heartfelt gratitude and thanks for all of the work you all do for the benefit of this forum. I see that there are over 3000 registered users. Unfortunately, amongs...	lilms	2	592	May 25, 2007 by carolena
	things are getting better (Preview) hi all.havent posted in awhile,so i thought it was time to post.AH is doing very well,he is in treatment and has been for almost 4 months now.he just found out that he was and never was bi-polar{mistake of upstate ny}but he does have anger issue the same thing his dad had.and he is now on meds to control i...	bev	5	555	May 25, 2007 by carolena
	When will I learn? (Preview) At times I find myself over-reacting to the things that happen with my addict/ alcoholic husband. The things he says or doesn't say, the things he does, or doesn't do. When will I learn to "Let go and Let God" ? Last night at my home group Al-Anon meeting the topic was detatchment and I lear...	Karaokejacky	4	454	May 25, 2007 by carolena
	Do you treat yourself well physically, mentally and spiritually? (Preview) Living with an addict/alcoholic seriously affects our feelings of self worth. We constantly have guilt from thinking somehow, someway we are responsible for anothers addiction. This can lead us into thinking we dont have the ability to do anything right, and can develope into a real sense of sel...	gardengal	5	571	May 24, 2007 by Diva
	Problems with A Hubby and his A daughter (Preview) Hello friends, I have not been on for awhile but have been reading a few post to try and figure out what my A's (hubby, and Stepdaughter) are doing. In May of 2006 my stepdaughter who has a drinking problem came to live with my hubby and myself with her little boy due to physical abuse she was getting from he...	albertarose	4	651	May 24, 2007 by albertarose
	latest update (Preview) Last night I spoke to the Uncle that the A is supposed to be moving up to live near by. Apparently the A lies to everyone. He has pained this picture that he has everything under control and it is all a-ok. I told the Uncle the truth. He said that the A could of course stay up there but he hadn't asked and he...	maresie2	3	485	May 24, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Things happen for a reason... (Preview) Well, the first day of school went well, although a class I really needed was cancelled and I'm trying to pick it up online at any other community colege in the state at the moment so my timeline stays on track. Otherwise I feel confident I will do well in my other two classes and one of them opted to only me...	carolinagirl	3	531	May 24, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Courage (Preview) (((Everyone))) Yesterday my f2f meeting was about courage, where do we get it and how do we "fill up" when we seem on empty. It was a great meeting. One person said it only cost them a dollar to fill up (our meeting contribution) which I thought was a really cool response. Alanon has given m...	Lunamoth	5	648	May 24, 2007 by Andrea12
	Groundhog Day (Preview) I've been rolling a post around in my mind for a few hours . . . I'm talking about the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. I am terrible at remembering entire plots but I remember the premise of the movie . . . the guy wakes up to the same day over and over and over again, at first fighting against it, trying...	Kim65	6	689	May 24, 2007 by Kim65
	Continued Silent Treatment (Preview) My alcoholic husband goes through periods of the silent treatment. He does not touch me or talk to me. He spends most of his time when he is home in front of the TV. I try to give him a kiss when he leaves for work or when I get home for week and I always ask how his day went but it is really hard to be nice to him...	phooey	6	847	May 24, 2007 by carolena
	I messed up - now what? (Preview) I let my A make me so mad that I threatened to move out, and now he is telling me to just get my stuff and leave now. Almost everything in the house is mine and would take a lot of people and a lot of work to move it all out. He says I have to get it all at once, because he won't let me back in the house. All was said w...	Demilas	3	545	May 24, 2007 by sweetums
	I am screaming inside- can you hear me ? (Preview) I feel like I am screaming inside... This past weekend was so emotional. My son graduated and I was so proud. I went nearly 2 weeks without seeing my husband and only speaking with him a couple of times only brief conversations. Then BAM- the graduation and he sat right next to me. I cried and cried mo...	Tammy	4	601	May 24, 2007 by Rita G
	First day back to school (Preview) So I decided I'm going to go for this master's program to make more money for the kids, a total change in careers and I have to take about a year of prerequisites to even apply. I started classes today on the prereqs. I haven't been to college in about 8 years and it's weird but already I have met new peop...	carolinagirl	4	680	May 24, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Making Deals? (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new here and have only attended one al-anon meeting about 11 years ago. I have been doing some reading on the three C's and am going to try to attend a meeting sometime this week. Anyway, I have been married to an alcoholic for 9 and a half years and my mother is an alcoholic who just got out o...	harmony	5	604	May 24, 2007 by harmony
	How I know I will be OK... Better than ok even (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) So this morning I am sitting on my back poarch drinking some juice... (I don't do coffee) and I hear a squirel on the roof running around. That is not unusual because I have oak trees and they love the accorns. They like to hide them everywhere.... in my car, in the bar-b-que pit,...	rtexas	7	626	May 24, 2007 by kismetstrand
	Healing Time (Preview) ((((Roomies))) I posted this initially in response to Java's post on Wasted Time, but wanted to repost it here for thoughts, reflections, and responses. I shared last night at my F2F about fear and I have since felt some healing in this area for me. Here's the jist of my spiritual learning... Recently...	BlueCloud	2	446	May 23, 2007 by debilyn
	How to be a sponsor.. (Preview) I have someone who has offered to be my sponsor. Her AH became sober 17 yrs ago and never looked back. Thus, she hasn't been to Al-anon in a long time and is not sure how to sponsor, and I'm not sure how to work the program. Are there any "directions" so we can figure this out together? Thanks, L...	Loupiness	2	551	May 23, 2007 by debilyn
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