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QOD · QOD

Hey Everyone - I don't know how many prayers went out for me yesterday but it worked!!! I called my credit card company this morning and they WERE able to CANCEL the balance transfer I made Monday Night. I am FREE of that debt now. AND I AM THE WISER FOR THE EXPERIENCE!!! Now I will have to do a follow up to...

QOD · QOD

Ok (Carolinagirl, you've already heard all this) - Here goes. I am SOOO STUPID!!! I had a collection agency call me last night. They said that my AH owed just under $8000 on a credit card amd that I was an "Authorized User" and therefore liable for it. I said I was not, that I had checked int...

ddub · ddub

New but understand the 3 C's (sigh of relief) and to get off his back/get on w/my life I never have talked about this with him, somehow it's like a silent rule that's not my business BUT his drinking is a big white elephant in our house the children know I have started attending AlAnon and they are talking...

firstin911 · firstin911

Hello everyone. new to this. I am just overwhelmed right now. I want to know if there is people that are willing to talk with me. my mom is a recovering alcoholic and my dad and brother go to al-anon. recently my dad has been talking to me and stating how he has fear for me and that the relationship that...

ally · ally

(((((((((((Guys))))))))))))) Ok, wait for it...lol Last night I decided to join a date line on the internet. Curious I guess. Well a guy sent me and e.mail, and we got talking. He lives only 30 miles away from me. We got on to msn. Today he sent me an Instant message, and we spoke for two hours. We talked ab...

Becky1 · Becky1

My daughter had her sonogram today, and I went with her and her husband...it was amazing! IT IS GOING TO BE A GIRL LOVE IN RECOVERY, BECKY1

Becky1 · Becky1

We had a good weekend together, AH and I. Went to a party, danced, laughed, kissed. Went out to eat with a friend Monday night. Tuesday night (last night) he was acting irritable when I got home, so I mowed a little, then went to Walmart. Got home, he was still acting like a jerk. Started grouching abou...

bobump · bobump

Here at the NJ Alnon Convention. Leave me a msg if your in town, would be great to put a face w/ the name. You can also leave msg for room 1010. :) Wife and son are with me. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Friends))) Thanks to all for the prayers for "D". HP works in ways that only he knows what is best for us. Our friend got worse last night but did not call us until this morning. I could tell immediately while talking with him he was not in his right mind. So, AH and I decided we needed to i...

debilyn · debilyn

A few days ago my son needed his father, my A, to sign off on some papers. My son is buying my other house he grew up in. So the A actually agreed to go do it with Mac. Mac went to pick him up and the A would not get into the car with Mac. He has a nice car, is an honorable man. A was paranoid. (A knows Mac was going to do...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi Family, As a follow-up to the in-law situation (I'm Nobody's Convenience which I posted a few days ago) I informed them (nephew and this aunt) that I was turning over the aunt's banking, medication and general care to her nephew. I suggested we meet at the bank today at which time, I turned over a bla...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have decided it's time, I hope that moving to a different county this month won't affect my ability to file. I don't really have the money but I SO want to be done!!! Hey QOD...can I borrow a grand to pay for a lawyer? LOL... Really I am going to have to file on my own and have no idea what I'm doing and ther...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone, A new woman started at my office. She seemed really nice. She asked me to go to lunch, we went to a local spot. She kept talking incessantly. I would say something and there was no response. She would immediately pick up and keep talking again incessantly. I thought that it was because she wa...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Just for today, name three things that YOU are grateful for. 1)I am grateful my entire family has their health 2)I am grateful we have food to eat and lots of it. 3)I am grateful for reality TV to let me know that I am not crazy ;)

Loupiness · Loupiness

In earlier posts I wrote how my AHsober asked if his A affair could be at our Open House for our business. Well, it didn't happen, but the whole experience really was what I needed to push me toward resolution. I saw how distorted his thinking really is, and how little he thinks of me. Then yesterday we spo...

jaja · jaja

In the corner Of my eye I saw you in rudys You were very high You were high It was a cryin disgrace They saw your face On the counter By your keys Was a book of numbers And your remedies One of these Surely will screen out the sorrow But where are you tomorrow I cant cry anymore While you run around Break away Jus...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I just don't know how or why I'm feeling like this. axbf is out of town on vaction, things with the truck are in his hands.I'm staying out of it. He called to let me know he had gotten there, haven't heard from him since, thought maybe he would call . He gets back tomarrow and I find the closer he gets to coming...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Have you ever noticed how when you're doing the right thing everything seems to just magically fall into place? I had the garage sale last weekend (I'm still suffering from carrying all that heavy stuff out) and I sold almost all the big items that I wasn't going to take anyway. I swear! I would say I wi...

Heather72 · Heather72

My AHsober (30 days) is about to drive me crazy. He has been cycling from being "OK" to being very angry and loud. Last night, I went to an AA Speaker meeting with him. He invited me to go. It was OK. I could relate to some of what the speaker was sharing, other parts I could not. My AH seemed fine d...

Jamekaticy · Jamekaticy

My A's dad died a little over a week ago. It was a complicated relationship, but he still loved him a lot. Both were diabetic, and his dad was also an alcoholic who would stop drinking for a year or two at a time, then start up again. Worked like a fiend through it all, though, and was in tremendous shape wh...

cursed · cursed

Hello, I am 47 and I have just had enough of my parents bull****.... I live with the scare of their alcoholism everyday .. I cannot look at them anymore because they still will not take responsibility for what they have done ... i guess I am here to get some of this out of me and hopefully a miricle will ha...

barisax · barisax

I used to be a semi-regular at a Sunday night meeting, but since I have gotten involved in a relationship and she wants to go to Alanon too, I let her have that time slot. I don't feel we should *regularly* go to the same meetings, and especially since she was new to Alanon, I didn't want her to be uncomfort...

Rita G · Rita G

The theme for the convention this weekend was "Recipe for Recovery". Being in Lafayette, Louisiana, they had the room decorated with cooking things, fun stuff cause we are definitely known for our food, especially around Lafayette. At the registration table there were cards with thi...

gardengal · gardengal

Oh man for me its plenty. One big one is wondering what people are up to , especially my A. Being nosey wanting to know all the details, good or bad. I would sincerely like to let go of other's business, and live my own life, however I still want to know , "period"! Why ? Dont know? Another huge on...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

OMG it was a long drive I went to an al anon meeting. I was feeling so guilty! It was like I was "little Sarah" and I was being a "bad girl" all over again. I felt this compulsion to tell my parents "I'm going for a job interview with the Americorps in Indy. I'm really excited....

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

I just burst into tears over missing my mom. The thing is, what I'm missing isn't the relationship I really have with my mom. I guess I am grieving over my childhood, over the love that my mom never showed me. My mom's attitude toward me and her on again off again very ugly relationship with my alcoholic fa...

bev · bev

hi all,been awhile since i posted..as you all know i left my SAH in jan went to live back up north in ny..came back here in march to take care of the house,and things,and had a long talk to SAH{who was in treatment in gainesville fl but moved in with a long term AAER THE BEGINNING OF APRIL}decided at that tim...

Jen · Jen

Guess Im done being the doormat. I'm nervous today. I told my AH last night and again this morning that if he couldn't get home at a reasonable hour, don't come home. We are self employed and I do the scheduling. I have been careful this year to work the schedule so that he can be home at a reasonable time. An...

Rita G · Rita G

Had the wonderful opportunity of attending our state convention this past weekend - It was awesome. Great, great speakers - Several of the speakers (although the live in different states) share the same Sponsor - great sense of family in recovery - The Alateen speaker was "out the butt" w...

weggie · weggie

It has taken me time and alot of help from Al-alon to understand that it is not my responsibility what my A does or does not do. It is not my responsibility to pay attention to every move he does or does not do. I sometimes still check to see how much he has drank or how much money has been spent and I am still...

Nedsaid · Nedsaid

I knew better before I even said it but, said it anyways. I gave my AH the choice of being married to me or the drink. Of course, he chose the drink. I knew he would but hoped he wouldn't. I am not financially prepared to throw out ultimatums. That was one day last month. In the meantime, I've gotten a s...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I have suspected for a long time that the neighbor lady was doing meth. I even restricted the kids from staying over night there. Well the paper confirmed it Tuesday, she got busted for possession and there was mention of possible sale. My kids are gone on vacation right now and do not know. I'm not su...

QOD · QOD

Hey everyone - I just wanted to let you know that I am feeling much better today. I am coming out of my gloom from yesterday. When I got off of work, I had a good 30 minute cry in the car on my way to pick up my daughter from my sister's house. I felt much better after that. And I did lots of thinking too. I deci...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Hi Alanon Family, One of the two aunts I have been caring for over the last 2 1/2 years abruptly began an argument wtih me. It was over a blouse that she claimed her friend in the senior citizen complex gave her. I gently suggested to her that I had purchased it downstairs in the consignment store because...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, In a previous post I spoke of the Open House for our new business building tomorrow and my concern that my AHsober's affair (an active A) will be there. Ultimately, I was hoping it was a fear -based hypothetical situation. Well, he asked me today if she were to show up with her friend (also a f...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) Been quite an intense week for me. I am looking back at a lot of things in my life. Things that have happened, good and bad. Things I have done, or not done, should have or could have. People I have had in my life or have in my life today. I done something the other day I wou...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

You're never too old to grow up. --Shirley Conran A child's view of adults is that they have arrived at some fixed point where they are emancipated and have all the tools necessary for life. An adult knows that we never stop growing. Many of us have been stuck in an immature level of development. Our life...

kissers · kissers

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debilyn · debilyn

You know how we say we wish we did not love them anymore? It has happened to me. I cannot find it inside me anymore. It has made me feel pretty empty. Felt good to love him for thirty seven years. I have never known a time of not loving and longing for him. I know him living with that gross woman has really broke...

Kim65 · Kim65

I've been waking up in the morning afraid. By the time I have my coffee and get going for the day, I feel a little more together. Somedays are pretty good, there's much that needs doing around here and I put a dent in it. Other days I finish morning chores and take a long nap. I read Debilyn's post this mo...

2getoverit · 2getoverit

Hi howdy, I hope it is all good for all y'all and hopefully it is here also. I got to the log in for here and processed that log differently and here I am yippee!! Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken, - lol - I'm just in from the garden, we r coming up on a full moon and it seems a fine time to giv...

wp · wp

I am wondering if disloyalty within a family is a common symptom of ACOA. I get so angry and upset when a person in the family that you have trusted, lets another member down. Or am I confusing codependency with disloyalty? Something happened that I don't take lightly, and I feel that ..well, here I go...

Grateful Member Checking in · Cucamonga

Hi all, Just checking in to say I'm alive and kickin. And wanting to make sure that I don't relapse back to who I was before the healing hands of Alanon. Just getting in from the Airport after a week long family vacation to Chicago. Be well all. -- Edited by Cucamonga at 05:33, 2007-07-28

QOD · QOD

Oh I am in a gloom, a real funk. Ever have one of those days where you wish you could just climb in bed with the lights out, bury your head in the pillows and just wish the world away for a while? Kind of where I am at today. I hate this feeling. It makes my stomach hurt, my body tired and I feel like I am having...

Loupiness · Loupiness

... but I don't know how. I feel I am too new in the program to not sabotage myself once again. Perhaps I am preparing for a situation based strictly on fear, but I feel I need to for my own integrity. On Sunday, we will be having an Open House for our business at our new location. We made certain that my AHso...

newlyFREE · newlyFREE

Hi Alanon Family! I have been reading this site for a while, but have never written anything here. Part of the reason was because I was so depressed about my situation living with an active alcoholic. I felt hopeless and ashamed. Who would want to read about my sad story? I have made so many mistakes,...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Some of you know that I interviewed for an americorps position in AZ.I didn't hear back from them and I'm fairly certain I didn't get the position. I was very upset as I really wanted this position. But I do have some good news. Today I'm interviewing for another, seperate position in Indy, IN. I'm nerv...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

When I woke up this morning (before the kids woke up) I laid in my bed and just looked at the ceiling. I thought of where my life was and where I am at now. Then I thought about some of you who are in the midst of the alcoholism and are confused. When I think back seven years ago and the hell I was in it feels like...

Kim65 · Kim65

and surprising. I ran to the little store in town this morning for gas and passed the A coming out of the store. We were both shocked for a second or two, then he grinned at me . . . his best "Hi, Sweetheart" sort of grin. The one that made my knees weak way back when we began dating. I looked away...

maresie2 · maresie2

For the last 5 years I have been in a terrible depression. I felt so burned and so ignored by the A. For him it was all his friends, his family, his work, his everything. There was no "us". There were times when I tried to set limits on his friends taking over our house and he absolutely slaughter...

summergrl83 · summergrl83

This is my first post, although I've been enjoying reading other posts for quite some time.. I am in a 2 yr relationship with my A, who has been in rehab for a month and gets back next week. I went to a family program during which I learned a LOT about the disease which made me both relieved and scared. Reliev...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

The only thing that ever stays the same is:CHANGE One day at a time.Christine

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Once I had a dream or maybe more...i am in the corner but the tears wont come out. They are stuck inside. I have no friends. I have no self. I am not anything. I look blankly at everything. 2 or more tears fall without expression. I am useless with no background. i am not I but the little kid inside that h...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I talked to the big boss at work and the problem is not so bad anymore. That was my worst dread was talking to the director and it is done with and everything is on the table. What a relief. I am still ready to move next month looking forward to our new apartment and the POOL!!! I still have many things I ne...

QOD · QOD

I have been fuming since yesterday afternoon. My AH's grandma called me at work to talk. She said she never gets the chance b/c either my AH is at her house or my house or his mom is at her house. She can't talk to me openly with them around. The poor woman just lost her husband back in Jan and has been batt...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello MIP Friends, Just felt like I needed to reach out to you all this afternoon to ask anyone who is willing to say some prayers for a good friend of mine and AH's. This friend has been apart of my AH's life a lot longer than I have. They've been through a great deal together. They have also been drinkin...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I'm working out of town this week, so had the opportunity last night to attend "cake night" at the Treatment Center where my ex-A-wife got sober five years ago.... I hadn't been back there for years, but 'cake night' is a celebration of sobriety, where people come up front and receive thei...

flower · flower

So I have done the recovery route, and the non-recovery. 2 years no alanon, here I am back. I have become depressed and no good for my kids. I lost my job to "downsizing" 3 years ago, we took money and investged in real estate and the market fell apart. We have rentals that will not sell, and...

gimmpy · gimmpy

it just never seems to end with my 19 year old. Since getting fired from her job for stealing and being late, she has twice gotten caught shop lifting. she has admitted that it is a compulsion, perhaps, she still doesn't see drinking and drugging to be related. anyhow my question now is should I contin...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I feel like I am Charlie Brown and my AHsober is Lucy holding the football. Every time I think it is going to be different, that I can trust and kick the football, it gets pulled away and I land flat on my back. I think it is time to put away the ball... On my way to a f2f meeting tonight I took off my wedding rin...

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	UPDATE: Great News Everyone!!! (Preview) Hey Everyone - I don't know how many prayers went out for me yesterday but it worked!!! I called my credit card company this morning and they WERE able to CANCEL the balance transfer I made Monday Night. I am FREE of that debt now. AND I AM THE WISER FOR THE EXPERIENCE!!! Now I will have to do a follow up to...	QOD	8	510	Aug 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Boy am I STUPID!!! (Preview) Ok (Carolinagirl, you've already heard all this) - Here goes. I am SOOO STUPID!!! I had a collection agency call me last night. They said that my AH owed just under $8000 on a credit card amd that I was an "Authorized User" and therefore liable for it. I said I was not, that I had checked int...	QOD	16	656	Aug 2, 2007 by mhgal
	acknowledge the white elephant? (Preview) New but understand the 3 C's (sigh of relief) and to get off his back/get on w/my life I never have talked about this with him, somehow it's like a silent rule that's not my business BUT his drinking is a big white elephant in our house the children know I have started attending AlAnon and they are talking...	ddub	5	778	Aug 2, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	I would like some help (Preview) Hello everyone. new to this. I am just overwhelmed right now. I want to know if there is people that are willing to talk with me. my mom is a recovering alcoholic and my dad and brother go to al-anon. recently my dad has been talking to me and stating how he has fear for me and that the relationship that...	firstin911	5	744	Aug 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
	IS THIS A NORMAL THING TO DO???? (Preview) (((((((((((Guys))))))))))))) Ok, wait for it...lol Last night I decided to join a date line on the internet. Curious I guess. Well a guy sent me and e.mail, and we got talking. He lives only 30 miles away from me. We got on to msn. Today he sent me an Instant message, and we spoke for two hours. We talked ab...	ally	9	604	Aug 2, 2007 by mhgal
	It's gonna Be A .......... (Preview) My daughter had her sonogram today, and I went with her and her husband...it was amazing! IT IS GOING TO BE A GIRL LOVE IN RECOVERY, BECKY1	Becky1	10	535	Aug 2, 2007 by Rita G
	Wedding Ring Cut In Two (Preview) We had a good weekend together, AH and I. Went to a party, danced, laughed, kissed. Went out to eat with a friend Monday night. Tuesday night (last night) he was acting irritable when I got home, so I mowed a little, then went to Walmart. Got home, he was still acting like a jerk. Started grouching abou...	Becky1	12	683	Aug 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Greetings from Jal-Con ! ! (Preview) Here at the NJ Alnon Convention. Leave me a msg if your in town, would be great to put a face w/ the name. You can also leave msg for room 1010. :) Wife and son are with me. Bob	bobump	8	632	Aug 2, 2007 by bobump
	Update on my friend (Preview) (((Friends))) Thanks to all for the prayers for "D". HP works in ways that only he knows what is best for us. Our friend got worse last night but did not call us until this morning. I could tell immediately while talking with him he was not in his right mind. So, AH and I decided we needed to i...	twinmom2	5	519	Aug 1, 2007 by maresie2
	It is hard to wrap my mind around this (Preview) A few days ago my son needed his father, my A, to sign off on some papers. My son is buying my other house he grew up in. So the A actually agreed to go do it with Mac. Mac went to pick him up and the A would not get into the car with Mac. He has a nice car, is an honorable man. A was paranoid. (A knows Mac was going to do...	debilyn	10	680	Aug 1, 2007 by Alanoner
	Shifting into Recovery Mode, Thank you God!! (Preview) Hi Family, As a follow-up to the in-law situation (I'm Nobody's Convenience which I posted a few days ago) I informed them (nephew and this aunt) that I was turning over the aunt's banking, medication and general care to her nephew. I suggested we meet at the bank today at which time, I turned over a bla...	NANUKE	4	534	Aug 1, 2007 by mhgal
	It's time to file for divorce (Preview) I have decided it's time, I hope that moving to a different county this month won't affect my ability to file. I don't really have the money but I SO want to be done!!! Hey QOD...can I borrow a grand to pay for a lawyer? LOL... Really I am going to have to file on my own and have no idea what I'm doing and ther...	carolinagirl	3	542	Aug 1, 2007 by SLS
	Awareness (Preview) Hi everyone, A new woman started at my office. She seemed really nice. She asked me to go to lunch, we went to a local spot. She kept talking incessantly. I would say something and there was no response. She would immediately pick up and keep talking again incessantly. I thought that it was because she wa...	kissers	3	320	Aug 1, 2007 by maire rua
	What are you Thankful for today? (Preview) Just for today, name three things that YOU are grateful for. 1)I am grateful my entire family has their health 2)I am grateful we have food to eat and lots of it. 3)I am grateful for reality TV to let me know that I am not crazy ;)	Friendofyours	13	427	Aug 1, 2007 by twinmom2
	If it's the right thing, why do I feel so lousy? (Preview) In earlier posts I wrote how my AHsober asked if his A affair could be at our Open House for our business. Well, it didn't happen, but the whole experience really was what I needed to push me toward resolution. I saw how distorted his thinking really is, and how little he thinks of me. Then yesterday we spo...	Loupiness	8	822	Aug 1, 2007 by carolinagirl
	"Drink Your Big Black Cow" (Preview) In the corner Of my eye I saw you in rudys You were very high You were high It was a cryin disgrace They saw your face On the counter By your keys Was a book of numbers And your remedies One of these Surely will screen out the sorrow But where are you tomorrow I cant cry anymore While you run around Break away Jus...	jaja	4	4106	Jul 31, 2007 by barisax
	Feeling out of sorts???? (Preview) I just don't know how or why I'm feeling like this. axbf is out of town on vaction, things with the truck are in his hands.I'm staying out of it. He called to let me know he had gotten there, haven't heard from him since, thought maybe he would call . He gets back tomarrow and I find the closer he gets to coming...	sisdragonfly1957	4	478	Jul 31, 2007 by Friendofyours
	More Miracles... (Preview) Have you ever noticed how when you're doing the right thing everything seems to just magically fall into place? I had the garage sale last weekend (I'm still suffering from carrying all that heavy stuff out) and I sold almost all the big items that I wasn't going to take anyway. I swear! I would say I wi...	carolinagirl	5	372	Jul 31, 2007 by weggie
	At the end of my rope this morning (Preview) My AHsober (30 days) is about to drive me crazy. He has been cycling from being "OK" to being very angry and loud. Last night, I went to an AA Speaker meeting with him. He invited me to go. It was OK. I could relate to some of what the speaker was sharing, other parts I could not. My AH seemed fine d...	Heather72	10	692	Jul 31, 2007 by weggie
	Can't hope too much (Preview) My A's dad died a little over a week ago. It was a complicated relationship, but he still loved him a lot. Both were diabetic, and his dad was also an alcoholic who would stop drinking for a year or two at a time, then start up again. Worked like a fiend through it all, though, and was in tremendous shape wh...	Jamekaticy	3	427	Jul 31, 2007 by Kim65
	how can ya forgive but not forget (Preview) Hello, I am 47 and I have just had enough of my parents bull****.... I live with the scare of their alcoholism everyday .. I cannot look at them anymore because they still will not take responsibility for what they have done ... i guess I am here to get some of this out of me and hopefully a miricle will ha...	cursed	14	888	Jul 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Shopping for a Home Group (Preview) I used to be a semi-regular at a Sunday night meeting, but since I have gotten involved in a relationship and she wants to go to Alanon too, I let her have that time slot. I don't feel we should regularly go to the same meetings, and especially since she was new to Alanon, I didn't want her to be uncomfort...	barisax	3	503	Jul 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Recipe for Recovery (Preview) The theme for the convention this weekend was "Recipe for Recovery". Being in Lafayette, Louisiana, they had the room decorated with cooking things, fun stuff cause we are definitely known for our food, especially around Lafayette. At the registration table there were cards with thi...	Rita G	1	453	Jul 31, 2007 by Karilynn
	What behavioral habits can you improve? (Preview) Oh man for me its plenty. One big one is wondering what people are up to , especially my A. Being nosey wanting to know all the details, good or bad. I would sincerely like to let go of other's business, and live my own life, however I still want to know , "period"! Why ? Dont know? Another huge on...	gardengal	12	705	Jul 30, 2007 by Diva
	Update on Indy interview (Preview) OMG it was a long drive I went to an al anon meeting. I was feeling so guilty! It was like I was "little Sarah" and I was being a "bad girl" all over again. I felt this compulsion to tell my parents "I'm going for a job interview with the Americorps in Indy. I'm really excited....	Tiger2006	4	641	Jul 30, 2007 by wp
	How can you miss something you never had?? (Preview) I just burst into tears over missing my mom. The thing is, what I'm missing isn't the relationship I really have with my mom. I guess I am grieving over my childhood, over the love that my mom never showed me. My mom's attitude toward me and her on again off again very ugly relationship with my alcoholic fa...	seekingserenity	3	553	Jul 30, 2007 by shimo
	just need some feed back (Preview) hi all,been awhile since i posted..as you all know i left my SAH in jan went to live back up north in ny..came back here in march to take care of the house,and things,and had a long talk to SAH{who was in treatment in gainesville fl but moved in with a long term AAER THE BEGINNING OF APRIL}decided at that tim...	bev	5	2120	Jul 30, 2007 by mhgal
	I'm getting up off the floor. (Preview) Guess Im done being the doormat. I'm nervous today. I told my AH last night and again this morning that if he couldn't get home at a reasonable hour, don't come home. We are self employed and I do the scheduling. I have been careful this year to work the schedule so that he can be home at a reasonable time. An...	Jen	4	692	Jul 30, 2007 by Jen
	LA State Al-Anon Convention (Preview) Had the wonderful opportunity of attending our state convention this past weekend - It was awesome. Great, great speakers - Several of the speakers (although the live in different states) share the same Sponsor - great sense of family in recovery - The Alateen speaker was "out the butt" w...	Rita G	0	2871	Jul 30, 2007 by Rita G
	Wonderful Weekend (Preview) It has taken me time and alot of help from Al-alon to understand that it is not my responsibility what my A does or does not do. It is not my responsibility to pay attention to every move he does or does not do. I sometimes still check to see how much he has drank or how much money has been spent and I am still...	weggie	3	366	Jul 30, 2007 by maire rua
	Bored, Talking to the dog (Preview) I knew better before I even said it but, said it anyways. I gave my AH the choice of being married to me or the drink. Of course, he chose the drink. I knew he would but hoped he wouldn't. I am not financially prepared to throw out ultimatums. That was one day last month. In the meantime, I've gotten a s...	Nedsaid	6	860	Jul 30, 2007 by mhgal
	my boys' friends' Mom (Preview) I have suspected for a long time that the neighbor lady was doing meth. I even restricted the kids from staying over night there. Well the paper confirmed it Tuesday, she got busted for possession and there was mention of possible sale. My kids are gone on vacation right now and do not know. I'm not su...	jrtjosey	9	719	Jul 30, 2007 by Christy
	Feeling much better today. (Preview) Hey everyone - I just wanted to let you know that I am feeling much better today. I am coming out of my gloom from yesterday. When I got off of work, I had a good 30 minute cry in the car on my way to pick up my daughter from my sister's house. I felt much better after that. And I did lots of thinking too. I deci...	QOD	7	565	Jul 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Did my best_I'm nobody's convenience (Preview) Hi Alanon Family, One of the two aunts I have been caring for over the last 2 1/2 years abruptly began an argument wtih me. It was over a blouse that she claimed her friend in the senior citizen complex gave her. I gently suggested to her that I had purchased it downstairs in the consignment store because...	NANUKE	7	666	Jul 30, 2007 by getoverit
	Unbelievable? No, not really.... (Preview) Hi Friends, In a previous post I spoke of the Open House for our new business building tomorrow and my concern that my AHsober's affair (an active A) will be there. Ultimately, I was hoping it was a fear -based hypothetical situation. Well, he asked me today if she were to show up with her friend (also a f...	Loupiness	8	723	Jul 30, 2007 by Loupiness
	FEELING LOST (Preview) ((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) Been quite an intense week for me. I am looking back at a lot of things in my life. Things that have happened, good and bad. Things I have done, or not done, should have or could have. People I have had in my life or have in my life today. I done something the other day I wou...	ally	8	645	Jul 29, 2007 by 2getoverit
	Maturity and growth (Preview) You're never too old to grow up. --Shirley Conran A child's view of adults is that they have arrived at some fixed point where they are emancipated and have all the tools necessary for life. An adult knows that we never stop growing. Many of us have been stuck in an immature level of development. Our life...	Tiger2006	2	502	Jul 29, 2007 by weggie
	Recovery Radio (Preview) http://www.khlt.homestead.com/cap-archives.html	kissers	0	323	Jul 29, 2007 by kissers
	When our wish comes true, it hurts (Preview) You know how we say we wish we did not love them anymore? It has happened to me. I cannot find it inside me anymore. It has made me feel pretty empty. Felt good to love him for thirty seven years. I have never known a time of not loving and longing for him. I know him living with that gross woman has really broke...	debilyn	6	651	Jul 28, 2007 by Demilas
	Emptiness (Preview) I've been waking up in the morning afraid. By the time I have my coffee and get going for the day, I feel a little more together. Somedays are pretty good, there's much that needs doing around here and I put a dent in it. Other days I finish morning chores and take a long nap. I read Debilyn's post this mo...	Kim65	12	897	Jul 28, 2007 by Jen
	I made it in - whew (Preview) Hi howdy, I hope it is all good for all y'all and hopefully it is here also. I got to the log in for here and processed that log differently and here I am yippee!! Blessed are the flexible for they shall not be broken, - lol - I'm just in from the garden, we r coming up on a full moon and it seems a fine time to giv...	2getoverit	5	493	Jul 28, 2007 by belle1
	loyalty and disloyalty ACOA (Preview) I am wondering if disloyalty within a family is a common symptom of ACOA. I get so angry and upset when a person in the family that you have trusted, lets another member down. Or am I confusing codependency with disloyalty? Something happened that I don't take lightly, and I feel that ..well, here I go...	wp	5	883	Jul 28, 2007 by drucilla06
	Grateful Member Checking in (Preview) Hi all, Just checking in to say I'm alive and kickin. And wanting to make sure that I don't relapse back to who I was before the healing hands of Alanon. Just getting in from the Airport after a week long family vacation to Chicago. Be well all. -- Edited by Cucamonga at 05:33, 2007-07-28	Cucamonga	3	451	Jul 28, 2007 by drucilla06
	I am in a gloom! (Preview) Oh I am in a gloom, a real funk. Ever have one of those days where you wish you could just climb in bed with the lights out, bury your head in the pillows and just wish the world away for a while? Kind of where I am at today. I hate this feeling. It makes my stomach hurt, my body tired and I feel like I am having...	QOD	8	687	Jul 28, 2007 by mhgal
	I Need To Stick Up For Myself (Preview) ... but I don't know how. I feel I am too new in the program to not sabotage myself once again. Perhaps I am preparing for a situation based strictly on fear, but I feel I need to for my own integrity. On Sunday, we will be having an Open House for our business at our new location. We made certain that my AHso...	Loupiness	7	580	Jul 28, 2007 by Loupiness
	Introducing myself (Preview) Hi Alanon Family! I have been reading this site for a while, but have never written anything here. Part of the reason was because I was so depressed about my situation living with an active alcoholic. I felt hopeless and ashamed. Who would want to read about my sad story? I have made so many mistakes,...	newlyFREE	4	603	Jul 28, 2007 by lin0606
	Just sharing some good news (Preview) Some of you know that I interviewed for an americorps position in AZ.I didn't hear back from them and I'm fairly certain I didn't get the position. I was very upset as I really wanted this position. But I do have some good news. Today I'm interviewing for another, seperate position in Indy, IN. I'm nerv...	Tiger2006	3	460	Jul 27, 2007 by ally
	I thought of my MIP family this morning. (Preview) When I woke up this morning (before the kids woke up) I laid in my bed and just looked at the ceiling. I thought of where my life was and where I am at now. Then I thought about some of you who are in the midst of the alcoholism and are confused. When I think back seven years ago and the hell I was in it feels like...	Friendofyours	4	775	Jul 27, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Feelings are so weird . . . (Preview) and surprising. I ran to the little store in town this morning for gas and passed the A coming out of the store. We were both shocked for a second or two, then he grinned at me . . . his best "Hi, Sweetheart" sort of grin. The one that made my knees weak way back when we began dating. I looked away...	Kim65	9	2374	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	Letting the feelings come up and just wash through me (Preview) For the last 5 years I have been in a terrible depression. I felt so burned and so ignored by the A. For him it was all his friends, his family, his work, his everything. There was no "us". There were times when I tried to set limits on his friends taking over our house and he absolutely slaughter...	maresie2	5	525	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	Life after rehab..hopeful and scared (Preview) This is my first post, although I've been enjoying reading other posts for quite some time.. I am in a 2 yr relationship with my A, who has been in rehab for a month and gets back next week. I went to a family program during which I learned a LOT about the disease which made me both relieved and scared. Reliev...	summergrl83	7	608	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	change (Preview) The only thing that ever stays the same is:CHANGE One day at a time.Christine	CAM0914	2	504	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	I am not me (Preview) Once I had a dream or maybe more...i am in the corner but the tears wont come out. They are stuck inside. I have no friends. I have no self. I am not anything. I look blankly at everything. 2 or more tears fall without expression. I am useless with no background. i am not I but the little kid inside that h...	alanon_2002	5	604	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	Things are looking up (Preview) I talked to the big boss at work and the problem is not so bad anymore. That was my worst dread was talking to the director and it is done with and everything is on the table. What a relief. I am still ready to move next month looking forward to our new apartment and the POOL!!! I still have many things I ne...	carolinagirl	4	585	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	More fuel to the fire! (Preview) I have been fuming since yesterday afternoon. My AH's grandma called me at work to talk. She said she never gets the chance b/c either my AH is at her house or my house or his mom is at her house. She can't talk to me openly with them around. The poor woman just lost her husband back in Jan and has been batt...	QOD	10	618	Jul 26, 2007 by debilyn
	Prayers Needed for A Friend (Preview) Hello MIP Friends, Just felt like I needed to reach out to you all this afternoon to ask anyone who is willing to say some prayers for a good friend of mine and AH's. This friend has been apart of my AH's life a lot longer than I have. They've been through a great deal together. They have also been drinkin...	twinmom2	5	497	Jul 26, 2007 by carosie
	Cake Night (Preview) I'm working out of town this week, so had the opportunity last night to attend "cake night" at the Treatment Center where my ex-A-wife got sober five years ago.... I hadn't been back there for years, but 'cake night' is a celebration of sobriety, where people come up front and receive thei...	canadianguy	6	555	Jul 26, 2007 by jrtjosey
	When is enough enough (Preview) So I have done the recovery route, and the non-recovery. 2 years no alanon, here I am back. I have become depressed and no good for my kids. I lost my job to "downsizing" 3 years ago, we took money and investged in real estate and the market fell apart. We have rentals that will not sell, and...	flower	6	708	Jul 26, 2007 by QOD
	stealing often go with drinking and using? (Preview) it just never seems to end with my 19 year old. Since getting fired from her job for stealing and being late, she has twice gotten caught shop lifting. she has admitted that it is a compulsion, perhaps, she still doesn't see drinking and drugging to be related. anyhow my question now is should I contin...	gimmpy	3	593	Jul 26, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Good Ol' Charlie Brown... (Preview) I feel like I am Charlie Brown and my AHsober is Lucy holding the football. Every time I think it is going to be different, that I can trust and kick the football, it gets pulled away and I land flat on my back. I think it is time to put away the ball... On my way to a f2f meeting tonight I took off my wedding rin...	Loupiness	2	651	Jul 26, 2007 by tryingtoheal
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