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DavidG · DavidG

It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...

Zoomie99 · Zoomie99

I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...

Iamhere · Iamhere

My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...

JerryF · JerryF

the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...

VickiR · VickiR

I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...

Lyne · Lyne

Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...

Lee51 · Lee51

My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.

JerryF · JerryF

That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))

Lil99 · Lil99

The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...

Freetime · Freetime

Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...

a4l · a4l

Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...

luv123 · luv123

The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...

bud · bud

Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...

a4l · a4l

What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...

Lyne · Lyne

Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...

Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's reading in Courage to Change writes that their journey towards finding a Higher Power was gradual. There was no flash of light, just a gradual clearing of the fog. First they just brought their body to Al-Anon, then eventually came to believe they were not alone in the universe...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP family, I had written about the report that my STBXAH was seen on the street with brown teeth a few weeks ago and I had been concerned about him smoking drugs, and tonight he sent a photo of his Visa card to the moving/storage company (I was cc'd because it involved me) and there is a crack pipe and som...

a4l · a4l

Greetings Family (and apologies for the delay: It is actually still Friday where I am!). Today's reading is a gentle reminder of the importance of sharing discerningly and meeting both our needs while respecting the traditions and needs of the group. The author speaks of how by the time we reach Al...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...

luv123 · luv123

MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...

JustForMeNow · JustForMeNow

It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...

Lyne · Lyne

Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...

serenity47 · serenity47

AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...

Lyne · Lyne

I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...

El · El

Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...

JerryF · JerryF

I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...

wp · wp

I have just read page 297 in Courage to Change. I cannot believe I'm back to Step One after years of alanon peace. Pray for me to see my options. I'm hoping God will show me what they are. wp

a4l · a4l

Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks about the comforting awareness of abundance, the abundance of our Higher Powers love and guidance. The realisation occurred to the writer one day at the beach, noticing how, no matter how many people were on that beach, there would b...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, everyone! Today's reading points out that although Step One -- powerlessness -- is challenging, Step Two is even harder for some of us. Step Two acknowledges that our behavior has not been entirely sane -- for example, making mountains out of molehills. If we do not distinguish wha...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Please send positive prayers for my BF's family. This family needs healing no more than mine does, however as I said to him yesterday your family puts the Jerry Springer in dysfunction .. I am ok with the fun in dysfunction at least it's worth a laugh .. I am not interested in physical fights. Bless his...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Keep It SimpleLove thy neighbor as thyself, but choose your neighbor.---Louise Beal This daily talks about loving ourselves, THEN we start loving our neighbors...we learn to love honestly...we see our good and not so good, then we can reach out to others and see them honestly....it also says we can...

mamalioness · mamalioness

"Be the change you want to see in the world."--Mohandas GhandiWho has never tasted what is bitter does not know what is sweet.--German ProverbIt doesn't take a lot of effort to know the needs of another person. By helping others youare helping yourself.--unknownMost folks are about as happy as they...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Principles Before Personalities"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."Twelfth Tradition This daily talks about how this principles over personalities can become a cliche, but it is no less important...eith...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Every trial every issue every problem has a solution. I know that end it will be worth it. I have struggled & still struggle. Sometimes I want to give up but God isn't finished w me. My purpose is getting clearer as time goes by. I was reminded to focus on myself even though the reminder came from someo...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves so that we can learn what we're doing that hurts us. The reading suggests that we examine our motives at every turn and attempt to find the courage to face our real motives without deceiving ourselves.We must remember that we...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I lost myself.Again.Forgot who I was,forgot I have choices and options.Forgot I even exist as a person.That I am not just an extension of my ALO's.It was so easy to do,I got pulled into that tunnel that has no light at the end of it.Again..It's SO hard to stay above water sometimes when you feel like you'...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Posting a bit early as the conference I am hosting starts tomorrow.

The Courage to Change reading for Oct. 24 speaks about the process of recovery as being like peeling an onion - we peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But the author thinks more about the bark of a birch tree...

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	Sad news for our whanau... (Preview) It's the call you dread... it was actually an email from Texas... our youngest brother passed away last night... the programme kicks in here... and the faith and love that comes with it... oh my gosh...	DavidG	21	4022	Nov 17, 2018 by el-cee
	How do I tell my sponsee I cannot be her sponsor any longer (Preview) I am a sponsor and my sponsee has not been coming to many meetings. She phones me when she is upset. I do not think I am helping her. Also, she sometimes attends a different meeting. How do I tell her I cannot be her sponsor any longer?	Zoomie99	11	4199	Nov 16, 2018 by Bo
	Courage to Change November 14 (Preview) Today's Courage to Change reading is about the 6th step, being entirely ready for HP to remove my defects of character. The author shares that, for them, this readiness didn't happen in a sudden flash, but gradually over time, as they struggled to make progress in a positive direction. The author al...	Skorpi	5	862	Nov 16, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 11/15/18 (Preview) My apologies MIP family - just realized it is Thursday!!! Today's reading talks about being over-sensitive before program. An angry look, a harsh tone or the silent treatment were enough to 'hurt'...Yet, with recovery and practice, the author realizes that the look, tone or mood of another has...	Iamhere	3	2973	Nov 15, 2018 by El
	14 NOV_Keep it simple (Preview) Keep It SimpleMake it a point to do something every day that you dont want to do---Mark Twain Self-discipline In this daily, author talks about self discipline as key to being emotionally sober..Regular meetings, when its not convenient...working the steps when we would rather watch videos...D...	mamalioness	5	2666	Nov 14, 2018 by JerryF
	ODAT Reading 11-12-18 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 13 speaks about what a new comer to Alanon might see and feel. The reading suggests that This newcomer is eager to recover so she picks up the tools, the slogans the Steps and attempts to use them at every opportunity. Everyone at the meeting is amazed at her prog...	hotrod	4	3124	Nov 14, 2018 by a4l
	Growth can just kinda sneak up on me (Preview) Today: the big challenge to my stop...breathe...wait...respond over reacting I had a LOT of stuff, people, animals, "Stuff" come at me with challenges to "react right now" I didn't...I stopped....I waited until both upper and lower parts of my brain were in sync...I did step 10---LOTS and I re...	mamalioness	4	4361	Nov 14, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 11 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on how our HP is with us through our lives: the ups and downs, the contentedness and loneliness, the feelings of safety and feelings of anxiety. The writer describes a period after profound loss when she could see her life clearly with the help of her HP...	yanksfan51	8	4246	Nov 13, 2018 by mamalioness
	Is it wrong? (Preview) So I have a horrible time with communication although I have been working on it a great deal. One of the passive aggressive things I used to do was expect other people to guess what I wanted or needed .. while I know I need to meet my own needs I can ask if there is something I need as an example .. I can ask for a...	SerenityRUS	4	3235	Nov 13, 2018 by Bo
	Stumbling around... (Preview) the place and sorry if you hear me bumping into things and swearing on it and making noise as I knock stuff off of where they once were and sorry for the loud mumbling and self talking. I am not alone as HP is walking with me stepping over and around the trash I am creating. For my condition I am in the right...	JerryF	10	4554	Nov 13, 2018 by Jozie
	update (Preview) I wanted to check in after last week. My lawyer drafted a letter confronting XAH about his drug use and the evidence I have - and the fact that he hasn't taken advantage of the access that he could have had for the past few months. I shot him a text to tell him what the new plan would be going forward (short vi...	VickiR	6	2146	Nov 12, 2018 by Mike B
	Soon to be in Las Vegas (Preview) I'm excited,I'll be flying out my 1st time on a plane,woo hoo. to be with my lovely precious daughter n family,gonna wrap them up in my arms g.sons to. be leaving out December for whole week of Christmas ,been 6 yrs since I've been with them. also bit nervous,daughter is so much like I use to be before reco...	lookingup	12	2719	Nov 12, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/12 (Preview) Preparing for life: The reading today compares oiling a saw to practice in program. They said they observed what others in program were doing, and seeing how serene people could be with similar awful circumstances. So they started applying the Steps, Alanon literature , slogans, meetings, and...	Lyne	4	2038	Nov 12, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Alone and afraid (Preview) My alcoholic's drinking has kept me from having many friends. My siblings all live in different parts of the country, as do my kids and grand children, except for one son who, for the time being, lives nearby with his family. We are especially close to his 6 year old son who has spent a lot of time with us s...	Lee51	8	4003	Nov 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Chat in meeting room anyone? (Preview) Looks like there is no one in the meeting room for the Sunday night 7 pm EST meeting. Anyone want to meet there now just to chat? Click on "meeting room entrance" and join me there if you want.	lgnutah	0	2518	Nov 11, 2018 by lgnutah
	Prayers in Paradise.... (Preview) That is the town of Paradise in Northern California...The town burnt to the ground businesses and residences with but a few escaping death. I have the thoughts for them and I have the prayers also to donate. HP always...everywhere....((((hugs))))	JerryF	7	4578	Nov 11, 2018 by JerryF
	Struggling to maintain my serenity this evening (Preview) The active alcoholic in my life has been on one today. Shouting at me, slamming doors in my face etc. He's shut himself in the spare room now - which is actually probably a good thing. I've been trying to stay calm and pleasant, well behaved through all this. It's really hard not to let it upset me deep d...	Lil99	10	1282	Nov 10, 2018 by JerryF
	Courage to Change, November 9 (Preview) Hello everyone! Today's Courage to Change points out that we sometimes have used manipulation as a creative solution to an impossible situation. Manipulation is a coping skill that may have seemed necessary in a threatening alcoholic environment. But as we learn healthier tools in Al-Anon, ma...	Freetime	9	3589	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	A Reason, A Season... (Preview) I've been thinking a bit about the statement that people come into our life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. I'm noticing a significant imbalance in some my relationships. Life changes and my availability to others and theirs to me can change too. I understand that but I've had to take a step back an...	tiredtonite	7	3463	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change (C2C) November 10 (Preview) Greeting Family! Todays reading talks about the recovery concept of One Day at a Time; that we can only deal with one day at a time, the "here and now". Accepting this allows us to be freed from the constant sense of urgency and to be realistic about what is available to us in the present moment. No problem...	a4l	4	1528	Nov 10, 2018 by mamalioness
	Curious .. (Preview) I was curious about my Xsdad passing away which happened years ago. It just so happens he's someone who is well known in the college world of sports. As I was reading through the obits and news stories, I ran across a story which seems to be a consistent story in my personal life. Men are perpetrators i...	SerenityRUS	4	3431	Nov 9, 2018 by hotrod
	Courage to Change 11/8/18 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change is about unconditional love. We learn in recovery that everyone stands to benefit when we are able to give without taking or with no strings attached. Every good and loving gesture soothes my soul and contributed to a healthier world. The rea...	Iamhere	7	4463	Nov 9, 2018 by a4l
	Mini 4th step ideas needed (for relationship) (Preview) The idea has come to me that I may want to do a 4th step specifically around a relationship with one of my adult children. I have gone through the steps several times, but recently realized this one area and relationship I may want to do an even deeper dive with. I have heard one way to do this is to take your...	luv123	6	4300	Nov 8, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Hey Everyone (Preview) Hi all. Well, I managed to get myself into a new relationship. Guess I can't stay single for very long. I feel like I'm learning a lot about my last relationship though, by being with someone new. It's eye opening. The needs that went unmet before are now being met by this new man. I never feel lacki...	andromeda	9	2221	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Not accepting a consolation cookie for this! (Preview) Hi MIP Family, I was angry, hungry, and tired when I said some things to my engaged daughter. For the past 11 months she told me that I could not invite even a single guest to her wedding, as she wanted a small wedding and her fiancé has a large family. Initially, I tried to talk to her about this twice, and s...	bud	22	2243	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 11-6 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 6 speaks about our hesitancy to trust a Higher Power. The reading suggests that the principles embraced by the Al-Anon program as a personal discipline can do a lot for everybody willing . to embrace them. WE must look at the principles and believe that there is a sou...	hotrod	6	584	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change November 7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Alcoholism is a disease that impacts not only the individual with the disease, but the entire family and everyone who cares about the drinker as well. Often, faulty ways of thinking are passed down for generations. W...	Skorpi	5	2061	Nov 7, 2018 by mamalioness
	cynicism (Preview) What a revealing year. In some ways I want to throw the blanket back over it. I am struggling with recovery and a parent. Can anyone please tell me what a healthy adult to adult parent child relationship looks like? Where I am at right now is feeling cynical and suspicious about everything. I am righ...	a4l	10	847	Nov 6, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Nov 4 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how those of us who grew up in alcoholic homes were often fearful. There was a fear of tangible things- like car accidents or someone getting hurt in the home, or just fear in general- of the unknown, of things beyond our control. The writer describes s...	yanksfan51	8	3387	Nov 6, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 11/5 (Preview) Keeping the right focus: Today's reading discusses our motives. Motives influence what we say and how we say it. If you speak because you feel it is the right action for you to take and you have a need to express yourself, then the focus is on yourself. If you speak to manipulate or change another pers...	Lyne	5	618	Nov 5, 2018 by mamalioness
	Step11 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 11 th Step has been posted to the Sep Work board Here is the linkhttps://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65056800/ala...	hotrod	4	2149	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change, November 2 (Preview) The author of today's reading in Courage to Change writes that their journey towards finding a Higher Power was gradual. There was no flash of light, just a gradual clearing of the fog. First they just brought their body to Al-Anon, then eventually came to believe they were not alone in the universe...	Freetime	6	634	Nov 4, 2018 by luv123
	Updates - crack use :( (Preview) Hi MIP family, I had written about the report that my STBXAH was seen on the street with brown teeth a few weeks ago and I had been concerned about him smoking drugs, and tonight he sent a photo of his Visa card to the moving/storage company (I was cc'd because it involved me) and there is a crack pipe and som...	VickiR	11	1965	Nov 4, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 3/11/2018 (Preview) Greetings Family (and apologies for the delay: It is actually still Friday where I am!). Today's reading is a gentle reminder of the importance of sharing discerningly and meeting both our needs while respecting the traditions and needs of the group. The author speaks of how by the time we reach Al...	a4l	4	1735	Nov 3, 2018 by mamalioness
	Anxiety (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I however have been reading on line and its been helping. I had to share because my anxiety level has been through the roof. What caused this is I had been around people a lot and I had to take time out and do self care. I even was able to get out of the city and get to the country an...	joker	4	1685	Nov 3, 2018 by a4l
	God (higher power) with skin on (Preview) MY Amtrak Miracle:Went to NYC to see hubby for an overnight, while he stayed at a hotel for work. Fun to spend time in Manhattan and take in a concert. Then the next morning I found myself a bit sad, so I was praying/talking to God about life's losses and sadnesses with the goal of moving beyond them and get...	luv123	11	3274	Nov 3, 2018 by luv123
	Keeping my mindset is hard (Preview) It is so hard for me to hold on to what I know to be true. That my husband's alcoholism has nothing to do with me, that he hasn't earned my trust and that I have a right to my boundaries. He has always been a better debater than me. I get so turned around that I end up defending my detachment, my boundaries. I end...	JustForMeNow	8	520	Nov 2, 2018 by luv123
	Courage to Change 11/1/18 (Preview) Happy November to All! Today's reading discusses obsessive thinking, racing minds and tools we can use at difficult mind times. I love the quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit quiet in a room alone." from Blaise Pascal The reminder is also telling --- Sometimes I have to let...	Iamhere	6	454	Nov 2, 2018 by KT2015
	C2C, 10/29 (Preview) Live and let live: The author reflects on their insensitivity at times, which was done with justification. After all, they were right! In Alanon they are learning to let go of the idea that they don't have to make anyone over. It is not their responsibility to decide what other people should do. To...	Lyne	7	452	Nov 1, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change October 31 (Preview) In today's Courage to Change, the author reflects on fear. The author realizes that they have been making choices while living in fear - something seemingly mundane will happen, like a loved one seeking sobriety, a friend upset with something that was said, or the grocery store runs out of chicken, a...	Skorpi	4	406	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Watching is painful (Preview) AD seems to be in constant pattern of short relapses, spurts of recovery work, then slips again. I know that recovery, hers and mine does not always follow a straight path. I to fall off my path. It is just so overwhelming, heartbreaking, and sad to watch your child destroy themselves and to be powerl...	serenity47	6	609	Nov 1, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Let it begin with me (sort of) (Preview) I got stuck in a very unpleasant place with my A for the last few days. I was able to use my tools so I didn't sink into the abyss, but I wasn't able to stop the cycle. I could see it was unraveling us into a very negative place. Last night was my F2F meeting, and I felt so much better afterwards. And on the wa...	Lyne	5	455	Nov 1, 2018 by Jozie
	Just For Today... (Preview) Just for today, I am really hating this disease. Don't get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my recovery and my place in life. This program and the sister program gave me back myself, my sanity, my joy and a real purpose. Yet, while my faith is strong, and my program is forefront in my mind, I am agai...	Iamhere	17	2831	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 10-30 (Preview) The ODAT reading for October30 speaks about alanon being a" Spriitual fellowship" and then goes on to describes the word "fellowship" . The reading suggests that we are a spiritual community and held together by commom interests and points out that in a fellowship we give of ourselves and t...	hotrod	5	574	Oct 31, 2018 by mamalioness
	HP has given me more practice (Preview) Last night and this morning, I had the opportunity to practice enforcing my boundaries and being the one to allow natural consequences play out. AW came home drunk last night, driving my car. I've been unsure of how to practice loving detachment that is not enabling, and enforcing my boundaries with...	Skorpi	9	556	Oct 31, 2018 by Skorpi
	Been awhile.... (Preview) Hello MIP family! It has been awhile since I last posted, although I do come and read the posts now and again as a supplement to my CAL everyday. I am at a real frustrating spot right now.....and I can't seem to pray, read or meeting into a tame-able beast! I am really seeing the progression of the diseas...	El	6	498	Oct 30, 2018 by Iamhere
	sorry for the miscue with Hope for Today (Preview) I am needing more hope after realizing what I did and Mahalo David for the grace and empathy on my mistake. My wife and I both use the same readers and we have different habits on reading and therefore....I got confused even to my post...Dang that isn't even progress and so far from perfection....LO...	JerryF	4	518	Oct 29, 2018 by JerryF
	Hope For Today 3/7/2018 (Preview) Aloha Family...just had to check in before taking off to my morning meeting and saying that the daily reading in Hope for Today was for me, right on. It details the journey of one of our fellows in restoring self esteem after loosing it coming from the alcoholic family. I found it so right on that I w...	JerryF	3	478	Oct 29, 2018 by a4l
	Hope for Today Oct 28 (Preview) Hello everyone: Todays reading is a focus on our slogan how important is it. The writer describes using this slogan on a night when her AH returned home after a night out. Rather than start with all of the questions she knew would only disrupt serenity and not make any real changes, she decided to ask he...	yanksfan51	4	521	Oct 28, 2018 by a4l
	Courage to change Step 1 (Preview) I have just read page 297 in Courage to Change. I cannot believe I'm back to Step One after years of alanon peace. Pray for me to see my options. I'm hoping God will show me what they are. wp	wp	8	1648	Oct 28, 2018 by hotrod
	C2C 27/10/2018 (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Today's Courage to Change reading speaks about the comforting awareness of abundance, the abundance of our Higher Powers love and guidance. The realisation occurred to the writer one day at the beach, noticing how, no matter how many people were on that beach, there would b...	a4l	6	545	Oct 27, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAT 10/26 (Preview) Good morning, everyone! Today's reading points out that although Step One -- powerlessness -- is challenging, Step Two is even harder for some of us. Step Two acknowledges that our behavior has not been entirely sane -- for example, making mountains out of molehills. If we do not distinguish wha...	Freetime	6	2027	Oct 27, 2018 by Freetime
	I'm over this month .. (Preview) Please send positive prayers for my BF's family. This family needs healing no more than mine does, however as I said to him yesterday your family puts the Jerry Springer in dysfunction .. I am ok with the fun in dysfunction at least it's worth a laugh .. I am not interested in physical fights. Bless his...	SerenityRUS	9	2592	Oct 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Keep it simple_25 OCT_ love thy neighbor???? (Preview) Keep It SimpleLove thy neighbor as thyself, but choose your neighbor.---Louise Beal This daily talks about loving ourselves, THEN we start loving our neighbors...we learn to love honestly...we see our good and not so good, then we can reach out to others and see them honestly....it also says we can...	mamalioness	3	1994	Oct 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	25 Oct_Tidbits of wisdom (Preview) "Be the change you want to see in the world."--Mohandas GhandiWho has never tasted what is bitter does not know what is sweet.--German ProverbIt doesn't take a lot of effort to know the needs of another person. By helping others youare helping yourself.--unknownMost folks are about as happy as they...	mamalioness	1	2318	Oct 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	Principles over personalities (Preview) Principles Before Personalities"Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities."Twelfth Tradition This daily talks about how this principles over personalities can become a cliche, but it is no less important...eith...	mamalioness	8	3447	Oct 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	it ain't easy but it is worth it! (Preview) Every trial every issue every problem has a solution. I know that end it will be worth it. I have struggled & still struggle. Sometimes I want to give up but God isn't finished w me. My purpose is getting clearer as time goes by. I was reminded to focus on myself even though the reminder came from someo...	Hoot Nanny	9	910	Oct 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	Odat Reading Tuesday (Preview) The ODAT reading for October 22 speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves so that we can learn what we're doing that hurts us. The reading suggests that we examine our motives at every turn and attempt to find the courage to face our real motives without deceiving ourselves.We must remember that we...	hotrod	7	711	Oct 25, 2018 by wp
	I Lost Myself (Preview) I lost myself.Again.Forgot who I was,forgot I have choices and options.Forgot I even exist as a person.That I am not just an extension of my ALO's.It was so easy to do,I got pulled into that tunnel that has no light at the end of it.Again..It's SO hard to stay above water sometimes when you feel like you'...	SoggySlippers	10	809	Oct 25, 2018 by SoggySlippers
	Courage to Change October 24 (Preview) Posting a bit early as the conference I am hosting starts tomorrow. The Courage to Change reading for Oct. 24 speaks about the process of recovery as being like peeling an onion - we peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But the author thinks more about the bark of a birch tree...	Skorpi	6	2006	Oct 25, 2018 by mamalioness
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